what about intercaste marriage?

[ritu]

vo to wahi baat hui ek dusro ka bhala er apna nuksan
kyu thik kah rahi hu na rk ji

 

[rkumar]

vo to wahi baat hui ek dusro ka bhala er apna nuksan
kyu thik kah rahi hu na rk ji

I don't think so.. Jats always had more males than females and that should be the reason of this mentality among our people. Unfortunately we are losing many highly qualified girls these days to other castes.

RK^2

 

[chhillar]

I guess marriage is very personal matter between the girl, boy and families involved. We can go on debating as to what's right or wrong but truth of the fact remains that everybody has his/her own situations, objectives and visions about marriage and he/she knows better than all of us "professors" here.

I am myself in favor of marriage in the same caste for my little ones, that’s ideal but would never really come in the way of their own choices either. After all it's their life, we as parents can only show them the right path (or what we think is right) but then they are the ones who have to be in driving seat.

Also, one should respect the social settings too while making a decision on marriage. rehna gaam ka arr karni love marriage wa bhee punjaban gelyaan ya pher apne e got mein…pher to kai gamman ke panchayati avenge baraat mein lathh le ke… arr koi na chhutave…little to impractical I guess…sector mein ghar bana lyo koi kuchh ka bolle

P.S. I would rather go for some body out of caste if I have to than loosing my daughter to a looser within the caste

 

[samarkadian]

I guess marriage is very personal matter between the girl, boy and families involved. We can go on debating as to what's right or wrong but truth of the fact remains that everybody has his/her own situations, objectives and visions about marriage and he/she knows better than all of us "professors" here.

I am myself in favor of marriage in the same caste for my little ones, that’s ideal but would never really come in the way of their own choices either. After all it's their life, we as parents can only show them the right path (or what we think is right) but then they are the ones who have to be in driving seat.

Also, one should respect the social settings too while making a decision on marriage. rehna gaam ka arr karni love marriage wa bhee punjaban gelyaan ya pher apne e got mein…pher to kai gamman ke panchayati avenge baraat mein lathh le ke… arr koi na chhutave…little to impractical I guess…sector mein ghar bana lyo koi kuchh ka bolle

P.S. I would rather go for some body out of caste if I have to than loosing my daughter to a looser within the caste

Very well Said Sir.I really liked your rationale.I expected few resistance here but not so loudly but its I guess sometimes education also doesnt open the door of brain.Thaty "professors" pop up to counter you on every sentence.Anyway I support your post.

 

[prashantacmet]

Bhai saahab...taamne yaa baat maadi si ghuma di........ baat nu sai yaa..
krishan ji kare to raas-lilla , arr haam kare to character dheela............

Ek kahawat hai Krishan ji kare to Lilla , hum kare to Luchapan

Madam ji,with due respect, aap apna view do , ek dusere ko support karo ya na karo, apki marji, kisi ne kuch kaha kya apko, mujhe kisi ka view acha laga or usse support kiya to taklif..

Its not fair.

 

[prashantacmet]

laali..... kuch ghar ka bhi hilla dekh le.......kyoun iss kompooter ka gidgidaat baandg raakhya..........Mharre Bhai saahab bhookhe barddan laag rye..................................

vo to wahi baat hui ek dusro ka bhala er apna nuksan
kyu thik kah rahi hu na rk ji

 

[samarkadian]

Hi Samar

Is it not too mean of this site to have name jatland ,Should we be not ashmed of our selves to be a part of this cast, race, religion based forum ?

When we don't like /believe in race cast divisons why we say or feel we are Jats?

just wanted to understand the logic...

Well Narinder Sir,
But there is always time to take your cast,religion or race to the new heights.Because mind is like parachute,both works when they are open.Coming generation might asks us.I personaly didnt intend to write here just to criticise any thing.Before a Jat and a obssessd Jat we are human beings and there is nothing shameless in speaking your mind being a Jat.

 

[samarkadian]

how cananybody compare sonia with kalpana.kalpana to shan thi garv thi desh kai do not undestand how can people give wrong example like this to prove themselves.and on top of that some are approving theirviews too.very sad.

Well I wud be the least person not to acknoweledge Kalpana's achievements as person.But my reply was on her contribution.Like she had graduated in aeronautical engineering from India and served in NASA.What way she contributed to Indian space centre programme? Still since she has origion in India.She is still a legend undoubtly.On the other hand a Lady from Italy landed here as Bahu and lost her husband and contributed in giving a stabled govt to country.If you remember she was the one who asked Haryana Govt to review its strategy over SEZs over fertile land.Otherwise a jungle of concrete would have builded over here.Its Dougla pan not to accept someone just because she is Bahu.I didnt have to do anything with their married life.I always advocated interaction of cultures and marriage is the best idea.Anyway,thanks very much for atleast replying.God Bless You.

 

[samarkadian]

Totally with you on this!!


Well, allow me please.

Loving/respecting other castes, races or religion for that matter, would make me a less proud jat, would affect my love for the fellow jats....HELLO!!!!.....What are you talking about???!!!!

Life and the ways to live life are not BLACK & WHITE!!

Thanks for support.God Bless you.

 

[samarkadian]

Sorry Poonam ji if you could not get my point.

What I said had nothing to do with love of any one for fellow jats or proudness thing ,The point is Why should a person who believes in and wants to see cast race religion free world should be a part of forum that has in bold letters written that This site is for Hindu Jats only,is this voluntary assosiation, not a contravention of his own ideals?

And second a frank openion from him regarding name jatland of site, as it again cast race denoting word.

Well i just can smile and say God Bless you.Good Luck.

 

[vinoddhatrawal]

intercast marriage

dahiya JI, Please don't mind it. Per aapse yeh umeed nahi thi.


If i move for an intercaste marriage. I think my children will not be eligible to be a member of JATLAND.COM

What do u say about it?............

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My Dear Prashant,

I do not agree, your children will have no problem in joining jatland.com. Because, they still will have something of a jat. You can visit the matrimonial section where a gujjar boy has posted his bio-data. Just see the matrimonial section if u don't beleive me.

Secondly, your brothers and sisters will have problem in getting correct match from jat community. I don't think everyone in your family has the same opinion. I can tell you from my experience that most intercast/love marriages are flop show.

Now, this is in support of your point. bhai! hathi jiske ghar ke age badha hota hai, usi ka kahalata hai. Also, our community is badly suffering from adverse sex ratio. So, please go for it, otherwise others will be forced to go for intercast marriage.

Mind you, this just my point of veiw and not an advice.

Vinod Dhatrawal

 

[rajeshrathee]

I guess marriage is very personal matter between the girl, boy and families involved. We can go on debating as to what's right or wrong but truth of the fact remains that everybody has his/her own situations, objectives and visions about marriage and he/she knows better than all of us "professors" here.

I am myself in favor of marriage in the same caste for my little ones, that’s ideal but would never really come in the way of their own choices either. After all it's their life, we as parents can only show them the right path (or what we think is right) but then they are the ones who have to be in driving seat.

Also, one should respect the social settings too while making a decision on marriage. rehna gaam ka arr karni love marriage wa bhee punjaban gelyaan ya pher apne e got mein…pher to kai gamman ke panchayati avenge baraat mein lathh le ke… arr koi na chhutave…little to impractical I guess…sector mein ghar bana lyo koi kuchh ka bolle

P.S. I would rather go for some body out of caste if I have to than loosing my daughter to a looser within the caste

Frank and practical reply. Salute to you

 

[vinoddhatrawal]

100%

Main intercate marrige ke khilaf nahin hoon. Par ek baat kah sakti hoon ke intercaste marrige kam kaamyab hoti hain. Isaka matlab ye nahin hai ki apni caste main ki hui shadi kaamyab hona jaroori hai. Par intercaste marrige or apni caste main shaadi ke baad ki problems alag alag tarike ki hoti hain. Phle to dono ek duste ke liye sab kurbaaniyan karne ko tiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad dono ek dusre se yahi chahte hain ki kurbaani dusra de. Intercaste shaadi kamyaab na hone ka ek kaaran ye bhi hota hai ki hum jis maahol main or jin reeti rivajon ke beech bachpan se pale bade hain unko shaadi ke baad chodna mushkil hota hai , yahan tak ki khaan paan main bhi frq hota hai , sunne main ye baatein lagti to bahut choti hain par baad main yahi choti choti baatein badi ladai ka roop le leti hain or kitna bhi kuch na karo tum rahoge paraaye hi unlogon ke beech ye dono traf se hota hai. Phir inhin choti choti baaton ko lekar ek doosre ke khoon lak ko gaali di jaati hai ki tera to khoon hi esa hai or teri to jaat (Caste) hi esi hai . Maine ese bahut se case dekhe hain. ISILIYE JAHAN TAK HO SAKE SHADI APNI HI CASTE MAIN KARNI CHAHIYE NIBHANE MAIN AASANI HOTI HAI. Or jahan tak ye pyar vyar ki baat hai ye sab bakwas hai thode din ka bukhar hota hai .
shadi ke baad wale pyar main jo attoot bandhan hai vo pahle pyar karke shadi wale pyar main nahin hai. Pehle to ek doosre ke liye marne ke liye taiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad ek doosre ko maarne or kadam kadam par neecha dikhane ke liye tiyaar rahte hain ek bhi moka haath se nahin jaane dete.
Agar kisi ko meri baaton se chot pahunchi ho to maaf karna.

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Kamna ji,

I fully support your point of view.

Vinod Dhatrawal

 

[samarkadian]

Main intercate marrige ke khilaf nahin hoon. Par ek baat kah sakti hoon ke intercaste marrige kam kaamyab hoti hain. Isaka matlab ye nahin hai ki apni caste main ki hui shadi kaamyab hona jaroori hai. Par intercaste marrige or apni caste main shaadi ke baad ki problems alag alag tarike ki hoti hain. Phle to dono ek duste ke liye sab kurbaaniyan karne ko tiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad dono ek dusre se yahi chahte hain ki kurbaani dusra de. Intercaste shaadi kamyaab na hone ka ek kaaran ye bhi hota hai ki hum jis maahol main or jin reeti rivajon ke beech bachpan se pale bade hain unko shaadi ke baad chodna mushkil hota hai , yahan tak ki khaan paan main bhi frq hota hai , sunne main ye baatein lagti to bahut choti hain par baad main yahi choti choti baatein badi ladai ka roop le leti hain or kitna bhi kuch na karo tum rahoge paraaye hi unlogon ke beech ye dono traf se hota hai. Phir inhin choti choti baaton ko lekar ek doosre ke khoon lak ko gaali di jaati hai ki tera to khoon hi esa hai or teri to jaat (Caste) hi esi hai . Maine ese bahut se case dekhe hain. ISILIYE JAHAN TAK HO SAKE SHADI APNI HI CASTE MAIN KARNI CHAHIYE NIBHANE MAIN AASANI HOTI HAI. Or jahan tak ye pyar vyar ki baat hai ye sab bakwas hai thode din ka bukhar hota hai .
shadi ke baad wale pyar main jo attoot bandhan hai vo pahle pyar karke shadi wale pyar main nahin hai. Pehle to ek doosre ke liye marne ke liye taiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad ek doosre ko maarne or kadam kadam par neecha dikhane ke liye tiyaar rahte hain ek bhi moka haath se nahin jaane dete.
Agar kisi ko meri baaton se chot pahunchi ho to maaf karna.

Or jahan tak ye pyar vyar ki baat hai ye sab bakwas hai thode din ka bukhar hota hai
Main intercate marrige ke khilaf nahin hoon.
Means you are against love not love marriages.
Nice.

 

[cooljat]

Take it easy!!!

Dear Great Warrior Jats,
Ram Ram!

Guys, slow down yaaron...take the chill pill with Desi Sharbat Ruh-afja or Sheet waise hi Global Warmin ho rehi hai aur aap log ish thread ko Burning Train sa bana rakhya se Chill! Chill

Bhaiyon, Shaadi or Marriage is matter of individual's choice...cuz its their life

Well, its that simple...agar aapko kisi se real luv ho jaaye to luv marriage karlo yahan jaati-paati ka jhanhat aade nahi aata...just follow ur heart; on the other hand agar pyaar-vyaar nahi jaante ho kis chdiya ka naam hai to fer arrange marriage kar lo....yahan intercast jaane ka sawal hi nahi uthta...now find out suitable match of ur choice otherwise let ur parents decide for u...aur Last option hai Single and Happy rehe ka meri terah, apana funda to yehi hai!!!

But when it comes to Marriage I just cant compro here...its All or None kinda thing...if I dont get my kinda Jatni/gal I wud rather be stay Single forever!!

Anyways, Yahan pe kuch happily married Jats & Jatni jo ke shayad arranged married hein...ghanna gyaan sa de rehe hein arrange marriage ka yahan mein yeh kehna chahoonga ki aap khush hein to jaroori thodi hai ki sab hi khush hon after marriage aapki tarah???

Aur luv marriage ka bhi aisa hi kuch haal hai....cuz its rare to find unconditional luv...so kuch log adjust or sacrifice hi nahi karna chahte so vo bhi dukhi hi rehte hein even after luv marriage!

Inse acha to Western system hai marriage ka vahan koi kisi ko granted nahi leta...agar banti hai to too cool nahi to seprate ho jaao...par vahan sab indepented hein...men n women r same there, while yahan pe society male dominated hai aur rehegi, isliye this is the main prob!

So in last, apun ka to itna sa kehna hai....jo couple happily married hein be it arrange way or luv way...vo apna gyaan baaten how to stay happy after marriage!! which is a rare thing ....aur jo dukhi hein vo ek dusre ko samje aur find out kare kahan problem hai....agar fir bhi nahi banti hai to Seprate ho jaoo!!! dont take ur life for granted since u only live once!!!!! tenison nahi lene ka...

Baaki, jahan tak compatible match ka sawal hai...vo to sab apni apni compatibility dekh lo....waise for a successful marriage these things required...I guess, TRUST, UNDRESTANDING, SACRIFICE, CARING & RESPECT!!


now lets come to basic point....intercast or intracast or inter relegion....so matter of the fact yeh hai ki jisko jaise shadi karni hai karlo ya forever bachlor rehna hai reh lo...but KHUSH REHO YAARON!!! nu chotti chotti baton pe talwar mat nikala karo!!!

so dont take it personaly....just spread some peace, luv n happiness!!


Rock on!
Jit

PS : Life mein Risk lo...lekin Gamble mat khelo

 

[mann123]

Jats have it in their blood to accept women from other castes but never approve giving their girls to other castes... There is no logic and this is how Jat brain works..

RK^2

RK jee ne 100 ka jod likh diya hai bhaiyo. badee budee bhee kaha karen hai

"Jat ke ayee Jatne kuhayee Jatne gayee to bhee jatne kuhaee"

Vaise itihas gavah hai ki Jat king has made marriages in other caste but have not done the same with their daughters.

I think marriage is the independent decisions of affected parties.

 

[narendra81]

bhaiyon yahan par jab intercaste aur interreligion ki baat ho rahi hai to mere dimag mein chota sa confusion hai...aap log meri madad karo arr jara baat ne clear kardyo...
plz dnt take it heavily, itz just a curiosity of a kids mind, take in that sense only...
there could b many options for the jat/jatni if he/she is open for intercaste/interreligion marriage.
can you please rank them in the order of acceptence in jat society.
for example hindu jat is most accepted and low caste muslim is least accepted (just example).

Now please rank the following:
1. hindu jat
2. sikh jat
3. hindu brahmin/rajput
4. muslim jat
5. other sikh like baniya


bhaiyon i m bit confused in 2. and 3.
Hope u will put ur views.
arr kuch galat likha ho to chota bhai samajh kar maaf kar diyo...

 

[navingulia]

rai bhaaiyon, mai tai kati e pak liyaa suun is thread tai.

 

[cooljat]

Best reply so far!!
kudos to u bhaisaab

Rock on
Jit

I guess marriage is very personal matter between the girl, boy and families involved. We can go on debating as to what's right or wrong but truth of the fact remains that everybody has his/her own situations, objectives and visions about marriage and he/she knows better than all of us "professors" here.

I am myself in favor of marriage in the same caste for my little ones, that’s ideal but would never really come in the way of their own choices either. After all it's their life, we as parents can only show them the right path (or what we think is right) but then they are the ones who have to be in driving seat.

Also, one should respect the social settings too while making a decision on marriage. rehna gaam ka arr karni love marriage wa bhee punjaban gelyaan ya pher apne e got mein…pher to kai gamman ke panchayati avenge baraat mein lathh le ke… arr koi na chhutave…little to impractical I guess…sector mein ghar bana lyo koi kuchh ka bolle

P.S. I would rather go for some body out of caste if I have to than loosing my daughter to a looser within the caste

 

[ritu]

i will still say ki u can not compare kalpana with sonia.rahi baat sonia ke descisions ki to vo sab janate h ki vo actual me hote kiske h sonia ka to bus nam hota h.rahi bat oske widow hone ki to widow to jab sadan p attack hua tha osme bhi hui thi.sonia is in much better position then those poor widows.

Well I wud be the least person not to acknoweledge Kalpana's achievements as person.But my reply was on her contribution.Like she had graduated in aeronautical engineering from India and served in NASA.What way she contributed to Indian space centre programme? Still since she has origion in India.She is still a legend undoubtly.On the other hand a Lady from Italy landed here as Bahu and lost her husband and contributed in giving a stabled govt to country.If you remember she was the one who asked Haryana Govt to review its strategy over SEZs over fertile land.Otherwise a jungle of concrete would have builded over here.Its Dougla pan not to accept someone just because she is Bahu.I didnt have to do anything with their married life.I always advocated interaction of cultures and marriage is the best idea.Anyway,thanks very much for atleast replying.God Bless You.