Originally Posted by
deepika 
As mentioned in mythology the characters like Karan(who is also known as Daanveer Karan)donated his "kundal kavach" to a sadhu(Lord Krishna) and Raja Bali who gave everything to Vaman(Lord Vishnu).This is what used to happen in ancient time when bhiksu(begger)was never refused,that's the reason Ravan managed to kidnap Sita disguising himself as a brahman mendicant.
But now things have changed beggers have changed and so are donars.In old times when a person made donations he thought it to be his duty but nowadays if a person is helping a needy person he thinks that he is doing something out of the world.Now most of us,everytime we help a needy,think that we are encouraging begging.But is it true always?We all come across beggers so many times so we keep wondering is he/she really in need!I am sure sometimes we are cheated also.Like when i was in Jaipur two ladies came to me.One of them was pregnant and another asked me for money telling me that the former had labour pains i gave money and they left,within a few minutes one person standing on a distance shouted"She was a liar.She cheats people everyday".So such incidents made me ponder,should i or shouldn't i help if one asks for?
A few days back i was heading towards my workplace when a lady approached me with her daughter(who was 6-7 years old).The moment i looked at that cute chubby little girl with small eyes she reminded me of my niece who is of same age.Before i could get out of my world of sweet memories one voice interrupted "Could you please help me" i realized it was that lady.She looked like some chinese lady.I replied"How can i help you?"
She said" My husband is working in Vietnam and my younger daughter is in hospital.I need 60 ringitts to buy medicine for her and i dont have money rightnow".Generally i carry only 50 ringitts with me as Kuala Lumpur is not a very safe city.I started wondering what i should do.I told her that i am a student and dont 60 ringitts.She told me to give whatever amount i can.I took out 10 ringitts and gave her that without looking into her eyes and just left the place.Whole day i was busy working for a flashy glittery wedding and i really enjoyed myself.At the end of the day i was trying to sleep but something within me was restless.I tried to recall all the happenings in the whole day and i got stuck on that lady's incident.I sarted wondering whatever i did,was that right?Did she dupe me or i made a mistake by giving her only 10 ringitts when i could give her more?Eventually i asked myself a question,what will she do with that money if her daughter is not in hospital?Ofcourse she would not go to a pub or disco.She will buy food for herself and her daughter.That innocent face of little girl started flashing on my mindscreen.It was 12 in the night but i wanted to go to the same place.Anyhow i seplt that night and rushed to the same place next morning.I couldn't see those two faces which i was desprately looking for.I broke into tears cursing myself for ignorance and being so selfish.Sometimes i remember this incident and feel guilty.
I have mentioned this incident not to give you a feel of some interesting article of some newspaper or something but i genuinely want all of you to help people if they ask you for.I dont want you guys to feel the way i felt and regret.Because at the end of the day it doesn't really matter who cheated you but what matters is our karma(deeds).If others(Beggers)will cheat us they will pay for it sooner or later but dont just refrain yourself from doing a good deed only because you doubt if its right or not.Remember everytime you help others,they may forget you but God will never forget to reward you for your noble deeds.So help people when you can.
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Ofcourse she would not go to a pub or disco.She will buy food for herself and her daughter.
Don't underestimate in today's time what people are capable of or are not.If she was fortunate enough to encounter 3-4 people of your mentality why would she hesitate to bring a single thought of going to pub or disco.I am not against helping a needy one.But certain steps can be taken to ensure that your help is hitting the right place.
We should avoid, infact, we must not give cash in the hands of the person standing before us begging for help.If we want to help in true sense then we by ourself should purchase the stuff the person needed.This will minimize the chances of going our help in wrong hands.
What could be done in the case mentioned is that medicine could have been purchased in front of both the helping hands and the hands needing help.
But I even have come across that some professional beggars keep mutual understandings with the medical stores. Once you walk off the medical store having done noble deed,the beggar will come back to the medical store and the medicine will be returned back and amount given by you will be shared between the beggar and the medicine-seller in a proportion predetermined by both the beggar and the medical-store.
So question arises how far can we go outsmarting these professional beggars. Someone may offer a solution in this case that don't purchase the stuff from the place the beggar insists on.
But It is not necessary our wits will always take the right decisions in every such incident we do encounter. But with some awareness we can try to minimize the misuse of our hard-earned money.
One another point as stipulated in the above quoted paragraph is that it is not like that we should help everyone being oblivious to whether our help is going is serving its purpose or not as God is having a constant eye on all of us. It really hurts when we come to know that ours money earned with efforts has been misused when it could have been a help to someone in real need.
Someone might jump here to justify ,although chances are very rare, what if she went to disco or bar. She is also a human-being and there is nothing wrong with having her some enjoying moments in a disco or a bar. We would be able to stand this view someday when every creature on this earth would start sleeping in the night with his/her stomach being not empty.
But reality is that we have limited resources and and we have the burden of satisfying the needs of the maximum people with these limited resources. So we don't have any choice but to make ourself aware enough to curb misuse of our resources.
Giving money blindly who we encounter and then leaving everything on the mercy of the God is certainly not a prudent step.
'. Make poverty history, try atleast
