Live in relationships ..?

Are you in favour of Live-in relationships

  • yes

    Votes: 17 16.8%

  • no

    Votes: 77 76.2%

  • may be yes..may be no

    Votes: 7 6.9%
  • Total voters
    101
it's waste of West. Simply if the couple have commitment, responsibility, attachment(physical, emotional both) then why they refrain from getting married instead of leaving like animals( eat, sleap & go away after sometime).

This is gaining popularity amoung young kids just because of these useless reality shows, serials. Need to educate our children with social values, responsibility towards one relationship.
 
sanjaymalik said:
responsibility towards one relationship.
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Live in relationship can be the 'one relationship" also. However, I agree that living arrangement, whether live in or marriage, that is detrimental to society/children must be discouraged. Growing up in a violent home atomosphere where the parents may be married, is no good either.

Regards,

Urmila.
 
kisi bhai ne vote cast karke firse ukhaaad diye gade hue murde. :)
urmiladuhan said:
Live in relationship can be the 'one relationship" also. However, I agree that living arrangement, whether live in or marriage, that is detrimental to society/children must be discouraged. Growing up in a violent home atomosphere where the parents may be married, is no good either.

Regards,

Urmila.
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भाई साहब दुःख की बात यही है कि लोग पढाई करके ज्ञान की बजाय चालाकी और स्वार्थ ही सीखते हैं.
 
urmiladuhan said:
Live in relationship can be the 'one relationship" also. However, I agree that living arrangement, whether live in or marriage, that is detrimental to society/children must be discouraged. Growing up in a violent home atomosphere where the parents may be married, is no good either.

Regards,

Urmila.
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Almost everything can be used and abused. If used properly and with clean intentions, live-in relationship gives a chance for the couples to get to know more of each other before committing to a life long family.

Live-in relationship was not required earlier, because the society and the system always gave men an upper hand. So the conflicts were less as there was just one person in the family whom all followed. Right or wrong was not a question. Things have changed now, most for good. But changes always have side effects and some of these can be seen with the women liberalization as well. The women liberalization in India has happened faster then it would be digested and the society is full of self righteous women who want equal power but without equal responsibility. This coupled with the biased laws, the system provides no recourse in the event when there are fundamental differences between the married couple's thinking/nature. In this case, not only their own life will be ruined but also of their children. All this makes live-in relationship more significant in current India then in the western world.


On the other side, people should be very cautions of the live-in relationship for the reasons that many of you have mentioned.

At the end I would say that it actually is not good for a 'good' society, however, in current times of capitalist system and where society and parents have failed to imbibe values in their children, it does provide one of the ways for mitigating the risks ahead of a life long commitment. The harm that a live-in relationship does to a society is certainly lesser then a harm caused by a bad marriage.
 
Arvindc said:
The harm that a live-in relationship does to a society is certainly lesser then a harm caused by a bad marriage.
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In case of marriage, the so called 'harm' does not come out in the open, but in a live-in relationship it does. I think people should not have children unless the are compatible and are happy with each other. A live in relationship gives a chance to do that to some people so that eventual marriage can take place if things are satisfactory. Emergence of 'live in relationship' phenomenon has also got to do with increasing financial independence of woman at young age and the social/legal protection that the modern society provides to single woman.

Regards,

Urmila.
 
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urmiladuhan said:
Rakeshjee, are you talking about couple in a marriage or in a live in relationship? Are you suggesting that live in relations are just for
fun?

Regards,

Urmila.
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Log kehte hain ki shadi se pehle saath reh kar dekho ya shaadi ke baad intezar karo taki pata lag jaye compatibility hai ya nahi hai .

Koi mazak ho raha hai ya kise aise rishte ki buniyad rakhi ja rahi hai jisko saat janmo ka rishta kaha jata hai?

Compatibility banayee jati hain aaj chori madi padhi likhi ho gayee to nakhre badh ho gaye aur aise hi talak ke case bhi abbal ho gaye.

Aaj jisko dekho use independence chahiye kis se?
sab se ma baap se jimmedariyo se
Ladki ko live in mein saas sasur se azadi mil jati hai aur ladke ko bandhan aur jimmedariyo se 4-5 saal mauj lyo fer keh dyo ham compatible nahi the itne chori hogi 30+ uske maa baap fer akhbar mein istehar dete hande jao suitable match for 34,B-ful girl well earning cast no bar fer we koye compatibility na dekhte kana peena jisa mil jawe badhiya hai. ar fer wa baano bhi saans na padti admi ka ke fer koye toh lega uska ke kime ghisna hai.
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
Log kehte hain ki shadi se pehle saath reh kar dekho ya shaadi ke baad intezar karo taki pata lag jaye compatibility hai ya nahi hai .

Koi mazak ho raha hai ya kise aise rishte ki buniyad rakhi ja rahi hai jisko saat janmo ka rishta kaha jata hai?

Compatibility banayee jati hain aaj chori madi padhi likhi ho gayee to nakhre badh ho gaye aur aise hi talak ke case bhi abbal ho gaye.

Aaj jisko dekho use independence chahiye kis se?
sab se ma baap se jimmedariyo se
Ladki ko live in mein saas sasur se azadi mil jati hai aur ladke ko bandhan aur jimmedariyo se 4-5 saal mauj lyo fer keh dyo ham compatible nahi the itne chori hogi 30+ uske maa baap fer akhbar mein istehar dete hande jao suitable match for 34,B-ful girl well earning cast no bar fer we koye compatibility na dekhte kana peena jisa mil jawe badhiya hai. ar fer wa baano bhi saans na padti admi ka ke fer koye toh lega uska ke kime ghisna hai.
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hahahahahahaha................lollllam loll........:rock:rock......itne din te shant kyukar tha tu.:D
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
Log kehte hain ki shadi se pehle saath reh kar dekho ya shaadi ke baad intezar karo taki pata lag jaye compatibility hai ya nahi hai .

Koi mazak ho raha hai ya kise aise rishte ki buniyad rakhi ja rahi hai jisko saat janmo ka rishta kaha jata hai?

Compatibility banayee jati hain aaj chori madi padhi likhi ho gayee to nakhre badh ho gaye aur aise hi talak ke case bhi abbal ho gaye.

Aaj jisko dekho use independence chahiye kis se?
sab se ma baap se jimmedariyo se
Ladki ko live in mein saas sasur se azadi mil jati hai aur ladke ko bandhan aur jimmedariyo se 4-5 saal mauj lyo fer keh dyo ham compatible nahi the itne chori hogi 30+ uske maa baap fer akhbar mein istehar dete hande jao suitable match for 34,B-ful girl well earning cast no bar fer we koye compatibility na dekhte kana peena jisa mil jawe badhiya hai. ar fer wa baano bhi saans na padti admi ka ke fer koye toh lega uska ke kime ghisna hai.
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Finding other partners happens in marriage also. Basic tendencies of humans do not change just because one is in a marriage or in a live in relationship.
 
urmiladuhan said:
Finding other partners happens in marriage also. Basic tendencies of humans do not change just because one is in a marriage or in a live in relationship. Rakeshjee, you are saying that it is the woman who eventually does not find a good partner and not the man - not true. People learn so much about themselves when they take and execute decisions independently i.e., live in relations and make their decisions open to society. It is not for faint hearted to take such courageous step - such people normally would not like to be bound by outgrown and restrictive traditions/working methods, whether it is at work place/personal life.
In my opinion, such steps must be taken only after a person is economically independent and if his/her nature is courageous in general.

Regards,

Urmila.
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urmiladuhan said:
urmiladuhan said:
Finding other partners happens in marriage also. Basic tendencies of humans do not change just because one is in a marriage or in a live in relationship. Rakeshjee, you are saying that it is the woman who eventually does not find a good partner and not the man - not true. People learn so much about themselves when they take and execute decisions independently i.e., live in relations and make their decisions open to society. It is not for faint hearted to take such courageous step - such people normally would not like to be bound by outgrown and restrictive traditions/working methods, whether it is at work place/personal life.
In my opinion, such steps must be taken only after a person is economically independent and if his/her nature is courageous in general.

Regards,

Urmila.
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Then why Live-in ? Can you get a mobile phone on trial basis from any shop? or anything you need to pay a certain price then you can avail warranty (if provided) only.
What is life of such relations?What is future of such relation?
What is definition of concubine ?

I think it is better people go english way (one night stand)

Kul mila ke kahni wahe hai loga ne ek kaam karna hai us khatar chahe ek lakh naam dhar lyo.

Akshay bhai apni gel wahe ban rahi hai wo cycle gel bhajya ja tha koye bola upar baith le
wo bolya tem koni
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Rakesh bhai...jab wahi kaam karna hai to live-in ki kya jaroorat..wo to wese bhi ho sakta hai...
mein live-in ke favour mai nahi... but ye india mai bhi chalan mai aaya to kahi naa kahi shadi mai prblm dekhi hogi un logo ne jyada..acha rahta hai ki agar ladke ki family bhi ladki ki badalti soch ko accept kare....sab nahi but kuchh to change accept karna hi padega..

aapne 1 baat kahi ladki ke 30+ hone ki..wo to aajkal wese bhi ho jaati hai...jaruri nahi ki wo achi nahi hai tabhi unki age jyada hui..aapke kahne to to ye matlab hua ki jo 30+ ki ho jaati hai wo sab bekar hui aur unhe kaana hi milega...kisi ko uski age jyada hone ki wajah se aisa bolna theek nahi...
kam se kam aap jaise samjhdaar member se to aisi ummid nahi ki jaa sakti...

rakeshsehrawat said:
Then why Live-in ? Can you get a mobile phone on trial basis from any shop? or anything you need to pay a certain price then you can avail warranty (if provided) only.
What is life of such relations?What is future of such relation?
What is definition of concubine ?

I think it is better people go english way (one night stand)

Kul mila ke kahni wahe hai loga ne ek kaam karna hai us khatar chahe ek lakh naam dhar lyo.

Akshay bhai apni gel wahe ban rahi hai wo cycle gel bhajya ja tha koye bola upar baith le
wo bolya tem koni
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htomar said:
Rakesh bhai...jab wahi kaam karna hai to live-in ki kya jaroorat..wo to wese bhi ho sakta hai...
mein live-in ke favour mai nahi... but ye india mai bhi chalan mai aaya to kahi naa kahi shadi mai prblm dekhi hogi un logo ne jyada..acha rahta hai ki agar ladke ki family bhi ladki ki badalti soch ko accept kare....sab nahi but kuchh to change accept karna hi padega..

aapne 1 baat kahi ladki ke 30+ hone ki..wo to aajkal wese bhi ho jaati hai...jaruri nahi ki wo achi nahi hai tabhi unki age jyada hui..aapke kahne to to ye matlab hua ki jo 30+ ki ho jaati hai wo sab bekar hui aur unhe kaana hi milega...kisi ko uski age jyada hone ki wajah se aisa bolna theek nahi...
kam se kam aap jaise samjhdaar member se to aisi ummid nahi ki jaa sakti...
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Samajhdari ka to bhai ghana sa bera na mein wohi likhta hoon jo mein sochta hoon.

Age jyada hone se shaadi mein aati preshaniya to medical dept. bhi bata dega chori 30+ to chora bhi 35+ fer balak hon mein preshani aawe hai. Bhai India mein chalan mein isliye aya kyonki videsho mein chal raha tha fir ispe Prety Zinta ar Saif Ali khan ki film aagi ar loga ne dekha yu badhiya sauda hai. Kun khamkha biyah ke chakkar mein pade 90% live in aalya ka to unke maa babu ne bhi na bera hota ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai.

Kul mila ke mere hisab se ye ek GALAT hi cheej hai baaki sabki apni samajh.
 
urmiladuhan said:
In case of marriage, the so called 'harm' does not come out in the open, but in a live-in relationship it does.
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The "harm" to the society, from the negatives of both, does come to open directly or indirectly. It's just that in case of married couple, it's an acceptable unfortunate case for the society while in the other case, it's a western evil.

Earlier, in days of joint family, the family itself provided reconciliation as there was stress on inter-dependance over independence. Today, a family consists of two independent personalities who no longer see the need of inter-dependance a necessity.

As the structure of the society changes, so would it's methods.
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai..
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Tum ek do ki baat kar rahe ho. Just search Google (with filter "pages from India") with "Wife kills husband" and "Husband kills wife" and you would get an idea of numbers on the other side. Add to this the numerous incidents that go unreported, specially from villages were women bodies are found in wells.
 
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rakeshsehrawat said:
Samajhdari ka to bhai ghana sa bera na mein wohi likhta hoon jo mein sochta hoon.

Age jyada hone se shaadi mein aati preshaniya to medical dept. bhi bata dega chori 30+ to chora bhi 35+ fer balak hon mein preshani aawe hai. Bhai India mein chalan mein isliye aya kyonki videsho mein chal raha tha fir ispe Prety Zinta ar Saif Ali khan ki film aagi ar loga ne dekha yu badhiya sauda hai. Kun khamkha biyah ke chakkar mein pade 90% live in aalya ka to unke maa babu ne bhi na bera hota ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai.

Kul mila ke mere hisab se ye ek GALAT hi cheej hai baaki sabki apni samajh.
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Bhai uska Singapore dilli ke railway station pe khindyaa paya tha ar jo log apne aap ko and apni family ko dhokha de rahe hai unka yahi haal hota hai koi batane wala ho to bataye ki kitne % live in successful hote hai.....
 
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