Ask these questions to the Jats in W.UP who have faced muslim mobs carrying AK 47 rifles.
Ask these questions to the families of Jats who were killed and thrown in the Jolly canal.
Ask these questions to the family whose girl was continually being molested and whose brothers were killed.
Your reasoning makes lot of sense, BUT only in an ideal scenario which I am afraid it is not and never will be.
When the seas have parted, your siding with the Muslims makes me think harder that we first need to have lot of churning within the community before we can take care of the outside challenges.
It is not a point of "me siding with muslims or me siding with Jats",, the point is " What are the root causes of such incidents", "Lack of education, ignorance, wrong understanding of thoughts given by media, etc are the main causes".
A small and short way of getting rid of the problem is that people separate and start living at far off places, but tell me " do such events not also happen with in Jat community?", i have heard about quarrels between families, neighbors, friends etc. who all were "Jats" because some "Jat" did the same thing to some other "Jats" sister.
So the main point is the problem related with "thought process". Today, u can separate muslims ,then tomorrow, if the same thing starts between two Jat families, Jat clans, etc., then what?
The arguments and counter arguments are endless but until and unless you will change the thought process towards more scientific and logical way of living a life, things will not change.
The very crux of the problem in the society is the thought process and easy solution finding ways, which are often short term solutions to any given problem and in long run they will magnify and involve even bigger crowds.