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Here first I would like to tell all of you about a happening that was happened with my friend’s father. My friend is doing MBBS at Jodhpur (Rajasthan). His father is a farmer. Once his father was visited at Jodhpur to meet his son (My friend). He took some foods and any material for him. When his father was entered in college and asked boys about him. At last he met his son. He handover the bag to his son and starting conversation about study and home but meanwhile his friends were arrival there and asked him that to whom you are talking. Then my friend replied them that “he is our servant who is carrying our crops at my filed. He has been working with us for last five year. Really he is a good servant. ”
He replied them in English that is why my friend's father could not understand that what he told them. But after some days his friends were visited at his village to attend his sister's marriage. There they called to his father to bring water at this time I was also standing there so he told me to bring water. I brought water for them and told them that you should not order to his father for bring water. Then they replied me that Alok (my friend) introduce us him as a servant and they described about complete story that was happened at college. After listening complete story I was surprised. I cannot believe that a well-educated person can do such kind of silly act only for maintain his standard among high-class society.
Are parents only for working as a money bank?

It means standard is more necessary then relations.
 
Dear Mukesh,

We have seen such incidents in movies in the past, but not in real life. It is good that you saw it in real life. You have answered your question yourself. Parents do what they do for their children without any motive. Their sole aim is to make sure that their children do better than them in life. It is extremely important to be a good human being first, then any thing else.

May be you can counsel your friend and remind him about his roots. In any case the boy would have lost all his respect among his friends.
 
Dear Mukesh:

How sad that your friend (or anyone else in a general situation like this) should miss a golden opportunity to appreciate and applaud the true worth of a simple peasant!

It does not take hell of a lot for wealthy businessmen or highly educated and rich people to send their children to posh and top notch schools. The real honour and credit should be bestowed to those simple farmers who never had an opportunity for themselves to go to schools; however, they toil hard to create circumstances for their children to compete and surpass many privileged ones. They are genuine heroes. Salutations to them! They should be introduced to people with special pride and dignity they deserve. Hopefully your friend will learn the truth one day.

I remember a day in October 1974 when my father gave me an unexpected visit to my hostel room in Panjab University, Chandigarh. Mr. Jaswant Singh, the then hostel peon, knocked at my door and out I saw my father with a great surprise. For the first few minutes he explained to me his journey and how he got there. He could not call because there were no phones back then (O boy, now our school children can afford cell phones even). He had accompanied a gentleman from my village who used to work in Chandigarh. After reaching Chandigarh, this gentleman sent my father off to the University campus with my hostel address slip in hand. I gave him a good hug. He was a simple peasant who never went to school and had hardly ever eaten his food with a spoon. I clearly remember how good he felt to see me there and how proudly I thanked him to be a good father. To this day, in our family circle we fondly talk about his visit to me at Chandigarh, especially his observation and remarks about the absence of flies and dogs to bother him while he was having his meal. He had never seen a city like Chandigarh. He felt happy and I felt proud of him for the opportunity he had created for me.


Such parents must have done something specially good that their children achieved the most improbable success. Your friend will certainly realize, though it may take time for him.
 
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How very Right....

Budh Bhai Saheb,

Namaskar,

Very well said. I have seen numerous incidents in the Army where Officers feel shy in telling others that their father was a Havaldar or Subedar in the Army. And I always used to tell them that "Ek General ka chhora Lieutanant ban gya to konsa bada teer maar diya. Achievement is if a Havaldar's or a farmers son becomes an officer".

An incident comes to mind immediately. In 1987 I was undergoing a course in MHOW (Near Indore). A very dear friend too was doing the same course. Since I was staying with my wife and kid, he used to come on Sundays to enjoy home cooked food. One day while we were having a small get together at home this friend walked in with few drawing sheets. We saw them and realised that they were very well made. I asked him from where did you get them made? He said from the Garrison Battalion. I asked him that since the Garrison Paltan was from The Garhwal Rifles Regiment and he was from The Guards Regiment how come he could do so? Withoput blinking an eyelid he said "My father served as Education Havaldar in this Garhwal Rifles Paltan a long time back". What humbleless and how proud he was to say that his father was a Havaldar.

No wonder Colonel AKS Sengar (Gold Medal from NDA and Sword of Honour from IMA) is presently the Defence Attache in Turkey. I am sure he would go on to become a very senior officer in his career.

Bhai Mukesh, apne dost ne samjhaa. Jab tak apne badoon ka aadar nahin karoge, chhahe Pradhan Mantri ban liyo par, kahlaoge kangaal.

Regards,

JS Malik
 
Dear Col Malik,

Col AKS Sengar is also best student on RSO course and I guess he must be best student on most of the courses.

He is a wonderfull person.
 
jagmohan said:
Bhai Mukesh, apne dost ne samjhaa. Jab tak apne badoon ka aadar nahin karoge, chhahe Pradhan Mantri ban liyo par, kahlaoge kangaal.

Regards,

JS Malik
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unclji maine use samja diya hai. Ab to wo bi apne kiye par sharminda hai and usne apne father ko bi puri story bata kar mafi mang li hai.
 
Yes Indeed...

Col Tavathia Sir,

I agree.

Col Sengar is indeed best student on most of the courses. A 'Good Officer', dedicated and honest. These very qualities could land him in trouble in the future. We do need Commanders like him to put a stop to blots on the Army as in 'Encounter Killings' & 'Sale of Liquor' incidents.

Regards,

JS Malik
 
AS you sow, so you reap.

Today if people don't understand what our values are, in the coming days their kids are going to learn the same values.

Even though having values like respecting elders, being soft-spoken.. etc does not need reasons, but should be imbibed in our nature, however if some one needs a reason to be good to someone, the reason specified above should be good enough
 
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