Some thoughts
If I put something wrong in this post please correct me.
You can't compare entire system which was existing earlier and at present.
In past men folks are suppose to earn and women folk used to maintain homes. Their work spheres were different. Women haven't got that exposure to the outside world as they got in present.
But they have given respect in the family. Remember the days when we used to ask for money to our dadi ma,not only kids even our uncle and dad used to ask for money from her.
Though she was not working but she was the manager of house.
But our generation is literate( Iwont say educated, because education doesn't come with degrees), girls went to IITs,IIMs,MS. They are doctor,scientists,engineers.
But sometimes I am not able to understand what kind of independence we girls have got, with our financial independance.
Ask guy what kind of girl he is looking for marriage.
He wont ask for much........ghani suthari na ho par Aishwarya Rai jaisi to ho,padhi likhi ho(hamare s/w wale bhai bolenge technical chaiye),kam te kam dahej mein 20-25 Lakh to laye dahej mein,maa baap ki seva bhi karein..............
pher bolenge is te jyada kuch na chaiye,disc mein bhi chali jaaye aur parents ke aage ghunghat bhi nikaal le.
Ib bhai thoda compromise to karna pada sai,chalo perfect na mili to miltijulti hi sahi.
It will be unfair if I dun put girls perspective, they will tell bebe team member to mein bhi hun,byah to kise Project Manager gallan karvaoongi.
Scooty par to mein ibe aaoon,atleast uske pass Ikon to honi chaiye.
Localite..............noooonoooooooooo parents rahenge they will interfere in our life.
Now these two species of our generation get married, ego was already there which increases with time and lead to divorce.
I guess there is lack of understanding from both sides.
boys expect that working girls do all household chores as their home maker moms used to do. Girls are girls, India hai America nahi ,kaqhin bhi pahunch jao tumhe hamari baat sunani hogi..............generally we hear this.
Now how they expect a well educated,employed girls to take orders from their peers,I doesn't mean to say girls should n't do the household chores,should pay attention to their home but is is the right thing on the part of guys to put so much pressure on their partners,arre thodi si help kara do vaise hi khush ho jaati hai.
you can put your thoughts in proper ways so it wont look that one person is trying to dominate other. women are also individual,they have got their career. And if they try to carry on the responsibility of their work and home they should be respected and appreciated.
May be I am wrong by suggesting this to the girls, if u gals find it offensive please forgive me. We are educated(I wont say literate) ,and being educated we shouldn't try to confuse our self respect with ego.
we have to prove this that we can carry career and house responsibility eqally well.we are not only the good employees but gud wife,gud mother and a respected woman in society.
I know practical implementation of these ideas is quiete tough but not impossible.
Please forgive me if anyone have found something offensive in this.
PS Sumit bhai kaan pe b ajaane ke din gaye jaaaaaaaaaaago
... sorry for the PJ). Both sides have to compromise and respect each other.