I
imalik
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The girl and the parents of te girl itself.
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YA Its very Important warm topic of Discussion for our Society.....!!!!
ya many factors are responsible for dowry..
* Boys do not take it seriously...they think many girls are there in worlds...they leave it on their parents n they think bout only quality of girl like beauty n nature...think its parents work..then problems are with their parents....they deal it as prestige coz they get many offers from amples ....so some
people put offers for dowry due to ample factor are responsible !!!!
coz if somebody wants x+y
n getting offers of x+y+z then naturally people use to choose x+y+z; that is problem with people.. they don't think bout others....sounds seem selfish...coz they don't say "NO" ki apun ko x+y hi chaheye, z nahi chaheye......
* ya some girls also feel to take exotic dowry with her... think my marry should be like big deal...like princes of heaven....
* If any unpopular person wants to find good coordinated groom then he has to show some big sounds in society for aristocrat then he follows the way of dowry.....
ram....
ya many factors are responsible for dowry..
* Boys do not take it seriously...they think many girls are there in worlds...they leave it on their parents n they think bout only quality of girl like beauty n nature...think its parents work..then problems are with their parents....they deal it as prestige coz they get many offers from amples ....so some
people put offers for dowry due to ample factor are responsible !!!!
coz if somebody wants x+y
n getting offers of x+y+z then naturally people use to choose x+y+z; that is problem with people.. they don't think bout others....sounds seem selfish...coz they don't say "NO" ki apun ko x+y hi chaheye, z nahi chaheye......
* ya some girls also feel to take exotic dowry with her... think my marry should be like big deal...like princes of heaven....
* If any unpopular person wants to find good coordinated groom then he has to show some big sounds in society for aristocrat then he follows the way of dowry.....
ram....
This post starts with the assumption that dowry is bad. I differ from this assumption...whats bad is the implementation and the people who implement it badly.
What is dowry ?
There is no written definition...so everyone is interpreting and re-defining it according to ones selfish motives.
Bashing dowry system blindly is like throwing the baby out with the bath water...its also become fashionable. First pls define dowry for the "bad" men like me...
I agree to 1 point...marrying for dowry is evil.
What is dowry ?
There is no written definition...so everyone is interpreting and re-defining it according to ones selfish motives.
Bashing dowry system blindly is like throwing the baby out with the bath water...its also become fashionable. First pls define dowry for the "bad" men like me...
I agree to 1 point...marrying for dowry is evil.
nirupamasingh
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Ya u r absolutely right Indu. The girl and her parents have to play a larger role in removing this evil from our society. Until or unless they say "NO" for dowry this will never end. The starting point shud be a girl's education and her economic independence. Jaise ladko ko kaha jaata hai tumko earn karna hai family chalani hai usi tarah girls ko be essential hona chahiye education and financial independence. Unko OPTION mat do. I think from there lot of confidence will come in the girls as well as their parents to say "NO" . I am sure there are lot of educated boys who do not believe in dowry but they definately would prefer the independent and confident girl as their life partners. Agaar than lo ki aise aadmi se shaadi nahi karni jo ki bahut kamzoor aur lalchi hai to Kuch muskil nahi. It is better to stay alone then marry a man who wants to marry you only for money.
I
imalik
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Welll said Nirupma.
I
imalik
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Dear Dheeraj,
I appreciate yur outlook towards girl, tht yu wanu give thm equal opportunity as given to the guy.
I appreciate yur outlook towards girl, tht yu wanu give thm equal opportunity as given to the guy.
Hi Indu,
God does not give me that opportunity that i will asked to my father to share his property amoung all his children.
But i am sure i will give equal shae of my property to my children.
"If she wil take her part of property with her after marriage. then wil her husband let her give 50% of her salary to her real mom n dad n bro." This is your words Indu.
These words reflect the mind frame of the girl in this society. These words show that you will have ask to ur husband to do anything wether it is right or bad. Why u ask to take permission to ur busband . you r not his property. you r his life partner. And if you working and earning you dont need to depend on him. If your husnabd is not ur friend, then this relationship in my view is useless.
It shows that you r educated and earning, yet you r thinking about the permission or ur husband. This is mind frame which has set in the girl. You think urself equal to men then why u r thining to take ur husband permission.
Relationship is not just living togather under one roof, relationship is trust, frinedship, caring about each other, understanding each other, respecting feeling each other, listening to otherr view carefully, helping each other to make a decision, helping each other to fight the world.
What about the parents who dont have son, have only girls? Who help them in need, thier daughter/girl.
I hate to drag any relationship to sake of leaving togather or just to sake of society. I cant imagine how poeple live togather even they dont each other for days, moths, years. I listen from the girl/women who said that they want live with her husband just leaving with him for the sake of her parent/society. What is the use of that life?
Keep in mind you are not the property of your husband. You are his life partner, a good understanding friend of his. If he is not understand you or dont trust you, he is not a worth of being husband.
Please dont take it personally. As i believe nothing is personal in life. We all should share which dont husrt other affairs.
Thankyou
God does not give me that opportunity that i will asked to my father to share his property amoung all his children.
But i am sure i will give equal shae of my property to my children.
"If she wil take her part of property with her after marriage. then wil her husband let her give 50% of her salary to her real mom n dad n bro." This is your words Indu.
These words reflect the mind frame of the girl in this society. These words show that you will have ask to ur husband to do anything wether it is right or bad. Why u ask to take permission to ur busband . you r not his property. you r his life partner. And if you working and earning you dont need to depend on him. If your husnabd is not ur friend, then this relationship in my view is useless.
It shows that you r educated and earning, yet you r thinking about the permission or ur husband. This is mind frame which has set in the girl. You think urself equal to men then why u r thining to take ur husband permission.
Relationship is not just living togather under one roof, relationship is trust, frinedship, caring about each other, understanding each other, respecting feeling each other, listening to otherr view carefully, helping each other to make a decision, helping each other to fight the world.
What about the parents who dont have son, have only girls? Who help them in need, thier daughter/girl.
I hate to drag any relationship to sake of leaving togather or just to sake of society. I cant imagine how poeple live togather even they dont each other for days, moths, years. I listen from the girl/women who said that they want live with her husband just leaving with him for the sake of her parent/society. What is the use of that life?
Keep in mind you are not the property of your husband. You are his life partner, a good understanding friend of his. If he is not understand you or dont trust you, he is not a worth of being husband.
Please dont take it personally. As i believe nothing is personal in life. We all should share which dont husrt other affairs.
Thankyou
Goto the root cause......its greed for money, till that remains, no one can uproot this Dowry system from the society. And here in this post there have been a few voices saying girl's parents should come forward......yes they are coming forward in upping the bid for a 'suitable boy'. Some of the theories of capitalism apply well to dowry system. Demand and supply, Unique selling points, startegic placements/locations 
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.Hi Everybody,
Please don't give the defination of DOWRY and arguments on that.TRY TO FIND OUT THE SOLUTION OF THIS PROBLEM.
Both parties(Boys and girls) are responsible for this DOWRY SYSTEM.Neither they are ready to leave this system nor they are supporting the person who tried to stop this dowry system.This becomes a tradition now.Rich and high soceity people are more responsible for this system.
Woman in the family are more responsible for this dowry system.
Solution:
Everybody should make committment that
"Raghu kul riti sada chali aaye
Pran jaye par dahej nahi lenge"
Cheers!!
Balraj
Please don't give the defination of DOWRY and arguments on that.TRY TO FIND OUT THE SOLUTION OF THIS PROBLEM.
Both parties(Boys and girls) are responsible for this DOWRY SYSTEM.Neither they are ready to leave this system nor they are supporting the person who tried to stop this dowry system.This becomes a tradition now.Rich and high soceity people are more responsible for this system.
Woman in the family are more responsible for this dowry system.
Solution:
Everybody should make committment that
"Raghu kul riti sada chali aaye
Pran jaye par dahej nahi lenge"
Cheers!!
Balraj
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