Add An "ADDI-TUDE" in your life:)

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Ibbi keh dey akk ye saari jhooth sain....kimme na bigddya ibbe:D

Ravi i really appreciate guys who accept their shortcomings honestly:) I feel that you don't look like one being short-tempered AT ALL. And if you can control at office then you can control it everywhere:) Try it and justify that HOME IS A FAR BETTER PLACE THAN OFFICE:Dkitte parak-purk mai jhaddiyan ke paachey jaa kai ekla chillam-chilla ho kai aa jaya kar jab koye shyammi na ho:p
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Ghani ai kami hain ji ... na likhin jaan urai ... lets try

1. I am really vulnerable at times. Koe chahe bhula puchkaar kai johad mai kuda de, I am really desperate to get rid of this thing.

2. Dangerously short tempered. (bera na kis tra control rah hai office mai shayad piese millain hain isliye na toh roj shir fodu aar fuwaun)

3. Emotionaly Hungry -- Yeah I can cry easily at any given time. At times sharam aati hai, per kya karein, thats what it is..

4. Bohat aachya dil sai kasam tai (per u know gussa saara aisi taisi kar de hai ghani baar .. want my country yeah My Country free from poor and dirty people .. per u know tame hote hue bhi tame nahin sai na .. I mean I dont know wat to do ??? )

Well bhateri hogi hongi ...
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sunitahooda said:
By having a "RIGHT" attitude we can not only change our lives but many lives of those around us. You are requested to "EXPRESS" atleast one thing " YOU WANT TO CHANGE ABOUT YOURSELF" and similarly "SOMETHING" that you want to change in any of your friend/ colleague/ wife/ parents/ brother/ sister etc.
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Well, I’ll narrate one small incident:
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Person X wanted to do some experiments in my lab and prof asked me to help in carrying out which I DID with uttermost sincerity. Not a big deal.
Now person X said.. ‘hi’.. Next day.. “Dinner ho gaya?? ”. blah blah...
Enough of nice(ism). :(
Me: Look, u never said even a simple ‘hi’ even though we are in same mess. Now for god sake… be normal. I helped u that doesn’t mean u owe me something. So kindly excuse me. :)

Perosn X: :confused: sunil, u r a horrible person!!!

Me: Okkkeyyyyy :rolleyes: (with a bit of sarcasm.. which made this ‘ok’ something like ‘as if I care.. :cool:’)
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So I want ‘others’ to be straighter (forward)…
:)
Being ‘nothing’ to someone is far better than being ‘nice’ just because u needed his/her help!!!

And on my part: ideally, I want to be a bit less cynical which I know is quite difficult.. as it took a long time and hundreds of incidents (significant or insignificant) for me to finally dwell on this cynical approach.
Hence I would like to be pretentious…. Would love to say things which all sweet (seemingly) ppl say rather than what I actually feel !! :)

 
sunitahooda said:
There's a story about a woman who did not keep a tidy house. One day someone gave her a beautiful rose which she brought home and put in a vase in her lobby.
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got access to this real life beautiful story... couldn't resist myself in sharing this with you nd fellow JATlanders... hope u'll like it. :)

Jerry is the kind of guy you love to hate. He is always in a good mood and always has something positive to say. When someone would ask him how he was doing, he would reply, “If I were any better, I would be twins!”

He was a unique manager because he had several waiters who had followed him around from restaurant to restaurant. The reason the waiters followed Jerry was because of his attitude. He was a natural motivator. If an employee was having a bad day, Jerry was there telling the employee how to look on the positive side of the situation.

Seeing this style really made me curious, so one day I went up to Jerry and asked him, I don’t get it! You can’t be a positive person all of the time. How do you do it?” Jerry replied, “Each morning I wake up and say to myself, Jerry, you have two choices today. You can choose to be in a good mood or you can choose to be in a bad mood. I choose to be in a good mood. Each time something bad happens, I can choose to be a victim or I can choose to learn from it. I choose to learn from it. Every time someone comes to me complaining, I can choose to accept their complaining or I can point out the positive side of life. I choose the positive side of life.

“Yeah, right, it’s not that easy,” I protested.

“Yes it is,” Jerry said. “Life is all about choices. When you cut away all the junk, every situation is a choice. You choose how you react to situations. You choose how people will affect your mood. You choose to be in a good mood or bad mood. The bottom line: It’s your choice how you live life.”

I reflected on what Jerry said. Soon thereafter, I left the restaurant industry to start my own business. We lost touch, but I often thought about him when I made a choice about life instead of reacting to it. Several years later, I heard that Jerry did something you are never supposed to do in the restaurant business…he left the back door open one morning and was held up at gun point by three armed robbers. While trying to open the safe, his hand, shaking from nervousness, slipped off the combination. The robbers panicked and shot him.

Luckily, Jerry was found relatively quickly and rushed to the local trauma center. After 18 hours of surgery and weeks of intensive care, Jerry was released from the hospital with fragments of the bullets still in his body.

I saw Jerry about six months after the accident. When I asked him how he was, he replied, “If I were any better, I’d be twins. Wanna see my scars?” I declined to see his wounds, but did ask him what had gone through his mind as the robbery took place. “The first thing that went through my mind was that I should have locked the back door,” Jerry replied. “Then, as I lay on the floor, I remembered that I had two choices: I could choose to live or I could choose to die. I chose to live.”

“Weren’t you scared? Did you lose consciousness?” I asked. Jerry continued, “…the paramedics were great. They kept telling me I was going to be fine. But when they wheeled me into the ER and I saw the expressions on the faces of the doctors and nurses, I got really scared. In their eyes, I read ‘he’s a dead man.’ I knew I needed to take action.” “What did you do?” I asked. “Well, there was a big burly nurse shouting questions at me,” said Jerry. “She asked if I was allergic to anything. ‘Yes’ I replied. The doctors and nurses stopped working as they waited for my reply. I took a deep breath and yelled, ‘BULLETS!’

Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead’.” Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that…..

Moral: Every day we have the choice to live fully. :)
 
Brahm...another long post....but worth a read:)
brahmtewatia said:
got access to this real life beautiful story... couldn't resist myself in sharing this with you nd fellow JATlanders... hope u'll like it. :)



Over their laughter, I told them, ‘I am choosing to live. Operate on me as if I am alive, not dead’.” Jerry lived thanks to the skill of his doctors, but also because of his amazing attitude. I learned from him that…..

Moral: Every day we have the choice to live fully. :)
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i dont think you sound like a JAT....
it is very easy to say YES if you can do it and far easier to say NO if you cant do something.
 
Thanks Sunita ji for a nice post and many nice inputs by others.


There are many things that I'd like to change in myself but the top priority ones are following..

1. I am not able to concentrate on anything for long enough and when i start some work my mind start wandering somewhere else.
2. Not being able to say 'NO' to anyone. People ask me something and i do that even if it hurts me.

Hoping to change this year.
 
Vikrant don't you think YEAR is the biggest time frame....make it month, then weeks and then days and finally moments. The more you feel comfortable with procrastination more it gets in ur habit. If u know that saying NO will put you at ease then let it be. Set time frames for whatever you do. Please pardon if i said anything wrong:)
vikrantsiwag said:
1. I am not able to concentrate on anything for long enough and when i start some work my mind start wandering somewhere else.
2. Not being able to say 'NO' to anyone. People ask me something and i do that even if it hurts me.

Hoping to change this year.
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AmitGahlawat said:
Vikrant don't you think YEAR is the biggest time frame....make it month, then weeks and then days and finally moments. The more you feel comfortable with procrastination more it gets in ur habit. If u know that saying NO will put you at ease then let it be. Set time frames for whatever you do. Please pardon if i said anything wrong:)
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I think u r right....an year is a long time frame. One may forget things if provided long time frame and next year again will vow to start only to have a sense of dejavu. Thanx for the input...
 
Nice thread.....
i also want to change few things about myself.
1) I need to be less blunt, shed off sarcasm.
2) More determined, like i'll make sure that whatever i'll pick, i'll complete it....
There are few more things.....will write later.....
 
Nice thread sunita

Things i want to change in myself:

1.At times i wanted to be little bit introvert becoz in most of the occassion, i share each and every thing with my friends and colleagues.

2. I do look out for some advice or suggestion from friends or family members even on small issues, and just becoz of this it takes me a lot of time to take decisions.
 
sunitahooda said:
Also if you could tell how to control over unnecessary emotions. I tend to take decisions by heart not mind And
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sunita ji , you must have read this in some of my post , but i feel good about myself when i am repeating things becuase that means that i have formed a few ethics in life.

Equanimity is an quality to posess though very hard to practise , the greatest mistake so to say lies in flowing with the emotions , its only human to do so , but to be better we must practise equanimity!
It does not come overnight , we must try and do it slowly.

It is not that i do not do things under the effect of emotions but i always give time to think of my actions , many a times realising what mistakes i did or what better could i have done. It is about knowing anf realising those minute details. It is about striving for that bit of perfection in your behaviour! :)
Having a relaxed approach helps , what i do for myself is to try and form a pattern of behaviour i am going to follow in a particular situation coming in front of me in some time... indeed helps.
Just to make it more concrete , lets say you are going to meet up someone and are in a car or bus travelling , if you get time , just spend a few minutes thinking on what could happen and how would you react to things. That would prevent you from surprises and will give you edge on how to react to things! :) Also your problem of unnecessary emotions would be eradicated as some of the emotions you have already exercised when you were thinking of the situation in your free time with your own and you dont get embarassed in front of yourself :)
Let me know if that makes any sense! :)
 
Common Problems!!

  • Thinking from heart
  • Not able to say NO (which might make you feel bad later if that costs you too much say emotionally or somebody does not reciprocate a fraction of that even at your hardest time)
  • Being a bit lazy (not when it is about helping others but procrastinating your own stuff)
  • A bit rude at times (atleast others might think so)
These are some of the common characteristics/traits of JATS. I guess it would not be possible to get rid of these completely. The best approach would be to try to avoid few of them at times which are conducive to spiral up a SITUATION.
 
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Raj it might be easy for you, me and some to say NO but not for all, please give some input if possible as how to decide WHEN TO SAY NO and that too without sounding Blunt and Shrewd. People term us as rude when they have already made up their minds to have a "YES" from us.
rajmalik said:
i dont think you sound like a JAT....
it is very easy to say YES if you can do it and far easier to say NO if you cant do something.
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Amit....its not necessarily your fault of being blunt, it happens when there is a communication gap or miscommunication(most of d times) and so far sarcasm is concern, it has two types, positive sarcasm and negative sarcasm. People who know us well easily understand even id we are sarcasrtic in a neagative way BUT positive sarcasm is grasped as negative sarcasm if others dont know us or our style of expressing, its just a carelessness or we can say an extended comfort level that we don't keep the audience in mind and hence creates misconception about a wonderful word like Sarcasm .

I'm sure many of US and even almost everyone must have faced positive sarcasm from our parents as Jats have a different way to motivate....Parents wont tell us directly to word hard, study n be sucessful, except they would say.... Yo na kar sakta jindagi mai kuch, iss nai to nuay dhakkey khaney hain. Corect me if i'm wrong:D And we always take their positive sarcasm as negative:)
mittu said:
Nice thread.....
i also want to change few things about myself.
1) I need to be less blunt, shed off sarcasm.
2) More determined, like i'll make sure that whatever i'll pick, i'll complete it....
There are few more things.....will write later.....
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Kya baat hai !!!!

Jat and Change...................:rock.................Two banks of a river



Koshis aachi hai lage raho

Wish you all the best to all
 
sunitahooda said:
Well.....we were trying and would have kept ding eve if u hadn't posted your useless comment in here;):rolleyes:
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99% of people WALK in sleep and dream when they are AWAKE...and irnocally quite happy with
this....

I just told you what my problem is

it was sample of my problem


Any Solution??????????


One Question "Have you Started Giving classes for psychology problems?????"

last one"What your reply shows here??? how much you have changed yourself??? how can you even expect that they will change????
 
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Shayad aap ki shadi ho chuki hain na aisi hi ek Shri Shri 2008 Mata Ji aap ke jeevan mein pravesh kar chuki hain....atah aap unse anurodh kaein....mera ansh unme bhi vidhyaman hai....waise mujhe lagta hai pehle aapko Deeksha ki jagah Shiksha ki jarurat hai
rakeshsehrawat said:
Shri Shri 1008
Addi tude Datri Ma Sunita Hooda mughe
Diksha De Do..Kab classes mein aana shuru karu.....
Sastang Dandvat...
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sunitahooda said:
Shayad aap ki shadi ho chuki hain na aisi hi ek Shri Shri 2008 Mata Ji aap ke jeevan mein pravesh kar chuki hain....atah aap unse anurodh kaein....mera ansh unme bhi vidhyaman hai....waise mujhe lagta hai pehle aapko Deeksha ki jagah Shiksha ki jarurat hai
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Use mata nahi kaha jata mata to wo mere bete ki hai
Humare yahan use ardhangini bolte hain.
Aur agar wo hi humein sikhayengi to aap kis baat ke jhande uthaye khadi hain??
Deeksha aur siksha kya hoti hain mujhe ye bhi nahi pata???is par thoda sa parkash jaroor dalna
 
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