How much does salary affect in arrange marriage.

shivamchaudhary said:
Every time, when we meet someone (specially boy) for an arrange marriage proposal, the mostly asked question is salary not about the person's attitude or other attributes.

Now-a-days I am encountering many parents with lots of questions and specially this questions bothers me.

I wonder importance of this question !! They (parents) may suppose how much their daughter has to spent :p , if this is the case, this may be strong case to run away from arrange marriage :p

Anyway, I am opening discussion about importance of this question and is this question harming or not a person's dignity ??
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Shivam jee, it happens with girls also - the boy party wanting to know the salary of the girl. So take solace!

Regards,

Urmila.
 
urmiladuhan said:
Shivam jee, it happens with girls also - the boy party wanting to know the salary of the girl. So take solace!

Regards,

Urmila.
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Urmila Ji, Yahi to uljhan hai. Bachpan me seekhaya kuch jaata hai, jamane me dikhta kuch aur hai, aur karna kuch alag hi hota hai.

Salary ek baar poochh lo, kayi to yaha tak poochhate hai, saal me ek baar milti hai, ya har mahine. :) (Soft industry me yearly package par ek Sir ka question !)

Aap to Gurgaon ki haalat dekh hi rahi hongi, Kitni bhi salary ho, safety to nahi mil sakti yaha.
 
के बात स शिवम् ,बड़ा दुखी हो के ने तागा शुरू कर राख्या स तन्ने | मखा छोरियां ने देख देख के कती घीशा दिया तू | अर तेरी भी बीनाई कती कमजोर हो ली आँख पाड-पाड कें | हरयाणा में छोरियां की बाट मतना देखिये | आड़े ते पहलम तें-ए ५०% छोरे गाभरू तें बुढापे कानी अग्रसर सें | कदे तेरे भी हाथ में डोंगा आजा ,न्यू-ए बाट देख्दा रहया तो |---सद भावनाओं सहित |
 
ravinderjeet said:
के बात स शिवम् ,बड़ा दुखी हो के ने तागा शुरू कर राख्या स तन्ने | मखा छोरियां ने देख देख के कती घीशा दिया तू | अर तेरी भी बीनाई कती कमजोर हो ली आँख पाड-पाड कें | हरयाणा में छोरियां की बाट मतना देखिये | आड़े ते पहलम तें-ए ५०% छोरे गाभरू तें बुढापे कानी अग्रसर सें | कदे तेरे भी हाथ में डोंगा आजा ,न्यू-ए बाट देख्दा रहया तो |---सद भावनाओं सहित |
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Ravinder ji iski to jeeeb bahar aan ne ho ri hai ....................................
 
shivamchaudhary said:
Urmila Ji, Yahi to uljhan hai. Bachpan me seekhaya kuch jaata hai, jamane me dikhta kuch aur hai, aur karna kuch alag hi hota hai.

Salary ek baar poochh lo, kayi to yaha tak poochhate hai, saal me ek baar milti hai, ya har mahine. :) (Soft industry me yearly package par ek Sir ka question !)

Aap to Gurgaon ki haalat dekh hi rahi hongi, Kitni bhi salary ho, safety to nahi mil sakti yaha.
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Mere riste aale aaye ar jab manne apni tankha batayee to bole aajkal to package milta hai makha ji manne to tankha e mile hai.

Bhai Shivam pehle log jan pehchan walo ko beech mein rakh kar rishta tay karte the aaj log darte hain kahin kisi jankar ko pata lag jaye aur BHAANJI maar de. Isliye log apne man ko behlane ke liye tarah tarah ke sawal poochte hain taaki tassali ho jaye ki hamari beti ko khila pila sakta hai.

Kuch saal pehle gujjaro ki shadi tay karte time bola jata tha ki ye samne 8-10 feet unchi deevar kood ke dikha to unhe vishwas ho jata tha ki kam se kam chori karke hamari ladki ko khila pila sakta hai.

Shanshi/Chude aaj rishta tay karne aate hain to suar ka shikar karwate hain aur agar ladke wale fail to rishta nahi hota.

Jato mein crores ke package wale se ek sawal jaroor poochte hain "Dharti kitni aawe hai"

enjoy kar jo naseeb mein hogi usne koye susra kite lako le wa awe e awegi
 
ravinderjeet said:
उर्मिला जी ,यु के कह दिया | हाम ने ते किते सुणी,पढ़ी ना कदे |
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Ravinder jee, It is the boy and his party that comes to the girls house for the marriage and not the other way around. Perhaps there may be some truth in what Rakesh jee has written - again - who knows!
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
enjoy kar jo naseeb mein hogi usne koye susra kite lako le wa awe e awegi
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भाई राकेश, बात दुखी होने की या खुश होने की ना है. बात यो है की आखिर में आपको उन लोगो से ही जुड़ना होता है (यदि शादी arrange है.), जिनसे आप सुरुआत में irritate होते है.

अब रिस्तो की सुरुआत में ही खटाश आ जाये तो आगे की तो क्या कहना.

और आखिरी बात. मैं हर विचार को गहरायी देता हूँ, शायद सारी बात explain नहीं कर पाता, एक बार में; इसलिए आप सब मेरे लिए चिंतित होते है :) . चिंता की कोई बात ना है.
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
Mere riste aale aaye ar jab manne apni tankha batayee to bole aajkal to package milta hai makha ji manne to tankha e mile hai.

Bhai Shivam pehle log jan pehchan walo ko beech mein rakh kar rishta tay karte the aaj log darte hain kahin kisi jankar ko pata lag jaye aur BHAANJI maar de. Isliye log apne man ko behlane ke liye tarah tarah ke sawal poochte hain taaki tassali ho jaye ki hamari beti ko khila pila sakta hai.

Kuch saal pehle gujjaro ki shadi tay karte time bola jata tha ki ye samne 8-10 feet unchi deevar kood ke dikha to unhe vishwas ho jata tha ki kam se kam chori karke hamari ladki ko khila pila sakta hai.

Shanshi/Chude aaj rishta tay karne aate hain to suar ka shikar karwate hain aur agar ladke wale fail to rishta nahi hota.

Jato mein crores ke package wale se ek sawal jaroor poochte hain "Dharti kitni aawe hai"

enjoy kar jo naseeb mein hogi usne koye susra kite lako le wa awe e awegi
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Urmila ji ye kaam ladki wale ladke walo se karwate hain

Meine jo likha wo sach hai some nahi purnasatya


Shivam riste judna koye mazak nahi hota ek rishta saat peedhi chalta hai koye bhi aadmi tassali karke rishta jodta hai

Hamare samaj mein rishte todne ka rivaj kam hi hai
better safe then sorry
Kal tu bhi apni behan ke liye rishta dekhega to tu bhi apni poori tassali karega unke najariye se bhi soch aur dukhi hone ki bajaye unhe bhi mauka de taki wo aapke parivar ko acche se samajh sakein
 
shivamchaudhary said:
भाई राकेश, बात दुखी होने की या खुश होने की ना है. बात यो है की आखिर में आपको उन लोगो से ही जुड़ना होता है (यदि शादी arrange है.), जिनसे आप सुरुआत में irritate होते है.

अब रिस्तो की सुरुआत में ही खटाश आ जाये तो आगे की तो क्या कहना.

Look at the whole thing as a job - you are interviewed by your potential employer (read in- laws) - asked some difficult questions (such as salary) - and in the end if acceptable to both parties, the deal is sealed (i.e., marriage). In my view, arranged marriage is like a government job - it provides security, endurance, but othe than that don't have much other expectations. Jo maal aa gaya (i.e., girl/boy) whether you like it or not, is there for good as well!
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urmiladuhan said:
shivamchaudhary said:
भाई राकेश, बात दुखी होने की या खुश होने की ना है. बात यो है की आखिर में आपको उन लोगो से ही जुड़ना होता है (यदि शादी arrange है.), जिनसे आप सुरुआत में irritate होते है.

अब रिस्तो की सुरुआत में ही खटाश आ जाये तो आगे की तो क्या कहना.

Look at the whole thing as a job - you are interviewed by your potential employer (read in- laws) - asked some difficult questions (such as salary) - and in the end if acceptable to both parties, the deal is sealed (i.e., marriage). In my view, arranged marriage is like a government job - it provides security, endurance, but othe than that don't have much other expectations. Jo maal aa gaya (i.e., girl/boy) whether you like it or not, is there for good as well!
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Still more then 99% of population of India love for being in Govt. job
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urmiladuhan said:
Taking bride by force from the Father- in- Law! Perhaps it was the Jat culture in olden days. Who knows!
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Urmila Ji, I disagree respectfully. ''Perhaps'' couldnt be a right word when you infer olden days and associate the strong words like culture with it. Reading your statement is like reading Sukhbir Siwach in TOI. Kindly explain and eloborate, Thanks.
 
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