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self praise......i think the ppl who suffer from this disorder do not even realize it.and the only thing they really want to do is self boasting and letting other ppl look inferior directly or indirectly.i really do wonder they do it unknowingly or knowingly and how to deal with theses kind off ppl...esplly some one you like otherwise except this habit.one more trait these kind of ppl have they are very gud speakers but very bad listeners.
 
ritu ji aise logon ke sath bahut jayda time nahi bitana chahiye nahi to khud me bhi jayda bolne ki bimari hone kaa khatra bana rehta hai.
agar koi apna aisa karre to jab bhi wo apni badayi karre to usse haste hue bol denna chahiye "tu bada aadmi tera badda liffaffa tu kuch bi ker sakke hai" or fhir 1 baar hans do :D


ritu said:
self praise......i think the ppl who suffer from this disorder do not even realize it.and the only thing they really want to do is self boasting and letting other ppl look inferior directly or indirectly.i really do wonder they do it unknowingly or knowingly and how to deal with theses kind off ppl...esplly some one you like otherwise except this habit.one more trait these kind of ppl have they are very gud speakers but very bad listeners.
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ritu ji,
my two cents
1. On self side, everything can have a positive side. self praise can often be used to set standards for yourself and then live up to those standards of performance and conduct.
2. if some one is too self-praising, it is a no-issue with me. hardly matters.
3. looking down upon others is a sin which can and will damage oneself more than others. again, if some believes in looking down upon others, i wouldnt mind, its that persons individual choice.
 
vivekdh said:
ritu ji aise logon ke sath bahut jayda time nahi bitana chahiye nahi to khud me bhi jayda bolne ki bimari hone kaa khatra bana rehta hai.
Agar koi apna aisa karre to jab bhi wo apni badayi karre to usse haste hue bol denna chahiye "tu bada aadmi tera badda liffaffa tu kuch bi ker sakke hai" or fhir 1 baar hans do :d
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बड्डे घरा के बड्डे बारने:d:d:d
 
ritu said:
self praise......i think the ppl who suffer from this disorder do not even realize it.and the only thing they really want to do is self boasting
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kayiyaa ke keeda ho hai borr maaran ka. jib tak din me 5-7 ghasse nahi baga lein , un ne neend na aave. aapke is thread pe ek chutkala yaad aaya. 2 ghassebaaj laag re feinkann. donnu pakke the, pahla doosre te upar ar doosra pahle te. pahla bolya- bhai mhaare gaam me mhaara darwaaja(nauhraa) itna badda se ak usme 50 tractor, 100 traalli, 500 mheins ar bera na ke ke aaja, laag rya anntt shantt bagaan. eeb doosre ka number aaya- bhai mere daada dhorre itna badda latth se ak jib bhi uska jee kare wo us latth ne baadlaa me uljhha ke meeh barassvaa de se..pahle aala hairaan:eek:. fer pahle aale ne poochha- tera dada kit dhryaa kare us latth ne?:confused: doosra bola- thaare nauhre me:rock
 
ritu said:
self praise......i think the ppl who suffer from this disorder do not even realize it.and the only thing they really want to do is self boasting and letting other ppl look inferior directly or indirectly.i really do wonder they do it unknowingly or knowingly and how to deal with theses kind off ppl...esplly some one you like otherwise except this habit.one more trait these kind of ppl have they are very gud speakers but very bad listeners.
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Di , if we really analyse deep down , the highlighted line is true with everyone in the current scenario. It is the same thing as we talked about in the Markovish behaviour thread.

The reason being that we all are educated , and have had plenty of experiences because of the openness of the culture , easy access of information etc etc. Thus we all think of ourselves as the "suljha-hui personality" and the one who is knowledgeable and are not open to good suggestions by others. We have this layer around ourselves in which we dont let others opinion matter on us! :)

I agree with Navin that self appreciation is a good deed when it is for setting standards/benchmarks for ourselves. :)

There are a couple of Doha's to soothen this for us!

1) For the excessive self praiser :

Bade badaai na karein , bade na bole bol
rahiman heera kab kahe , laakh taka mera mol!

2) For those to whom someone has looked down upon:

Jo baden ko laghu kahe , nahi rahim ghat jaaye
girdhar murlidhar kahe , kachu dukh maanat naaye .. :)
 
anilsinghd said:
"I agree with Navin that self appreciation is a good deed when it is for setting standards/benchmarks for ourselves. :)"

I also agree with both of you. There is big difference between 'self praise' and 'self appreciation' and self appreciation is must for continuous improvements of self. Every one should love himself.
You should dazzle yourself with your 'intelligence' not others.
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yes navin bhai you said rt..that self praise done to set standards for oneself is gud...but as you said if someone believes in looking down upon others as a habit its his or her choice.but is their any polite way to tell that person that this not rt
navingulia said:
ritu ji,
my two cents
1. On self side, everything can have a positive side. self praise can often be used to set standards for yourself and then live up to those standards of performance and conduct.
2. if some one is too self-praising, it is a no-issue with me. hardly matters.
3. looking down upon others is a sin which can and will damage oneself more than others. again, if some believes in looking down upon others, i wouldnt mind, its that persons individual choice.
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you explained it quite well.but this behaviour harms or kills a bfull relationship otherwise
anilsinghd said:
Di , if we really analyse deep down , the highlighted line is true with everyone in the current scenario. It is the same thing as we talked about in the Markovish behaviour thread.

The reason being that we all are educated , and have had plenty of experiences because of the openness of the culture , easy access of information etc etc. Thus we all think of ourselves as the "suljha-hui personality" and the one who is knowledgeable and are not open to good suggestions by others. We have this layer around ourselves in which we dont let others opinion matter on us! :)

I agree with Navin that self appreciation is a good deed when it is for setting standards/benchmarks for ourselves. :)

There are a couple of Doha's to soothen this for us!

1) For the excessive self praiser :

Bade badaai na karein , bade na bole bol
rahiman heera kab kahe , laakh taka mera mol!

2) For those to whom someone has looked down upon:

Jo baden ko laghu kahe , nahi rahim ghat jaaye
girdhar murlidhar kahe , kachu dukh maanat naaye .. :)
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no, my personal experience says, telling never helps. no one changes. only a person who is on a deliberate excercise of self improvement and realisation can change and learn.
is the person open to talk?? then you can tell him/her, that you want to talk about something and then you can advise as a sincere wellwisher
ritu said:
but is their any polite way to tell that person that this not rt
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Manne te swad saa aaya kare isse maanasaa tae batlanti haana Ritu..:D

Borr maaran de maare sae tae..haan if they encroach your boundary of self-respect, that is not acceptable. No trespassing allowed there, should me made very clear to them.
 
ha be kati sahi kahi.......
poonam said:
Manne te swad saa aaya kare isse maanasaa tae batlanti haana Ritu..:D

Borr maaran de maare sae tae..haan if they encroach your boundary of self-respect, that is not acceptable. No trespassing allowed there, should me made very clear to them.
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poonam said:
Sae ek gold medalist, per eeb uska medal khuss gyaa laagey sae...deekhta konya...:D:p

(you asked for it...:o..hhehe)
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OMG , well you did warn me :(, mhaal ka chatta types something ..:D

ma mistake !!! :o
 
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