Destroyed in Luv, A true Story! -- Jit

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Hi! Gentle Folks,

Well, I’m just goin to start a thread based on true story & looking forward to get some valuable inputs on this serious topic, I also request u guys not to make fun of it.

Ppl, u must have heard a word 'FANAA' with punch line Destroyed in Luv, it reminds me of my couple of gud old Jat friends who're almost destroyed in luv, thus I often wonder why does ppl become mad in luv rather victim of luv and Why do it always said 'Fall in Luv' why not 'Rise in Luv' ???

Anyways, here I start the true tell of my friends, Well both guys r brilliant & been scholars thro'out their lives, both have completed their higher education from premier Institutes & even got prestigious scholarships too but all gone vain, as both guys have fallen in luv & surprisingly both gals r Jats but dont know why but here both gals
Parents become villains specially their moms!

I dont get what is the prob with their parents, as both of my friends belong to gud families & both r well stable but still there is big NO from their parents, I feel its just sheer obduracy!

But here comes the real prob, both gals r kinda timid in front of their parents n just cant talk openly n take any bold decisions and now the prob & my friends lives r gettin worsen as parents of both gals r started searchin matches for them...so my dear friends life gettin hell.

U know both guys got some rare opportunities to study abroad on full scholarships but they left it for their luv but these gals r just not able to take bold decisions & due to this adverse condition both guys career, health & life is gettin spoiled.

Well, both guys have met those gals parents in person but result is same, parents of gals've just refused & said whatever we wont marry our daughter to u.

All in all, they're spoiling their lives & gettin destroyed in luv! I find only one solution, those gals must come forward n take bold decisions and marry those guys as I believe if u make commitment to somebody u must fulfill it anyhow!

So I need some valuable pragmatic advices & gud inputs from nice sensible & intellectual Jats of Jatland :)

waitin desperately....


Rock on...
Jit.
 
भाई िजत बात न्यु से के ज्यादा तर लोग लव मेरिज के हमेशा िखलाफ़ ही रह्ते है (सोच ही ऐसी बन गयी है) अगर यही लडके उन लडिकयाँ के घर वाले पसंद करते तो कोई बात ना थी...............
 
jitu bhai... there r no tricks to love. if their parents don understand this love marriage thing... then..maybe ur friends need to understand their parents.
if u go against ur parents..??...... that's not wht they raise u for... n forget abt lived happily ever after thing.
i'm not saying.. dump the love. ab koye theory to hai nai... like in economics we had.. " theory of equiliberium " for demand n price/supply
..... as of yet.. there is no theory for girlfriend n parents. :D
they gotta make their own decision/sacrifice/choice.

aapne dubhiya ki choro... aap nu batao... ak aapne koye sacrifice karvavan vali paai ak nahi... :D
 
Ow bawwalle jatto...pehlyan karro mehnatt arr taggddi karro naukkaarri...ye pyar-wyar tei pher pachhe-2 handdein ge.....Today all parents want their son-in-law to be well to do...they are just not interested in giving their daughter's hand to a INFATUATION DRIVEN LOWLY PAID GUY. Try understand ....Economics ka jammanna hei...HEER-RANJHE walla nahin. Aur bhai aaj kaal ki chhori bhi jibb pyar-vyar karran ki sochchein sein jib chhorre ka byontt dekh lein sein.....Blind love is the thing of past......DIL wALLE NAHIN.....BYONTT WALLE DULHANIYAN LE JAYENGGE!
 
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kaka ne bagaya bomb...
lekin kaka ki baat mein..dam poora se...
hoga kyounkar na kaka ne poora hanga la ke baga rakhya se...:D

nu kaka dikhta bhodha hoga..se nahin....ghul(kushti) karke dekh liyo...
bhai wat is love..till u see it in front of u...in 90% cases out of sight out of mind.. aur yeah baat 100% sahi se..ki byont wale dulhaniya le jaayenge....

chori kehya kare...
pathar se na maaro mere deewane ko..
pathar se na maaro mere deewane ko...
bomb ka zamana se..
grenate se uda do saale ko..
don't mind just kidding..
but its very well said..
jiske ghar hoon daane..uske kamle bhi suhane...
devdahiya said:
Ow bawwalle jatto...pehlyan karro mehnatt arr taggddi karro naukkaarri...ye pyar-wyar tei pher pachhe-2 handdein ge.....Today all parents want their son-in-law to be well to do...they are just not interested in giving their daughter's hand to a INFATUATION DRIVEN LOWLY PAID GUY. Try understand ....Economics ka jammanna hei...HEER-RANJHE walla nahin. Aur bhai aaj kaal ki chhori bhi jibb pyar-vyar karran ki sochchein sein jib chhorre ka byontt dekh lein sein.....Blind love is the thing of past......DIL wALLE NAHIN.....BYONTT WALLE DULHANIYAN LE JAYENGGE!
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Well in this case Jit .... Guys were not at mistake ..... there is nothing more they can do ..... They were doing pretty well for themselves........

Failing in love is not forceful.... it just happens............
As soon as you are on your own.......
I think a girl should know when to say no to the parents ....decide for themselves........ when to break the shackles........ rather than taking orders what to do next.......... But still .....not all the parents like to give liberty like this .....and interfere in every aspect of their child's life .........
This thing is deeply rooted in our culture ........ What can i say about it.....
 
devdahiya said:
DIL wALLE NAHIN.....BYONTT WALLE DULHANIYAN LE JAYENGGE!
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100 % SAACHI BAAT KAKA.... PYAR PYUUR NA KARTI AAJKAL KI CHHORI>.. APNA SUKH DEKHE SEIN... AAR CHHOREY KA BYONT.... PYAR KA TAME NA SEI UNN KENNE.................
 
Bhai Jit, falling in love is one thing and concluding it into lifetime relation is another. If girls are timid, then take it from me that they are not in love. Love takes out timidity out of a person or otherway, timid persons can not fall in love. Ask your friends to be strong if they really want their love to be concluded into relationship.

Agar aur jiada guidence chaiye to unko August me Suraj Kund bhej dena...hahahaha dekhte hain ki larke wale kaise nahi maante.....jor ki kilkiiiiii

RK^2
 
cooljat said:


Hi! Gentle Folks,

Well, I’m just goin to start a thread based on true story & looking forward to get some valuable inputs on this serious topic, I also request u guys not to make fun of it.

Ppl, u must have heard a word 'FANAA' with punch line Destroyed in Luv, it reminds me of my couple of gud old Jat friends who're almost destroyed in luv, thus I often wonder why does ppl become mad in luv rather victim of luv and Why do it always said 'Fall in Luv' why not 'Rise in Luv' ???

Anyways, here I start the true tell of my friends, Well both guys r brilliant & been scholars thro'out their lives, both have completed their higher education from premier Institutes & even got prestigious scholarships too but all gone vain, as both guys have fallen in luv & surprisingly both gals r Jats but dont know why but here both gals
Parents become villains specially their moms!

I dont get what is the prob with their parents, as both of my friends belong to gud families & both r well stable but still there is big NO from their parents, I feel its just sheer obduracy!

But here comes the real prob, both gals r kinda timid in front of their parents n just cant talk openly n take any bold decisions and now the prob & my friends lives r gettin worsen as parents of both gals r started searchin matches for them...so my dear friends life gettin hell.

U know both guys got some rare opportunities to study abroad on full scholarships but they left it for their luv but these gals r just not able to take bold decisions & due to this adverse condition both guys career, health & life is gettin spoiled.

Well, both guys have met those gals parents in person but result is same, parents of gals've just refused & said whatever we wont marry our daughter to u.

All in all, they're spoiling their lives & gettin destroyed in luv! I find only one solution, those gals must come forward n take bold decisions and marry those guys as I believe if u make commitment to somebody u must fulfill it anyhow!

So I need some valuable pragmatic advices & gud inputs from nice sensible & intellectual Jats of Jatland :)

waitin desperately....


Rock on...
Jit.
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Bhai Jit, ram ram

Pyaar (Love) agar Pyaar hai to sahi hai agar paagalpan hai to galat hai
 
devdahiya said:
Ow bawwalle jatto...pehlyan karro mehnatt arr taggddi karro naukkaarri...ye pyar-wyar tei pher pachhe-2 handdein ge.....Today all parents want their son-in-law to be well to do...they are just not interested in giving their daughter's hand to a INFATUATION DRIVEN LOWLY PAID GUY. Try understand ....Economics ka jammanna hei...HEER-RANJHE walla nahin. Aur bhai aaj kaal ki chhori bhi jibb pyar-vyar karran ki sochchein sein jib chhorre ka byontt dekh lein sein.....Blind love is the thing of past......DIL wALLE NAHIN.....BYONTT WALLE DULHANIYAN LE JAYENGGE!
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Dev Sir, Ram Ram,
Pyaar pahale bhi tha aur abhi bhi hai mai Pilani jaise choti
see jagah main rahta hoon aur maine yahaan par kaphi love marrige
saphal hote dekhi hai aur kaphi arrange marrige viphal. Swarath
sab jagah hai. Poora samaj jaroorat se hii juda hooa hai.
 
Hi kumar,
I don't agree with u. when anybody is in love then they can never be wrong.
How can u say that..a girl is timid so she is wrong.. nope..dats not true..
yeah she had expressed her feeling to her parents and thats upto them to consider her consideration. even it applies to guys side..but its a man domniated society so there is less problem from male's side...
how can anybody go over their parents wishes..as the love which they found is having age of just few months or few years..but how can u compare the love that their parents are havin for them since they were born..even 9 months before that....u can never match the two things...in every case parents love is more then that.....
out of two parents and the girls any one have to accept the truth.. in this case girl has accepted the truth..and she is not doing anything wrong..and nobody can say that they have compromised with the situation...Come On' how can u ask anybody to go against their parent wishes..as guys are too bold they can fight and convince their parents forcibly...mind it FORCIBLE if parents would have accepted the girl then they would not have given second thought.
But when girls parents have refused it..there might be some reason.(none of the parents want uncertainity)first guy have to show that he is having some fire in him...it is ficticios thing..that we can live on love we can manage in watever we are going to earn..
..if parents are becoming adamant then obviously guy can fight but its hard for girls to fight..if they will fight then they won't be having good image in guys family that its even worser for them...because this is girl who has to leave her family and adjust herself in guys family..it would be diffcult to cope up wid guys family...girl has to think too much before doing anything......

So love is never wrong..and dats guys fault that he is destroyin himself...he have to prove himself ....love is not the heart of life..love is the part of life..UR friend have to prove himself then only he can ask for something..rite now he is responsibility of his parents..how can girls parents find the guy responsible for their daughter

agar life mein kuch chahiye to struggle karna padta hai...



rkumar said:
Bhai Jit, falling in love is one thing and concluding it into lifetime relation is another. If girls are timid, then take it from me that they are not in love. Love takes out timidity out of a person or otherway, timid persons can not fall in love. Ask your friends to be strong if they really want their love to be concluded into relationship.

Agar aur jiada guidence chaiye to unko August me Suraj Kund bhej dena...hahahaha dekhte hain ki larke wale kaise nahi maante.....jor ki kilkiiiiii

RK^2
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aur nu bhoojho ki mane itna kyou kar bera se...mein love consultant mana jaata tha mahare college mein...baaki saari baat batan ki naa hoti


NOONE IN THIS WORLD IS WORTH CRYING FOR, AND THE PERSON WHO IS WORTH CRYING FOR WILL NEVER LET U CRY
 
rockingguy said:
Hi kumar,
I don't agree with u. when anybody is in love then they can never be wrong.
How can u say that..a girl is timid so she is wrong.. nope..dats not true..
yeah she had expressed her feeling to her parents and thats upto them to consider her consideration. even it applies to guys side..but its a man domniated society so there is less problem from male's side...
how can anybody go over their parents wishes..as the love which they found is having age of just few months or few years..but how can u compare the love that their parents are havin for them since they were born..even 9 months before that....u can never match the two things...in every case parents love is more then that.....
out of two parents and the girls any one have to accept the truth.. in this case girl has accepted the truth..and she is not doing anything wrong..and nobody can say that they have compromised with the situation...Come On' how can u ask anybody to go against their parent wishes..as guys are too bold they can fight and convince their parents forcibly...mind it FORCIBLE if parents would have accepted the girl then they would not have given second thought.
But when girls parents have refused it..there might be some reason.(none of the parents want uncertainity)first guy have to show that he is having some fire in him...it is ficticios thing..that we can live on love we can manage in watever we are going to earn..
..if parents are becoming adamant then obviously guy can fight but its hard for girls to fight..if they will fight then they won't be having good image in guys family that its even worser for them...because this is girl who has to leave her family and adjust herself in guys family..it would be diffcult to cope up wid guys family...girl has to think too much before doing anything......

So love is never wrong..and dats guys fault that he is destroyin himself...he have to prove himself ....love is not the heart of life..love is the part of life..UR friend have to prove himself then only he can ask for something..rite now he is responsibility of his parents..how can girls parents find the guy responsible for their daughter

agar life mein kuch chahiye to struggle karna padta hai...
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My advise to boys in such situations would be to forget about such timid girls..Don't watse your remaining life with them.. timid people have their own logic of love and they justify their actions just to suit convenience.

Kahte hain isq me aankhen band ho jatee hain
aankhen khol kar isq nahi, sauda hua karta hai

One has to decide if one is in love or for some deal....

RK^2
 
devdahiya said:
Ow bawwalle jatto...pehlyan karro mehnatt arr taggddi karro naukkaarri...ye pyar-wyar tei pher pachhe-2 handdein ge.....Today all parents want their son-in-law to be well to do...they are just not interested in giving their daughter's hand to a INFATUATION DRIVEN LOWLY PAID GUY. Try understand ....Economics ka jammanna hei...HEER-RANJHE walla nahin. Aur bhai aaj kaal ki chhori bhi jibb pyar-vyar karran ki sochchein sein jib chhorre ka byontt dekh lein sein.....Blind love is the thing of past......DIL wALLE NAHIN.....BYONTT WALLE DULHANIYAN LE JAYENGGE!
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काका वे छोरे ते अच्छे पढ रे से ,,,, अर िजत भाई ने जुकर बताया िक वे अच्छी नोकरी कर ऐ से ..................:rolleyes:
 
bhai LAlit ur right
both've studied from most prestegious institutes of India, n capable to earn handsome money!

rock on
Jit

PS -- raat ko aur info deta hoon :)
handsome_nashier said:
काका वे छोरे ते अच्छे पढ रे से ,,,, अर िजत भाई ने जुकर बताया िक वे अच्छी नोकरी कर ऐ से ..................:rolleyes:
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Hi,

Jit, Education is not a criterion for a family which is settled for 30 years and whose daugthers are capable of doing any thing on their own.

The girls in the question, went ways ahead of their constraint!! had they been working in constraint, they would have not made such a decision!!! And a decision has to be respected whatever it takes.

The boys on the other hand had a lot more to sacrifice than just parents' love. Yes, this is true that Parents have been loving their children for long.. as much as one order of magnitude more in time as the boys and girls know each other, but where does the love of parents get affected with a marriage and a decision??? I mean if it is my life, it has to be ultimatley me who has to decide which direction to lead it in, and my responsibilty towards my parents hardly get affected with my getting married with a girl of my choice and the one who has aquired me inside out!!

For the girl on the other hand, she has to in any case leave her parents' place and has to in anycase start a new life with a new family and a new person.... a JEEVANSATHI.... a boy has his parents Jeevansathi in the first place but for a girl... her parents are just for the first half of her life!!!!

In this case the parents of the girls shall understand this that the girls, if they are bold enough to bring it to fore, need to be given what they aspire as ultimately it is them who have to live their life!! If they get married to someone else, without forgetting the boys!! They will not lead a happy life...
So n number of solutions exist for such a trancendental equation in my view!!! Viz...

1. The girls forget the boys, and their melancholy and sacrifices which they did for the love they felt, and get ahead in life...At the same time the boys need to relook intotheir lives, time lost will never ever return and they shall not repent for any loss incurred in the past.

2. The girls, if they have tried forgetting and are not able to forget, they shall get back with strength to their parents and speak it bold poked face to poked face... And find people who can make their parents understand the need of the hour!!

3. The boys and the girls forget their parents( a bit hypothetical, but then LOVE!!) and get ahead in their lives.

For the parents of the girls on the other hand!!

1. They are unlimately their daughters, if they know the truth, its their wish, if they want to make life happy or melancholas??

2. They can talk it out and search for possibilties with the families of the boys!!!!

3. They can straightaway put their demands from their sons-in-law and provide a time to fulfil their demands failing which they will marry their daughters to someone else...

And a numerous other solutions, which I am still thinking on,. will get back to you as the time approaches!!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal.
 
shobhitdeshwal said:
Hi,

Jit, Education is not a criterion for a family which is settled for 30 years and whose daugthers are capable of doing any thing on their own.

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal.
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भाई सोभीत बात न्यू से के अगर कोई बालक अपने माता िपता को कह्ता है िक मुझे कोई*लडका / लडकी पसंद है तो उसके parents को क्या करना चािहये :
सीधे BIG NO (जैसे की आम होता है - पढन मे दयान !! नही प्यार करेगें ये !!!!!!!!!!!!)
या उसकी पसंद को परखना चािहये ????????????????????????????????????????????????

ओर चाह तक मे समझता हूँ बच्चे गलत करतें है जब parents कुछ भी नही सुनते !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!
 
Bhai Nasheir.....
Nyu te bata... ak nyu kinne kahi ke jo pyar me pade se ve galat hon ar padhte na??
Main pyar me bhi pada su ar main padhun bhi hun kamaun bhi hun??? Arr mata pitajee ko to pehle bhai saare e kaam galat laga karein se... Kuch kar lo....
Main science padhi... kehen lage ki commerce padta.. galati kar di... pher IIT aaya... PhD me admission liya yahin.. bole ak bahar jata... galti kar di.... pher... chhod di PhD... pher bole ak galti kar di.. naukri kar li.. to bole ya galti kar di.... pher badal li naukri to bole ak galti kar di...
Bhai saaron ke Mata Pitajee aise hi hoya karein hain... sab mein galti hi dikhhe hai unhe to..
Apna conscience saf hai to aage chalo.... Maa Baap ne life di hai... uspe kabza nahi kar liya!! Ak jyukar jhotte ko bandh diya nyu bandh gaye!!!
Yo ke baat se bhai??/
 
shobhitdeshwal said:
Bhai Nashier.....
Nyu te bata... ak nyu kinne kahi ke jo pyar me pade se ve galat hon ar padhte na??
Main pyar me bhi pada su ar main padhun bhi hun kamaun bhi hun??? Arr mata pitajee ko to pehle bhai saare e kaam galat laga karein se... Kuch kar lo....
Main science padhi... kehen lage ki commerce padta.. galati kar di... pher IIT aaya... PhD me admission liya yahin.. bole ak bahar jata... galti kar di.... pher... chhod di PhD... pher bole ak galti kar di.. naukri kar li.. to bole ya galti kar di.... pher badal li naukri to bole ak galti kar di...
Bhai saaron ke Mata Pitajee aise hi hoya karein hain... sab mein galti hi dikhhe hai unhe to..
Apna conscience saf hai to aage chalo.... Maa Baap ne life di hai... uspe kabza nahi kar liya!! Ak jyukar jhotte ko bandh diya nyu bandh gaye!!!
Yo ke baat se bhai??/
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ना भाई मेरे parents ने न्यू ना िकया मेरे पढाई मे !!!!!!!!! (मै आप के माता-िपता की आलोचना नही कर रहा !!!!!) but we are talkin about LOVE Marriages
 
well said vishal dhanda

rockingguy said:
Hi kumar,
I don't agree with u. when anybody is in love then they can never be wrong.
How can u say that..a girl is timid so she is wrong.. nope..dats not true..
yeah she had expressed her feeling to her parents and thats upto them to consider her consideration. even it applies to guys side..but its a man domniated society so there is less problem from male's side...
how can anybody go over their parents wishes..as the love which they found is having age of just few months or few years..but how can u compare the love that their parents are havin for them since they were born..even 9 months before that....u can never match the two things...in every case parents love is more then that.....
out of two parents and the girls any one have to accept the truth.. in this case girl has accepted the truth..and she is not doing anything wrong..and nobody can say that they have compromised with the situation...Come On' how can u ask anybody to go against their parent wishes..as guys are too bold they can fight and convince their parents forcibly...mind it FORCIBLE if parents would have accepted the girl then they would not have given second thought.
But when girls parents have refused it..there might be some reason.(none of the parents want uncertainity)first guy have to show that he is having some fire in him...it is ficticios thing..that we can live on love we can manage in watever we are going to earn..
..if parents are becoming adamant then obviously guy can fight but its hard for girls to fight..if they will fight then they won't be having good image in guys family that its even worser for them...because this is girl who has to leave her family and adjust herself in guys family..it would be diffcult to cope up wid guys family...girl has to think too much before doing anything......

So love is never wrong..and dats guys fault that he is destroyin himself...he have to prove himself ....love is not the heart of life..love is the part of life..UR friend have to prove himself then only he can ask for something..rite now he is responsibility of his parents..how can girls parents find the guy responsible for their daughter

agar life mein kuch chahiye to struggle karna padta hai...
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very well said dhanda, man has to prove them salves that they are in good position to look after their life partner and they have well respect in the society. no one can become happy if they go againest the parents and no parents wants bad of their child. gals have to talk to their parents what she wants , if parents are still against then they have to end it .
and for guys chor de dunya kisi ke ley ye munaashif nahi aadmmi ( man ) ke ley pyar se bhi jaruri kai kaam se pyar sab kuch nai jindgii ke ley.
 
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