Who will marry jat Girls?
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preetikhatri
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abs right sir,
i am not against inter caste and religion marriage but not believe in doing the same.
i dnt understand why persons didnt see the adverse effect on coming generation.
most of the boys didnt even try to study or think about logical consequences of inter caste marriage.
secondly in our society highly educated girls compromise marrying a nt so much educated jat boy
because all didnt get suitable match.
and afterwards behavioural problems arises as much to survive a relation.
sad but truth.
i am not against inter caste and religion marriage but not believe in doing the same.
i dnt understand why persons didnt see the adverse effect on coming generation.
most of the boys didnt even try to study or think about logical consequences of inter caste marriage.
secondly in our society highly educated girls compromise marrying a nt so much educated jat boy
because all didnt get suitable match.
and afterwards behavioural problems arises as much to survive a relation.
sad but truth.
mandeep333
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यह कहना बहुत आसान है आज के कुछ लड़के लड़कियों के लिए कि वह अन्तर्जातीय या "अन्तर्ध्मीय" विवाह के विरुद्ध नहीं हैं। परन्तु इसके रिपर्कशन्ज़ (repercussions), प्रतिध्वनियों, प्रतिक्रियायें समाज में क्या होगी। हालाँकि आज का नोजवान और नवयुवतियाँ समाजिक भाईचारा नहीं समझते। न ही उनको उचित समय पर इस विषय में बताया गया। Today only the Jat boys opt for inter-caste marriage but the Jat girls are also not tarrying behind-rather they are having faster pace. Parents don't have time to groom their ward when the time is ripe. Afterwards, they (parents) are left with no choice and the saying comes, "It's no use to cry over the spilt milk". All problems arise because we don't have enough time & energy to enlighten our kids who generally misperceive & = दूसरे की थाली म्हें घा घणा ही दिख्या करै सै।
इस बात की क्या गारन्टी है कि विधर्मी या विजातीय जीवनसाथी अच्छा ही निकलेगा/गी। उस पर तो कोई सामाजिक, धार्मिक या भाई-चारे का कोई दबाव नही होगा।
ravinderjeet
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आड़े मुंबई जिस्से सहर में बढ़िया आछे जाट पढ़े लिखे परिवारां की छोरी आधुनिकता की चादर ओढ़ के विधर्मी अर विजातीय बियाह कर ले सें | और दो-चार साल में-ए उनका ताप उतर ले स अर फेर सडकाँ पे हांडति पावें सें | अर फेर उन् ने कोए ना ओटता | फेर कदे लिव- इन अर कदे गिव -इन में न्यू-ए बुड्ढी हो जाँ सें | हर किसी को मुक्कल जहां नहीं मिलता ,किसी को जमीं तो किसी को आसमां नहीं मिलता |
I donot think, that there is any dis honour in marring in different caste and if at all there is, than it is applicable in both cases. If some one considers out of caste marriage harmful than the bringing a girl of another community to his family, may be more harmful. so killing girls is not at all correct.
Success of marriage donot depend on caste/noncaste, many with in caste marriages are getting disturbed/broken and many out of caste couples are living peacefully. The pillars of the institution of marriage are liking for each other, adustment to each other, sacrifice for each other, satisfaction on marriage/parner, consideration for each other, etc
upendersingh
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Mostly Jats are proud of being Jat, so mostly Jats don't want to marry non-Jat girls. Virender Sehwag, Vijender Kumar, Sushil Kumar like personalities are the perfect examples. Moreover, mostly Jat girls are very loyal, hardworking and attractive as well so I think if some Jat boy marries a non-Jat girl, then he may have to repent in future. Throughout my life I have heard from many that in India other than Punjabans only Jat girls are beautiful. I have seen such loyal, hardworking and beautiful women in my community that I can be proud of. Many Jat girls are highly qualified as well these days, so they are not less than any goddess.
Jat girls also shouldn't think to marry the non-Jats.
(Above) 1.Virender Sehwag with wife Aarti, 2.Vijender Kumar with wife Archana, 3.Sushil Kumar with wife Savi
Actress and Model Yuvika Chaudhary (Tomar) and Mallika Sehrawat
Jat girls also shouldn't think to marry the non-Jats.
(Above) 1.Virender Sehwag with wife Aarti, 2.Vijender Kumar with wife Archana, 3.Sushil Kumar with wife Savi
Actress and Model Yuvika Chaudhary (Tomar) and Mallika Sehrawat
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The boy vs. girl ratio is so unbalanced in states like Haryana and Rajasthan, that people would be forced to pay reverse-dowry in order to get their sons married off to Jat girls. So I think this problem will be taken care of by itself. The real question to ask in a few years would be who will marry Jat boys? 
rinkusheoran
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Mr bld, is it just the info that you got from papers that jat girls get honour killed for marrying outside caste or you have some facts about that, if yes request you to share this on the forum so that others also can read it.
dahiyarocks
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sab manan ki baat se.........ghar aale razi se te koe kimme na karta..........
sabte pehla ghar aala ne manao.......sab razi honge..........
ghar aale e na razi howe te baki duniya te pache lage e gi...........
mein ghani choriya ne janu su jin ne inter caste marriage kari........ar wa bhi ghar aala ne karwai..........per koe jutta pujari ni hoya...........
sabte pehla ghar aala ne manao.......sab razi honge..........
ghar aale e na razi howe te baki duniya te pache lage e gi...........
mein ghani choriya ne janu su jin ne inter caste marriage kari........ar wa bhi ghar aala ne karwai..........per koe jutta pujari ni hoya...........
Unfortunately, it seems acceptable to "buy a bride" from poor states, but it is unacceptable in our culture to pay reverse-dowry to marry a poor jat girl from own state.
The boy vs. girl ratio is so unbalanced in states like Haryana and Rajasthan, that people would be forced to pay reverse-dowry in order to get their sons married off to Jat girls. So I think this problem will be taken care of by itself. The real question to ask in a few years would be who will marry Jat boys?
malikdeepak1
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dahiyarocks
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arre logga ne jagruk karo..............
sab thik ho ja ga..........
ar ek swal apne aap te bhujo.......je thari bhan non jat te byah kare te tum razi rahoge?????????/
ya tum non jat te khud byah karna chaho ge??????????
sab thik ho ja ga..........
ar ek swal apne aap te bhujo.......je thari bhan non jat te byah kare te tum razi rahoge?????????/
ya tum non jat te khud byah karna chaho ge??????????
rakeshsehrawat
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The boy vs. girl ratio is so unbalanced in states like Haryana and Rajasthan, that people would be forced to pay reverse-dowry in order to get their sons married off to Jat girls. So I think this problem will be taken care of by itself. The real question to ask in a few years would be who will marry Jat boys?
Satya Vachan Satyeshwar ji ke
Sheoranji, this matter has been discussed on the forum many times, the whole world knows that jats also killed their daughters many times to save so called their false honour, secondly, the person whom you have addressed your post is a very elder is person, a fine shoulder and a retd Brigadier, a defence officer never adressed as mr even after his retirement his rank has to be prefixed and write retired in () and in any case he is very elderly person who must not be called mr, This is a suggestion not to pointing a fingure towards you friend
mandeep333
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Sir
It's wrong to say that "honour killing" is common amongst Jats. A few Jats might have acted so in order to save their so called "Honour". But in fact it is most common in Muslims not only Muslims (and other races) living in India but also those living outside India. The Jats have been maliciously and intentionally defamed by certain people who have vested interests-especially the paper & electronic media people. Ironically, some Jats in stead of refuting this smear on our society feel greatness in annunciating this dastard act as something glamorous act.
Our girls are responsible and mature enough to upkeep the esteem of their family. I believe we should not underestimate them. On the other hand we need to coach our girls & boys about ethnic and cultural values which are gradually evaporating on account of ignominious inglorious propaganda.
M S Kulhria
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Imbalance in the ratio of boys to girls in the corporate world
Unlike other communities, we hardly get to see many Jats in the corporate world and even if you come across Jat boys, there are not many Jat girls. Hence, the result is that you have more interaction among members of other communities including Punjabis, baniyas, etc. and also among Jats and other communities. There is a big mismatch in the numbers. The end result of this is inter-caste marriages (between Jats and non-Jats and also among other communities).
I may be wrong, but I have observed over the past few years that there is a change in perception, aspirations and expectations especially more so among Jat girls and their parents. Some might call it Female liberation or feminism and at the same time, others might call it erosion of values. Though boys have their own shortcomings, girls come to the marriage platform with a pre-determined and established mindset that they are the first-among-equals and that they are the ones who need to play THE more dominating role in the relationship. They forget that marriage is NOT a game of one-upmanship. It is rather supposed to be a sweet and enduring relationship founded on the platform of faith, trust and adjustments and certainly NOT COMPROMISE. It is because of this new found and ill-perceived liberation that the girls think that they are more qualified and capable than the available pool of marriageable boys within the community.
Times have changed and no doubt that boys and girls have a more equal and equitable role to play in the matrimonial relationship. However forgetting the clearly demarcated physiological roles that nature has envisaged for both the genders leads to friction and a further drift. It is time that though our girls should be given the best of education and work opportunities in moving with the times, they should also be made aware of the great responsibility that they carry in taking our community forward through generations while being the progenitors and caretakers of the saplings of today and tomorrow. Instead, what we get to see and hear are parents of marriageable girls boasting proudly that their daughters do not know how to cook, or how their daughters have a huge friends and party circle or their patronage or encouragement to their daughters to wear short and skimpy clothes.
It's time we need to relook into the definition of modernity - Giving equal opportunities to both girls and boys in education, health, profession, etc. Modernity does not come with wearing skimpy western and branded clothes, eating out, visiting malls, driving luxury cars. Modernity, rather comes with a progressive change in the thought process within the community.
I am totally against female foeticide or honour killing. Girls are special - they need to be loved, respected and taken care of well as daughters, sisters, mothers and even as wives as EQUALS but without ignoring the essence of our culture and heritage.
Unlike other communities, we hardly get to see many Jats in the corporate world and even if you come across Jat boys, there are not many Jat girls. Hence, the result is that you have more interaction among members of other communities including Punjabis, baniyas, etc. and also among Jats and other communities. There is a big mismatch in the numbers. The end result of this is inter-caste marriages (between Jats and non-Jats and also among other communities).
I may be wrong, but I have observed over the past few years that there is a change in perception, aspirations and expectations especially more so among Jat girls and their parents. Some might call it Female liberation or feminism and at the same time, others might call it erosion of values. Though boys have their own shortcomings, girls come to the marriage platform with a pre-determined and established mindset that they are the first-among-equals and that they are the ones who need to play THE more dominating role in the relationship. They forget that marriage is NOT a game of one-upmanship. It is rather supposed to be a sweet and enduring relationship founded on the platform of faith, trust and adjustments and certainly NOT COMPROMISE. It is because of this new found and ill-perceived liberation that the girls think that they are more qualified and capable than the available pool of marriageable boys within the community.
Times have changed and no doubt that boys and girls have a more equal and equitable role to play in the matrimonial relationship. However forgetting the clearly demarcated physiological roles that nature has envisaged for both the genders leads to friction and a further drift. It is time that though our girls should be given the best of education and work opportunities in moving with the times, they should also be made aware of the great responsibility that they carry in taking our community forward through generations while being the progenitors and caretakers of the saplings of today and tomorrow. Instead, what we get to see and hear are parents of marriageable girls boasting proudly that their daughters do not know how to cook, or how their daughters have a huge friends and party circle or their patronage or encouragement to their daughters to wear short and skimpy clothes.
It's time we need to relook into the definition of modernity - Giving equal opportunities to both girls and boys in education, health, profession, etc. Modernity does not come with wearing skimpy western and branded clothes, eating out, visiting malls, driving luxury cars. Modernity, rather comes with a progressive change in the thought process within the community.
I am totally against female foeticide or honour killing. Girls are special - they need to be loved, respected and taken care of well as daughters, sisters, mothers and even as wives as EQUALS but without ignoring the essence of our culture and heritage.
I am totally against female foeticide or honour killing. Girls are special - they nee
Bhai main aapke vichaaron se puri trah sahmat hoon aur saath mai yeh bhi kahana chahta hoon ki senior pidhi ko apna nazaria badalna padega. Jabardasti aur maar peet ka jamana chala gaya. Mera manana hai ki agar ham apne bachon ko sahi (Gayan) sanskar den aur un ke vicharon ka sammaan kare to shayad hi koi baccha apni jimmedari se bhagna chahega.
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JS
Bhai main aapke vichaaron se puri trah sahmat hoon aur saath mai yeh bhi kahana chahta hoon ki senior pidhi ko apna nazaria badalna padega. Jabardasti aur maar peet ka jamana chala gaya. Mera manana hai ki agar ham apne bachon ko sahi (Gayan) sanskar den aur un ke vicharon ka sammaan kare to shayad hi koi baccha apni jimmedari se bhagna chahega.
With thanks & best regards.
JS
Our society has different sets of rules for different categories of people and the applicability depends on the social and financial stature of a person. If Chaudhary Charan Singh marries off his daughters in the so-called lower/backward caste, no eye-brows are raised. If someone from a lower strata dares to do the same, he will be subjected to all kind of psychological tortures and will be forced into horror... oops honour killing. The situation is, however ameliorating gradually with the spread of education and acceptability of inter-caste marriages is getting wider and wider. However, individually I am in favour of marriage within the same ethnic group, I am not critical of the inter-caste marriages as it is a matter of personal choice provided marriage has the consent of parents/family and it should no more be seen as a social taboo.
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