How Jat girls think of Jat Boys?

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How Jat Girl (Neelam) think of Jat Boys?

For the first time I can't resist myself to express my views as per the title of the thread....i.e.above title of my post.

Though I already stated at the thread of boys' opinions that for me its a case specific and very personal. I can write about their good/bad, strong/weak, humble/rude, Straight/restricted, etc. kind of nature..but, this time I just want to write about the one thing only.........

I've gone through both of these thread to find the attitudes at both sides. I liked to read many responses and just given a glance at few to know a little. Though its not a matter to be discussed so seriously, but as per the meaning of the forum DISCUSSIONS.....we people are provided complete freedom to talk about anything under the sun keeping in mind the Jatland policy.

After going through both of these threads one thing I noticed that girls are still writing and writing about what they feel for jat guys but for boys some people are trying to stop them by saying that there is no use in discussing such things because difference in nature prevails everywhere be it jats or non-jats. I agree at this statement. But......Why can't they speak the same things to girls at their thread or to other people who are expressing there opinions here by repeating the same thing. Infact, few of them are reacting very different in presenting their exact views....like, saying no use of it at boys thread but writing a lot about guys at girls thread....seriously funny people they are and then few are considering them to be very great. In my opinion, this is called the political nature. I don't want to mention the names......If one wants to know, then go through both of these threads and read yourself.

So, here I wanna conclude as per my observations that JAT GUYS ALWAYS CARRY BETTER AND SWEET NATURE AS COMPARED TO JAT GIRLS B'COZ THEY CAN BE STOPPED, CONVINCED, MADE QUIET, DEFEATED (though this is not defeat but its their good understanding), RESTRICTED EASILY by applying some such kind of force from different sides or by different ways that I observed and expressed about in above statements.

GIRLS LACKING THESE QUALITIES, tabhi unki thread par aake kisi ne ladkon ki tarah unhe samjhane ki koshish nahin ki jitna peeche ladkon ke pada jaa raha hai.

LET THEM ALSO SPEAK THE TRUTH LIKE U GIRLS OR THE SUPPORTERS OF GIRLS FEELING WHAT THEY WRITING/EXPRESSING IS A TRUTH. Or put you same statements at girls' thread also. Kam se kam ladkiyon ko to ye baat sochni chahiye, what they proving about themselves that way. SUNITA ALWAYS EXCLUDED from these things.....till date I never seen her standing with any biasness. Lot many other sensible and mature ladies and other worthy members like her to call out.

That's all I wanted to say.
 
For the first time I can't resist myself to express my views as per the title of the thread....i.e.above title of my post.

Though I already stated at the thread of boys' opinions that for me its a case specific and very personal. I can write about their good/bad, strong/weak, humble/rude, Straight/restricted, etc. kind of nature..but, this time I just want to write about the one thing only.........

I've gone through both of these thread to find the attitudes at both sides. I liked to read many responses and just given a glance at few to know a little. Though its not a matter to be discussed so seriously, but as per the meaning of the forum DISCUSSIONS.....we people are provided complete freedom to talk about anything under the sun keeping in mind the Jatland policy.

After going through both of these threads one thing I noticed that girls are still writing and writing about what they feel for jat guys but for boys some people are trying to stop them by saying that there is no use in discussing such things because difference in nature prevails everywhere be it jats or non-jats. I agree at this statement. But......Why can't they speak the same things to girls at their thread or to other people who are expressing there opinions here by repeating the same thing. Infact, few of them are reacting very different in presenting their exact views....like, saying no use of it at boys thread but writing a lot about guys at girls thread....seriously funny people they are and then few are considering them to be very great. In my opinion, this is called the political nature. I don't want to mention the names......If one wants to know, then go through both of these threads and read yourself.

So, here I wanna conclude as per my observations that JAT GUYS ALWAYS CARRY BETTER AND SWEET NATURE AS COMPARED TO JAT GIRLS B'COZ THEY CAN BE STOPPED, CONVINCED, MADE QUIET, DEFEATED (though this is not defeat but its their good understanding), RESTRICTED EASILY by applying some such kind of force from different sides or by different ways that I observed and expressed about in above statements.

GIRLS LACKING THESE QUALITIES, tabhi unki thread par aake kisi ne ladkon ki tarah unhe samjhane ki koshish nahin ki jitna peeche ladkon ke pada jaa raha hai.

LET THEM ALSO SPEAK THE TRUTH LIKE U GIRLS OR THE SUPPORTERS OF GIRLS FEELING WHAT THEY WRITING/EXPRESSING IS A TRUTH. Or put you same statements at girls' thread also. Kam se kam ladkiyon ko to ye baat sochni chahiye, what they proving about themselves that way. SUNITA ALWAYS EXCLUDED from these things.....till date I never seen her standing with any biasness. Lot many other sensible and mature ladies and other worthy members like her to call out.

That's all I wanted to say.


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For the first time I can't resist myself to express my views as per the title of the thread....i.e.above title of my post.

Though I already stated at the thread of boys' opinions that for me its a case specific and very personal. I can write about their good/bad, strong/weak, humble/rude, Straight/restricted, etc. kind of nature..but, this time I just want to write about the one thing only.........

I've gone through both of these thread to find the attitudes at both sides. I liked to read many responses and just given a glance at few to know a little. Though its not a matter to be discussed so seriously, but as per the meaning of the forum DISCUSSIONS.....we people are provided complete freedom to talk about anything under the sun keeping in mind the Jatland policy.

After going through both of these threads one thing I noticed that girls are still writing and writing about what they feel for jat guys but for boys some people are trying to stop them by saying that there is no use in discussing such things because difference in nature prevails everywhere be it jats or non-jats. I agree at this statement. But......Why can't they speak the same things to girls at their thread or to other people who are expressing there opinions here by repeating the same thing. Infact, few of them are reacting very different in presenting their exact views....like, saying no use of it at boys thread but writing a lot about guys at girls thread....seriously funny people they are and then few are considering them to be very great. In my opinion, this is called the political nature. I don't want to mention the names......If one wants to know, then go through both of these threads and read yourself.

So, here I wanna conclude as per my observations that JAT GUYS ALWAYS CARRY BETTER AND SWEET NATURE AS COMPARED TO JAT GIRLS B'COZ THEY CAN BE STOPPED, CONVINCED, MADE QUIET, DEFEATED (though this is not defeat but its their good understanding), RESTRICTED EASILY by applying some such kind of force from different sides or by different ways that I observed and expressed about in above statements.

GIRLS LACKING THESE QUALITIES, tabhi unki thread par aake kisi ne ladkon ki tarah unhe samjhane ki koshish nahin ki jitna peeche ladkon ke pada jaa raha hai.

LET THEM ALSO SPEAK THE TRUTH LIKE U GIRLS OR THE SUPPORTERS OF GIRLS FEELING WHAT THEY WRITING/EXPRESSING IS A TRUTH. Or put you same statements at girls' thread also. Kam se kam ladkiyon ko to ye baat sochni chahiye, what they proving about themselves that way. SUNITA ALWAYS EXCLUDED from these things.....till date I never seen her standing with any biasness. Lot many other sensible and mature ladies and other worthy members like her to call out.

That's all I wanted to say.

............:)
 
manne koni bera bhai k jaatni mein k gun hoya karein...ek baat ka bera se..
jaatni jaatni e hoya kare.....wa jib kehave se ne...ki....
"AJI SUNO SO AAP MANNE GHANE AACHHE LAGO SO" to jaat kati flat ho jya se...hahahahhahahahhahahah
 
i dont know which world you live in where truth is actually not visible or may be you have come across all nice jat guys.And yes Neelam thread reads"WHAT Jat girls think of jat guys' and not' What Neelam thinks of jat girls and jat guys" Why is it for?To prove that you are a saviour who has come to rescue of guys or what?I dont like to write 300 plus words and that too all nonsense without any degree of truth in it.I have heard of a few jat army officers who beat their wives black and blue.Its such a shame.Now wot all i want to convey is if a deciplined life in defence and good education cannot change the mind set and behaviour what else can?And here i absolutely dont want to say that all jat guys are like that but yup if we make some survey i bet data wud be above 50 percent for sure.We girls are not denying that jat guys are nice also but not many in number for sure.


For the first time I can't resist myself to express my views as per the title of the thread....i.e.above title of my post.

Though I already stated at the thread of boys' opinions that for me its a case specific and very personal. I can write about their good/bad, strong/weak, humble/rude, Straight/restricted, etc. kind of nature..but, this time I just want to write about the one thing only.........

I've gone through both of these thread to find the attitudes at both sides. I liked to read many responses and just given a glance at few to know a little. Though its not a matter to be discussed so seriously, but as per the meaning of the forum DISCUSSIONS.....we people are provided complete freedom to talk about anything under the sun keeping in mind the Jatland policy.

After going through both of these threads one thing I noticed that girls are still writing and writing about what they feel for jat guys but for boys some people are trying to stop them by saying that there is no use in discussing such things because difference in nature prevails everywhere be it jats or non-jats. I agree at this statement. But......Why can't they speak the same things to girls at their thread or to other people who are expressing there opinions here by repeating the same thing. Infact, few of them are reacting very different in presenting their exact views....like, saying no use of it at boys thread but writing a lot about guys at girls thread....seriously funny people they are and then few are considering them to be very great. In my opinion, this is called the political nature. I don't want to mention the names......If one wants to know, then go through both of these threads and read yourself.

So, here I wanna conclude as per my observations that JAT GUYS ALWAYS CARRY BETTER AND SWEET NATURE AS COMPARED TO JAT GIRLS B'COZ THEY CAN BE STOPPED, CONVINCED, MADE QUIET, DEFEATED (though this is not defeat but its their good understanding), RESTRICTED EASILY by applying some such kind of force from different sides or by different ways that I observed and expressed about in above statements.

GIRLS LACKING THESE QUALITIES, tabhi unki thread par aake kisi ne ladkon ki tarah unhe samjhane ki koshish nahin ki jitna peeche ladkon ke pada jaa raha hai.

LET THEM ALSO SPEAK THE TRUTH LIKE U GIRLS OR THE SUPPORTERS OF GIRLS FEELING WHAT THEY WRITING/EXPRESSING IS A TRUTH. Or put you same statements at girls' thread also. Kam se kam ladkiyon ko to ye baat sochni chahiye, what they proving about themselves that way. SUNITA ALWAYS EXCLUDED from these things.....till date I never seen her standing with any biasness. Lot many other sensible and mature ladies and other worthy members like her to call out.

That's all I wanted to say.
 
Indeed!i comepletely agree with you :)
Generally girls other than jat girls say about Jat boys> ke aaj kal to sab branded kapddey pehney ghoomtey hain, pata hi nahi lagta ke JAT hain ya punjabi:Dlekin muh khulltey hi pata chal jata hai ki JAT hain:p Arr fer mere jissey JAT boys ki samarthak ko bhi khulli hansi aati hai ....arr chahe laddke kitni bhi koshish kar lein sophisticated bann-ney ki gahmolli attitude deekhey jaa sai. Behad short-tempered, fizool ke restriction laaniye, dabbu hoya karein. Ek saheli nai kahi thi ke Jat laddke laambey-thadey hoya karein arr haan suthrey bhi....arr time-pass karan mai number one par zindagi bhar tayi haath pakkdan ki himmat na hoti....byah ke time Maa-Baap ke sapoot bann jya sain. Par jissey bhi hon theek hon sain....Straight-forward, humorous, daring, bold, give due respect to elders arr Punjabiyan ki dhaal goddyan tayi haath sa le ja kai nyu na dhakossla kartey akk paah choo diye:D:D but in most of the cases around i've seen them mistreating their wives even if they are HIGHLY EDUCATED and WORKING AT HIGH POSTS like DCPs and CIVIL ENGGRS and SPTD.of CUSTOMS:o i've seen and experienced they fail to feel emotions in women
 
Deepika- I will take that bet. Any day. Not that I have any data to counter your assertion, but you are clearly making statements without any facts or logic. You say that you don't like to write 300 words of nonsense without any truth in it, but just after hearing about some jat army officers you are ready to make a judgment on the whole community? What kind of logic is that? Let's do a simple analysis. There are 2 communities- A and B. You 'hear' about 'some' wife-beaters in community A. Does that mean that 50% of that community indulges in wife-beating? Or that no one in community B indulges in it? If I take A as Jats and B as non-Jats, that's what you have done. My argument is not that some jats treat their wives badly, in fact there are quite a few of them. But it is not a jat-specific phenomenon. Even a casual observer would tell you that it is a pan-Indian trait, probably more North-Indian than South-Indian and directly proportional to the status of women in the society. You can segment the population into rural/urban, educated/uneducated, geography, economic status, caste, religion, jats/non jats, etc. I am sure you'd see much greater statistical significance for factors other than one's jat/non-jat status.

i dont know which world you live in where truth is actually not visible or may be you have come across all nice jat guys.And yes Neelam thread reads"WHAT Jat girls think of jat guys' and not' What Neelam thinks of jat girls and jat guys" Why is it for?To prove that you are a saviour who has come to rescue of guys or what?I dont like to write 300 plus words and that too all nonsense without any degree of truth in it.I have heard of a few jat army officers who beat their wives black and blue.Its such a shame.Now wot all i want to convey is if a deciplined life in defence and good education cannot change the mind set and behaviour what else can?And here i absolutely dont want to say that all jat guys are like that but yup if we make some survey i bet data wud be above 50 percent for sure.We girls are not denying that jat guys are nice also but not many in number for sure.
 
You are right Deepika....in most cases FOR SURE women hide this trauma from her kids so that she doesn't feel humiliated and thinking kids will stop respecting their father.Only 50%???? haven't you been really kind to men....i would rather say it can can be an eye-opening figure like 90% or more. Most of the women just hide/keep mum just for the sake of boasting around to show off as AN IDEAL COUPLE. Last week went to meet a friend at Jind and the FACTS(not stories) of few women's life she told me were shocking. And here i dont want to put all those women to SHAME by calling their lives miseries A STORY as it takes a heart STRONGER than a STONE to go through the traumas, which people easily term A STORY:o
i dont know which world you live in where truth is actually not visible or may be you have come across all nice jat guys.And yes Neelam thread reads"WHAT Jat girls think of jat guys' and not' What Neelam thinks of jat girls and jat guys" Why is it for?To prove that you are a saviour who has come to rescue of guys or what?I dont like to write 300 plus words and that too all nonsense without any degree of truth in it.I have heard of a few jat army officers who beat their wives black and blue.Its such a shame.Now wot all i want to convey is if a deciplined life in defence and good education cannot change the mind set and behaviour what else can?And here i absolutely dont want to say that all jat guys are like that but yup if we make some survey i bet data wud be above 50 percent for sure.We girls are not denying that jat guys are nice also but not many in number for sure.
 
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You are right Deepika....in most cases FOR SURE women hide this trauma from her kids so that she doesn't feel humiliated and thinking kids will stop respecting their father.Only 50%???? haven't you been really kind to men....i would rather say it can can be an eye-opening figure like 90% or more. Most of the women just hide/keep mum just for the sake of boasting around to show off as AN IDEAL COUPLE. Last week went to meet a friend at Jind and the FACTS(not stories) of few women's life she told me were shocking. And here i dont want to put all hose women to SHAME by calling their lives miseries A STORY as it takes a heart STRONGER than a STONE to go through the traumas, which people easily term A STORY:o




Sunita bebey,there are various kind of creatures on this earth....there are many who care for their lady wife more than their life and then there are a few who humiliate them each moment.Also there are a few ladies who never learn the tact of handling this delicate relationship based on trust,and carry on getting instigated by the environment and in turn ruining their well organized institution.There is that word called DESTINY.....we can never be sure as to why something happens to our lives....that element of truth is beyond our catch.Dukh-sukh,badtamizziyan,izzat,pyar,hamdardi,dard.sikve-shikayat and much more goes on and on in our lives...a unique life...different for every individual......so different and so bizarre so to say.
 
i dont know which world you live in where truth is actually not visible or may be you have come across all nice jat guys.And yes Neelam thread reads"WHAT Jat girls think of jat guys' and not' What Neelam thinks of jat girls and jat guys" Why is it for?To prove that you are a saviour who has come to rescue of guys or what?I dont like to write 300 plus words and that too all nonsense without any degree of truth in it.I have heard of a few jat army officers who beat their wives black and blue.Its such a shame.Now wot all i want to convey is if a deciplined life in defence and good education cannot change the mind set and behaviour what else can?And here i absolutely dont want to say that all jat guys are like that but yup if we make some survey i bet data wud be above 50 percent for sure.We girls are not denying that jat guys are nice also but not many in number for sure.

Agreed word by word... Damn true ;)
 
मैंने आज तक जाटों के आलावा किसी और जाती में लुगाइयों को अपने खसम को पीटते नही देखा ......जो पीकर घर आते हैं

चाहे बेशक से % बहुत ही कम हो....परन्तु फ़िर भी उनकी हिम्मत काबिले तारीफ है ...

मेरी मकान मालकिन जी भर के कूट्या करे .....जे घनी पी के आ रहा हो....

अर् जे थोडी पी के आ रह्या हो, तो फेर वा कुटया करे .....:boxing

खासकर गाँव में फौज्जी ...जिनमे पीने के लत ज्यादा हो जाती है.....(फौजी कोटे में कैंटीन से मिली राशन की दारू के कारण...)
 
खासकर गाँव में फौज्जी ...जिनमे पीने के लत ज्यादा हो जाती है.....(फौजी कोटे में कैंटीन से मिली राशन की दारू के कारण...)


Incorrigible statement this.
 
It doesn't depend on any Jati aur dharm or occupation as far as i've seen, Maine apne gaon me aaj tak kisi fauji(retired or serving) ko apni wife ko peette nahi dekha. Aur na hi aisa hai ki Jat hi aisa karte hain......It happens at some point or other in each community/religion, be it Muslim, Hindu or others....
 
I never realised that this thread will be completing almost the full term of this great " Jat Parliament".... LOL...lagge raho dosto....

RK^2
 
Mr Dalal i gave Army Officers' exmaple coz they are considered to be in the most polished and disciplined profession if u have read my reply.Ofcourse same is the case with jats in other professions also.And most of them are like that as i said.Maine ache jat log bhi dekhe hai par percentage kam hai.Aur rahi baat bet ki toh aap chup hi rahe toh acha hai kyunki asal me data collect karo toh shayad 70+ na pahuch jaye.I have grown up with all jat ppl around.Bet lene ke liye aap kaise tayyar ho?E k baat batayenge please ki apki gali ki koi bhi jat lady aapke paas aake kabhi aapko bolegi ki usko uske pati ne ghar me maara?Ladies share their pain with other ladies or girls close to them.Koi aurat nai chahti ki uska ghar tute issliye most of them keep mum and tolerate tht cruel behaviour.Aur mai woh bol rahi hu jo maine aaj tak observe kiya hai.Abb iske baad i dont care if u agree with tht or not coz i have given my views which were required for this thread.Wotever i have said is true.U are not a female so ofcourse jat ladies in ur neighbour will never discuss,abt her getting beaten by her husband,with you.Most of the ladies dont reveal it coz they care abt the family.Now i will try to throw some light on why "SOME" jat girls want to get married to someone out of their caste.First reason is that they come across some victim ladies since childhood.So they make a notion that jat guys become cruel husbands (which is true to some extent in many cases also).Secondly educated girls want more of a friend instead of a dominating husband so they are a little apprehensive abt getting married to jat guys thinking that what if they also meet the same fate like any of her known victim lady did.Last but absolutely not the least that we human beings crave for something new and to bring abt some changes and tht's why so many inventions have been made in the past right from stoneman's age.So girls being curious abt the guy from other caste or country,be it his culture,behaviour,education etc.I hope i have tried enough putting my views into words to explain why Jat girls dont like to get married to jat guys


Deepika- I will take that bet. Any day. Not that I have any data to counter your assertion, but you are clearly making statements without any facts or logic. You say that you don't like to write 300 words of nonsense without any truth in it, but just after hearing about some jat army officers you are ready to make a judgment on the whole community? What kind of logic is that? Let's do a simple analysis. There are 2 communities- A and B. You 'hear' about 'some' wife-beaters in community A. Does that mean that 50% of that community indulges in wife-beating? Or that no one in community B indulges in it? If I take A as Jats and B as non-Jats, that's what you have done. My argument is not that some jats treat their wives badly, in fact there are quite a few of them. But it is not a jat-specific phenomenon. Even a casual observer would tell you that it is a pan-Indian trait, probably more North-Indian than South-Indian and directly proportional to the status of women in the society. You can segment the population into rural/urban, educated/uneducated, geography, economic status, caste, religion, jats/non jats, etc. I am sure you'd see much greater statistical significance for factors other than one's jat/non-jat status.
 
Mr Dalal i have tried enough putting my views into words to explain why Jat girls dont like to get married to jat guys

Ms. Singroha,
There may be approx. 15M jats in India. You may be knowing, let us say 1500 or to be on higher side 3000. You have drawn your conclussions from the life of these 3000 persons and applied those results to the whole population of jats. 3000 is just 0.02% of the jats population. The strata of people you observed may not be homogeneous to give true results. For example, if we survey only south Delhi for prosperity, can you apply that results to whole country that people of India are rich. Do you think what you saw and observed in your life will give a clear picture of the community?

I will say that we might have seen or observed unfair treatment towards women in our community that does not mean you replicate the results of your own observation to the community as a whole.
Thanks.
 
Ms. Deepika, I am sorry, but you didn't get the point. I have absolutely no issues if you don't want to get married to a Jat. You are a free citizen of a free country (assuming you are Indian), and are free to do whatever you want. But what you are doing in your analysis is using stereotypes (Army Officers are most polished/disciplined, Jats are cruel and dominating). And the problem with stereotypes is that they are often wrong. If you read my post again and if you care a wee bit about logical analysis, you'd know where you are wrong. I don't deny that you know of many Jat ladies who get beaten up by their husband. But then I know about Brahman/Gujjar/Thakur/Surd ladies who are abused by their husbands. Does that mean that all members of those caste are abusive as well? And you can find army officers from other castes as well who beat their wives. Honestly, if you take each example as a rule, then you won't have any guy left to get married to (As you can find atleast one- probably many more- person in each community of India who beats his wife).

The issue has much more to do with education, status of women, one's surroundings and exposure to new ideas. I would imagine most of your examples are middle-aged or older people. Those guys grew up in a different world. In our generation, such incidents should be lower. Of course, there would still be wife-beaters around, but they are not specifically present in Jats (The most developed countries have their share as well).

As for marriage, that was not the topic of the thread. However, since you mentioned it, I must say that I found your reasons to be a bit silly. Not the decision, as that's your inalienable right, but just the reasons you used.Like quenching curiosity one. Marriage is not a meal you are going to try. It is going to stick with you for the life time (assuming that's the plan). And plus if you are really so curious, one guy will have only one caste, one behavior, one culture and one country- your experience would be restricted to just one. Curiosity is never quenched by one. For a happy marriage, there can't be a generic solution like marry a jat or don't marry a jat. As marriage has very little to with the caste, and much more to do with the individuals. The individual you desire may not be a Jat. But doesn't mean that he can not be a Jat as a rule.

Mr Dalal i gave Army Officers' exmaple coz they are considered to be in the most polished and disciplined profession if u have read my reply.Ofcourse same is the case with jats in other professions also.And most of them are like that as i said.Maine ache jat log bhi dekhe hai par percentage kam hai.Aur rahi baat bet ki toh aap chup hi rahe toh acha hai kyunki asal me data collect karo toh shayad 70+ na pahuch jaye.I have grown up with all jat ppl around.Bet lene ke liye aap kaise tayyar ho?E k baat batayenge please ki apki gali ki koi bhi jat lady aapke paas aake kabhi aapko bolegi ki usko uske pati ne ghar me maara?Ladies share their pain with other ladies or girls close to them.Koi aurat nai chahti ki uska ghar tute issliye most of them keep mum and tolerate tht cruel behaviour.Aur mai woh bol rahi hu jo maine aaj tak observe kiya hai.Abb iske baad i dont care if u agree with tht or not coz i have given my views which were required for this thread.Wotever i have said is true.U are not a female so ofcourse jat ladies in ur neighbour will never discuss,abt her getting beaten by her husband,with you.Most of the ladies dont reveal it coz they care abt the family.Now i will try to throw some light on why "SOME" jat girls want to get married to someone out of their caste.First reason is that they come across some victim ladies since childhood.So they make a notion that jat guys become cruel husbands (which is true to some extent in many cases also).Secondly educated girls want more of a friend instead of a dominating husband so they are a little apprehensive abt getting married to jat guys thinking that what if they also meet the same fate like any of her known victim lady did.Last but absolutely not the least that we human beings crave for something new and to bring abt some changes and tht's why so many inventions have been made in the past right from stoneman's age.So girls being curious abt the guy from other caste or country,be it his culture,behaviour,education etc.I hope i have tried enough putting my views into words to explain why Jat girls dont like to get married to jat guys
 
Ms. Deepika, I am sorry, but you didn't get the point. I have absolutely no issues if you don't want to get married to a Jat. You are a free citizen of a free country (assuming you are Indian), and are free to do whatever you want. But what you are doing in your analysis is using stereotypes (Army Officers are most polished/disciplined, Jats are cruel and dominating). And the problem with stereotypes is that they are often wrong. If you read my post again and if you care a wee bit about logical analysis, you'd know where you are wrong. I don't deny that you know of many Jat ladies who get beaten up by their husband. But then I know about Brahman/Gujjar/Thakur/Surd ladies who are abused by their husbands. Does that mean that all members of those caste are abusive as well? And you can find army officers from other castes as well who beat their wives. Honestly, if you take each example as a rule, then you won't have any guy left to get married to (As you can find atleast one- probably many more- person in each community of India who beats his wife).

The issue has much more to do with education, status of women, one's surroundings and exposure to new ideas. I would imagine most of your examples are middle-aged or older people. Those guys grew up in a different world. In our generation, such incidents should be lower. Of course, there would still be wife-beaters around, but they are not specifically present in Jats (The most developed countries have their share as well).

As for marriage, that was not the topic of the thread. However, since you mentioned it, I must say that I found your reasons to be a bit silly. Not the decision, as that's your inalienable right, but just the reasons you used.Like quenching curiosity one. Marriage is not a meal you are going to try. It is going to stick with you for the life time (assuming that's the plan). And plus if you are really so curious, one guy will have only one caste, one behavior, one culture and one country- your experience would be restricted to just one. Curiosity is never quenched by one. For a happy marriage, there can't be a generic solution like marry a jat or don't marry a jat. As marriage has very little to with the caste, and much more to do with the individuals. The individual you desire may not be a Jat. But doesn't mean that he can not be a Jat as a rule.
An applaudable post ! :)

Nicely knitted words and the ideas therein. I am also of the same opinion that every individual is different and we can never bind someone's personality in the realms of caste, profession, nationality or the likes.

Deepika cant also be said to be wrong though. She is right on the basis of what she must have witnessed around. After all we all carry our experiences and they turn up into opinions, and we are here to just see the same matter in various lights !

But to add a point, I think wife beating is more at the place where the women isnt brave enough to speak up in a bold way, or where she accepts it as an inherent attribute of womenhood or where she keeps mum waiting for the things to be sorted on their own. And the most important thing is that this all is situational !
 
i dont know which world you live in where truth is actually not visible or may be you have come across all nice jat guys.And yes Neelam thread reads"WHAT Jat girls think of jat guys' and not' What Neelam thinks of jat girls and jat guys" Why is it for?To prove that you are a saviour who has come to rescue of guys or what?I dont like to write 300 plus words and that too all nonsense without any degree of truth in it.I have heard of a few jat army officers who beat their wives black and blue.Its such a shame.Now wot all i want to convey is if a deciplined life in defence and good education cannot change the mind set and behaviour what else can?And here i absolutely dont want to say that all jat guys are like that but yup if we make some survey i bet data wud be above 50 percent for sure.We girls are not denying that jat guys are nice also but not many in number for sure.

Dear Deepika ji, its not a very big thing to beat anyone. And that too for a JAT!!! as you would find that most of people who give lives for the country are JATS!!! So it is clear that a person who can be brave at that level would not feel a bit proud on beating his wife... If human beats another human he does not have to be JAT for that. There may be thaousands of such cases but we do not care for that. We care about such incedents when they are close to us...and if they are close they are with JATS!! because we live in that community.

The times have really changed and I do not feel that this statement is really valid now....as JATS are among the best people in every field....and best people are really best....If you have that data looking at the past...this would have been the case in every community as education and civilisation was at it least. Today the JAT girls are emerging so well in every field, it would not have taken place if their parents would have been insensible.

Or if really its the case.......please tell me a community where INCIDENTS dont happen????
 
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