Naari Ke Bhushan

[choudharyneelam]

Hello friends, i wanted to post this thread in hindi language, so i tried to find out the way to do but wasn't able to do that...so now posting it in this font only....you don't get bore by reading it all at once..so i'll be posting it in some parts.....if you like it...you might have read all this somewhere.

Regards
Neelam


Saundarya

Sunder varn, sudaul ang-pratayang, chaal, drishti, bhaav tatha taud-maraud aadi mein suhavnapan aur vaani mein madhurya ye baahri saundarya hain.

Kshama, prem udarta, nirbhimanta, vinay, sahishnuta, samta, shaanti, dheerta, veerta, satya, seva, ahinsa, brahmcharya, sheel aur prabhu-bhakti aadi sadgun tatha sadbhaav bhitari saundarya hain.

Bhari tatha bhitari dono hi saundarya aavashayak hain; lakin bahri ki apeksha bhitari saundarya ka mahattav adhik hai. Roopvati naariyon ko roop ka garv na karke apne ander sadgunon tatha sadbhaavon ke saundarya ko badhana chahiye.


Lajja

Dharm-virudh, sheel ke virudh aur samaj ke pavitra prathaon ke virudh kuch bhi karne mein mahan sankoch aur purush samaj ke sansarg se bachne ke liye hone waale drishti sankoch, ang-sankoch aur vaani-sankoch ka naam lajja hai. Lajja naari ka bhushan hai aur vah sheelbhari aankhon mein rahta hai.


Vinay

Vaani mein tatha shareer mein sanchalan mein garv, ugrata, kathorta tatha tedhepan ka tyaag karke namra, saral, snehpurna, aadar-bhaavyukt aur madhur hona vinay hai. Vinay ka arth na to chaaplusi hai, na kayarta hai. Dushton ke daman mein kathorta aur ugrata aavashayak hai. Par ghar-parivaar tatha sansaar ke anye sabhi vyahvaaron mein naari ko vinayta ka bhushan dharan kiye rahna chahiye.


Sanyam-Tapp

Shareer, mann aur vaani ko vishayon ki aur se yatha sadhya hataye rakhna tatha unko kabhi bhi aveidh tatha akalyankaari karya mein na lagne dene ka naam sanyam hai. Shareer, vachan aur mann se hone waali tamam kupravartiyon se mann ko hatakar inn satyapravartiyon mein lagaye rakhna hi sanyam hai.

 

[ravi.shekhar]

Great Work

Great post neelam, keep it up. really nice.

 

[dndeswal]

Hello friends, i wanted to post this thread in hindi language, so i tried to find out the way to do but wasn't able to do that...so now posting it in this font only....you don't get bore by reading it all at once..so i'll be posting it in some parts.....if you like it...you might have read all this somewhere.

Regards
Neelam

I did not get bored but liked it - although it looks odd to see it in Roman script. Any language has its beauty which lies not only in its utterance but also in its script. Hindi can be enjoyed in Devanagri script only. I am taking the liberty of presenting this in Devanagri - I am not sure if your computer has requisite fonts to view the text.


सौंदर्य

सुन्दर वर्ण, सुडौल अंग-प्रत्यंग, चाल, दृष्टि, भाव तथा तोड़-मरोड़ आदि में सुहावनापन और वाणी में माधुर्य - ये बाहरी सौंदर्य हैं ।

क्षमा, प्रेम, उदारता, निरभिमानता, विनय, सहिष्णुता, समता, शान्ति, धीरता, वीरता, सत्य, सेवा, अहिंसा, ब्रह्मचर्य, शील और प्रभु-भक्ति आदि सद्‍गुण तथा सद्‍भाव - ये भीतरी सौंदर्य हैं ।
बाहरी तथा भीतरी - दोनों ही सौंदर्य आवश्यक हैं; लेकिन बाहरी की अपेक्षा भीतरी सौंदर्य का महत्व अधिक है । रूपवती नारियों को रूप का गर्व न करके अपने अंदर सद्‍गुणों तथा सद्‍भावों के सौंदर्य को बढाना चाहिये ।

लज्जा


धर्म-विरुद्ध, शील के विरुद्ध और समाज की पवित्र प्रथाओं के विरुद्ध कुछ भी करने में महान संकोच और पुरुष समाज के संसर्ग से बचने के लिए होने वाले दृष्टि संकोच, अंग-संकोच और वाणी-संकोच का नाम लज्जा है । लज्जा नारी का भूषण है और वह शीलभरी आंखों में रहता है ।

विनय

वाणी में तथा शरीर में संचलन में गर्व, उग्रता, कठोरता तथा टेढेपन का त्याग करके नम्र, सरल, स्नेहपूर्ण, आदरभाव-युक्‍त और मधुर होना विनय है । विनय का अर्थ न तो चापलूसी है, न कायरता । दुष्टों के दमन में कठोरता और उग्रता आवश्यक है । पर घर-परिवार तथा संसार के अन्य सभी व्यवहारों में नारी को विनयता का भूषण धारण किये रहना चाहिये ।

संयम-तप

शरीर, मन और वाणी को विषयों की ओर से यथासाध्य हटाये रखना तथा उनको कभी भी अवैध तथा अकल्याणकारी कार्य में न लगने देने का नाम संयम है । शरीर, वचन और मन से होने वाली तमाम कुप्रवृत्तियों से मन को हटाकर इन सत्यप्रवृत्तियों में लगाये रखना ही संयम है ।
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[choudharyneelam]

Thankyou Deswal Sir

Thanks a lot Sir for giving it a good look....i too wanted to present it in this manner but wasn't able to do that...i'll try it again if i find the solution then i'll post the further points in the Devnagri Script otherwise i'll post it in the same manner and then you can give the real look to that text.


Regards
Neelam

 

[shamshermalik]

Posted in Error !!

I know what you wrote in the last post..............you were partially correct

Kahe kahat sharmavat bhaiya
Likhe ko kyon mitavat bhaiya
sachchai man par awat bahiya
ab kyoon bahaane banawat bhaiya

 

[choudharyneelam]

I know what you wrote in the last post..............you were partially correct

Kahe kahat sharmavat bhaiya
Likhe ko kyon mitavat bhaiya
sachchai man par awat bahiya
ab kyoon bahaane banawat bhaiya

shamsher ye antil ko reply to kiya tumne lakin kuch samajh mein nahin aaya....aur antil ka reply kahan gaya????

 

[deepakchoudhry]

Hi Neelam,

The post has been removed.

I had commented on your post (it was not negative) but then realized I have long left the preaching business so I removed it.

Regrads,

Deepak

 

[scsheorayan]

Wonderful Neelam ji, request one for boys also if possible.

 

[choudharyneelam]

Hi Neelam,

The post has been removed.

I had commented on your post (it was not negative) but then realized I have long left the preaching business so I removed it.

Regrads,

Deepak

Deepak i don't mind listening to others views...i like to listen to different views....so no problem....you can do it again....i read what others write....if i feel it's right then i agree on that point and if i don't like it then i don't hesitate to argue on that point.....so you post it again....and don't worry from my side....as i won't pull your leg as i never do that.

Regards
Neelam

 

[choudharyneelam]

Wonderful Neelam ji, request one for boys also if possible.

Hello Sir

Thanks for your appreciation Sir....i'll definitely try to search something for boys also.

One more thing Sir....I'm like your daughter so pls don't call me 'Neelamji' and no request for anything....just ask me like your child

Regards
Neelam

 

[dndeswal]

shamsher ye antil ko reply to kiya tumne lakin kuch samajh mein nahin aaya....aur antil ka reply kahan gaya????

Dear all,

Please dont be confused that Deepak Choudhary's post has been removed. The deleted post contained only the following text:

"Posted in Error !!"

Is it worthwhile to keep such a post? I am clarifying this as, for the past some days, a tendency has been sighted where some members openly blame moderators for deleting a certain post. Please remember that we do not delete or edit any post or thread without sufficient reason. Any post which does not contain text or reads like "Posted in Error" should better be removed. Deepak Choudhary has not yet objected to his above mentioned post being removed.
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[choudharyneelam]

Naari Ke Bhushan.....contd...

Santosh

Katarta, asahishnuta, lobh aur trishna ke vash mein na hokar bhagwan ki di hui apni stithi mein santusht rahna santosh hai. Santosh se chitt ki jalan mitti hai, dwesh, vishad aur krodh se raksha hoti hai.

Kshama

Apna ahit karne waale ke vyawahar ko sah lena akrodh hai aur usko apne tatha dusre kisi ke dwara bhi badle mein dukh na mile aur uski buddhi sudhar jaaye, iss prakar ke sadbhav ka naam kshama hai. Akrodh akriye hai, kshama skriye hai. Kshama kayaron ka nahin; veeron ka dharm hai.

Dheerta-Veerta

Dukh, vipatti, kasht aur bhay ke samay bhagwan par bharosa rakhen aur yah yaad rakhen ki vipatti sada nahin rahti. Jab badal aate hain, aakash kala ho jata hai, phir badal hatte hain aur sab aur prakash fail jata hai. Iss prakar samajhkar apne kartavye ka paalan karte hue maidan mein date rahna dheerta hai aur issi ke saath-saath virodhi shaktiyon ko nirmul karne ka sahas tatha budhimani se yukt prayatna karna veerta hai.

Gambheerta

Samajhkar thode madhur shabdon mein bolna, vyartha na bolna, hansi-majak na karna, chapalta-chanchalta na karna, har kaam ko khoob soch-vicharkar dridhnishchaya ke saath karna, shaant aur shisht vyawahar karna, jhagde-tante mein na padna, jara si vipattiyan, ghar mein koi kaam aa padne par vichalta na ho jana gambheerta hai. Gambheer stri ka tej sab maante hain tatha uska adar karte hain aur vah bhi bahaut si kathinayon se bach jaati hai.

 

[mothsara1st]

Santosh

Katarta, asahishnuta, lobh aur trishna ke vash mein na hokar bhagwan ki di hui apni stithi mein santusht rahna santosh hai. Santosh se chitt ki jalan mitti hai, dwesh, vishad aur krodh se raksha hoti hai.

Kshama

Apna ahit karne waale ke vyawahar ko sah lena akrodh hai aur usko apne tatha dusre kisi ke dwara bhi badle mein dukh na mile aur uski buddhi sudhar jaaye, iss prakar ke sadbhav ka naam kshama hai. Akrodh akriye hai, kshama skriye hai. Kshama kayaron ka nahin; veeron ka dharm hai.

Dheerta-Veerta

Dukh, vipatti, kasht aur bhay ke samay bhagwan par bharosa rakhen aur yah yaad rakhen ki vipatti sada nahin rahti. Jab badal aate hain, aakash kala ho jata hai, phir badal hatte hain aur sab aur prakash fail jata hai. Iss prakar samajhkar apne kartavye ka paalan karte hue maidan mein date rahna dheerta hai aur issi ke saath-saath virodhi shaktiyon ko nirmul karne ka sahas tatha budhimani se yukt prayatna karna veerta hai.

Gambheerta

Samajhkar thode madhur shabdon mein bolna, vyartha na bolna, hansi-majak na karna, chapalta-chanchalta na karna, har kaam ko khoob soch-vicharkar dridhnishchaya ke saath karna, shaant aur shisht vyawahar karna, jhagde-tante mein na padna, jara si vipattiyan, ghar mein koi kaam aa padne par vichalta na ho jana gambheerta hai. Gambheer stri ka tej sab maante hain tatha uska adar karte hain aur vah bhi bahaut si kathinayon se bach jaati hai.

Ye jitne bhi gun yahan aur is se pahale is thread main bataye gaye .... i think ye kewal nari ke liye nahin hai ...ye to sabhi main hi ache lagte hain chahe wo koi bhi ho .........

 

[choudharyneelam]

Ye jitne bhi gun yahan aur is se pahale is thread main bataye gaye .... i think ye kewal nari ke liye nahin hai ...ye to sabhi main hi ache lagte hain chahe wo koi bhi ho .........

bilkul sahi kahi tumne Sujeet

 

[choudharyneelam]

few more points....

Samta

Sabmein ek hi aatma hoti hai, aur pranimatra sab ek hi bhagwan ki santaan hain, yah samajhkar mann mein sabke prati samaan bhaav rakhna, sabke dukh ko apna dukh samajhna, sabke hitt mein apna hitt manna samta hai.

Sahishnuta

Dukh, kasht aur pratikulta ke sahan karne ka naam sahishnuta hai. Yah naari-jaati ka swabhavik gun hai. Naari purush ki apeksha bahut adhik sahti aur sahne ki shakti rakhti hai. Sadharanat sahishnuta gun ki tulna vrikshon ke saath ki jaati hai. Log pathar maarte hain to faldaar vriksha sunder madhur fal deta hai. Sahna, kalah na karke prem karna, prativaad na karke seva karna- aisa amodh mantra hai ki isse shighra hi shaanti se bhara ujadta hua ghar punah bass jata hai aur usmein shaanti tatha sukh ki lahren uchhalne lagti hain.

Suvyawastha tatha Safai

Ghar ki vastuein, aavashyak saamgri tatha karyon ko sushrinkhalabadh rakhne ka naam suvyawastha hai. Naari ghar ki lakshmi hai, ghar ke saundarya aur aishwarye ki devi hai. Suvyawastha ke bina ghar mein lakshmi ka swarup bigad jata hai.

Shramsheelta

Naari ghar mein rahti hai, uske swasthya ke liye ghar ke kaam hi sunder vyayam hain. Jo naari sharirik parisharam karti hai, alasya to uske paas fatakta hi nahin, rog bhi usse dur-dur hi rahte hain aur mann bhi prafullit rahta hai.

Nirbhimaanta

Roop, dhan, putra, vidhya, buddhi tatha adhikar ka garv na karna aur sabke saath namrata tatha saujanyapurna vyawahar karna nirbhimaanta hai. Striyon mein garv bahut jaldi aata hai aur ve uske aavesh mein gaanv aur padosiyon ka tatha naukar-chakaron ka hi nahin, aatmiya swajanon ka yahan tak ki saans-sansur, jeth-jethani aadi gurujanon ka tatha kanya-jamata, putra-putravadhu aadi ka bhi tiraskar kar baithti hain, jiske parinamswarup jeevan bhar ke kalesh paida ho jaate hain. Issliye sada-sarvada saavdhaani se nirbhimaanta ka atyant vinamra bartaav karna chahiye. Namra vyawahar se vairi bhi mitra ho jaate hain aur kathor se mitra bhi shatru ban jaate hain.

Udaarta

Jis prakar fijulkarchi dosh hai, ussi prakar paisa hone par aavashyak dhaarmik tatha samajik kaaryon mein kanjusi karna bhi dosh hai. Atev aavashyak kaamon mein kanjusi na karke udaarta barte. Kisi ki sahayata-seva karke na abhimaan karen, na ahsaan karen aur na uska badla chahen.
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समता

सब में एक ही आत्मा होती है, और प्राणिमात्र सब एक ही भगवान की सन्तान हैं - यह समझकर मन में सब के प्रति समान भाव रखना, सबके दुख को अपना दुख समझना, सबके हित में अपना हित मानना समता है ।

सहिष्णुता

दुख, कष्ट और प्रतिकुलता के सहन करने का नाम सहिष्णुता है । यह नारी जाति का स्वाभाविक गुण है । नारी पुरुष की अपेक्षा बहुत अधिक सहती और सहने की शक्ति रखती है । साधारणत: सहिष्णुता गुण की तुलना वृक्षों के साथ की जाती है । लोग पत्थर मारते हैं तो फलदार वृक्ष सुन्दर मधुर फल देता है । सहना, कलह न करके प्रेम करना, प्रतिवाद न करके सेवा करना - ऐसा अमोघ मंत्र है कि इससे शीघ्र ही शान्ति से भरा हुआ घर पुन: बस जाता है और उसमें शान्ति तथा सुख की लहरें उछलने लगतीं हैं ।

सुव्यवस्था तथा सफाई

घर की वस्तुऐं, आवश्यक सामग्री तथा कार्यों को सुशृंखलाबद्ध रखने का नाम सुव्यवस्था है । नारी घर की लक्ष्मी है, घर के सौन्दर्य और ऐश्वर्य की देवी है । सुव्यवस्था के बिना घर में लक्ष्मी का स्वरूप बिगड़ जाता है ।

श्रमशीलता

नारी घर में रहती है, उसके स्वास्थ्य के लिये घर के काम ही सुन्दर व्यायाम हैं । जो नारी शारीरिक परिश्रम करती है, आलस्य तो उसके पास फटकता ही नहीं, रोग भी उससे दूर-दूर ही रहते हैं और मन भी प्रफुल्लित रहता है ।

निरभिमानता

रूप, धन, पुत्र, विद्या, बुद्धि तथा अधिकार का गर्व न करना और सबके साथ नम्रता तथा सौजन्यपूर्ण व्यवहार करना निरभिमानता है । स्त्रियों में गर्व बहुत जल्दी आता है और वे उसके आवेश में गाँव और पड़ौसियों का तथा नौकर-चाकरों का ही नहीं, आत्मीय स्वजनों का यहाँ तक कि सास-ससुर, जेठ-जेठानी आदि गुरुजनों का तथा कन्या-जामाता, पुत्र-पुत्रवधु आदि का भी तिरस्कार कर बैठती हैं, जिसके परिणामस्वरूप जीवन भर के क्लेश पैदा हो जाते हैं । इसलिये सदा-सर्वदा सावधानी से निरभिमानता का अत्यंत विनम्र बरताव करना चाहिये । नम्र व्यवहार से वैरी भी मित्र हो जाते हैं और कठोर व्यवहार से मित्र भी शत्रु बन जाते हैं ।

उदारता

जिस प्रकार फिजूलखर्ची दोष है, उसी प्रकार पैसे होने पर आवश्यक धार्मिक तथा सामाजिक कार्यों में कंजूसी करना भी दोष है । अत:एव आवश्यक कामों में कंजूसी न करके उदारता बरतें । किसी की सहायता-सेवा करके न अभिमान करें, न अहसान करें और न उसका बदला चाहें ।
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Now friends, as Sujeet said here in between that these are also good for guys then it's exactly right thinking....but there are few points where specially it is said about ladies so i've given it this title 'Naari Ke Bhushan'...also from where i read all this, there it was only specified for ladies specially.....as it is given in the context ornaments of ladies....and when a lady dress up in different kind ornaments, she looks beautiful and elegant...in the same manner these are the ornaments which every woman should wear in her heart, mind and life and with these she looks more beautiful not only by looks but also by her deeds and attitude....i posted this in the manner it was said in the book from where i read.....so i didn't changed the title of this thread....rest i would also appreciate your views

Regards
Neelam