urmiladuhan
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What is the answer? Please don't stuff the question under the carpet.
Live in relationships ..?
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What is the answer? Please don't stuff the question under the carpet.
The law of diminishing marginal utility applies in both - LIR as well as arranged marriage. Whether it is LIR or arranged marriage, the euphoria of love dies down after a few years but in LIR the bestial lust remains the only binding factor contrary to the arranged marriage where children and family ties are forceful factors for a long lasting relationship. As far as walking out of the relationship is concerned, it is also equally applicable. One has the option of getting divorced in arranged marriage if the ground is genuine. To go a step further, option of promiscuity is also equally available in arranged marriage if divorce is not feasible.
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urmiladuhan
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I am not talking what is theoretically possible, but instead what happens in practical when married people are not compatibel/not attracted to each other and divorce is not an option. Everyone knows divorce rate in rural India is almost negligibe.
I would say, it is secret flings and extra marital affairs. This to be is the height of hipocracy in an arranged marriage.
Agree! But I believe India is still very much amateur n' emotionally vulnerable when it comes to handle relationships like Live-in. It's Ok if someone wants to live his/her life of their own terms and experiment Live-in; all goes smooth and fine but when times comes to part ways .. hardly anybody handles that trauma well. There are numerous incidents where partners either kill their ex live-in partners or commit suicide reason being their not so smooth exit.
So we are still very young to accept and try Live-in relationships the way it should be however India as a whole going thro' a transition phase which is kinda not stable as well.
So we are still very young to accept and try Live-in relationships the way it should be however India as a whole going thro' a transition phase which is kinda not stable as well.
Shouldnt it be people's wish and freedom that should allow them to choose what they want and how they want to live? Let us stop being moral police for society
Shouldnt it be people's wish and freedom that should allow them to choose what they want and how they want to live? Let us stop being moral police for society
As long as we stay in society, there will be moral police, in any society there has to be some norms, conditions, traditions, practices etc, which are required to be followed and there will be few in the society who take responsibility to remined/ensure implimentation. At the same time awareness about norms of our society for all the members, is also essential. we must contribute as well as learn from such discussions.
We are on track because people like you are there to guide us.
Thanks Fateh ji
If we are Indians we must accept it and should feel proud about it.What is the point is bringing in west in every aspects.
Everyone is free to take their decisions, but is doesn't mean that if you don't support the idea then you are narrowminded.
And how is that less painful, not full of shame n blah blah than a breakup?
It's indeed less painful as generally partners don't kill each other after that not so smooth exit!
अगर शादी टूट भी गई तो लड़के लडकी के पास रोने के लिए किसी का कन्धा तो जरूर होगा, लेकिन सहवास सम्बन्ध (LIR) में तो आत्म हत्या या महखाने के सिवाए कोई दूसरा विकल्प नहीं होता i और जवानी ढलने के बाद तो अँधेरे दरीचे में पड़े रह कर शराब में डूबने या घुट घुट कर, तिल तिल कर मरने के सिवाए कोई दूसरा रास्ता नहीं होता i इसलिए इस खतरनाक रिवाज़ पर चर्चा आने वाली पीढ़ियों को विनाश से बचIने के लिए आवश्यक है i
sanjeev_balyan
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इस थ्रेड का ये हाल तो होना ही था
अगर LIR खतरनाक ह तो LIR का जो विकल्प समाज ने ढूंड रखा ह वो महा खतरनाक ह| इसका उधारण मैं इस पोस्ट पर दे चुंका हूँ| http://www.jatland.com/forums/showt...lationships-..&p=279737&viewfull=1#post279737
आप जिस चरित्रवान समाज की बात कर रहें हें वह सिर्फ़ आपकी कल्पना ह, हकीकत नही| हकीकत मैं असे कई काम नियंतर होते आये हैं और आगे भी होते रहेंगे, जिन्हें समाज "गलत" मानता है| जैसे की शराब पीना "गलत" ह, पर फिर भी कुछ लोग पीते हैं; झूठ बोलना "गलत" ह, पर फिर भी कुछ लोग बोलतें हैं; और असे भी कई काम हैं जिन्हें समाज "सही" मानता ह पर लोग नही करते है; जैसे की प्रातः जल्दी उठना, हर रोज प्रातः व्ययाम करना, इत्यादी|
आप LIR को गलत और सही की तराजू मैं ना तोलें| गलत और सही काल्पनिक हैं, हकीकत नही|
मतलब, जिसकै जो भी जी मैं आवै वो करो, ठीक आर गलत कुछ ना होता ??
ravinderjeet
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ठीक और गलत समय, स्थान और समाज के अनुसार होता हे | किसी भी घटना को सही या गलत ठहराने के लिए ये तीन घटक हैं | एक ही समाज में अलग-अलग समय पर अलग-अलग मान्यताएं हो सकती हैं | वेसे ही एक ही समय पर अलग-अलग स्थानों पर अलग-अलग मान्याताएँ हो सकती हैं | सही और गलत समाज की सोच होती हे उस समाज की आवश्यकताओं के अनुसार | जिस प्रकार एक गाँव में विभिन जातियों के लोग रहते हैं ब्राह्मण विधवा विवाह नहीं करता, परन्तु जाट करता हे | दोनों का स्थान और समय भेद नहीं हे पर दोनों के समाज भिन्न-भिन्न हैं ,इसलिए दोनों की मान्न्य्ताएं भी भिन्न-भिन्न हैं ,इस प्रकार एक कार्य,एक ही स्थान ,एक ही समय पर एक के लिए सही और दुसरे के लिए गलत हो जाता हे |
ना| जी मैं तो बेरा न के-के आजा|
जिसको जो "सही" लगे वो करो| "सही" और गलत की कोई परिभाषा नही है|