Why don't you take a Vow...
Dear All,
There has been a lot of discussion on the same topic. I am pasting one such post by a respected member Dr Budh Nashier on 03 Jun 2003. I am sure I have his permission to do so. here it goes.
"This message is directed at all the members of Jatland.com. Every person has a special liking or distaste towards something particular. The dowry system in our society pinches me more than almost all things in life. And when you talk to people, they seem to agree to rid of the problem and they generally pretend as though you are talking about some other folks out there. So I have a suggestion for the elite class of Jatland.com members. Those of you who are bachelors, would you resolve to yourself that your self-respect will prevent you from accepting anything other than simple/tasteful food provided by your party when you get married. Such examples by highly educated people will certainly have a greater impact than anything else. Poor people don’t set examples - it is the class of privileged ones that must demonstrate the courage to pave a path which would be followed by less-privileged. The Jatland.com membership is reasonably large to make an impact once each one of us and our friends can join this drive!"
Therefore, the first soldier in the battle is YOU. Please declare here and now "THAT I WILL NEITHER TAKE DOWRY NOR LET MY PARENTS NEGOTIATE MY PRICE". And please declare it publicly. Who knows some of us may be there to validate. I have seen some very respected members say something here and then take part in ceremonies where there is obscene display of wealth and dowry has been given and accepted.
DO WHAT YOU SAY AND DON'T DO WHAT OTHERS DO.
Warm regards,
JS Malik
Dear All,
There has been a lot of discussion on the same topic. I am pasting one such post by a respected member Dr Budh Nashier on 03 Jun 2003. I am sure I have his permission to do so. here it goes.
"This message is directed at all the members of Jatland.com. Every person has a special liking or distaste towards something particular. The dowry system in our society pinches me more than almost all things in life. And when you talk to people, they seem to agree to rid of the problem and they generally pretend as though you are talking about some other folks out there. So I have a suggestion for the elite class of Jatland.com members. Those of you who are bachelors, would you resolve to yourself that your self-respect will prevent you from accepting anything other than simple/tasteful food provided by your party when you get married. Such examples by highly educated people will certainly have a greater impact than anything else. Poor people don’t set examples - it is the class of privileged ones that must demonstrate the courage to pave a path which would be followed by less-privileged. The Jatland.com membership is reasonably large to make an impact once each one of us and our friends can join this drive!"
Therefore, the first soldier in the battle is YOU. Please declare here and now "THAT I WILL NEITHER TAKE DOWRY NOR LET MY PARENTS NEGOTIATE MY PRICE". And please declare it publicly. Who knows some of us may be there to validate. I have seen some very respected members say something here and then take part in ceremonies where there is obscene display of wealth and dowry has been given and accepted.
DO WHAT YOU SAY AND DON'T DO WHAT OTHERS DO.
Warm regards,
JS Malik