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Dissolve marriage, couple told
Claiming lawful union, bride refuses to accept social diktat
Rohtak, October 19
Marrying in a neighbouring village has landed a couple into trouble in Sundana village in the district. The sarpanches and residents of both the villages have objected to the matrimonial alliance and the couple, who married in court without taking their families into confidence, have been facing a stiff opposition. They have been asked to dissolve the marriage, which they claim is against the prevalent social norms.
Though the parents of the boy hailing from Sundana village have “agreed” to the directive reportedly issued by the sarpanch of the village, the girl belonging to neighbouring Garhi Ballam village has refused to accept the social diktat claiming that it has been a lawful union and the village or the panchayat has nothing to do with it.
The families of both the sides appear to be under pressure and tension following the development. Sundana and Garhi Ballam villages are located at a distance of 2 km.
A youth was hacked to death in Singhwal village of Jind district on July 21 following such a marriage.
The boy identified as Karamvir Dhaka (21) had married Rekha (20), daughter of Rajender Singh, a resident of Garhi Ballam village of Kalanaur block, here recently.
Sources said the couple got married after a prolonged affair that began while they were studying in the same class in Government School in Sundana village. After four years of the affair, they eloped from their house about three months ago, but decided to return to Sundana village recently.
However, the problem began when they returned home two days before Diwali and the girl’s family objected to the marriage and roped in prominent social persons, including a former sarpanch of Garhi Ballam, to intervene into the matter.
Though both of them belong to different gotras, the fact that they hailed from adjoining villages, which is considered as “gohand” (villages located in neighbourhood have brotherly relations), girl’s father Rajender along with former sarpanch of Ballam village Mahender Yadav met sarpanch of Sundana village Jagdish to discuss the issue.
After the meeting, they met the couple and their relatives urged them to dissolve the marriage, as it was socially unacceptable.
According to sources, though the groom and his father have expressed their readiness to accept the panchayat’s request (proposal) and to comply with the decision to walk out of the wedlock, the bride has reportedly rejected the snubbed the panchayat’s intervention on the issue.
Talking to a section of the media, she admitted that some panchayat representatives had tried to pressurise her to end the marriage and return to her father’s house.
“We have got married in court and it is legal and separation is impossible,” the girl reportedly told her parents and village elders.
The groom’s father, Ramphal, said he came to know about their marriage on Thursday whey they returned. “I reprimanded them but accepted them in the house as I had no other option,” he added.
Admitting that the marriage was against the prevailing custom, he said: “I agree with the panchayat and ready to dissolve the marriage. My son (Karambir) too has expressed to comply with the panchayat’s decision. We have told the girl’s father to take her away and we have no objections. Even I too tried to persuade her, but she is unrelenting so far.”
JAB GAON BAS TAo BHAI
ABHI RISTEDARI
SAMAJ ISKO MANTA HAE
http://www.tribuneindia.com/2009/20091020/haryana.htm#1
Dissolve marriage, couple told
Claiming lawful union, bride refuses to accept social diktat
Rohtak, October 19
Marrying in a neighbouring village has landed a couple into trouble in Sundana village in the district. The sarpanches and residents of both the villages have objected to the matrimonial alliance and the couple, who married in court without taking their families into confidence, have been facing a stiff opposition. They have been asked to dissolve the marriage, which they claim is against the prevalent social norms.
Though the parents of the boy hailing from Sundana village have “agreed” to the directive reportedly issued by the sarpanch of the village, the girl belonging to neighbouring Garhi Ballam village has refused to accept the social diktat claiming that it has been a lawful union and the village or the panchayat has nothing to do with it.
The families of both the sides appear to be under pressure and tension following the development. Sundana and Garhi Ballam villages are located at a distance of 2 km.
A youth was hacked to death in Singhwal village of Jind district on July 21 following such a marriage.
The boy identified as Karamvir Dhaka (21) had married Rekha (20), daughter of Rajender Singh, a resident of Garhi Ballam village of Kalanaur block, here recently.
Sources said the couple got married after a prolonged affair that began while they were studying in the same class in Government School in Sundana village. After four years of the affair, they eloped from their house about three months ago, but decided to return to Sundana village recently.
However, the problem began when they returned home two days before Diwali and the girl’s family objected to the marriage and roped in prominent social persons, including a former sarpanch of Garhi Ballam, to intervene into the matter.
Though both of them belong to different gotras, the fact that they hailed from adjoining villages, which is considered as “gohand” (villages located in neighbourhood have brotherly relations), girl’s father Rajender along with former sarpanch of Ballam village Mahender Yadav met sarpanch of Sundana village Jagdish to discuss the issue.
After the meeting, they met the couple and their relatives urged them to dissolve the marriage, as it was socially unacceptable.
According to sources, though the groom and his father have expressed their readiness to accept the panchayat’s request (proposal) and to comply with the decision to walk out of the wedlock, the bride has reportedly rejected the snubbed the panchayat’s intervention on the issue.
Talking to a section of the media, she admitted that some panchayat representatives had tried to pressurise her to end the marriage and return to her father’s house.
“We have got married in court and it is legal and separation is impossible,” the girl reportedly told her parents and village elders.
The groom’s father, Ramphal, said he came to know about their marriage on Thursday whey they returned. “I reprimanded them but accepted them in the house as I had no other option,” he added.
Admitting that the marriage was against the prevailing custom, he said: “I agree with the panchayat and ready to dissolve the marriage. My son (Karambir) too has expressed to comply with the panchayat’s decision. We have told the girl’s father to take her away and we have no objections. Even I too tried to persuade her, but she is unrelenting so far.”