Parents or Love
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kuldeephmh
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My parents! of course!
urmiladuhan
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One needs both love and parents (and other relations) for a happy and fulfilling life. It should not be one or the other.
If the person whom I love wants to be with his parents, then I would have to accept that. Similarly, if I want to be with my parents, then the person who loves me should accept that. Everybody has to adjust with everyone for each others happiness.
Regards,
Urmila.
kuldeephmh
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malikpriya
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No doubt .............will choose my parents ..!!!!!
urmiladuhan
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Transformation is the answer. Parents love their children and they must also realise that their own child will not be happy if they force their will on them i.e., do not accept their child's love. Parents must make some adjustments for the sake of their children. Similarly, the love of the girl/boy must also make adjustments with the parents of their love, for the sake of their love. When everybody makes adjustments, everybody can be happy.
It is not appropriate to make a person leave his/her love, or to leave parents for the sake of love. Love is a power. It has the ability to transform people.
Regards,
Urmila
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prashantacmet
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You will choose your love ....girls hardly choose parents!!.......... get married, spend 2-3 years and see the transformation
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There has to be a win win situation for both sides to make passionate as well as parental love a thing of joy. Sacrifice from either side would mar the enjoyment and happiness of both – the parents as well as the love-birds. One must calibrate his/her love emotions in such a way that the production of 'euphoria inducing' chemical in our brain, which is the root cause of passionate love, is halted at will. Love blindness is not good for health. If your love is healthy, long lasting, compatible, and fits into the widely accepted societal norms and moral standards, parents would never be a stumbling block in your way. If your love does not fulfill the requisite criterion set by your parents you should not take a quantum leap on the path of love unless you are able to reset the mindset of your parents and convince them about the intensity and infallibility of your love. I am sure, they would agree and the problem of sacrificing your love will not arise. If you don't succeed in love, never mind because और भी ग़म हैं ज़माने में मोहब्बत के सिवा ,राहतें और भी हैं वस्ल की राहत के सिवा.
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samarkadian
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Some one said quite right long back,'' An illusion of depth often occurs if a blockhead is a muddlehead at the same time.
You have no right to announce my decision
Dude you are mistaken Boys hardly choose parents
DO you guarantee for future?
And Urmila transformation has no guarantee, and there are many those are not able to establish a friendly relation with there parents, by which they can't share, What In that case
either sacrifice, or suicide and if revolted then honor killing.
Agree..this can be a solution to avoid this kind of problem.
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urmiladuhan
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Riyaa jee, please don't take things personally
This is just a healthy discussion It is important that we talk to each other respectfully even if we don't agree with what others have to say.Regards,
Urmila.
urmiladuhan
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Riya jee, if I am not mistaken, on being in love, you had written that being in love is like those insects that like to come closer and closer to fire etc etc. Those are very strong feelings
Yet, you would leave your love? !! Just kidding Regards,
Urmila.
I think the word You is for me, So obviously I have to take it personally..
Did i abused or used wrong words..Sorry urmila if you felt so, I just replied in the way prashant asked..This is just a healthy discussion
upendersingh
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akshaymalik84
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A mother asked to his son,"Whom did you like very much, me or your lover?
Son replied," I don't know but when i see you i forgot my lover and when i see my lover i remember You"
Son replied," I don't know but when i see you i forgot my lover and when i see my lover i remember You"
rakeshsehrawat
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Boy, I presume that your Guru "Mr. some one" must be the biggest blockhead and a muddlehead at the same time (In fact both have same meaning). Your problem is that you keep googling whole day to find out the newest version of the abusive language or the "Intellectually Popular Gaaliyaan". You are fogetting that we all are blockheads and muddleheads living in an illusion about the depth of this shallow puddle of planet earth. (You and me both included). But the tragedy is that we can not peep into ourselves. World is full of idiots. Don't nurture any grudge against those idiots and keep enjoying in the puddle of love and joy.
Glossary: Idiot = Ignorant
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isme kuchh kahne waali baat hi nahi v p singh ji.Karl Kraus ke baare mai padhenge to aapko khud hi andaja ho jayega ki wesa person hi aisi baat kah sakta hai.
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karl_Kraus
http://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Karl_Kraus