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कैसे लोग इनसानियत को भूल जाते हैं ... ऐसे लोगों को सरेआम चौराहे पे खडे करके गोली मारनी चाहिये जिससे दूसरों को भी सबक मिले .... आज तो 5-6 साल मुकदमा चलने के बाद मामला रफा-दफा हो जाता है और सजा सिर्फ दहेज हत्या के मामले में ही मिलती है यदा कदा ....
 
Dahej

Dear Jitender

Very well selection of the news.

Let us think like this also

Please go through.

R.S.Dahiya
 
Jitu ya baat ho thi jo sasural aaley jabardasti dahejj maangtey hain lekin unn LADDKIWALON ke baarey mein kya kahein jo CHHATTI FULLA_FULLA kar shaan se kehtey hain ki hum SANTRO/ ZEN/ OCTAVIA/ FIDA aaram se de dengey.....:o aur laddkey waley bhi aaram se LE LETEY HAIN:( aur in SO-CALLED aaram se dahejj deney walon ki wajah se becharey jo afford nahi kar patey unki laddkiyon ko ye dahejj-utpiddan jhellna paddta hain
 
dahiyars said:
Dear Jitender

Very well selection of the news.

Let us think like this also

Please go through.

R.S.Dahiya
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This ragni is a nice composition, Dr. Dahiya. Since marriage season has started in India, perhaps this would be the grand dowry season also. Please post one or two more ragnis on this subject.
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As far as I can guess dahej partha started coz gals were not entitled to get share in property and instead of this share in propety people give their daughters gifts and support to start a new life after marriage. And then brother give them seedha kothli..four times in a year.it is just to make sure that their sister is doing good in her post marriage life. This is necessary to make peace and harmony in realations.Bhaat is also meant for supporting ur sis while she is marrying her children.. But now even though gals can ask for equal share in property this is not well practiced in haryana.So, if someone does not want to give dahej then he should divide his property equally among his children. However dahej was always bout giving something to their daughters but now I dont know why people started asking for it. Askin is still tolerable as u can always say no but torturing bahu so called lakshmi to death is heinous crime. This is my guess how dahej partha might have been started but now it lost its meaning and got deformed. So, It was not
अभिशाप but now it is..because of us.....
 
jitendershooda said:
http://www.jagran.com/news/citynews.aspx?id=3620402&stateid=6&cityid=14

http://www.jagran.com/news/citynews.aspx?id=3619665&stateid=6&cityid=288

कैसे लोग इनसानियत को भूल जाते हैं ... ऐसे लोगों को सरेआम चौराहे पे खडे करके गोली मारनी चाहिये जिससे दूसरों को भी सबक मिले .... आज तो 5-6 साल मुकदमा चलने के बाद मामला रफा-दफा हो जाता है और सजा सिर्फ दहेज हत्या के मामले में ही मिलती है यदा कदा ....
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Hooda bhaai ram ram
Bahut badiya likha hai....
keep it up
 
Very true..

We must act against this evil before it is too late. I think this is one of the reason why the M/F ratio is reducing.

How many of us have not taken dowry directly or indirectly??.

Even some says joo dewaga aapnee choree ne deega hum kunsa le ke jaa ge but still they dislike non dowry marriages.

sunitahooda said:
Jitu ya baat ho thi jo sasural aaley jabardasti dahejj maangtey hain lekin unn LADDKIWALON ke baarey mein kya kahein jo CHHATTI FULLA_FULLA kar shaan se kehtey hain ki hum SANTRO/ ZEN/ OCTAVIA/ FIDA aaram se de dengey.....:o aur laddkey waley bhi aaram se LE LETEY HAIN:( aur in SO-CALLED aaram se dahejj deney walon ki wajah se becharey jo afford nahi kar patey unki laddkiyon ko ye dahejj-utpiddan jhellna paddta hain
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Dahej Ek Abhishap

Dear All

On this very site we had discussed the issue. I am sorry to say that only samar kadian offered to have no dahej in his marriage. I was waiting for the second name. I am waiting till today. Iss par ek geet likha hai. Please go through.

R.S.Dahiya
 
Dahej eak Abhishap---Jimmeywar kaun

Jab bhee dahej kee baat hoti hai to ladkey walo ko hee iska jemmeywar bataya jata hai per kya yea sahi hai ?

--Ladkee wala sabsay pahely apney say bada ghar dhundta keu ?
--Apney aap hee bolna shuru karta hai kee kitna kharch karega ?
--Ladkee chahey 10 th pass bhee na ho ladka Govt. Service mey hona chahiya, office of to kuchh or jayad kharch ker dega, keo nahi ladkee kee qualification ke hisaab say ladka dhundta.

--Ladke chahey sunder ho ya na ho ladka eakdum gora-lamba or sunder hona chahiyea paisa chahey kitna bhee kharch ho jay keu ?

Main problem is of mismatch. Most of the time peoples not matching their Boy-Girl they try to get the best and ready to pay the cost then why ?

By this dowery law peoples are blackmailing boys family wheather the reason of dowery is their or not.

Since my marrige time(20 Years) till today I didnt take even a pair of cloth from my wife,s family and never like to take in futur also but every time and occasion they offer me something or other.

Mere shadi key time bhee or mere or bhaiyeo ke shaadi key time bhee logo ney kaha kee tum itney gareeb ghar mein shadi keo ker rahey ho, tumhey kya kamee hai, tumahari kya shaadi nahi hoti etc.etc..

Hamey hamari samajik sanrachna ko sudharna hoga tab yea dahej namak beemari door ho sakti hai.
 
I would like to suggest something... better than discussing what are the causes... ladki ka baap ya ladke ka ghar ... koun doshi... hamein sabko pata hai ... problem kya hai... better we search for a solution...

One of the wague solution can be... yahan sabhi log iss thread mein hi ye pran kariye ki hum sab hamesha dahej ke khilaaf rahenge aur isse jad se utha fenkege... lakin doosro ke ghar nahi shuruaat apne ghar se...

Jawaan log pran karein ki nahi lenge ... ladkiya pran karein ki kitna hi time lag jaaye mein ya achhe match mein par dahej nahi dengi... aur bujurg log apni next generation ko lene nahi denge...

Although i havent seen samar in this thread but his name came somewhere not to accept dowry in his marriage... so i wud like to start this list with his name at top, if he allows me....
Kindly add ur name in the list if u really against it...
And pyaare JL ... no one is going to see whether u r accepting/demanding dowry... ye aapka apna jameer hai jiske saamne aap ye kasam kha rahe hai...
par bhai agar aise hi likh rahe hai toh better don add ur name... logo ko jhooth bol do par apne self respect ko nahi... issliye agar likho toh amal bhi karna... sorry if i am using harsh language but this is same for me too. I expect list will consist 100s of name within days.


List goes with

1. Samar kadiyan
2. Devender Kumar
 
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Dahej = Bheekh, well accepted everywhere.
Ye bheekh hai ki meri ladki ka ghar bas jaayega iss paise se ... ladke mein toh dum hai nahi kuch karne ka... apne paiso par nahi paal sakta chalo mein hi de deta hoon... aur iss se bade cowards woh jo khudh kehte hai ki mere paas koi talent nahi hai... aapki ladki ko mein nahi khila sakhta... isliye mujhe bheekh de do... 1-2 lakh... saale khade ke bachhe. Bheekhaari ki aulaad bhikhaaroi hoti hai ... chaahe sadak par maange ya phir dowry ke roop mein... rahega to bheekhari hi na... damn idiot ... suar saale
 
Easier said than done as most of the time it is other way round.Some well to do families from girl side make it a status issue and demonstrate their attributes in such a manner that others[groom sides] find it interesting and their expectations rise.In our family no one has taken dahej and we have not given to anybody...And we will stand by this principle.
 
Dowry is part of a tribal mindset. It can only improve by education and empowerment of women. Consider the simple equation...
No dowry = no marriage or late marriage = people (mostly women) gossiping and taunting the girl and her family.
So, in conclusion - here are a few suggestions.
- Gossiping women should get a job - this may be difficult because they might not have any skills except to run their mouths - so they need to be told to shut up.
- The girl / girls family should lower their expectation regarding the groom
- The girls family should let the girl find a husband on her own (The gossiping women come into the picture again in this case.)
- The girl should be able to support hersely financially (education is important here)... so that she has more options.
- The girl and her family have to be Ok with the fact the she may have a late marriage or no marriage.

Above are measures from the girls side....as far as the grroms side is concerned.... the groom needs to grow some balls and tell his parents that he would not accept dowry (nothing can be done about grooms who themselves want dowry).
Tha parents need to stop being pricks and leave their kids the hell alone after they are financially independent.
 
Almost on END..!

Dahej ki CAR me baithne se kahi achchha hai apni kamai ki BIKE pe baithna wo bhi na ho to ...BUS/TRAIN bhi thik hai

...But pata nahi kaise bahut se log Dahej ki CAR me baithkar bade khush hote hain.
 
crsnadar said:
Dahej ki CAR me baithne se kahi achchha hai apni kamai ki BIKE pe baithna wo bhi na ho to ...BUS/TRAIN bhi thik hai

...But pata nahi kaise bahut se log Dahej ki CAR me baithkar bade khush hote hain.
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Rahul thoda off topic hai waise mein tho bahut khush houngi jab
koi ladka mujhe Dahej mein CAR degaa ...:p:p:D
 
Strongly Agree with u Sid bro!! :)
sidchhikara said:
Dowry is part of a tribal mindset. It can only improve by education and empowerment of women. Consider the simple equation...
No dowry = no marriage or late marriage = people (mostly women) gossiping and taunting the girl and her family.
So, in conclusion - here are a few suggestions.
- Gossiping women should get a job - this may be difficult because they might not have any skills except to run their mouths - so they need to be told to shut up.
- The girl / girls family should lower their expectation regarding the groom
- The girls family should let the girl find a husband on her own (The gossiping women come into the picture again in this case.)
- The girl should be able to support hersely financially (education is important here)... so that she has more options.
- The girl and her family have to be Ok with the fact the she may have a late marriage or no marriage.

Above are measures from the girls side....as far as the grroms side is concerned.... the groom needs to grow some balls and tell his parents that he would not accept dowry (nothing can be done about grooms who themselves want dowry).Tha parents need to stop being pricks and leave their kids the hell alone after they are financially independent.
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Hummm... Jokes apart.....Vo din bhi jyada dur nahi hai as sex ratio waise hi badhta jaa reha hai.....so aane wale samay mein Girls ki jyada pooch hogi :rolleyes: so Manisha u just wait n watch!! ;)


Rock on
Jit

maniisha said:
Rahul thoda off topic hai waise mein tho bahut khush houngi jab
koi ladka mujhe Dahej mein CAR degaa ...:p:p:D
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