How much does salary affect in arrange marriage.

[shivamchaudhary]

Every time, when we meet someone (specially boy) for an arrange marriage proposal, the mostly asked question is salary not about the person's attitude or other attributes.

Now-a-days I am encountering many parents with lots of questions and specially this questions bothers me.

I wonder importance of this question !! They (parents) may suppose how much their daughter has to spent , if this is the case, this may be strong case to run away from arrange marriage

Anyway, I am opening discussion about importance of this question and is this question harming or not a person's dignity ??

 

[htomar]

bother hone ki jarurat na bhai.ye Q peechha na chhode,chahe kitni bhi salary ho jaye.sab jaante hai ki kitna kaafi rahta ahi.but money ki bhookh aisi hi hoti hai.galti nhi hai agar salary poochhte hai.ladke waalo ko bhi ladki Aishwarya Raay se kam nahi chahiye ladki.balance ho jata hai dono ka.
wese jo kewal beauty ya money dekhte hai unke saamne result bhi shadi ke 1-2 saal baad hi aa jata hai.
prblm ye hai ki sab kuchh jaante hue bhi nahi sudharna chahte log.

Every time, when we meet someone (specially boy) for an arrange marriage proposal, the mostly asked question is salary not about the person's attitude or other attributes.

Now-a-days I am encountering many parents with lots of questions and specially this questions bothers me.

I wonder importance of this question !! They (parents) may suppose how much their daughter has to spent , if this is the case, this may be strong case to run away from arrange marriage

Anyway, I am opening discussion about importance of this question and is this question harming or not a person's dignity ??

 

[vikasjat]

Every time, when we meet someone (specially boy) for an arrange marriage proposal, the mostly asked question is salary not about the person's attitude or other attributes.

Now-a-days I am encountering many parents with lots of questions and specially this questions bothers me.

I wonder importance of this question !! They (parents) may suppose how much their daughter has to spent , if this is the case, this may be strong case to run away from arrange marriage

Anyway, I am opening discussion about importance of this question and is this question harming or not a person's dignity ??

Bhai bahut acha topic start kiya aapne........well done.

ye to bahut he common baat hai ye puchna ki salary kitni hai, agar salary achi hai to baad me ladke ka nature ya ghar bar dekhte hain.

 

[shivamchaudhary]

bother hone ki jarurat na bhai.ye Q peechha na chhode,chahe kitni bhi salary ho jaye.sab jaante hai ki kitna kaafi rahta ahi.but money ki bhookh aisi hi hoti hai.galti nhi hai agar salary poochhte hai.

waise aajkal kharach karne ki bhookh jyada ladti hai, wo bhi aukat se bahar.

ladke waalo ko bhi ladki Aishwarya Raay se kam nahi chahiye ladki.balance ho jata hai dono ka.
wese jo kewal beauty ya money dekhte hai unke saamne result bhi shadi ke 1-2 saal baad hi aa jata hai.
prblm ye hai ki sab kuchh jaante hue bhi nahi sudharna chahte log.

Ye bhi sahi kaha Tomar Ji, sudharne ka to log naam nahi lete jab baat khud pe aati hai !!
Waise ladaki ne kya kiya hai usse jyada ladaki ke Pitaji ne kya kiya hai wo batate hai, and ladake ki salary dekhate hai nahi ki qualification

 

[singhvp]

भाई यो तो सीधा सा हिसाब किताब सै, जितनी ज्यादा salary हो छोरे की उतने ही ज्यादा चांस हों सै उसनै सुथरी बहू मिलन के I
कम salary नै देख के तो इसी उसी छोरी का रिश्ता भी ना आता I फेर तो बिहार मैं ए जाना पडे सै. ब्याह शादी तिजारत तैं कम थोड़े रह रह्या सै, पूरा मोल भाव होता है.
आजकल तो छोरी खुद ए कर लेवें सै सारी बूझ ताझ facebook पै .

 

[shivamchaudhary]

hahhahahahahahha bhai bahut acha topic start kiya aapne........well done.

ye to bahut he common baat hai ye puchna ki salary kitni hai, agar salary achi hai to baad me ladke ka nature ya ghar bar dekhte hain.

Sab ulta ho gaya hai aajkal, ...

Pehle ladke ka khandaan dekh kar saadi kar dete the....

Waise, mere hishab se ladaka agar layak hai to wo successful to ho hi jayega...

 

[ajay86]

भाई यो तो सीधा सा हिसाब किताब सै, जितनी ज्यादा salary हो छोरे की उतने ही ज्यादा चांस हों सै उसनै सुथरी बहू मिलन के I
कम salary नै देख के तो इसी उसी छोरी का रिश्ता भी ना आता I फेर तो बिहार मैं ए जाना पडे सै. ब्याह शादी तिजारत तैं कम थोड़े रह रह्या सै, पूरा मोल भाव होता है.
आजकल तो छोरी खुद ए कर लेवें सै सारी बूझ ताझ facebook पै .

uncle g,ye jaruri nhi ki salary jyada ho to bahu b suthri aavegi....ajkal haryana me jamin b khub dekhe se ke chhore ke kitne kille aave se..ar babu ke kra kre etc..

 

[upendersingh]

किसनै देख्या सै कोई भीतर तै कितना आच्छा सै. अधिकतर इंसानां का एक ही अंजाम सै. पैदा होवैगा, फेर जवान होवैगा अर फेर बुड्ढा होमता चला ज्यागा. ये सुंदरता-पुंदर्ता तो बस कुछेक साल का ही सौद्दा हो सै. कमाई ठीक होवैगी तो खर्चे तो पूरे होमते रहैंगे. कमाई कम होवैगी तो अंजाम तो फेर भी वोही होणा सै. इसलिए कोई मोटी कमाई वाला ही थ्या जा तै उसतै बढ़िया के सै. अधिकतर लोगों का इसा मानना सै आजकल.

अर हां भाई,...यो तो कती भी जरूरी कोन्या अक छोरे की कमाई आच्छी होवैगी तो उसकै सुथरी लुगाई आणी ही आणी सै. कई तो छोरे भी नु देखै सै आजकल अक छोरी कमावै कितना सै अर जो छोरी ठीक-ठाक कमावती होगी तै चाहे फेर किसी भी क्यूं ना हो, बात बण जा सै.
हर गली-मोहल्ले, गांव-कसबे में कुछ छोरी घणी सुथरी हो सै अर जरूरी नि होमता अक अमीर घरां की हों. इसी छोरियां के बाबू अपनी ही हैसियत के घर मैं उन छोरियां नै ब्याह दे सै...इस तरिया कई मूर्खां नै भी आंडी सौद्दा थ्या जा सै. मन्नै कई इसे छोरे देख लिए जो किराए पै रहवे हैं, मतबल घर कोनी होंदा अर कोई लांबी-चौड़ी कमाई भी कोन्या होंदी, फेर भी सुथरी लुगाई लिए रह सै. इब किसी फैक्ट्री मैं काम करण आले मजदूर की छोरी घणी ही सुथरी हो तो जरूरी थोड़े ही सै कोई डागदर-कलेक्टर की गैल्ला उसका ब्याह होवैगा. डागदर-कलेक्टर का रेट आजकल करोड़ों मैं सै.
अर भाई आज-काल हो सकै खूब पीसा कमाण वाली लुगाई या छोरा मिल जा, पर इसी लुगाई या छोरा मिलणा घणा ए मुश्किल दीखे सै, जिसके ब्याह तै पहलै 8-10 किस्से ना हो...कती तोड़ पाट रह्या सै सब क्याहे का.
नोट : ये मेरे निजी विचार सै, और भाई भी इसा ही सोचते हों, जरूरी कोन्या.

 

[mittu]

Every time, when we meet someone (specially boy) for an arrange marriage proposal, the mostly asked question is salary not about the person's attitude or other attributes.

Now-a-days I am encountering many parents with lots of questions and specially this questions bothers me.

I wonder importance of this question !! They (parents) may suppose how much their daughter has to spent , if this is the case, this may be strong case to run away from arrange marriage

Anyway, I am opening discussion about importance of this question and is this question harming or not a person's dignity ??

Very good topic, may be some fathers or some girls who went through this phase of arranged marriage can throw some light, as i think they will be better target audience for this question.

Even i saw a very recent case, where my friend was ready to settle to equal earning guy for love marriage, and had specific high digit number in mind for guy's package, when she was forced for arrange marriage.

 

[sunitahooda]

Things or commodities that were considered luxuries in old days, say 20-30 years back, have become necessities now, Like Car, LCD/LED TV music system, L-shape sofa/ leather couches fridge/ microwave/ split AC etc. etc. etc. etc.etc.How could i forget NICE 3-4 bedroom house in posh area this list can go on n on to one's choice. So in past times only "Reputed Family" was sought after and "Land/property", now all know land is not the criteria(ज्यादातर की बिकगी) also in Metropolitan cities who gives a damn to-बढ़िया खानदान ? so the choice is groom centric and whole criteria revolves around the "BOY" Reason to this is moreso given by the girls themselves as they don't like to compromise with living standard and WHY SHOULD THEY? Everyone likes a comfortable life. If boys want a professionally qualified wife then girls want a boy with HANDSOME SALARY not a HANDSOME BOY WITH SMALL SALARY

P.S.- Money is not at all EVERYTHING BUT MAKES LIFE SO EASY and COMFORTABLE thats what most people want
The MANTRA is if a boy is earning a HANDSOME SALARY then he automatically becomes HANDSOME[लड़की के घर वालों या लड़की की नज़रों में ]

 

[sunitahooda]

आपके निजी विचार तो सुथरे अर्र नेक सें पर लुगाईयाँ का सौदा क्यूँ बना दिया आप नै ? आप नै सुन्दरता-पुन्दरता तो टेम्पररी बताये थे फेर सुथरी लुगाई के न्यारे लेख लिखा कै आया करें? वैसे कई पाकी होड़ लुगयियाँ कै बी सुथरे छोरे थ्या जाया करें

सुथरी लुगाई भतेरी रोती अर्र दुखी देखी हैं...अर्र इस पै एक कहावत है-" रूप रोवे अर्र करम खावे"
यानि किस्मत के लेख हैं सब

इस तरिया कई मूर्खां नै भी आंडी सौद्दा थ्या जा सै. मन्नै कई इसे छोरे देख लिए जो किराए पै रहवे हैं, मतबल घर कोनी होंदा अर कोई लांबी-चौड़ी कमाई भी कोन्या होंदी, फेर भी कती सुथरी लुगाई लिए रह सै.
नोट : ये मेरे निजी विचार सै, और भाई भी इसा ही सोचते हों, जरूरी कोन्या.

 

[vicky84]

The MANTRA is if a boy is earning a HANDSOME SALARY then he automatically becomes HANDSOME

hahaha...That's the bottom line..

In a nutshell..Arrange marriage is more or less a business.

 

[sunitahooda]

घंखरी मै तो माँ-बाप बस कलेश काट कै पल्ला झाड लिया करें अक्क महरी बेकूपी नै तम सुल्टो चाहे रो कै चाहे हंस कै
One JUST gotta be very very lucky to have a good partner

hahaha...That's the bottom line..

In a nutshell..Arrange marriage is more or less a business.

 

[singhvp]

P.S.- Money is not at all EVERYTHING BUT MAKES LIFE SO EASY and COMFORTABLE thats what most people want
The MANTRA is if a boy is earning a HANDSOME SALARY then he automatically becomes HANDSOME[लड़की के घर वालों या लड़की की नज़रों में ]

Rightly said, Sunita ji. Money makes a boy handsome and money makes the mare go. Everyone aspires for a comfortable living and tries to find an ideal combination of money and handsomeness/beauty. Majority of girls want a 'beau' with handsome financial standing. The era of Heer-Ranjha, Sheeri-Farhand, Laila-Majnoo and Romeo- Juliet is well nigh over. And that is what I call pragmatism.

 

[basantchoudhary]

Rightly said, Sunita ji. Money makes a boy handsome and money makes the mare go. Everyone aspires for a comfortable living and tries to find an ideal combination of money and handsomeness/beauty. Majority of girls want a 'beau' with handsome financial standing. The era of Heer-Ranjha, Sheeri-Farhand, Laila-Majnoo and Romeo- Juliet is well nigh over. And that is what I call pragmatism.

Bhai wo era to ab bhi hai, aur pehle se jyada log hai, lekin wo hamari nazaro me nahi aata... bahut jyda log ho gaye hai paise ke peechhe bhagane wale ..
Heer-Ranjha wala kisaa ab realities show me bhi dekhane ko milta hai .. but sab nakali ..

 

[krishanchhillar]

Things or commodities that were considered luxuries in old days, say 20-30 years back, have become necessities now, Like Car, LCD/LED TV music system, L-shape sofa/ leather couches fridge/ microwave/ split AC etc. etc. etc. etc.etc.How could i forget NICE 3-4 bedroom house in posh area this list can go on n on to one's choice. So in past times only "Reputed Family" was sought after and "Land/property", now all know land is not the criteria(ज्यादातर की बिकगी) also in Metropolitan cities who gives a damn to-बढ़िया खानदान ? so the choice is groom centric and whole criteria revolves around the "BOY" Reason to this is moreso given by the girls themselves as they don't like to compromise with living standard and WHY SHOULD THEY? Everyone likes a comfortable life. If boys want a professionally qualified wife then girls want a boy with HANDSOME SALARY not a HANDSOME BOY WITH SMALL SALARY

P.S.- Money is not at all EVERYTHING BUT MAKES LIFE SO EASY and COMFORTABLE thats what most people want
The MANTRA is if a boy is earning a HANDSOME SALARY then he automatically becomes HANDSOME[लड़की के घर वालों या लड़की की नज़रों में ]

Sunita Hooda ji..said very true and right things..we can not run away from the reality...Few feel its better stay unmarried...Money matters..How the boys is ....hardly matters..And these things leads to more divorce cases in the society...

I was interviewed once ..though i got selected but i felt.very bad....I felt I my dealing my life..

 

[htomar]

किस्मत के लेख हैं सब. Sunita ji kismat ke lekh bhi hote hai par sab nahi hote.Kismat ko tabhi dosh dena chahiye jab apni kosis theek se ki ho.money matter to karti hai.but kis limit tak kare ye bhi sochna chahiye.only salary to nahi dekhni chahiye.ya only beauty for girls.wese aajkal dikhawa jyada hota hai.mohalle ,relatives ko dikhana ki humari ladki itne ache ghar mai gayi ya itni sundar bahu aayi.aur jo log only money ya beauty dekhte hai wo paftate bhi hai.lekin kah nahi paate.

आपके निजी विचार तो सुथरे अर्र नेक सें पर लुगाईयाँ का सौदा क्यूँ बना दिया आप नै ? आप नै सुन्दरता-पुन्दरता तो टेम्पररी बताये थे फेर एंडी सौदा अर्र काची लुगाई के न्यारे लेख लिखा कै आया करें? वैसे कई पाकी होड़ लुगयियाँ कै बी काचे छोरे थ्या जाया करें

सुथरी लुगाई भतेरी रोती अर्र दुखी देखी हैं...अर्र इस पै एक कहावत है-" रूप रोवे अर्र करम खावे"
यानि किस्मत के लेख हैं सब

 

[vikasjat]

भाई यो तो सीधा सा हिसाब किताब सै, जितनी ज्यादा salary हो छोरे की उतने ही ज्यादा चांस हों सै उसनै सुथरी बहू मिलन के I
कम salary नै देख के तो इसी उसी छोरी का रिश्ता भी ना आता I फेर तो बिहार मैं ए जाना पडे सै. ब्याह शादी तिजारत तैं कम थोड़े रह रह्या सै, पूरा मोल भाव होता है.
आजकल तो छोरी खुद ए कर लेवें सै सारी बूझ ताझ facebook पै .

VP Ji sahi kahi aapne bhi......
aajakl chori k parents se jyda vo khud detail nikal le hai.........
aur aajkal kuch cheezo ki priority hai:
1) Ladke ki Government job hai ya private.
2) Salary kitni hai.
3) Property (Kille ya plot) kitne hain?
4)Ladke k parents bhi job kare hain ya ni? kare hain to badiya se.
5) Parivar chota hai ya bada?
6) Ladke k parents city me reh hain ya gaam me.

Ye 6 cheeze jyda puchi ja hain ladki walo ki taraf se...........
ebb hum bichare ladke kya kya me k pass hova?????????

 

[anusha]

I think this is fair enough to look towards boy's salary.Because of high living standard & inflation today,being financially sound is must.Every girl wants some basic things like car,own house,going for outing once a week etc. because in a life full of unrest & stress,we try to find our peace from materialistic things.Morevover,you want to fit into the society you dwell in.So these things that were once a luxury are now necessity.Because of movement of girls in high flown professions,the living standard that they expect has rose,but since the roots of being finacially dependent on husband still prevail in society,they look for better earning guy.And when most of the boys also expect their wife to be working unlike past,why not the girls should look for money?It is actually the need of hour.And,it doesnt mean that boy's nature or family is not looked over,but a good salary is also important.Moreover,in past days,most of the boys stayed in their families,so if the family is finacially sound,that was ok but now because of neutral family concept,a girl has just her partner to rely upon for finances.So she has to consider his salary to decide.If we take luv marrg on other hand,the decision is fixed & based upon luv and not looking for the better options.So the salary or anything else doesnt matter much,because you look at your partner & not upon his salary.But in arranged marrg,you are open to look for the best choice always.Thats why you look at the guy's salary to have a comfortable life & every girl thinks she deserves it.

 

[cooljat]

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Well, you yourself proved that women are highly materialistic.

I think this is fair enough to look towards boy's salary.Because of high living standard & inflation today,being financially sound is must.Every girl wants some basic things like car,own house,going for outing once a week etc. because in a life full of unrest & stress,we try to find our peace from materialistic things.Morevover,you want to fit into the society you dwell in.So these things that were once a luxury are now necessity.Because of movement of girls in high flown professions,the living standard that they expect has rose,but since the roots of being finacially dependent on husband still prevail in society,they look for better earning guy.And when most of the boys also expect their wife to be working unlike past,why not the girls should look for money?It is actually the need of hour.And,it doesnt mean that boy's nature or family is not looked over,but a good salary is also important.Moreover,in past days,most of the boys stayed in their families,so if the family is finacially sound,that was ok but now because of neutral family concept,a girl has just her partner to rely upon for finances.So she has to consider his salary to decide.If we take luv marrg on other hand,the decision is fixed & based upon luv and not looking for the better options.So the salary or anything else doesnt matter much,because you look at your partner & not upon his salary.But in arranged marrg,you are open to look for the best choice always.Thats why you look at the guy's salary to have a comfortable life & every girl thinks she deserves it.