Should Women not stick to their fathers' surname ???

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Bhai ladai manya karo,,,,,ek kaam karlo,,,,ke koyi bi Sirname nahi lagaye gaa,,,,,,,,rolla e khatam:)

bina sirname chaalan dyo gaadi ne:rock
 
sudeepdular said:
Husband and father both are male...:rolleyes: pro feminist plz raise this issue against male domination....:D
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Exactly! I object...:D

Jo mhara (sorry...speaking on behalf of all the ladies out there) jee kare hum te uska lawenge...rest of you shut up...;)

Well, on a serious note, there are some countries where women use their maiden name forever. This includes some some Arab countries as well....ironically, look at the plight of women there and the status they "enjoy" in comparison to men...so chill...nothing radical changes whatever surname /last name you use. Period!
 
poonam said:
Exactly! I object...:D

Jo mhara (sorry...speaking on behalf of all the ladies out there) jee kare hum te uska lawenge...rest of you shut up...;)

Well, on a serious note, there are some countries where women use their maiden name forever. This includes some some Arab countries as well....ironically, look at the plight of women there and the status they "enjoy" in comparison to men...so chill...nothing radical changes whatever surname /last name you use. Period!
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Hmmmm i don't think that using sir name is such a big issue even in India Females start using there parental Sir name. Not a big deal if Females what's to keep their Parental name what's wrong in that? The important thing is Mental peace. So it should be kept as individual's decision what they want to continue with!
 
caravi2910 said:
Hello jit bhai,
the only problem i see in using Nana's sirname is that there will be lot of difficulties in getting passport:D
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And if everyone starts using Mother's surname or Nana's surname..... ultimately saari duniya ka surname ek ho jaaga... soch k dekho... :D
 
anilsangwan said:
And if everyone starts using Mother's surname or Nana's surname..... ultimately saari duniya ka surname ek ho jaaga... soch k dekho... :D
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mujhe iske peeche ka logic samajh nahin aaya...

aise fir father's surname n dada ka surname use karne se poori duniya ka surname ek kaise nahin hua??? :confused:
 
bhavnasingh20 said:
mujhe iske peeche ka logic samajh nahin aaya...

aise fir father's surname n dada ka surname use karne se poori duniya ka surname ek kaise nahin hua??? :confused:
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Bhavna akasar jab baate gender based roop dhaaran kar leti hain tab logic bhai ke haath pair daant aant sab toot jaate hain :D
 
deepakchoudhry said:
Women carrying on their family name after they get married, Indian society is not ready for this kind of maturity.
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Deepak, you seem to be right if we look at it from the point of view of the majority of people of India. But, all developments/improvements in the beginning peep in from a secluded corner, come on the surface and spread across !

So is the case with this issue. Anything which is fundamentally correct, convenient & acceptable to any thoughtful mind, finds its way through all the blockages.

I look at it this way : If I and people around me have understood and willingly accepted this change, there may be many more doing such things, quite possible that we dont notice each such case. But we cant say its a distant change.

Moreover, its not an issue so large !

Some points worth pondering on:

- Hindu Marriage Act nowhere stipulates such name change. Its just customary.

- A changed name nowhere is an evidence of a marriage.

- If the girl is a professional and has her documents with her parental names at school level, college level and even in office and she has her PF Account, her passport, her PAN Card etc with her parental name (which is the case with nearly all the unmarried girls) then how long an exercise it will be to make a name change in all the documents !

And Indian system is such that you will have to produce the exactly same name in all the documents you are required to submit for any procedure or application.

- Last but not the least, will this name change make her an obedient, caring and a compassionate wife?
 
Absolutely right Shweta ji !!!

Someone has to take lead.. some part will start a change and it will be spread with time.. Ekk chhota sa example mein deta hoon..

When my brother got married and my Sister in law (bhabhiji) came to our house, my father called her and asked her to stay like daughter of the house and carry no "ghoonghat" while being in our house.. !!!!

And believe me, people who initially thought it is not good idea, they started following the practise in their houses...

So changes come with time and with postive energy behind it !!



shweta123 said:
Deepak, you seem to be right if we look at it from the point of view of the majority of people of India. But, all developments/improvements in the beginning peep in from a secluded corner, come on the surface and spread across !

So is the case with this issue. Anything which is fundamentally correct, convenient & acceptable to any thoughtful mind, finds its way through all the blockages.

I look at it this way : If I and people around me have understood and willingly accepted this change, there may be many more doing such things, quite possible that we dont notice each such case. But we cant say its a distant change.

Moreover, its not an issue so large !

Some points worth pondering on:

- Hindu Marriage Act nowhere stipulates such name change. Its just customary.

- A changed name nowhere is an evidence of a marriage.

- If the girl is a professional and has her documents with her parental names at school level, college level and even in office and she has her PF Account, her passport, her PAN Card etc with her parental name (which is the case with nearly all the unmarried girls) then how long an exercise it will be to make a name change in all the documents !

And Indian system is such that you will have to produce the exactly same name in all the documents you are required to submit for any procedure or application.

- Last but not the least, will this name change make her an obedient, caring and a compassionate wife?
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anilsangwan said:
Absolutely right Shweta ji !!!

Someone has to take lead.. some part will start a change and it will be spread with time.. Ekk chhota sa example mein deta hoon..

When my brother got married and my Sister in law (bhabhiji) came to our house, my father called her and asked her to stay like daughter of the house and carry no "ghoonghat" while being in our house.. !!!!

And believe me, people who initially thought it is not good idea, they started following the practise in their houses...

So changes come with time and with postive energy behind it !!
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Yes thats true, changes do come and nowadays speed of change is really fast paced. I live with my in laws and what to talk of ghoonghat, there is no restriction on wearing jeans etc.The same rules go for me and my sister in law.

The underlying idea is that if a girl knows how to maintain her dignity and decency, she need not follow all the ancient traditions without their being relevant in the present scenario. I see women working in offices and when they return home, they are clad in pallus - now when such ladies cant observe a ghoonghat in their offices, then what is the relevance behind being in ghoonghat in their homes?
 
Legal system will change once it is accepted by a society.

The point is not about whether it's right or wrong but the of freedom of choice of the individual.

And if women keeps waiting for men's approval to their freedom and life choices then you have a long wait :)

- Last but not the least, will this name change make her an obedient, caring and a compassionate wife?[

I think a woman will be in a better position to answer it.
 
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