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Dear Friends!

I would request all my friends not to take it personally.

Yes we have people with different opinions, who apperciate or depreciate any issue or matter that is discussed on any forum.

It is completely irrelevent if any one reads the thread seriously or have fun.

Even if it is a matter of fun or humour, our language describes our personality and let us give enough of space and respect to each other and share our views even if we disagree.


I respect everyone for their contribution!

Best wishes to all!
 
cooljat said:
Well,


so in the end its ur Destiny that playes the crusial role, it decides what u gonna get...
Jit
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bhai teri yaa baat 100 percent sehi hai !! kye tension leni aram se wait karo..flatu maie dimag kharab karne se kye huwe hai :)!! jaisa mile kush reho uske sath.. agar koi thodi bhoot gadhbad bi hai to sudhari bi ja sakti hai baad maie...! :):)
 
:eek::eek: Yo sauda to sir ke uppar te chala gaya??
Shweta ji aap CA se aise dangerous Philospher kab bani?? :p:p;)

shwetadhaka said:
A person who plants a bomb in an innocent crowd of thousands and a person who jumps into fire to bring out any stranger out of the fire – both are the two faces of humanity! Human beings are meant to be of all kinds, but when someone is at the receiving end, then he becomes overly conscious about what he is about to receive and what will be the effect of the things which he is about to receive. And coming to marriage, in Indian context, it is a lifelong irreversible deal! Then generally the people overlook what they are and what they deserve and they just get tempted to put their best foot forward so as to be able strike a highly profitable deal!! Exceptions are entangled with every walk of life and so is the case here too. There are people who are adamant to anything which amounts to picturing themselves as someone more better. Such people are principally against being postured as a hero when they are not, because they know it very well that marriage is not a deal, it’s a very special bonding that can be healthy and grows only when both the partners are at somewhat equal platform as regards to their way of thinking, their way of looking at things and their plans to move on in life together!Now, when it comes to credibility of such sites, I would say that everywhere there are human beings and wherever there are human beings, there is a possibility of their being good or bad. And, there is no clear cut way out to judge anyone precisely, there are all types of people so there has to be exercised a set of some procedures like preliminary interaction and which has to be followed by some general interrogations with an open mind, that’s inevitable !
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Bhai ishi baat pe ek Quote aur ho jaaye !! ;):p:cool:


Good Things Come to Those Who Wait!! :)


Rock on
Jit

mukeshkumar007 said:
bhai teri yaa baat 100 percent sehi hai !! kye tension leni aram se wait karo..flatu maie dimag kharab karne se kye huwe hai :)!! jaisa mile kush reho uske sath.. agar koi thodi bhoot gadhbad bi hai to sudhari bi ja sakti hai baad maie...! :):)
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Bhai Ji!

Mano toh ishwar, na mano toh patthar.:)..

Yes I agree with quote of Eastwood!

Yes whoever becomes our life partner is through a source and is predestined.

The issue is people having fun (giving false info) may unintentinally play with somebody's emotions and seniments bringing in the insecurity for a relationship.

Bhai ji, I agree that it is difficult to find people who are genuine but it is not impossible.

Still this world has a hope for TRUSTWORTHINESS ans AUTHENTICITY! and it is we people who have to work on.

With best wishes
 
Marriage Demystified: Whatever You do... Inevitable Will Happen

Chhavi.Ji.Jabardast taaga.....:)

"एक तागा उस तागे के लिए...
जो बनेगा लड़ी
और बंधेगा जिंदगी के दीये!":p

और उसके बाद बहुत से बुधिजीवों ने अपने अपने अंदाज़ में इसका विश्लेषण भी अच्छा किया ....

Marriage Demystified: Whatever You do... Inevitable will Happen!!!, sounds passimistic....yeah it is.... but take refuge in this Only after you have performed proper checks & balances ..& judged the person based on the
wildly published parameters of society..education, job, social standing..creativity..sense of humour (or lack sense of causing a tumour with those misplaced pathetic jokes), familial characteristics, fit gap analysis to your expectations..breed..etc...etc....

Once you are done with all this hardship take refuse in the "Inevitable"..Chill out as advised very frequently by our own Jit with a beer mug...& go thorugh these worldly wise anecdotes (Disclaimer: these are not mine...or it is misplaced disclaimer,,how could a 'wise' saying be mine :rolleyes::rolleyes:)
....
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Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.
Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come.


Why do couples hold hands during their wedding?
It's a formality just like two boxers shaking hands
before the fight begins!


Wife: Darling today is our anniversary, what should we do?
Husband: Let us stand in silence for 2 minutes.


It's funny when people discuss Love Marriage vs Arranged.
It's like asking someone, if suicide is better or being murdered.


Aadmi shaadi kyon karta hai?
Takee vo marne ke baad agar Swarg jaye to achcha feel kare
aur agar Nark jaye to homely feel kare...

Why do Bride & Groom exchange varmaala during wedding ?
To tell each other affectionately. ..
Sweetheart U R Dead!


There is only one perfect child in the world and every mother has it.
There is only one perfect wife in the world and every neighbor has it!
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Aur haan Shweta ji..ek baat kahoon..bura na maanna Holi hai...voh aapki post mujhe bhi smajh nahin aai..:D
 
Dear Didi,

I really admire your noble thinking & selfless attitude! :)

Well, am not blind believer of anything!

As for the issue.... Well, fun is ok till it stays light, but playing with one's emotions is really disgusting act!! ... but I think everyone is mature & intelligent nowadays....hardly anyone believe in the info on matri sites or like that so quick, everyone does verify & It must either for geniuneness & Authenticity! If u believe that easily its ur fault only! :)

My say on relationship thing is, one should get intimate in Relationship that quick....Give time, taste the mettle, dont live in imaginary world! let the time graduate it'll make it clear how far it'll go; then only one should go for the thingy like Marriage!!

Remember, one should try his/her level best & give her/his best in anything; in the end if he/she doesnt get Success, there wont be any Regrets later then u can always say Hard Luck!! :) cuz in the last its all Destiny!!

Ya, I agree that one must be honest & true when it comes to serious life long relationship Marriage, but I think all we can do is to improve ourself ... this ay it goes!!

HOPE! is a big world n whole world moves on it! .... gud ppl are rare to find but not impossible .... But I believe Friends are born not made likewise its all destiny again, there's no coincidence all predestined but keep ur search on!


Before conclusion, Do self-relaization & improve urself, thats the best we can!! And yes dont keep Great Expectations when it comes to Marriage!! :)


Keep well & be Happy Sis!


Rock on
Jit



chhavi said:
Bhai Ji!

Mano toh ishwar, na mano toh patthar.:)..

Yes I agree with quote of Eastwood!

Yes whoever becomes our life partner is through a source and is predestined.

The issue is people having fun (giving false info) may unintentinally play with somebody's emotions and seniments bringing in the insecurity for a relationship.

Bhai ji, I agree that it is difficult to find people who are genuine but it is not impossible.

Still this world has a hope for TRUSTWORTHINESS ans AUTHENTICITY! and it is we people who have to work on.

With best wishes
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Nice thread this.
Well, in my opinion, the matrimonial sites on internet or the matrimony advertisements in newspapers or magazines just introduce new personalities(both fake and genuine) to us. As you rightly said, most of the times the data is fake, howsoever little. People do exaggerate. But then, one doesn't marry a boy/girl simply on the information provided, how-so-ever genuine or counterfeit.
But if you try to look at the way I look at it, you should be approving that this is a blessing in disguise:). Well, one gets a reviving feeling and feel blessed when he/she finds a genuine personality among a series of disappointing failures. Obviosuly, if the ideas mix up well and both the boy and the girl seem happy taking that forward then its.......hmmm.....a promised land. No?

Thanks,
Sumit


chhavi said:
There are plenty of matrimonial sites available on the internet to search a life partner with whom you can spend rest of your life.

I hope some of the couples would be lucky to get into holy-matrimony through these websites but I wonder about the Trustworthiness and Authenticity of these internet matrimony and the information a person share in his / her profile.

I believe the words written above in bold plays an important role for the a health of matrimonial relationships.

I invite my friends on Jatland to have their say on this issue and may share their experience as well!
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Vikas bhai...this is really cool...

"Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.
Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come."

smiles,
Sumit
 
sumitsehrawat said:
Vikas bhai...this is really cool...

"Man: Is there any way for long life?
Dr: Get married.
Man: Will it help?
Dr: No, but the thought of long life will never come."

smiles,
Sumit
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Dhanyawad bhai
Zindagi ki Sachaiyon ko jitna zaldi accept kar lein achha hai....;)
Maine to shaadi se pehale hi aapni expectation ko trim kar liya hai :D:D:D
 
True..!

Actually we people generally expect much much higher.
But rarely see where & what we ourselve are. By just saying we are Down to earth will not make someone Down to earth.

There is a word "COMPROMISE".
If not always than at least SOMETIMES.
Isn't it?
 
I am happy to have contributions from Gentlemen here and I extermely delighted to hear from every one.

Many thanks for apperciating and pouring in. Lets us make this world and work for a better social behaviour and be the one who can make a difference.

God bless you all (who are single) with a life partner who can make you proud!
Harmony in a family would be foundation for the harmony of the world!
 
chhavi said:
I am happy to have contributions from Gentlemen here and I extermely delighted to hear from every one.

Many thanks for apperciating and pouring in. Lets us make this world and work for a better social behaviour and be the one who can make a difference.

God bless you all (who are single) with a life partner who can make you proud!
Harmony in a family would be foundation for the harmony of the world!
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And the peace prevails in this world
Fulfilling everyone's hope and desire |
God bless all the beautiful creatures
May everyone get what they aspire ||
 
In most matrimonial ads the girl is always a blend of eastern and western values hobbies include reading, listening to music, cooking. The father is usually a retired or serving government official, the mother is a pious lady and a homemaker (a housemaker in some cases!! - majdoor??), There is always talk of landed property (did'nt realize it was flying at an earlier time), name-dropping and political connections also receive mention. There is a whole paragraph devoted to extended family / distant relatives and their accomplishments. Most of the time there are no pictures.

The groom is expected to have no bad habits (is lying a bad habit??), should be tall, NOT dark and handsome. He should also be rolling in money.

If the girl is the one specifying the requirements then she usually expects the groom to be sensitive, caring, supportive, emotional, romantic, jolly, should respect her parents, should respect the traditions, non-drinker, educated, cultured......blah blah blah.
 
vijay said:
And the peace prevails in this world
Fulfilling everyone's hope and desire |
God bless all the beautiful creatures
May everyone get what they aspire ||
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Very true! and beautiful lines Vijay Ji!

Hum jaise hain, humien vaisa hi jeevan saathi milta hai!

I yearned for peace and harmony in holy matromony and I am blessed after facing a tough time in my life.

Best regards
 
sidchhikara said:
In most matrimonial ads the girl is always a blend of eastern and western values hobbies include reading, listening to music, cooking. The father is usually a retired or serving government official, the mother is a pious lady and a homemaker (a housemaker in some cases!! - majdoor??), There is always talk of landed property (did'nt realize it was flying at an earlier time), name-dropping and political connections also receive mention. There is a whole paragraph devoted to extended family / distant relatives and their accomplishments. Most of the time there are no pictures.

The groom is expected to have no bad habits (is lying a bad habit??), should be tall, NOT dark and handsome. He should also be rolling in money.

If the girl is the one specifying the requirements then she usually expects the groom to be sensitive, caring, supportive, emotional, romantic, jolly, should respect her parents, should respect the traditions, non-drinker, educated, cultured......blah blah blah.
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Agreed Sid Ji!

Its a common problem in the matrimonial sites and if one look at the photographs, you see a Model look.

Smoking, non-smoking , drinker, non-drinker ...Blah blah...are considered to be bad habits.

I do not understand why people correlate a personality with habits.
Our habits define our personality to an extent but not completely.

Best wishes
 
sidchhikara said:
In most matrimonial ads the girl is always a blend of eastern and western values hobbies include reading, listening to music, cooking. The father is usually a retired or serving government official, the mother is a pious lady and a homemaker (a housemaker in some cases!! - majdoor??), There is always talk of landed property (did'nt realize it was flying at an earlier time), name-dropping and political connections also receive mention. There is a whole paragraph devoted to extended family / distant relatives and their accomplishments. Most of the time there are no pictures.

The groom is expected to have no bad habits (is lying a bad habit??), should be tall, NOT dark and handsome. He should also be rolling in money.

If the girl is the one specifying the requirements then she usually expects the groom to be sensitive, caring, supportive, emotional, romantic, jolly, should respect her parents, should respect the traditions, non-drinker, educated, cultured......blah blah blah.
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but so do middleman...this is the point...

and so did i sated in my arguement that things (lies) remain same...whether middleman does or the internet... ONLY DIFFERENCE IS the medium has changed

in any case vigilance is the key and rest is destiny
 
i just hope that this internet and matrimonial papers are not being blamed because they are the modern tool...

newspapers and e-matching provide a wider platform to search for the compatible one, in any case better than traditional means

god forbid some VHP influence if we jat society has...as usually people here act...elders castigate youth and their values and a big chunk here keep suspecting the advancement in all means

i have been getting to hear misinformation cases in traditional channels as well...
 
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