How much does salary affect in arrange marriage.

I think this is fair enough to look towards boy's salary.Because of high living standard & inflation today,being financially sound is must.Every girl wants some basic things like car,own house,going for outing once a week etc. because in a life full of unrest & stress,we try to find our peace from materialistic things.

सही बात से .....ब्याह की गाडी आज कल कार, घर , ऐ. सी . ,मोमबत्ती आला भोजन ...इन पे ऐ ते चले है.....


Morevover,you want to fit into the society you dwell in.So these things that were once a luxury are now necessity.Because of movement of girls in high flown professions,the living standard that they expect has rose,but since the roots of being finacially dependent on husband still prevail in society,they look for better earning guy.And when most of the boys also expect their wife to be working unlike past,why not the girls should look for money?

उन लुगईया का के करे जो बस चुन पड़ना जाने है ........उन भी उतनी ऐ ऐशो आराम चाहिए जितने नौकरी कारन आलियां ने चाहिए .....

And,it doesnt mean that boy's nature or family is not looked over,but a good salary is also important.Moreover,in past days,most of the boys stayed in their families,so if the family is finacially sound,that was ok but now because of neutral family concept,a girl has just her partner to rely upon for finances.

सीधी बात नो बकवास.....नुए कह दे ने ...आज कल कोई छोरी अपने सासू सुसरे धोरे कोन्या रह क राजी ...

So she has to consider his salary to decide.If we take luv marrg on other hand,the decision is fixed & based upon luv and not looking for the better options.So the salary or anything else doesnt matter much,because you look at your partner & not upon his salary.But in arranged marrg,you are open to look for the best choice always.Thats why you look at the guy's salary to have a comfortable life & every girl thinks she deserves it.

तो सो बात की एक बात या से की .....सामूहिक कुनबा राजी ब्याह में सब ते बढ़िया बहु या बटेऊ देख्या जा है ....पर फेर भी नुए होई रह है ......यो ऐ मिलना था .......
 
hahaha...That's the bottom line..

In a nutshell..Arrange marriage is more or less a business.

bhai ek baat bata dyu, Marriage is a business either arranged or LOVE. I have seen a lot of cases of very serious love (घना साचा प्यार) relationships being shredded by the girl herself when she understood that life is not all about love,,PAISA is more important..!!!!!!!!!!!
Love was important when it happened in teenage,,now when she is grown up (22-23 yrs) after a long relationship (4-6 years span),,it is realised that love is not that important and it is the money which is the necessity now. :p :boxing:boxing, so love is beaten down,,!!!!!!
 
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Well, you yourself proved that women are highly materialistic.

Totally Agree with you, and if girls are having so many demand why not work and equal the balance. And I don't see difference for salary dependency just because of the marriage is arranged as anusha ji said

If we take luv marrg on other hand,the decision is fixed & based upon luv and not looking for the better options.So the salary or anything else doesnt matter much,because you look at your partner & not upon his salary.But in arranged marrg,you are open to look for the best choice always

And I think not all girls are deserved to live comfortably :) .. then where will leader come out from girls like Panna Dhai, Mother teresa, Jija Bai and so many notable ladies in all over the world.
Thats why you look at the guy's salary to have a comfortable life & every girl thinks she deserves it.
 
घंखरी मै तो माँ-बाप बस कलेश काट कै पल्ला झाड लिया करें अक्क महरी बेकूपी नै तम सुल्टो चाहे रो कै चाहे हंस कै
One JUST gotta be very very lucky to have a good partner:)

It is all LUCK sunita ji. I have seen a lot of love marriages turn out to be disaster in fact all love marriages except one....!!!!
so be it arranged or Love,,it is the understanding between the two which makes it successful...and money plays its role too...!!!
 
bhai ek baat bata dyu, Marriage is a business either arranged or LOVE. I have seen a lot of cases of very serious love (घना साचा प्यार) relationships being shredded by the girl herself when she understood that life is not all about love,,PAISA is more important..!!!!!!!!!!!
Love was important when it happened in teenage,,now when she is grown up (22-23 yrs) after a long relationship (4-6 years span),,it is realised that love is not that important and it is the money which is the necessity now. :p :boxing:boxing, so love is beaten down,,!!!!!!

भाई रविंदर बिलकुल सही कहा आपने, प्यार पे पैसा भारी है आजकल. अब यो बातचीत सही दिशा में जा रही से, जैसा मैंने सोचा था ....
बात यो है की क्यूँ हर लड़की आराम की जिंदगी चाहवे से !! इसकी वजह से हमारे समाज में आराम पसंद पीढ़ी आ रही है .. मैं तो बहुत दुखी हूँ इन आलसी बतीजे-भतीजियो से..
वैसे देखा जाए तो आज जरुरत है एक शिक्षित और अनुशाहित और मुखिया की भूमिका निभाने वाली नारी की .. और majority पता नहीं कहा भाग रही है ... :(

पैसे से बारे में एक बात कही गयी है .. आज है और कल कोणी.. परसों है तो तरसो कोणी .. फेर इसकी इतनी फिकर क्यूँ ...

मेरे विचार से सादगी और उन्छे विचारों से जिंदगी गुजारी जाए तो , ज़िन्दगी के अंतिम वक़्त में पछताना नहीं पड़ता ..

 
bhaiyo ek salah chhorya khatir..!!

किसे शयाने ने कही सै अक छोरी चाए बांदरी बरगी हो (मअत्बल इतनी घनी भुंडी बी नि) पर भले घर की हो तो ब्याह कर लेना चाहिए ,...!!!
घने पिसे नि देखने चाहिए छोर्याँ ने,,,.भाई अगर नुक्लेअर फॅमिली है तो बालकपन में कोई तो चाहिए बचे को संस्कार सिखाने वाला, नै तो चांसेस है के बच्चे बिगरैल ही होंगे ..! जोइंट फॅमिली हो तो चाहे नौकरी बी करदी हो, adjust हो जाया करे ..!

पस: बाकि सब की आपनी आपनी राये आर विचार हो सै ..!!
 
bhaiyo ek salah chhorya khatir..!!

किसे शयाने ने कही सै अक छोरी चाए बांदरी बरगी हो (मअत्बल इतनी घनी भुंडी बी नि) पर भले घर की हो तो ब्याह कर लेना चाहिए ,...!!!
घने पिसे नि देखने चाहिए छोर्याँ ने,,,.भाई अगर नुक्लेअर फॅमिली है तो बालकपन में कोई तो चाहिए बचे को संस्कार सिखाने वाला, नै तो चांसेस है के बच्चे बिगरैल ही होंगे ..! जोइंट फॅमिली हो तो चाहे नौकरी बी करदी हो, adjust हो जाया करे ..!

पस: बाकि सब की आपनी आपनी राये आर विचार हो सै ..!!

Yes, There are very less combine families now a days. And I think combine family is right place where you can learn what is a relation and how to keep relationships. You learn how to pass a bad time and enjoy good one.

The most helpful thing in combine family that you have mostly every age group persons, so you learn quickly how to deal with age groups people.

But Girls are liking nuclear family .. just because of "there should be NOBODY to interrupt or oppose their !deas, decisions and arrangements." They want freedom of doing ANYTHING, most of time with considering consequences !!!, and the partner should TAKE to responsibility of their actions ...

Day-by-day we are giving power in their hand and in most of cases we are leading to relaxation, comfortable life, less social interactions. But if we see the competition in current scenario who should be more hard worker more social and more responsible to our next generation.

continue ....
 
What if
Once married ...boy's salary decreased or he lost his job…. :)

अब नालायक हुआ तो ऐश करेगा .. उसकी बीबी कमाएगी और वो लुटायेगा .. हा हा हाहाहा ...

और अगर किसी लायक हुआ तो बेचारा तानो से परेशान होकर कोई और नोकरी ढून्ढ लेगा चैन मिलने खातिर ... :)
 
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हा...हा...हा...
'सौद्दा' से मेरा मतलब आकर्षक से था. सुंदरता के बारे में मैंने अधिकतर लोग क्या सोचते हैं, ये बताया था और बहुत हद तक मैं भी ऐसा ही सोचता हूं. मेरा अपना मानना है कि सुंदरता अस्थायी तो होती है, लेकिन फिर भी 10-20 साल तक तो रहती ही है.
स्त्रियों या पुरुषों की बस इच्छा होनी चाहिए साथ पाने की. न तो उम्रदराज स्त्रियों के लिए कम उम्र के आकर्षक लड़कों की कोई कमी है और न ही उम्रदराज पुरुषों के लिए कम उम्र की आकर्षक लड़कियों की. कोई एक आकर्षक लड़का या लड़की किसी एक ही साथी के नाम थोड़े ही पूरी जिंदगी लिख देता है. इंसान तो सभी तरह के हैं इस दुनिया में, लेकिन ऐसा करने वाले बहुत ही कम होते हैं.
सुख-दुःख सब कर्मों के लेख हैं. देखा जाए तो ये सारा संसार ही दुखों का घर मालूम पड़ता है.
 
Bhai ek baat samajh na aati ki shadi k time to salary dekh le se.......... jyda salary wale se shadi bhi kar de.....aur je shadi hoyi pache job chod k ghar baith ja tab vo ghani salary dekhaniya k krenge???????????

Maximum yu dekha ja se (jo mane dekha) shadi k time dekha ki chorra army me se..........shadi hoyi pache kuch army e chod aave se........ aur kuch case aise bhi ho se ki salary to jyda paa ja se per shadi pache bera patte se ki aadhi salary to bidi-daaru me udda de se............us time k kara ja.

aajkal ladki wale sirf salary dekhe hain aur nu na dekhte ki character kissa se......... bhai paisa to kam ho tab bhi kaam chal ja, 2 time ki roti to shadi k baad khilavega he kaise bhi karke,,,, isliye ladki walo ko paise pe kam aur insaan k character pe jyda dhyan dena chahiye.
 
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ha ha ha ..
fer to KISMAT FOOT gi chhori ki..!!!!!
( nu sochdi hogi mann me ak u MARDA b koni,,DUSRA byah ho jawe e to) :P :P ..!!!!

PS : on lighter side..!! :P :P

Mainne to yo laage hai, kismat to uh din hi foot ja se, jab koi paisa se pyaar karne wali gella fere pad ja se .. :P

aur bhai wo ek baar mardangni dekha ke bhi chup nahi ho ra.. jo ek aur bar issa karne ka soche .. :) :P :P
 
Aajkal k keh hain ki chorri kam hogi................ bhai chorri kam na hoyi balki chorri walo ki requirements jyda hogi jo kam he puri ho se.
koi ek requirement ho to dekhi bhi ja, bera na k k se.
-> government job ho.
--> salary achi ho
--> city me rehte ho.
--> bolenge meri chorri koi kam na kare (agar job karti ho to).
--> maa-babu me se koi to job me ho.
--> zamin (kille) jyda ho.
--> plots pade ho thode bot.

ebb itni mehangayi me ye sari demand kyukar puri ho.
-->humari side me zamin dekhe to Hooda ne chodi e koni.........
-->aajkal government job kam se.aur koshish karo to donation se, yo donation ya zamin bech k e diya ja sake se gaam me rehne walo se to.
-->rahi baat city me rehne ki to is desh k 70% gaam me e reh se unka k rah ho.
--> chorri job karegi to kaam na kare, ya baat b thek koni, iska matlab to budape me maa-baap uste bana k khavaenge.

bhai ghana serious na liyo in points ne..........enjoy karo thoda......hahhahahahaha
 
Aajkal k keh hain ki chorri kam hogi................ bhai chorri kam na hoyi balki chorri walo ki requirements jyda hogi jo kam he puri ho se.
koi ek requirement ho to dekhi bhi ja, bera na k k se.
-> government job ho.
--> salary achi ho
--> city me rehte ho.
--> bolenge meri chorri koi kam na kare (agar job karti ho to).
--> maa-babu me se koi to job me ho.
--> zamin (kille) jyda ho.
--> plots pade ho thode bot.

ebb itni mehangayi me ye sari demand kyukar puri ho.
-->humari side me zamin dekhe to Hooda ne chodi e koni.........
-->aajkal government job kam se.aur koshish karo to donation se, yo donation ya zamin bech k e diya ja sake se gaam me rehne walo se to.
-->rahi baat city me rehne ki to is desh k 70% gaam me e reh se unka k rah ho.
--> chorri job karegi to kaam na kare, ya baat b thek koni, iska matlab to budape me maa-baap uste bana k khavaenge.

bhai ghana serious na liyo in points ne..........enjoy karo thoda......hahhahahahaha


Ghane serious to koni lende...!!!
Par jinka byah ni ho rya un khatir to analysis kaad k de di tanne,,,eb serious hona b pad sake hai..!!!
 
Ghane serious to koni lende...!!!
Par jinka byah ni ho rya un khatir to analysis kaad k de di tanne,,,eb serious hona b pad sake hai..!!!

hahhahahhahahahahha
Bhai aap bhi bata do kimme ki aapki shadi k time k k questions puche gaye the, taki hum kaware abhi se answer dene k liye tyar ho jaye.
 
Bhai aap bhi bata do kimme ki aapki shadi k time k k questions puche gaye the, taki hum kaware abhi se answer dene k liye tyar ho jaye.


ले माड़ा भोत ज्ञान जो मेरे तई दे राख्या से वो दे दयु सु तने

१. सबते पहलम तो जितने भी इनत्रव्यू लेन आवे सबने हाथ जोड़ के नमस्ते करिए | (चाय/ठंडा तू इ ले के जाइये हो सके ते )
२. फेर न्याड़ तले करके एक कुर्सी/सोफे पे बैठ जाइये |
३. जो भी वो बुझे उसका घना ते घना १-२ लाइन में जवाब दिए |(घना बोलेगा तो न्यू कह्वेंगे की शरमानता नहीं छोर्रा जमा भी ;) )
४. न्यू मत सोचिये के तेरे बारे में कुछ बेरा नहीं उन-ने | तेरी सारी हिस्टरी पावेगी उन धोरे | तो तू सिर्फ नौकरी के लिहाज ते झूठ बोल सके से (कितने पिसे कमावे से.. हे हे :) ) | बाकि सारी ठीक ठीक बताइए |
५. उनकी आंख्या में आँख मिला के बात मत करिये |
६. हर जवाब में ख़तम करते टाइम "जी" जरुर लगाइए (गिव रेस्पेक्ट)|
७. चश्मे ला के मत बैठिये जे लाग रहे हो तो | ;)

बाकि के पॉइंट जिनका ब्याह हो लिया वो बता सके से भाई | करियो माड़ा सा ज्ञानवर्धन म्हारा भी :)
 
jhoot to bhai aajkal bola hi jaata hai.Btech ,Mtech ,MBA ki farji degree dikha de.kisi jaanne wale ki company mai job kar le thode bahyut din.jab 1 bachcha ho jawe(1-2 saal baad) tab pta chale ladki ki family ko to reality ka.

pahle to bhai chhoti family,jyada salary,jyada property dekhe.jo bate jyada matter karti hai unhe na dekhte.
fir jab ladke waala demand rakhe to muh bnawe.
ab to lagta hai ki jaise shadi nahi koi bussiness deal kar rahe ho.
ab hota hai ye sab to kya kar sakte hai koi.agar kisi ladke ya ladki ko ye sab pasand nahi hai to 2 raaste hai.
1.unhi logo ke saath chalo jo aisa karta hai.
2. apne raaste chalo aur khush raho.shayad jab majority badh jayegi ache logo ki aur doosre dekhenge ki ye khush hai to wo bhi apne ko badal le.in baato se bother rahoge to koi solution nahi hone waala.

ले माड़ा भोत ज्ञान जो मेरे तई दे राख्या से वो दे दयु सु तने

१. सबते पहलम तो जितने भी इनत्रव्यू लेन आवे सबने हाथ जोड़ के नमस्ते करिए | (चाय/ठंडा तू इ ले के जाइये हो सके ते )
२. फेर न्याड़ तले करके एक कुर्सी/सोफे पे बैठ जाइये |
३. जो भी वो बुझे उसका घना ते घना १-२ लाइन में जवाब दिए |(घना बोलेगा तो न्यू कह्वेंगे की शरमानता नहीं छोर्रा जमा भी ;) )
४. न्यू मत सोचिये के तेरे बारे में कुछ बेरा नहीं उन-ने | तेरी सारी हिस्टरी पावेगी उन धोरे | तो तू सिर्फ नौकरी के लिहाज ते झूठ बोल सके से (कितने पिसे कमावे से.. हे हे :) ) | बाकि सारी ठीक ठीक बताइए |
५. उनकी आंख्या में आँख मिला के बात मत करिये |
६. हर जवाब में ख़तम करते टाइम "जी" जरुर लगाइए (गिव रेस्पेक्ट)|
७. चश्मे ला के मत बैठिये जे लाग रहे हो तो | ;)

बाकि के पॉइंट जिनका ब्याह हो लिया वो बता सके से भाई | करियो माड़ा सा ज्ञानवर्धन म्हारा भी :)
 
.I believe it's a very important n' valid question Shivam has raised. Nowadays every girl's family look for a well-to-do, successful match in terms of handsome salary .. looks like marriages are becoming more of business. Families hardly pay heeds to Boy's khandan, attitude, overall persona, intellect, way of thinking and substance rather they look for how much he earns. I remember earlier in marriages in particular our community families pay more weightage to Boy's family, social status in village, Zameen etc and Boy's persona. But situation has changed a lot in recent times, nowadays ppl emphasize more on boy's salary part than personality.

I feel families should concentrate more on boy's overall personality and caliber than the salary. Cuz' nowadays in privatization there's no grantee of job and money is always a bi-product. If guy has potential and will to do something and wears pride, he'll be successful eventually in real manner. Overall persona and family history should be the main criteria for match-making.

This is what I believe, rest I request senior members to add their invaluable thoughts so we can enlighten ourselves and apply the sense.


Cheers
Jit


 
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I believe it's a very important n' valid question Shivam has raised. Nowadays every girl's family look for a well-to-do, successful match in terms of handsome salary .. looks like marriages are becoming more of business. Families hardly pay heeds to Boy's khandan, attitude, overall persona, intellect, way of thinking and substance rather they look for how much he earns. I remember earlier in marriages in particular our community families pay more weightage to Boy's family, social status in village, Zameen etc and Boy's persona. But situation has changed a lot in recent times, nowadays ppl emphasize more on boy's salary part than personality.

I feel families should concentrate more on boy's overall personality and caliber than the salary. Cuz' nowadays in privatization there's no grantee of job and money is always a bi-product. If guy has potential and will to do something and wears pride, he'll be successful eventually in real manner. Overall persona and family history should be the main criteria for match-making.

This is what I believe, rest I request senior members to add their invaluable thoughts so we can enlighten ourselves and apply the sense.


Cheers
Jit



Okay, let me give my input. I think the question raised by OP itself was hilarious. I mean, what's wrong in finding out the salary? You know, if a girl says that she'd only look at the guy, his personality, her own attraction to him..whatever..I see a point. So, RESPECT (even if she is a fool)! It is her life- she can decide based on the parameters she chooses. But in an arranged marriage, a family is always going to be more interested in ensuring, first and foremost, that the daughter goes to a financially sound place. As you said, earlier people used to ask about social status and land owned. Why was that? Because that ensured that the girl's financial future was secure. Now the land doesn't generate as much income, relatively speaking (unless it is in a good location and gets acquired). And many more people are working in non-agricultural sector. So there will definitely be emphasis on salary.

And you talked about caliber and personality- someone earning a good salary has also done something to get that. Maybe he is hard working, or intelligent, or qualified or has a smart persona or whatever. It'd be funny if a family asks a prospective groom to take an IQ or personality test. Info. about salary, qualifications, etc. are a proxy to find out whether the guy is good enough for their daughter.

I also think that all those who wish that the boy's "real qualities" were looked at rather than his salary/qualifications are actually opposed to the arranged marriage system without having the guts to say so. It is in a love marriage that a girl and guy would get attracted to each others' "qualities", sometimes even foolishly or with rose-tinted glasses, but with honest, heart-felt emotions. Arranged matches have always and would always look at factors related to financial health.

PS: I hope no one construes it as my advocacy for or against love/arranged marriages because that's not the point. I think I am just telling it how it is.
 
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