Honey, Its all about love: Romantic Pyar ke Nyare Nyare Kisse

[upendersingh]

Amit, I went through yours posts quickly. I liked whatever u have mentioned as you have mentioned all that quite honestly. I will answer your all points as soon as I have enough time. Right now I just have to say that I have written many times to her family that I have no objection if you get her married to someone of your or her choice. I don't go daily or per week near her home to see her. I will not even know when she is engaged and got married. She is fully free. In fact I have risked many times to clear the story.
Bye for now.

 

[vdhillon]

Vishal here's the brief;

This friend (from Delhi) and the girl (from Mumbai) started dating in 2001 in college. Had ups and downs in the relation all the while, still stayed together. Long distance, short distance sab chala. Married in 2006. The guy was posted in Mumbai in 2006 and the girls parents were there. So married them off, with both families consent, in court in Mumbai first (i was a witness) and then social marriage. Both stayed in Mumbai for a year. Then my friend took transfer to Delhi for he wanted to be with his family in Delhi. The girl stayed back and did not leave job for another year in Mumbai. Both kept travelling to see each other during this phase. Ultimately she came to Delhi after a year. The girl had a fight with the guys mother and then packed her bags for Mumbai again. Now she's been gone for over a year. My friend has continuously called her, messaged her, visited her twice, all to no avail.

Her father turned him off the door the first time and called the guards the second time when he insisted on seeing her. Also warned the guards for his next visit should land him in jail for forced entry.
This friend is a total wreck now as he loves her like Upi bhai and she does not respond at all.

He is a Jat and she's a Marathi Brahmin. He's in a dilemma as he loves her and wants her to come back but also wants to move on to a Jatni this time if she decides to fo for a divorce !!

What a life ! Comments are welcome !

Thanks for the details Bhai Amit. There are always two sides to the coin. Seems there might be lot more than to this than just one fight. Without knowing the detailed aspects and story from both sides, it will not be appropriate for me to speculate and pass the judgement.

Just wish to add, they can seek mediation from relatives, 3rd party independent counselors, etc. Baki this song applies to all of us, including your friends and Uppi http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=EYCguKQnTm8

 

[amitdabas22]

Very well written Sunita

Shibani Ji dont you think its cruelty !! Kehne ko accha lagta hai Nishpaap prem !! What will happen of the poor guy ? Should he just keep on proclaiming his love to himself. It will drive him to madness after some time.

 

[ravinderjeet]

रविंदर बहुत सादे, सटीक और कम शब्दों में जाट के प्यार की व्याख्या करदी तारीफ के लिए शब्द नहीं मिल रहे.... पर जो आपकी धर्मपत्नी चावे थी वोह कहना बी कड़े कड़े घना जरुरी होया करे....फेर कदे कह्या अक्क ना...बस ऐसे ही उत्सुकतावश पूछ लिया ...बताईयो एक बै

हाँ सुनीता जी एक बे कही थी | ऊह दिन वा जिद पकड़ गी थी ,अक तन्ने कहणी-ए पड़ेगी | हाम १ घंटे बहसम-बहसां होए रहे | आखिर में वा नु बोली, अक जुकर में कहू तू नु-ए कह दे गा ,तो भी में मान जाउंगी, में भी हार माणन नु-ए होरा था ,अक उह ने समझोता कर लिया | वा नु बोली ,कह "आई ",मन्ने कही "आई" एर नु कर के उन्हें "आई लव यू" पूरा करवा लिया | फेर सारे दिन नाच्दी हांडी | बालक नु बोले ,माँ आज इतनी राजी क्यों होरी स | वा बोली आज थारे पापा ने " आई लव यू " कह्या स मेरे ताहि | बालक बोले ,एर हाम रोज कहण लागरे ,जब इतनी राजी कोणी होंदी | वा बोली " यो धुतु तो रोज कोणी कहंदा ना "|

 

[sunitahooda]

Thari ye issi-issi baat manne ke kaam karan dein sain mai Satte nai kah kai thare sab ka login time sham nai 7 baje paachhey ka karwaungi

Ravinder itni si baat khater waa kyu kaal kari? Dekhya cchhoti-choti baat jindagi mai kitni baddi khushi dey jaa hain Mere khushi arr dukh donu kathey horey hain jukar Dharmender hanssan arr rowan ki kathi acting karya kare

हाँ सुनीता जी एक बे कही थी | ऊह दिन वा जिद पकड़ गी थी ,अक तन्ने कहणी-ए पड़ेगी | हाम १ घंटे बहसम-बहसां होए रहे | आखिर में वा नु बोली, अक जुकर में कहू तू नु-ए कह दे गा ,तो भी में मान जाउंगी, में भी हार माणन नु-ए होरा था ,अक उह ने समझोता कर लिया | वा नु बोली ,कह "आई ",मन्ने कही "आई" एर नु कर के उन्हें "आई लव यू" पूरा करवा लिया | फेर सारे दिन नाच्दी हांडी | बालक नु बोले ,माँ आज इतनी राजी क्यों होरी स | वा बोली आज थारे पापा ने " आई लव यू " कह्या स मेरे ताहि | बालक बोले ,एर हाम रोज कहण लागरे ,जब इतनी राजी कोणी होंदी | वा बोली " यो धुतु तो रोज कोणी कहंदा ना "|

 

[shibani]

I was more so admiring Sunit's style of writing....I couldn't stop myself from appreciating her choice of words.

 

[sunitahooda]

Amit....It depends what you want to do and what you want to achieve. Its all in state of mind. We decide what we want and how BADLY(Desperately) Its not cruelty as he is putting all his heart and efforts in this sacrifice and who knows he might fall in love again. Just wish good for him. He's sensible enough to choose best from what life has to offer.

Shibani Ji dont you think its cruelty !! Kehne ko accha lagta hai Nishpaap prem !! What will happen of the poor guy ? Should he just keep on proclaiming his love to himself. It will drive him to madness after some time.

 

[ravinderjeet]

Thari ye issi-issi baat manne ke kaam karan dein sain mai Satte nai kah kai thare sab ka login time sham nai 7 baje paachhey ka karwaungi

Ravinder itni si baat khater waa kyu kaal kari? Dekhya cchhoti-choti baat jindagi mai kitni baddi khushi dey jaa hain Mere khushi arr dukh donu kathey horey hain jukar Dharmender hanssan arr rowan ki kathi acting karya kare

inhey kheecham-kheenchaa me-a to suwaad aayaa kardaa,jo manney uppar aali ek post mey likhaa thaa ak "i love ke ho se"jibbey samjhaayaa thaa.

 

[sunitahooda]

Shibani i guess he got an impression that your appreciation will force Upender's will of staying single to be stronger .


And Yes...thanks for the appreciation, its my bad habit of choosing fancy words and stop writing until i find correct words. Sometimes I used to wait for quite sometime in exams to get a suitable word and once the examiner asked- Why aren't you writing? I replied Sir sahi shabd nahi mil raha...then he said kuchh bhi likh do warna time waste ho jayega maine kaha ki sahi shabd nahi likha to semester waste ho jayega

I was more so admiring Sunit's style of writing....I couldn't stop myself from appreciating her choice of words.

 

[shibani]

Yo Honey thread katti honey barga ho gaya.....saare ke saare yaaadhe chipke rahiyoon maakhi ki tariyaahan

 

[vdhillon]

हाँ सुनीता जी एक बे कही थी | ऊह दिन वा जिद पकड़ गी थी ,अक तन्ने कहणी-ए पड़ेगी | हाम १ घंटे बहसम-बहसां होए रहे | आखिर में वा नु बोली, अक जुकर में कहू तू नु-ए कह दे गा ,तो भी में मान जाउंगी, में भी हार माणन नु-ए होरा था ,अक उह ने समझोता कर लिया | वा नु बोली ,कह "आई ",मन्ने कही "आई" एर नु कर के उन्हें "आई लव यू" पूरा करवा लिया | फेर सारे दिन नाच्दी हांडी | बालक नु बोले ,माँ आज इतनी राजी क्यों होरी स | वा बोली आज थारे पापा ने " आई लव यू " कह्या स मेरे ताहि | बालक बोले ,एर हाम रोज कहण लागरे ,जब इतनी राजी कोणी होंदी | वा बोली " यो धुतु तो रोज कोणी कहंदा ना "|

बावले भाई, "आई लव यू" खातर बी महाभारत कर ली. यो तो बिना पीसं की मीठी गोली स, छिक्मा बांडदा चाल, जो दिखे उन इ कह दिया कर... चाल शुरुआत कर इब
पहलाम में तन्ने, "आई लव यू" कहूँगा, फेर तुम मानने कहिये. चिंता न करे, यो GLBT आला तागा कोणी
थोड़े दिन में तेरे ताई छोरियां ते बे इलू इलू कहना सिखादुन्गा.

lets get started "I"

... http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=tr9PZleCxmY

... क्यों की http://www.youtube.com/watch?v=Jbui7fV1wb0&feature=related

 

[amitdabas22]

Amit....It depends what you want to do and what you want to achieve. Its all in state of mind. We decide what we want and how BADLY(Desperately) Its not cruelty as he is putting all his heart and efforts in this sacrifice and who knows he might fall in love again. Just wish good for him. He's sensible enough to choose best from what life has to offer.

Sunita ji : what he wants to do and achieve is pretty clear to all of us. His state of mind is as u said of pure devotion. He is not sacrificing and putting his heart into getting someone/thing else. He would have easily got anything else. I am emphasising on the hardships he is imposing on himself without knowing the result, which in all sense is going to be negative. Though i do wish him luck and success.
But i dont want him to be blind in pursuit of something ungettable.

 

[shibani]

Ya Chhori ke keh ree sai .......

kaash Romance ka tution hota ..... manne bhi yaa baat kai be sun li ...... jat bade unromantic hote hain .....

main keh diya karoon ... kaash "Lath maarne ka naam romance kerna hota" .... yo jat sab te aage paata

perke keraan tem pe ye filmi baat yaad e kona aati ..... er aawain hain to isa laage hai ....

Jisi chinese movie hindi main dub ker di ho ..... expression ... er .. tone match -e kona kerti ..... er kade ker bhi jaawe hai to hassi chhot jya hai .....

ke keraan ...... kyuker wiswaas diwaaawan ke Jat bhi romatic hote hain



P.S: I have to give reference to the above. Its not me I have got this quote from http://www.jatland.com/forums/showthread.php?23785-Sundu-ka-Romance

 

[ravinderjeet]

बावले भाई, "आई लव यू" खातर बी महाभारत कर ली. यो तो बिना पीसं की मीठी गोली स, छिक्मा बांडदा चाल, जो दिखे उन इ कह दिया कर... चाल शुरुआत कर इब
पहलाम में तन्ने, "आई लव यू" कहूँगा, फेर तुम मानने कहिये. चिंता न करे, यो GLBT आला तागा कोणी
थोड़े दिन में तेरे ताई छोरियां ते बे इलू इलू कहना सिखादुन्गा.

bhai mere ek ghatnaa yaad aagi ,mere manish bhaai ki ,teri aali baat maan lyun gaa to meraa uss jissaa haal ho jyaa gaa



मेरी मोशेरा भाई मनीष दहिया भोत घना हंसोकडा स | ऊह की एक आदत थी अक वो रह चाल्दी जवान छोरियां नु एर लूगाइयां नु "नमस्ते ताई" कह कें लिकड़ जाया करदा | एक बे वो म्हारे गाम में आर्या था | हाम म्हेंश जोहड़ पे ले जावां थे | आगे-आगे एक छोरी जा थी | वो ऊ ताहि बोल्या ताई हट ले ने | ऊह छोरी ने ऊह के ताशला मार्या बागा कें | एर लागी गाल बकण | मनीष दुडकी गया |

 

[ravinderjeet]

Ya Chhori ke keh ree sai .......

kaash Romance ka tution hota ..... manne bhi yaa baat kai be sun li ...... jat bade unromantic hote hain .....

main keh diya karoon ... kaash "Lath maarne ka naam romance kerna hota" .... yo jat sab te aage paata

perke keraan tem pe ye filmi baat yaad e kona aati ..... er aawain hain to isa laage hai ....

Jisi chinese movie hindi main dub ker di ho ..... expression ... er .. tone match -e kona kerti ..... er kade ker bhi jaawe hai to hassi chhot jya hai .....

ke keraan ...... kyuker wiswaas diwaaawan ke Jat bhi romatic hote hain



P.S: I have to give reference to the above. Its not me I have got this quote from http://www.jatland.com/forums/showthread.php?23785-Sundu-ka-Romance

shibani ji aapney to kasooti haansi chhudwaa di ,er aapni majboori bhi bataa di ,ke karaan jattaan ke D.N.A. issey ban re sein.

 

[singhvp]

Sunita ji,

VP Sir,
Hope you would not mind me borrowing your words.

Regards

Anju ji, it is my privilege. I owe you a lot which I borrowed from your posts - brief but always full of wisdom.

 

[shibani]

shibani ji aapney to kasooti haansi chhudwaa di ,er aapni majboori bhi bataa di ,ke karaan jattaan ke D.N.A. issey ban re sein.

Ravinder Ji yoh mein ni keh rahi P.S padh lo ik be.....par haan iste sehmat jaroor hoon

 

[vdhillon]

Sunita ji : what he wants to do and achieve is pretty clear to all of us. His state of mind is as u said of pure devotion. He is not sacrificing and putting his heart into getting someone/thing else. He would have easily got anything else. I am emphasising on the hardships he is imposing on himself without knowing the result, which in all sense is going to be negative. Though i do wish him luck and success.
But i dont want him to be blind in pursuit of something ungettable.

@Amit:
Poori zor se samarthan hai mera ... I agree with Amit
Upi bhai can cultivate few more interests and passions and

May be we should send Upi in sales... create a sales pipeline ... of GFs... (i will write more on this later in "छिछोरे प्यार के चालू दांव पेंच" post on this thread)

@AKSHAY भाई तू तो हमने 'Rakhi Sawant of Pseudo Intellectuals' कह के भाज लिया. आर माहरे जी से ले रहा से. I think इक आध किस्सा लिखन का कर्जा तेरे उपर चढ़ लिया से. इब तू बी इक किस्सा ठोक. .२४ घंटे के भीतर इक किस्सा. नहीं तोह हम तेरे ऊपर JL खाप का ५ किस्से सुनन का जुरमाना लवांगे

 

[shibani]

Will be using Vishal's post for further comments:

इस से पहले में अपने मन की बात कहूँ, में कुछ बाते कहना चाहता हूँ, जो सभी JL members को भी दिखाई पड़ती हैं

1. You an emotional and good hearted person - Emotional aur goodheartedness has become more of male thing it seems. Girls are taking advantage of it.

2. You are an open person - this openness may be branded as your weakness by the girl. and she will resent your sharing your life on a public dashboard if you let her know about this.

3. You are courages but not rebel without cause - She'll never come to you unless you've risen to a status of her father or more.

4. You are a sensitive person, not just sensitive alone but also a thinking and intelligent person who analysis his life and actions in a broad spectrum. - She does not care about you. She's never even called you. Your love and care is one sided. I think she does not even think of you.

5. You tend to chart your own path, an explorer who lives life on his terms without antagonizing others, even though some of them you and family may have termed as mistake (e.g. quitting studies at the age of 17), but many things were right - Improve your life. Do the 400-500 dand baithaks again. Explore further life. Happy people are liked by all and happiness is the best cure to gain anything. Unhappiness and Devdas attitude only takes people to sympathy and pity.

6. Even when you made mistakes, you have the "wisdom" to see the mistakes, "courage" to accept/confront it and the "resilience" to bounce back. I truly respect such people. - Be strong and the world will fall in line. lament and no one will even bother. Even continued lamenting will be bother for your sympathiser's eventually.

Note: I am not disagreeing with Vishal here. Just using his post.
P.S.: If the girl had been a Jat girl, i think the situation would have been a bit different.

Other side of the coin: ( The one that's being loved)
The Story:
This is when I was at College. We had a huge group of friends that consisted of both males/females. One of my male friend (Dhruv) l loved another friend of mine (Shrishti). Shrishti knew Dhruv's feelings and extreme love but disregarded all those and went for someone else. Dhruv procalimed his love via various measures like when Dhruv bought his first car and like people first go to temple he got it to her for her blessings and lots of such other scenarios. Jaise Upender ji deewane hain waisi hi kuch deewangi thi usmein. Shrishti couldn't care less. Shrishti ke dil mein Dhruv ke liye sirf ik friend ki jagah thi. Dhruv uska sabse kareeb aur sabse precious friend hain aaj bhi.
Aaj 10 saal ho hain Shrishti ki shaadi ko aur Dhruv aaj bhi Shrishti ka intezaar kar raha hain. Shrishti ka kehna hain ki agar uski shaadi nahin bhi hoti to bhi woh Dhruv ko ik dost se upar ka darza nahin deti. Dhruv ki deewangi itni zyada hain ki Shrishti us deewangi se pyar nahin kar saki na kabhi kar payegi. Dhruv ka extreme pyar ho uska obstacle hain aur rahega.

Ashish I agree with you and I surely understand your concern is very geniune.

 

[malikdeepak1]

@AKSHAY भाई तू तो हमने 'Rakhi Sawant of Pseudo Intellectuals' कह के भाज लिया. आर माहरे जी से ले रहा से. I think इक आध किस्सा लिखन का कर्जा तेरे उपर चढ़ लिया से. इब तू बी इक किस्सा ठोक. .२४ घंटे के भीतर इक किस्सा. नहीं तोह हम तेरे ऊपर JL खाप का ५ किस्से सुनन का जुरमाना लवांगे

अरे लिख दे अक्षय एक-आधा "बाँगी चाल" आला किस्सा आड़े तावला सा |
जुर्माना लाग गया तो भार्या हो ज्यागा भुगतना || :rock