What Makes People Happy

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drrajpalsingh

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Everyone often thinks about what it is that makes people happy and what one has to do in order to achieve happiness.

The participants are requested to share their views/comments on the most sought after happiness.



To initiate the discussion we produce here the views of famous writer-journalist Khushwant Singh before you to ponder over :

First and foremost is good health.

If you do not enjoy good health, you can never be happy.

Any ailment, however trivial, will deduct something from your happiness.

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- Second, a healthy bank balance.

It need not run into crores, but it should be enough to provide for comforts, and there should be something to spare for recreation—eating out, going to the movies, travel and holidays in the hills or by the sea.

Shortage of money can be demoralising.

Living on credit or borrowing is demeaning and lowers one in one’s own eyes.
 
Following is needed to be happy
one has to take decision to be happy, satisfaction, positive thinking, good health, love all in nature and live according to nature, leave greed, jealousy,harm to others, competition, comparison, remove fear by knowledge and good work, limit your desire and attachment, no help lives, rest in next
 
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Following is needed to be happy
one has to take decision to be happy, satisfaction, positive thinking, good health, love all in nature and live according to nature, leave greed, jealousy,harm to others, competition, comparison, remove fear by knowledge and good work, limit your desire and attachment, no help lives, rest in next
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Very good analysis sir ji. appreciate it. thank u.
 
Fateh said:
Following is needed to be happy
one has to take decision to be happy, satisfaction, positive thinking, good health, love all in nature and live according to nature, leave greed, jealousy,harm to others, competition, comparison, remove fear by knowledge and good work, limit your desire and attachment, no help lives, rest in next
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Good light-house posts provided to sail through life happily !
 
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Third, to be happy you must own your own home.

Rented places can never give you the comfort or

security of a home that is yours for keeps.

If your home has garden space,

plant your own trees and flowers,

see them grow and blossom, and

cultivate a sense of kinship with them.
 
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Should there be same kinda "vague" "Generic" thread like this. How 'bout - 'What makes Jatlanders unhappy?'
 
Khushwant Singh continued to add that --

- ''Fourth, an understanding companion, be it your spouse or a friend. If you have too many misunderstandings, it robs you of your peace of mind. It is better to be divorced than to be quarrelling all the time.''
 
- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame.

Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.- Fifth, stop envying those who have done better than you in life—risen higher, made more money, or earned more fame.

Envy can be corroding; avoid comparing yourself with others.
 
- Sixth, do not allow people to descend on you for gossip. By the time you get rid of them, you will feel exhausted and poisoned by their gossip-mongering.

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- Seventh, cultivate a hobby or two that will fulfil you—gardening, reading, writing, painting, playing or listening to music.

Going to clubs or parties to get free drinks, or to meet celebrities, is a criminal waste of time.

It’s important to concentrate on something that keeps you occupied meaningfully.
 
"Happiness is a state of mind" :)

"the worst thing of a scholar is that he just understands never feels"

" have the heart and mind of a poet, a painter, not of a scholar. Probably, there will be no need to write multiple posts to understand happiness"
 
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Eighth, every morning and evening devote 15 minutes to introspection.

In the mornings, 10 minutes should be spent in keeping the mind absolutely still, and five listing the things you have to do that day.

In the evenings, five minutes should be set aside to keep the mind still and 10 to go over the tasks you had intended to do.
 
Yes what is being listed could contribute towards happiness. But these things do not necessarily ensure happiness for all and always. Happiness, as stated above by Prashant ji is a state of mind. It is achieved by full control (nirodha) of the functions (vrittis) of the mind (chitta). And then harnessing them to be doing right things at the right place on the right time. There would be no confusion in one's programme of life.No doubt this is not an easy tak. It requires constant practice and a sense of detachment (vairagya). For that we must practice Yamas and niyamasi.e. social and individual discipline. Other things would follow Ultimately we would find inner control leading to lasting contentment nd abiding happiness, regardless of the perks-more or less. Bhartari Hari preached some thing akin to this. Patanjali taught similar things in his Yoga scripture.
 
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HAPPINESS

THERE ARE TWO TYPE OF HAPPINESS--TEMPORARY AND PERMANENT
Temporary-is individualistic and subjective, different things can make different people happy, but permanent happiness is same for all by same factors.
people are running for glamour and feel that glamour is equal to happiness, but it is not true.

How to create your own happiness
a] you have to decide whether you shall be happy or not.
b] when you get up in the morning you have two choice happy or unhappy
c] you can be happy if you want
d] always at every step think that life is good and I am happy
e]have a child like heart and mind child is always happy
f] love everything including yourself
g] our thoughts and attitude are inputs which produces happiness/unhappiness
h] take things as comes
i] have positive attitude
j] donot manufacture unhappiness when faced by some difficuties
k] donot think much and get worried on things not in your cotrol
l] donot repent on past and donot get worried on future, live in present
m] avoide negative thoughts, words, ill will, hate, fear, worry, jealousy, comparison, competition, enemity, thoughts of harming others etc
n] love every thing around you, appreciate things people around you
o] there is God where love is, there is love where is peace and there is happiness where is peace
p] live a simple life
q] expect little and give more
r] make others happy
s] laugh as much as you can.
t] have faith in self and supper power
u] look after your health
v] live according to nature
x] limit your desire, attachment, wrong/unauthorized/illegal deeds must be avoided
y] increase your knowledge
z] earn your livelihood by doing good work
aa] work hard do not bother about result
ab] finally be satisfied what ever god gives you and has given you
 
हर व्यक्ति अपने अपने तरीके से खुश रह सकता है... यह लोगों पर निर्भर करता है |
पर खुशी की परिभाषा तो पहले बताएँ.... आखिर ये है क्या? क्या है इसके मापने का पैमाना?
 
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