Live in relationships ..?

Are you in favour of Live-in relationships

  • yes

    Votes: 17 16.8%

  • no

    Votes: 77 76.2%

  • may be yes..may be no

    Votes: 7 6.9%
  • Total voters
    101
I Believe, LIR is yet another fancy jargon given by the westeners for 'illicit relationships' to make (appear) it more acceptable to the civilized society.

Here, two young earning individuals (living far from their hometown take the advantage) meet with no clear long term Vision/Mission in their relationship to enjoy on the likes of married couple with no strings attached, with no 'legal obligations' to be held accountable for any wrong doings.

All remains well quite for sometime, but soon the charm gradually falls. Problem arises when either one of them gets serious (if both were non-serious initially) or either one of them gets non serious (of both were serious initially).

To me, it's finding a win win situation for those who don't believe in.. shaadi ka laddu

'जो खाए पछताए..जो न खाए वो ललचाये.. '

Changing it to... लड्डू खाओ बिना पछताए के
 
सतिंदर भाई ने माडे से शब्दां में बड्डा सा जबाब दे दिया इह तें बढ़िया और बेलेंस कोए ज़बाब नहीं हो सकदा |
 
Bhai mene pahle hi kaha tha ki mei Live-in ko support nahi kar raha..
jaha tak 30+ hone ki baat hai ladki ki to sab jaanboojhkar to nahi hoti..pta to unhe bhi hai ki baad mai preshaniya hoti hai.
lekin har kisi ki koi naa koi prblm hoti hai tabhi der hoti hai shadi mai..wahi bat kahi thi...
baaki jaisa aapne kaha..sabki apni apni samjh..

rakeshsehrawat said:
Samajhdari ka to bhai ghana sa bera na mein wohi likhta hoon jo mein sochta hoon.

Age jyada hone se shaadi mein aati preshaniya to medical dept. bhi bata dega chori 30+ to chora bhi 35+ fer balak hon mein preshani aawe hai. Bhai India mein chalan mein isliye aya kyonki videsho mein chal raha tha fir ispe Prety Zinta ar Saif Ali khan ki film aagi ar loga ne dekha yu badhiya sauda hai. Kun khamkha biyah ke chakkar mein pade 90% live in aalya ka to unke maa babu ne bhi na bera hota ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai.

Kul mila ke mere hisab se ye ek GALAT hi cheej hai baaki sabki apni samajh.
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Sahi kaha tomar sahab tumne bhi.Kayi bar ladke/ladkiya apne carrier/studies kai liye bhi shadi avoid karte hai.This is very common in today's world.Nobody wants to get marrried before 30,as today's generation thinks that theor freedom will be spoiled after marriage & it's true to some extent as well.

Rahi baat Living relationship ki ,yeh sab western culture ki den hai & it shows the gradual change in our indain society.LIr has more negative points than the positive points.According to today's genation in living relation ,they get enough time to understand each other & if understandind did not meet,they break up the relation without thinking the consequences.AS they dont bother about the society,according to them their freedom is much more important than our tradition & culture...........
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
Samajhdari ka to bhai ghana sa bera na mein wohi likhta hoon jo mein sochta hoon.

Age jyada hone se shaadi mein aati preshaniya to medical dept. bhi bata dega chori 30+ to chora bhi 35+ fer balak hon mein preshani aawe hai. Bhai India mein chalan mein isliye aya kyonki videsho mein chal raha tha fir ispe Prety Zinta ar Saif Ali khan ki film aagi ar loga ne dekha yu badhiya sauda hai. Kun khamkha biyah ke chakkar mein pade 90% live in aalya ka to unke maa babu ne bhi na bera hota ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai.

Kul mila ke mere hisab se ye ek GALAT hi cheej hai baaki sabki apni samajh.
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Rakesh likhda rehya kar...Tere vicharan bina adhooori sai Jatland !!
 
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rakeshsehrawat said:
Samajhdari ka to bhai ghana sa bera na mein wohi likhta hoon jo mein sochta hoon.

Age jyada hone se shaadi mein aati preshaniya to medical dept. bhi bata dega chori 30+ to chora bhi 35+ fer balak hon mein preshani aawe hai. Bhai India mein chalan mein isliye aya kyonki videsho mein chal raha tha fir ispe Prety Zinta ar Saif Ali khan ki film aagi ar loga ne dekha yu badhiya sauda hai. Kun khamkha biyah ke chakkar mein pade 90% live in aalya ka to unke maa babu ne bhi na bera hota ibe dilli mein ek chori mari thee uske maa baap soche the wa Singapore mein hai ye to dilli haryana wale the ib koye aagi aade Bihar Bangal Tamilnadu se use gharke kunsa dekhan aawe hain aade kis gel reh hai.

Kul mila ke mere hisab se ye ek GALAT hi cheej hai baaki sabki apni samajh.
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Rakesh likhda rehya kar...Tere vicharan bina adhooori sai Jatland !!
 
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rakeshsehrawat said:
aaj chori madi padhi likhi ho gayee to nakhre badh ho gaye aur aise hi talak ke case bhi abbal ho gaye.

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Rakeshjee, education increases understanding and maturity level of a person.

But what you are saying is that education of girls is detrimental to marriage. I suggest you do some introspection as to what causes divorce - you might even be surprised at the result. Kindly post your views.

I think, a mature person is more successful at handling marriage and the responsibility that comes with it.

I think awareness in educated woman about their rights especially basic human rights has led to increase in divorce rate in India.

Regards,

Urmila.


p.s: may I also add that little education is a dangerous thing! perhaps this is what you mean by the 'nakhra' of the so called educated girls.
A 10th standard pass woman who got married sometime in 1960's seemed full of ther 10th degree when she said about her simpleton village folk in -laws : "saara unpad sauda tha"! (सारा अनपड सौदा था! )
 
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urmiladuhan said:
Rakeshjee, education increases understanding and maturity level of a person.

But what you are saying is that education of girls is detrimental to marriage. I suggest you do some introspection as to what causes divorce - you might even be surprised at the result. Kindly post your views.

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Excerpt from : http://www.indidivorce.com/divorce-rate-in-india.html

Even though India still boasts of that nearly hundred percent of the marriages are a success, rapid urbanization and awareness of various rights are now instigating the divorce rate to shoot up. Empowerment of women has initiated the dissolution of marriage in urban areas as financially educated women are now open to the option of ending the relationship rather than to bear life long abuses silently. The campaigns on gender equality are now giving rise to ego clashes between the husband and wife, especially if the wife too is the bread earner of the family.

A survey states that over the past four years the divorce rate in Delhi, the capital city of India has almost doubled and is projected to be 12000 by the year 2008. In 2006, Bangalore, the IT hub of India it was recorded that 1,246 cases of divorce were filed in the court that pertain to the IT sector exclusively. It has been estimated Mumbai has shot up to 4,138 in 2007 while cities that are acknowledged for their cultural richness and social values like Kolkata and Chennai, are no less behind. Agro based states like Punjab and Haryana are now seeing an increase of 150% of divorce rate since the last decade. Kerala, known to be the most literate state has experienced an increase of divorce rate by 350% in the last 10 years.

Around 20 years back India had a negligible divorce rate of around 5%. But based on the increasing number of divorce being filed today, the divorce rate in India is expected to rise up at a faster rate by the ensuing year.
 
urmiladuhan said:
Rakeshjee, education increases understanding and maturity level of a person.

But what you are saying is that education of girls is detrimental to marriage. I suggest you do some introspection as to what causes divorce - you might even be surprised at the result. Kindly post your views.

I think, a mature person is more successful at handling marriage and the responsibility that comes with it.

I think awareness in educated woman about their rights especially basic human rights has led to increase in divorce rate in India.

Regards,

Urmila.


p.s: may I also add that little education is a dangerous thing! perhaps this is what you mean by the 'nakhra' of the so called educated girls.
A 10th standard pass woman who got married sometime in 1960's seemed full of ther 10th degree when she said about her simpleton village folk in -laws : "saara unpad sauda tha"! (सारा अनपड सौदा था! )
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Education does increases ones maturity level, provided one gets him/herself educated and not just literate. What percentage of girls get admission to get higher education to actually get themselves educated? My feeling is that, in case of rural and semi-rural areas, the majority of girls (around 70%) get a higher degree certificate to get eligible for good salaried husband. No wonder that soon these girls, who work little towards enhancement of their own maturity level, start behaving as they are the most worthy and powerful people in the family. Obliviously, a lot of this attitude is provoked by women upliftment campaigns, not all of which are intended for the actual cause and vision.
 
aaj chori madi padhi likhi ho gayee to nakhre badh ho gaye aur aise hi talak ke case bhi abbal ho gaye.
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Talak ki situation padai ke wajah se nhi compatible na hone ki wajah se hote hai, koi anpadh pade likhe se shadi kare ya koi pada likha kisi unpadh se...problem tou aayegi hi better yahi hoga ki shadi dhyan se kare..woh us bandae ke sath jo har tarah se aapke equal ho, financially ek baar chal jata hai par mentally nhi..

Or rhi living relationship ki baat tou jo subject hi galat hai us par discussion kar ke kya fayda, kon se parents chahengae ke unke bacche living relationship mai ho..yeh western culture hai, mai samajti hun ki kuch log isae shi bhi mante hongae but jo cheez bade bujurg aur parents ki najro mai galat hoti hai 99% unka result bhi galat hi hota hai..
 
Arvindc said:
Education does increases ones maturity level, provided one gets him/herself educated and not just literate. What percentage of girls get admission to get higher education to actually get themselves educated? My feeling is that, in case of rural and semi-rural areas, the majority of girls (around 70%) get a higher degree certificate to get eligible for good salaried husband. No wonder that soon these girls, who work little towards enhancement of their own maturity level, start behaving as they are the most worthy and powerful people in the family. Obliviously, a lot of this attitude is provoked by women upliftment campaigns, not all of which are intended for the actual cause and vision.
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इतना ये हंगा सा तह घर है बाहर कुछ कर के, बन के दीखाओ - कितनी कीमत है आप की पढ़ाई लिखाई में us का पता चल जायेगा - लडकी को भी उस के husband को भी और लडकी के in laws को भी. बाकि लडके को भी ये समझ न छाहेयाए की अपने से कमज़ोर (wife who is dependent on him) को दबा के रखना कोई महान काम नहीं है - इतना ही हंगा है तोह दुनिया मे कुछ आचा/naya कर के दीखाओ. घर में शेर और बाहर ढेर!

Regards,

Urmila.
 
riyaa said:
Or rhi living relationship ki baat tou jo subject hi galat hai us par discussion kar ke kya fayda, kon se parents chahengae ke unke bacche living relationship mai ho..yeh western culture hai, mai samajti hun ki kuch log isae shi bhi mante hongae but jo cheez bade bujurg aur parents ki najro mai galat hoti hai 99% unka result bhi galat hi hota hai..
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Your comments are quite conservative and unoriginal.

Regards,

Urmila.
 
LIR is nothing but going back few thousands years back, there is no mordern thinking or education involved, it is an unsocial/ animal behaviour, but if some society accept such activity than it become social animal behaviour and no body has any objection, If such individuals get married lateron than it is ok but suppose they get a child and donot get married, in that case what happens to such a child, in our country sexual relations without marriage are considered illegal, thus any sexual relation of such couple has to be illegal. To cut short Good or Bad is matter of thinking of an individual/society/astablished legal provisions
 
Couple argues over cupboards in divorce case
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Compatibility ka to isa hai loga ki umar likad jya hai compatibility ka to bera bhi na pat-ta. Aur waise bhi rishte koi nut bolt ki tarah nahi hote ki precise chudi nahi hogi to matching nahi hogi. Everyone got some flaws.Kitne logo ke sath live in rakhna chahiye taki pata lag sake ki aap IS ke sath compatible ho.



[h=1]Divorce rates go up in Gurgaon[/h]Yogesh Kumar, TNN Sep 22, 2010, 04.05am IST
GURGAON: Its an every day story at Gurgaon's court number six. The court, which is famous for the much-publicised break-up between late BJP leader Pramod Mahajans son Rahul and his wife Shweta in 2007, has seen a disturbing increase in the number of divorce applications being filed by Gurgaons young couples.
Stress, overwork and compatibility issues, according to legal experts, are some of the reasons the couples cite for divorce. Court number six gets one divorce application every alternate day and most of them come from couples in the high income category.
Gurgaon gets about 15 divorce cases in a month, which is quite high compared to the size of its population and probably higher than neighbour Delhi, which is quite alarming.
 
rakeshsehrawat said:
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Rakesh jee, your post does not defend your assertion that it is the education of girls that is responsible for their behavioral problem i.e., 'nakhra' and for dissolution of marriage in India. What in your opinion is the role of education in this problem? How can it be rectified?

Regards,

Urmila.
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