Getting married in same caste..

vpsingh said:
As marriage is an alliance between two (heterosexual) adults, their own sentiments, likes/dislikes and mutual attraction are, of course, the most important factors in this relationship..
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It is not only hetrosexual but homosexual too. Why should not we deal with it? Is it embarrassing?
 
prashantacmet said:
It is not only hetrosexual but homosexual too. Why should not we deal with it? Is it embarrassing?[/QU


Definately not embarrassing..... I reckon its about time that this issue is brought out in light and discusssed at length.....sensisble discussions should always be encouraged
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vpsingh said:
It will be off-topic, I think. Moreover, marriage of 'perverts' does not have any social or legal recognition in India so far.
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Vijay Ji.............'Perverts' is not the right term in my view....once again this is a change happening pretty much everywhere in the world....its a new reality in human relations all over the world....infact homosexuals have always been there but behind closed doors and now they are coming out
 
Shibani said:
Vijay Ji.............'Perverts' is not the right term in my view....once again this is a change happening pretty much everywhere in the world....its a new reality in human relations all over the world....infact homosexuals have always been there but behind closed doors and now they are coming out
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Right..few days before thousands of homosexuals clubbed in Delhi and marched a rally. So after "inter caste marriages" and "same gotra marriages", homo marriages will be reality in India very soon. Such cases have happened earlier too in India but very less in numbers. Let us see how the law and order of this democratic setup and Indian social system deal with Homo marriages ..:)
and my questions to all Jatlanders who can bear "inter caste marriages and same gotra marriages" and talk about "love" "individual choice" etc. are they ready for homosexual marriages too? so let us see How much sophisticated you are and how much you can deal with the evolution and plz while writing the answer put yourself in the shoes of other families whom son/daughter went for revolt and became a homo............
 
malikdeepak1 said:
Bhai thik kah se rey jma..

Pahlam to chori ne nyu kaho "uren aa ek ber!"

Vikas :"tera naa ke se?"

Ladki : "XXXXX"

Vikas:" Pura naa bta, sudha goth"

Ldki : "XXXX YYYY"

Vikas : "Teri maa ka ke goth se?"

Ladki : "ZZZZZ"

Vikas : "er teri dadi ka??"

Ladki : "Tu ye sari baat kya te bujhe se?"

Vikas :"Btawe bhi gi ek ber!"

Ladki : "AAAA"

Vikas : "oho, yu dadi ka aan bidhya goth! Chaalla paat gya! Chokha tane bta di, na to tere te pyaar karen ne ho rhya tha main to!"





PS : You can't think before loving someone. It's a human tendency!
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hahahhahahaahhahahaha Deepak bhai tane to kasuta chala pad diya bhai.............
main bhi sochu k mere dil ki baat aade kis ne likh di.........
hahhahahahahhahahhaha

Main Topic: Bhai jo ek baar dekhte he pyar ho jye vo pyar ni just attraction hota hai jo jyda din ni rehta,,,,,,,,
ye love tab hota hai jab aap kisi ko ache se jano, uski qualities aapko pata ho, baat karte karte muh se kitni bhi jhooth bolo sach nikal he jata hai, isliye dekhte he pyar ni hota.
pehle to normal baat hoti hai baad me ye caste or gotra ki baat hoti hai jab aapko lege ki vo aapke acc. aur family k acc. thek hai ya ni.


Bhai agar koi jaat kisi chamari te shadi kar laya to bhai kitni b koshish kare vo chamari kuch to isa kregi ki bera pat ja ki chamari se.............
ek caste me shadi karo to acha hai..... balance bana rehta hai aur logo ko chance b ni milta baat marne ka...........

KUCH GALAT KAHA HO TO BHAI PLZ SAHI AAP SABHI BATA DENA.............
 
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prashantacmet said:
Right..few days before thousands of homosexuals clubbed in Delhi and marched a rally. So after "inter caste marriages" and "same gotra marriages", homo marriages will be reality in India very soon. Such cases have happened earlier too in India but very less in numbers. Let us see how the law and order of this democratic setup and Indian social system deal with Homo marriages ..:)
and my questions to all Jatlanders who can bear "inter caste marriages and same gotra marriages" and talk about "love" "individual choice" etc. are they ready for homosexual marriages too? so let us see How much sophisticated you are and how much you can deal with the evolution and plz while writing the answer put yourself in the shoes of other families whom son/daughter went for revolt and became a homo............
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Bhai yaha homo marriage aur hetrosexual marriage ki baat shuru karke main topic se dhyan mat hatao..........
kal ne ye mat bolna ki aur jagah homosexual marriage hoti hain to apne haryana aur u.p me bhi honi chahiye........

ye same gotra marriage kuch states me hoti hain main b manta hoon.......lekin iska ye b matlab ni ki jo waha ho vo apne yaha bhi shure hona chahiye.........
BHAI ACHI BAAT NA SIKHTE TO KAM SE KAM BHUNDI BHUNDI BAAT B NA SIKHO........

Punjab aur south side me ye gotra ka koi problem ni hota.... lekin apne yaha apna, maa ka aur dadi ka gotra match karte hain............ mere according ye system thek hai, hona bhi chahiye.

YE HOMOSEXUAL MARRIAGE TOPIC PER BAAT KARNE K LIYE NEW THREAD START KARO JISME GIRLS KI ENTRY NA HO, FIR AAPNE BADIYA BADIYA EXPLAINATION BOT MILENGE AUR AAP KHUD BOLOGE KI BAHI BAAT GHANI BADGI ISLIYE YE MARRIAGE NI HONI CHAHIYE...........:rock


Bhai main kisi ko personally ni bol raha lekin jo sach hai bata raha hoon......koi ko bura lage to plz thoda kam he bura maan na jyda ni..........
lekin is way me bhi soch k dekhna....kyuki india ki ye badkismati hai ki log sahi der se catch karte hain aur buri baat jaldy catch karte hain........:o
 
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Shibani said:
Vikas ji,
je milte hi itne sawal boojhooge to choori nu kahwegi ibbe te court sa shuru kar diya...............ibbe yeh haal se bera na aagge ke ke boojega...choori bolegi bhai manne to aur bhatare mil ja ge.....tu apna court kite aur chala le.....maane baksh de;) ;) ;)
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hahhahahaahhahahhha sahi kahi aapne bhi.......... jaruri na hain ek sath itne question puchne.........bus baat baato me puch lo dheere dheere.........usi se pata lag jata hai....
ye thodi hota hai ki raste me jati chorri ne pakad k puchna suru kar di ki k naam, k maa ka gotra, k dadi ka gotra.......... simple baat karo aur dheere dheere pucho......
isliye to bol raha hoon jo ek bar dekhte he pyar ho jye vo pyar ni just opp. sex attraction hai......
 
prashantacmet said:
tanee rachondaa aamtaa deekhe vikas bhai.......main nu kad kahi ek falana hona chaiye ar dhimkana nahi hona chaiye... bhai aapne deedo main mameera ger ke ek bai aur padh liye
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bhai kam te kam words to padhan joge likh diya kar............. dakki apni isi bhasha likhe hai janu koi new version generate kara se............hahhahahhahahhha
 
malikdeepak1 said:
Vikas ek baat ka sach sach jawaab de!
"Tujhe kabhi kisi se pyaar hua hai?"

Dil se jawab diyo bhai, dimag se nahi!
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hahhahahhahahhahahaha
ye social network site hai bhai..yaha personal matters discuss ni karte......
life me pyar har kisi ko ek ne ek baar ho he jata hai...... kisi ko jaldy uski pasand mil jati hai to kisi ko wait karna padta hai bahi......ab ye mat puchna ki mujhe mil gayi ya wait kar raha hoon......hahahhaahahhahha
mere maximum friends ne love marriage ki hai lekin same caste me
mere kuch friends south k hain aur kuch punjab side k....main 5 years punjab me raha hoon, 3 years west bangal me aur ab chennai me hoon..... isliye unke side me marriage rules thode bahut main b janta hoon....... us base pe kuch threads k reply diye hain.
 
Shibani said:
Vijay Ji.............'Perverts' is not the right term in my view....once again this is a change happening pretty much everywhere in the world....its a new reality in human relations all over the world....infact homosexuals have always been there but behind closed doors and now they are coming out
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Shibani ji, in my terminology it is nothing but a perversion. The possibility of existence of such unnatural practices behind doors in the past is not ruled out but that does not justify continuation of such unnatural and bestial tendencies for ever. With evolution of civilization, we should be moving towards healthier and more civilized behavior. Only marital alliance between sane and heterosexual partners as ordained by nature should be acceptable by the society and the law of the land. What people are doing behind the curtains, should not be allowed to be exhibited in public domain as a matter of right in pursuit of show-casing metro sexual image by a few ultras
 
ATTENTION ALL: LETS BRING THE TOPIC BACK ON TRACK


A. SEPARATE GAY GBLT Thread - discuss there
WHY NOT DISCUSS GAY: ALL REFER TO MY POST #17
Let us keep the discussion strictly to hetro marriages to keep things simple. However, thanks to all who challenged why not discuss gay and taboo subjects. I have created a separate thread for Same-sex relationships http://www.jatland.com/forums/showt...ex-relationships-in-Jats.&p=256740#post256740

B. Same Gotra Thread - discuss here
http://www.jatland.com/forums/showt...e-Gotra-Marriages-in-Jats&p=256744#post256744

C. Honor Killing - discuss here
http://www.jatland.com/forums/newthread.php?do=newthread&f=7

Now please, continue discussing along the lines of post #17.
 
I will explain you with one simple scenario :

Suppose tu college me hai bhai. Your first day.. Tune ek ladki dekhi apni class me. Dekhne me sunder, chehre pe innocence, height bhi thik thak, suit salwar me hai. (You don't know her nature till now). Class me intro hua tujhe uska poora naam bhi pta chal gya. Tera sirname er uska sirname match nahi hua. Wa jaata ki bhi se. Tu raji hoya. Tane wa pasand aayi(pyar me or pasand me farak hai). Lab lagi, wo tere batch me aa gayi. Tu or bhi raji hoya. Tane uste baat karni shuru kari. 2-4 din tane baat kari uste. Uska nature tane badhiya laagya. Tu dheere dheere or attract hoya uski traf (still not love). Tane uska number bhi le liya eeb. Thare msg shuru hoge apas me. Shuru me baat kari "falani file bana li" "dhakdi assignment bana li" "makde ke test ki tayari kar li". She also replies in same vein. Thari baat or faltu hon laagi.. class me katthe baithan laag ge. Tnae wa or badhiya laagen laag gi --> your heart now starts beating for her. usko dekhte hi tere dil ki dhadkan tej hone lag jati hai. wo pass ati hai to dil me ek halki si sursuri hoti hia. If you touch her you feel sensations running all through your body (Kayi to shauk shauk me khoye marte chaalya kare choriya ke, m not talking about those guys here)

Fer tumne phone pe baat shuru kar di. Tane uski sari baat badhiya lage. wa kyukar bole se, kyukar lakhaawe se, kyukar baal bhawe se, kise latte pahre se, kisi baat kare se, caring kitni hai..tere sab janchya uska.

Tera jee karenn laag gya ak tu uste ghane te ghani baat kare. khoob time uske sath lagawe, tera roti khaan ne bhi ghaat jee kare. sove jib wa yaad aave, uthe jib wa yaad aave. Shingar karke tu college me jave ak usne suthra laagu mai. Apne sare aeb lako leve uste baat karti haan..Why??

Becoz now you are in LOVE with that girl and you don't want her to feel bad becoz of you!

You did all these things becoz your heart said all these things to you.

Did i miss somewhere that you din ask her mother's and grandmother's sirname?? I think you missed out this while doing shingar-patti and making yourself a good person in her eyes.

Big question --> What if now one of the sirname matches?? Its a totally different topic to discuss.

All I wanted to make you feel was that love happens just like that. You can't think and love. If you are thinking in your mind if to love this girl or not, then you are not into love.










PS : Ye mere apne vichar hai pyaar ke bare me. aapke vichar bhinn ho sakte hai!
 
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akshaymalik84 said:
Kasuta experiance le rya hai daaki PYAR ka te tu......JL k Love guru:cool:

Baaki......jis te love howe us gel biyah karna jaroori sai k???:eek:
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Bhai re akshay, tere jise bhaiya ki gel rah ke dekh rakhya se yu sab kime. koi guru-garu nahi se bhai.. Yu Vikas mada sa samjhna chave tha uste samjhayi si seedhe paadhri baat me. Angreji me likhu hai to iske palle na pade hai suthri dhaal..


Er byah to kismat pe se bhai. Its all destiny. Jiski gel likh rakhya se use ki gel hovega. :)
 
Na na, aapa nahi pade kade in chakkra me. Jindagi ke jhandu balm laag jya se jma.
Appa to ganda paadya kare er khet te bahar likad jaya kare! :rock


Mane te Vikas bhai tayi likhi thi ya kahani, mkha bhai ke suthri dhaal samjh me aa jaga ke pyar karti haana dimag nahi chalya kare. Real love never listens to your mind. It goes by heart only. Haa ye jo sirname vgarah ki baat hai ya pyaar hoye ke kafi time piche dimag me badya kare. When you start feeling for someone these things are put in a line outside your mind witha No-Entry board facing them. In baato ke bare me khyaal baad me hi aata hai.
 
Malikpriya said:
vikas pahle ek suthri si chori tohwega fer uska got poochega ........... maa ka , dadi ka fer je sab theek thak pa gaya te yu sochega iste e pyar karna hai eb ar fer hogi iski love marriage hahhahahhahahhaha sahi proceedure hai.....:p:p
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नाते रिश्ते देख भाल के, गोत नात बूझ के आर पूरा interview ले के ही करने चाहिए I प्यार व्यार तो न्युए होता रहवै सै बेरा ना कितनी बार होज्या जिंदगी मैं. पर ब्याह आदमी नै एक बार ही करना चाहिए ठोक-बजा के आर फेर उसको हर कीमत पर निभाना चाहिए.
लड़कों का तो पता नहीं पर लड़कियों को प्यार अमूमन लड़के के looks और उसकी वित्तीय (financial ) स्थिति से होता है ना की उसकी पारिवारिक पृष्ठभूमि (background ) और उसके संस्कारों से. पैसे के बल पर ना जाने कितने छिछोरे भले घरों की सुन्दर लड़कियों को अपने प्रेमजाल में फंसiने में कामयाब हो जाते हैं और जिंदगी के किसे अँधेरे मोड़ पर dump करके नयी दुनिया की चकाचौंध में नए जीवन साथी के पहलू में रंगरलियाँ मनाते हैं. दूसरी शादी नहीं भी करें तो extra-marital affairs का चलन काफी तेजी से बढ़ रहा है. पर जब तक ये सारी बातें उजागर होती हैं तब तक देर हो चुकी होती है. इसलिए सभी युवा युवतियों को परिवार के बड़ों की सलाह का यथा संभव सम्मान करना चाहिए ब्याह शादी के मामलों में, और अपने तर्क वितर्क से उनको अपनी पसंद पर राज़ी कर लेना चाहिए खास कर अगर आप अंतरजातीय विवाह रचाने जा रहे हों तो. love तो शादी के बाद भी generate किया जा सकै सै.

ब्याह चाहे किसे जात मैं कर लियो पर जांच पड़ताल इन डोगे आल्याँ तैं जरूर करवा लियो कती भीतर की काढ ल्यावेंगे.

PS : विकास तो बूझ के ही करैगा घर आल्याँ नै.
 
vpsingh said:
नाते रिश्ते देख भाल के, गोत नात बूझ के आर पूरा interview ले के ही करने चाहिए I प्यार व्यार तो न्युए होता रहवै सै बेरा ना कितनी बार होज्या जिंदगी मैं. पर ब्याह आदमी नै एक बार ही करना चाहिए ठोक-बजा के आर फेर उसको हर कीमत पर निभाना चाहिए.
लड़कों का तो पता नहीं पर लड़कियों को प्यार अमूमन लड़के के looks और उसकी वित्तीय (financial ) स्थिति से होता है ना की उसकी पारिवारिक पृष्ठभूमि (background ) और उसके संस्कारों से. पैसे के बल पर ना जाने कितने छिछोरे भले घरों की सुन्दर लड़कियों को अपने प्रेमजाल में फंसiने में कामयाब हो जाते हैं और जिंदगी के किसे अँधेरे मोड़ पर dump करके नयी दुनिया की चकाचौंध में नए जीवन साथी के पहलू में रंगरलियाँ मनाते हैं. दूसरी शादी नहीं भी करें तो extra-marital affairs का चलन काफी तेजी से बढ़ रहा है. पर जब तक ये सारी बातें उजागर होती हैं तब तक देर हो चुकी होती है. इसलिए सभी युवा युवतियों को परिवार के बड़ों की सलाह का यथा संभव सम्मान करना चाहिए ब्याह शादी के मामलों में, और अपने तर्क वितर्क से उनको अपनी पसंद पर राज़ी कर लेना चाहिए खास कर अगर आप अंतरजातीय विवाह रचाने जा रहे हों तो. love तो शादी के बाद भी generate किया जा सकै सै.

ब्याह चाहे किसे जात मैं कर लियो पर जांच पड़ताल इन डोगे आल्याँ तैं जरूर करवा लियो कती भीतर की काढ ल्यावेंगे.

PS : विकास तो बूझ के ही करैगा घर आल्याँ नै.
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VPSingh ji, i usually agree with bulk of the views you write, so I no longer write about things I agree with. You usually present a progressive yet pragmatic view point from various perspective, I have immense respect for your views, not only because of the friendship we have come to share in a short span of time, but mianly because of good analysis. So I will no onger do the formality of highlighting things i agree with (too numerous), I will just write where i disagree or have things to add or am additional perspective.

why should it be a taboo to be divorced (sustaining a bad abusive relationship at all costs, living to show to duniya (jhoota dikhawa) vs for own happiness, wonder how many will come to pay bills when you need money) or pre-marital sex (its part of growing up) or virginity (who cares, how doe sit matter, isnt it an outdated MCP attitude, if ever I have a daughter i cant expect her not to hv pre-marital sex or cant expect daughter-in-law to not have had a bf before my son, etc)

I agree if we can take families, wider society with us then challenges and risks in relationship are reduced with the wider support network and reduced negative pressure. Personally, I will try to learn from others mistake, take their advice yet take my own risks and carve my own path and if it means going down the least trodden path, so be it and I will be happy to face the music, good or bad. I would like to live my own life rather than emulate someone else's and I will do so by trying to free myself from unnecessary jhooti dikhawa, taboos, biases, dogmas - my 2cents worth :)
 
vikasJAT said:
Bhai simple baat hai pyar karne se pehle he dekh lo ki apni caste ki hai ya ni......
apni caste ki ho to love karo aur na ho to mat karo..........

Bolte hain ki PYAR ANDHA HOTA HAI......... per bhai itna bhi andha na hota ki kuch bhi na dikhe.......
Pyar karne se pehle apni caste, ghar walo ki conditions ka pata karo ki match hoti hain ya ni........ aise karoge to koi problem he ni aani...........
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भाई विकास ठीक कह रह्या सै love भी सोच समझ के, सारा अता-पता काढ के, जात आर गोत-नात बूझ के करना चाहिए I न्यूं थोड़े करना चाहिए के किसे नै दिल दे बैठो I न्यूं तो माणस का भुरभुरा स्वभाव हो सै बेरा न कितनी बार प्यार होज्या. (आर असल जिंदगी में सब को कई कई बार प्यार होता भी है पर कबूलता कोई नहीं). थोडा मन पर control भी तो करना चाहिए और प्यार उस तै करना चाहिए जिस गैल ब्याह का सूत सा बैठता दीखे.
 
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