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yudhvirmor

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We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
 
yudhvirmor said:
We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
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fer to ek kaam karwyo 10-20 saal band karwa do bhay hone ...........
:rockkuch desh main population kam bhi tho hai :rock
 
yudhvirmor said:
We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
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I am guessing you are talking about couple living overseas as u urself live in UK ? Moreover its a matter of one's personal choice depending on their preference and circumstances. What can we discuss about that? Rahi bat hamare view ki to yar hame kaya farak padta he vo bacha 2 sal me kare ya 20 sal me.:tamatar
 
Speaking socially it is always better and good to have child as early as possible after the marraige.
Or agar shuru me hi ho ja to badiya rah se pachhe kuchh nhi bera, early age me jo child hoga vo , bad wale se healthy bhi hoga.
Ar bhai agar shadi karwa li to eb bachhe bhi honge, parental management ,responsiblity ki bat to bhai pahale hi sochni chahiye un ne.
 
yudhvirmor said:
We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
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yudhvir bhai jo log asisa sochte hain wo sirf khud ko apni zimedarion se bachana chahte hain.......unme itni himmat nahi hai ki apni responsibilities ko achhi tarah nibah sake............uske liye wo different reasons dete hain....jaisa ki aap bta hi chuke ho career growth for wife, money,etc,etc....
bhai inke liye to mai bas yahi kah sakta hun ki...LOOSERS HAVE HUNDRED OF REASONS WHY THEY LOOSE.....
ar bhai ye baat apne bilkul thik kahi hai..they are too scared of managing the parenthood.....asli reason bas yahi hai......

ar bhai jaisa malik bhai ne kaha hai ki jab shadi ki hai to bachhe bhi honge..
agar bachhon se itna dar lagta hai to shaadi hi kyun ki
or wo log ye kyun bhul jaate hai ki wo bhi kisi ke bachhe hai.....agar unke mata-pita ki bhi aisi soch hoti to unko ye duniya dekhne ka mauka bhi na milta.....
......bhai meri to yahi soch hai ki shadi bhi karo ar fer bachhe bhi.....
or jaisa ki malik bhai ne kaha hai ki bachha, shadi ke baad, jitni jaldi paida hoga utna hi healthy hoga(as comapred to those who born after a long time of marriage)
 
yudhvirmor said:
We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
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Bhai had ho ri se

Bina byah balak howe se ar jinke Byah hoja se we balak na karte.
Ye angrej pagal hoge eb inki jansankhya muslim badawenge we lage rah se balak jaman me karde hoke.;););)
 
vipin80 said:
I am guessing you are talking about couple living overseas as u urself live in UK ? Moreover its a matter of one's personal choice depending on their preference and circumstances. What can we discuss about that? Rahi bat hamare view ki to yar hame kaya farak padta he vo bacha 2 sal me kare ya 20 sal me.:tamatar
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Vipin bhai.. I have 5 month old son and I am talking in general.. Its a trend that coming now a days and couples don't want to take repsonsiblity of having kids...
 
rajkphogat said:
Bhai had ho ri se

Bina byah balak howe se ar jinke Byah hoja se we balak na karte.
Ye angrej pagal hoge eb inki jansankhya muslim badawenge we lage rah se balak jaman me karde hoke.;););)
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Phogat sir thats why we need to think about this.. People are thinking crazy.. I have 5-6 friends who are married from last 5 years and still both working and no kids..
Manytimes I fail to understand their reasoning... one of them doesn't want kid because he feels that they can't go to pub in night...
 
rajkphogat said:
Bhai had ho ri se

Bina byah balak howe se ar jinke Byah hoja se we balak na karte.
Ye angrej pagal hoge eb inki jansankhya muslim badawenge we lage rah se balak jaman me karde hoke.;););)
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ha ha ha bhai angrej ke tho aapne aale te jayda balak pe jawe hai


jis ke bhi pawe hai 4-5 pawe hai pakke
na to ek bhi kona
 
daivischahal said:
yudhvir bhai jo log asisa sochte hain wo sirf khud ko apni zimedarion se bachana chahte hain.......unme itni himmat nahi hai ki apni responsibilities ko achhi tarah nibah sake............uske liye wo different reasons dete hain....jaisa ki aap bta hi chuke ho career growth for wife, money,etc,etc....
bhai inke liye to mai bas yahi kah sakta hun ki...LOOSERS HAVE HUNDRED OF REASONS WHY THEY LOOSE.....
ar bhai ye baat apne bilkul thik kahi hai..they are too scared of managing the parenthood.....asli reason bas yahi hai......

ar bhai jaisa malik bhai ne kaha hai ki jab shadi ki hai to bachhe bhi honge..
agar bachhon se itna dar lagta hai to shaadi hi kyun ki
or wo log ye kyun bhul jaate hai ki wo bhi kisi ke bachhe hai.....agar unke mata-pita ki bhi aisi soch hoti to unko ye duniya dekhne ka mauka bhi na milta.....
......bhai meri to yahi soch hai ki shadi bhi karo ar fer bachhe bhi.....
or jaisa ki malik bhai ne kaha hai ki bachha, shadi ke baad, jitni jaldi paida hoga utna hi healthy hoga(as comapred to those who born after a long time of marriage)
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Make sense.. Moreover when we grow old, its more tough to raise kids as it needs lots of patience and endurance to raise kids so that they become better human beings in coming years
 
Control is key!

Talk of the date of their LEGAL Marriage.

I don't think after proper marriage not just Live-in or college time affair...

One would find any couplet not being proud parents even after 7 years of union...if medically okay.

(Guy's mother to live with them & control over the bride
aajkal ki ladkiyan ,many overage then guy, its TOO difficult for a man to handle)
 
yudhvirmor said:
We meet many couples who are married from last 5-7 years and they are not thinking about kids. I observed this trend in our society from last couple of years where married people prefer to stay alone. They give different reason like career growth for wife, money, restricted life etc. They may be doing great social work for society to control to population of world. However, Majority of them want to have child but they are too scared of managing the parenthood.

I want to know the view of people on these trends...
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i think there are many reasons.........
career\money, today's generation wants to escape from responsibilities thn they become late parents .............. but ladies can faces more maternity problems in late age........... its not good.......:boxing
 
This is because of reasons like -
Women having greater say in family planning
Working couple
Nuclear families
Increases in cost of raising child.

This happens in any society/country which sees an increase in development indicators like education, health, poverty reduction.

This is a positive change.
 
sidchhikara said:
This is because of reasons like -
Women having greater say in family planning
Working couple
Nuclear families
Increases in cost of raising child.

This happens in any society/country which sees an increase in development indicators like education, health, poverty reduction.

This is a positive change.[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Cant say about positivity or negetivity of this scenario!

More tension in working couples are causing less productivity now a days.
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akshaymalik84 said:
sidchhikara said:
This is because of reasons like -
Women having greater say in family planning
Working couple
Nuclear families
Increases in cost of raising child.

This happens in any society/country which sees an increase in development indicators like education, health, poverty reduction.

This is a positive change.[/QUOTE]

Agreed.

Cant say about positivity or negetivity of this scenario!

 More tension in working couples are causing less productivity now a days.
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It differs from one family to another.
Less productivity - in what sense?
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yudhvirmor said:
Vipin bhai.. I have 5 month old son and I am talking in general.. Its a trend that coming now a days and couples don't want to take repsonsiblity of having kids...
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Mor shaheb,

Based on my observation. Bahot se reason he. Aaj kal ladiyan bhi padi likhi aur career minded hoti he and badiya life style chahiye to dono ko kaam karna padta he. Ghar banana hota he Gadi leni hoti he Delhi Bombay me to average apartment hi 80 lakh ke aas pas ke aate he. To isliye dono kaam karte he paise jodte hen. isliye bache nahi kar pate. Aur kuch ladiyan career ke liye bhi bache nahi karti. When ur career is on peak you dont want to lose all the hard work you have done. Mostly asa bade shahron me jayada hota he aur particularly working couples me. Han Thode log ase bhi he jo zimedariyon se bachna chahte he par hindustan me ase log bahot kam he kaunki bachon ki zimedariyan share karne ke liye yahan hame ma baap ka bhi support hota he jab ki west me aisa bahot kam hota he.
 
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yudhvirmor said:
Phogat sir thats why we need to think about this.. People are thinking crazy.. I have 5-6 friends who are married from last 5 years and still both working and no kids..
Manytimes I fail to understand their reasoning... one of them doesn't want kid because he feels that they can't go to pub in night...
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To thik kare se ye Issan ke balak hoge to balak aur biran howenge.
 
rocky0036 said:
ha ha ha bhai angrej ke tho aapne aale te jayda balak pe jawe hai


jis ke bhi pawe hai 4-5 pawe hai pakke
na to ek bhi kona
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Bhai balak jaman me to aapne aale bi kisse ne na jan de wa to dharti thodi padgi, bera se ek -2 pal ja wo e bhut se ghane hoge to bhukhe marenge er aage byah na howe (ebbe mushkil ho ri se)
 
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