~~~~~ ? Love is an old wine ? ~~~~~

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Hmmm ! Sounds interesting ! :p

Well, a very genuine question arose in my mind and I thought of seeking opinions here, coz this is a place where multitudes of experiences pour down and mostly it satiates the quench behind asking the question. :)

Coming to the topic now, I have often observed that when a person enters into any kind of "love" relationship, then that relationship witnesses various kinds of phases on its passage down the lane of time. At times the couple feels totally mad for each other, at some other times they feel secure and cared over, but there are times too when this relationship sees gloomy clouds and the same people get a feel of asking their souls out, whether am I loving a right person or was I wrong till date and all the love was an instant infatuation coupled with no use of the practical head ? And hereby sinks in fumes of despair and even some events crop up which end up looking sour. Some relationships come out of this phase unhurt and with a winning smile, but some even just end up leaving behind fields of sorrows ! Now, what I wish to ask comprises of some questions which go like this :

1- Is love a bubble, I mean is love a feeling which is meant to be shortlived or can it be life-long ?

2- A usual quote "Aaj hi saari pyar ke baate mat kar lo, kal ke liye bhi to kuch bachao, kahi aisa na ho ki kal baate hi na mile karne ko" - Does expressing love loses its charm if its expressed daily or frequently ? Here I would love to listen from those 'married' persons who have been happily married since years but today also they feel 'genuinely attached' to their spouse and what is it that binds them together and make them feel incomplete without each other even today? And, have they ever felt that they have been left with so less to talk about and how they manage to get out if ever they feel so?

3- In today's times there are hoards of people which wander in search of a new love every now and then because they are not able to live into one relation for long for one reason of the other, and there are even people who find no fault in being in more than one relation at a time. This may give some instant pleasures but there is no possibility of a common 'happy ending' for all parties involved, but it happens, so why do you think such a situation occurs? Why people want love but with no tags attached ? Is it right ?

4- In the end it will be too funny to ask, but let it be ! What is love ? How one can ensure that he or she is in love and its not an infatuation or attraction ?

5- We have had many tips here about how to make husbands happy, women happy etc, now how to make a lover happy ? And how to make a relation really nice and be in it whole life ?


So, everyone is invited to answer whether loves taste better as it grows old, as a wine is said to be :)
 
Views of kids about wat is love?

Since a very long time ago, people have searched for the meaning of love. But even the great philosophers, with their profound definitions, could not fully touch its true essence. In a survey of 4-8 year olds, kids share their views on love. But what do little kids know about love? Read on and be surprised that despite their young and innocent minds, kids already have a simple but deep grasp of that four-letter word.


"Love is that first feeling you feel before all the bad stuff gets in the way."


"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

"When someone loves you, the way she says your name is different. You know that your name is safe in her mouth."

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."

"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at him because you know it would hurt his feelings."

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss but they look happy and sometimes they dance in the kitchen while kissing."

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"Love is what's in the room with you at Christmas if you stop opening presents and listen." ​


"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."


"When you tell someone something bad about yourself and you're scared she won't love you anymore. But then you get surprised because not only does she still love you, she loves you even more."

"There are 2 kinds of love. Our love. God's love. But God makes both kinds of them."


"Love is when you tell a guy you like his shirt, then he wears it everyday."
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"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they've know each other so well."


"During my piano recital, I was on a stage and scared. I looked at all the people watching me and saw my daddy waving and smiling. He was the only one doing that. I wasn't scared anymore."


"Love is-if you hold hands and sit beside each other in the cafeteria. That means you're in love. Otherwise, you can sit across from each other and be okay."


"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."

"Love is when mommy gives daddy the best piece of chicken."

"Don't feel so bad if you don't have a boyfriend. There's lots of stuff you can do without one."


"Love is when mommy sees daddy smelly and sweaty and still says he is handsomer than Robert Redford."


"If you want somebody to love you, then just be yourself. Some people try to act like somebody else, somebody the boy likes better. I think the boy isn't being very good if he does this to you and you should just find a nicer boy."

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day"

"When you're born and see your mommy for the first time.


"Love goes on even when you stop breathing and you pick up where you left off when you reach heaven."

"My enemies taught me how to love." ​


"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

"You have to fall in love before you get married. Then when you're married, you just sit around and read books together."

"I let my big sister pick on me because my Mom says she only picks on me because she loves me. So I pick on my baby sister because I love her."

"Love cards like Valentine's cards say stuff on them that we'd like to say ourselves, but we wouldn't be caught dead saying."

"When you love somebody, your eyelashes go up and down and little stars come out of you."

"Love is when mommy sees daddy on the toilet and she doesn't think it's gross."
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"You never have to be lonely. There's always somebody to love, even if it's just a squirrel or a kitten."

"You can break love, but it won't die." ​
 
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Love is when v go crazy kissin ...even though he smells of beer,,onions,,,cigarettes..

Love is when u look up 4 him to turn up--all day,,n wen he does,,u find excuses to disappear...

Love is the constant fear,at d bk of ur mind,,dat u r on a high (alrighty Poons-its a drug,,worse than methylamphetamine) ,,n God may make u fall down badly...with a loud thud,,n ul lose him!

Love is wen u cook his fav things,,do stuff 4 him,,n pretend,,u did it just like dat,,out of a whim,had no other options...cudnt care less!

Love is when he asks--Did u miss him? n u r all flushed, white knuckled,,n put an act of givin an offhand, rude reply..n suddenly regret ur guts off!

Love is when u r writin in such threads,,,n worry dat he NEVER reads them!!
 
Mannai Koodan dyo maidan mai !!!

I dont know .. in the earlier threads i have put my these thoughts or not !
yet again here are they !!

I read in a book ... "A Road Less Traveled" .. Shweta .. Love is not a feeling for sure ... my little exp. nearing 2 yrs now married life with my loving(u see hopefully love will be there till heaven is there) wife tells me that its not a feeling for sure ...

U know Time is the biggest enemy of feelings ... Feelings die with time if u dont speak to ur best friend for a long time then feelings of so called best friendship itself dies .. And IF some near and dear ones die then after Cries of a month or so ... everything settles down as there was nothing happened ! It always helps too .. so Time is the biggest friend of Us .. It heals everything i really mean it really everything ...

Initial days of marriage are all honeymoon days and anywhere u feel on the moon .. I tell you no need to visit Manali (the most common honeymoon spot yes i know it is :p) when u are in 1st year of marriage. Still people go there in 1st week itself dont know y :confused: !

As time goes on ... The Current u know sensation goes downhill and number of cuddles, touches, embraces, kisses decrease yes they do ! believe it or not !!

U STILL SAY THAT I Love my counterpart !
Because U do ! Really u do ... There is a chapter in the book . LOVE IS WORK .. Constant work . You have to toll hard to stay in love. I have not seen my dad cuddles my mom in my whole life.. But still they love each other.. One have to work because u will have to remember birthdate of his/her's , u will have to ask "what's wrong" when it seems there is something wrong , u will have to take her for a movie BHAIYON , you will have to do things (which show u care for Him/Her) ur whole LIFE.

Ub likh toh kitna hi lyo .. Per all in all ... Love is not a Feeling ...

But remember Love's Labor never lost !! So if u love her/him do something !!
u know do is the "helping verb" used where ever some work is going to happen !!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

Last but not least ... this all is not only for love birds ... love for anyone Brother, Sister, Mom, Dad and really anyone



CHEERS .. All the Loving and Loved People out there

Waiting for ur comments ... Senior people out there having loads of experience
 
Gud!! or may be like heart on Beer!! :p;):p

Cant really say much here as I've not experienced this divine feeling called Luv....but, but if Luv is like a rare old wine!!...then it wud certainly feel like heaven!! :rolleyes:

Rock on
Jit


Love is like a brain on drugs....:D
 
life without love is like flower without fragance

love is an asset for every body . it gives the strength at the weak moments in the life and makes u stronger enough to cross all the hardles and reach ur distination.The older it is , the stronger it is. More u share the more u get in return .love is a beautiful feeling which makes the earth a better place to live in.
 
simple

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen, Love and Death :D:D
 
Love is child of an illusion and father of delusion.


Some ******* endorphins working in headoffice. and ya no real love exists other than lady who has womb connection for you. rest may show care n concern for you.
 
shwetadhaka said:
"When my grandmother got arthritis, she couldn't bend over and paint her toenails anymore. So my grandfather does it for her all the time, even when his hands got arthritis too. That's love."

"When someone loves you, the way she says your name is different. You know that your name is safe in her mouth."

"Love is when a girl puts on perfume and a boy puts on shaving cologne and they go out and smell each other."

"Love is when you go out to eat and give somebody most of your french fries without making them give you any of theirs."

"Love is when someone hurts you. And you get so mad but you don't yell at him because you know it would hurt his feelings."

"Love is what makes you smile when you're tired."

"Love is when my mommy makes coffee for my daddy and she takes a sip before giving it to him, to make sure the taste is OK."

"Love is when you kiss all the time. Then when you get tired of kissing, you still want to be together and you talk more. My mommy and daddy are like that. They look gross when they kiss but they look happy and sometimes they dance in the kitchen while kissing."
"Love is hugging. Love is kissing. Love is saying no."
"Love is like a little old woman and a little old man who are still friends even after they've known each other so well."

"Love is-if you hold hands and sit beside each other in the cafeteria. That means you're in love. Otherwise, you can sit across from each other and be okay."


"My mommy loves me more than anybody. You don't see anyone else kissing me to sleep at night."


"If you want somebody to love you, then just be yourself. Some people try to act like somebody else"

"Love is when your puppy licks your face even after you left him alone all day"

"When you're born and see your mommy for the first time.

"You really shouldn't say 'I love you' unless you mean it. But if you mean it, you should say it a lot. People forget."

"You never have to be lonely. There's always somebody to love, even if it's just a squirrel or a kitten."

"You can break love, but it won't die." ​


I am loving myself Shweta!

I dont know .. in the earlier threads i have put my these thoughts or not !
yet again here are they !!

I read in a book ... "A Road Less Traveled" .. Shweta .. Love is not a feeling for sure!

CHEERS .. All the Loving and Loved People out there

Waiting for ur comments ... Senior people out there having loads of experience

Absolutely, love can never be a feeling! But, it’s definitely an emotion towards some person or some thing!
Love can be:
Shraddha – for Parents or our seniors!
Sneh – for our Children or younger ones!
Bhakti – towards God
Moh – for Money etc.
Mamta – with animals/birds/humans
Mohabbat/Pyaar – with Wife/Husband
Dostana/Yarana – with our nearest friend (and not whole lot of friends!)

"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen, Love and Death :D:D

I don't want to suffer while reading all this:D Although, I have already suffered a lot!;)

I love you all! Keep loving yourselves! Always!!:)​
 
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samar well said.ma ke pyar ke alava har pyar me kahi na kahi swarth chuppa hota hai.
Love is child of an illusion and father of delusion.


Some ******* endorphins working in headoffice. and ya no real love exists other than lady who has womb connection for you. rest may show care n concern for you.
 
"To love is to suffer. To avoid suffering one must not love. But then one suffers from not loving. Therefore to love is to suffer, not to love is to suffer. To suffer is to suffer. To be happy is to love. To be happy then is to suffer. But suffering makes one unhappy. Therefore, to be unhappy one must love, or love to suffer, or suffer from too much happiness. I hope you're getting this down." - Woody Allen, Love and Death :D:D


It sounds very negative, whereas love is the most "positive feeling". Love gives you purpose of life.Your sufferings are due to disappointments from over expectations.In fact our high expectations from any relationship is the root cause for are disappointments and sufferings. Love is giving and giving only. love is selfless. So vivek don't stop loving.

with lots of love and cheers!
 
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Love...old wine...hmmm.......not bad at all shweta....That must be something surely great.....grapes taste real gud....and.......old wine must be heaven then....very much like the innocent eyes of kids ...and.......warmth and coziness one can sense in the eyes of an old couple with few words and many unsaid understandings.....one with eyes of dreams of tomorrow..and other with the lovely experiences of past and present.... But I guess both share something wonderful...called love
Faces and expression of love may vary depending upon the shape of relation....but i m sure love at every stage discover its own language......be it innocent smiles in school days.....be it words....be it moments of joy...be it lovely arguments....be it the blank phone call mumma wait for after a fight with dad, even after so many years......be it a concern shown by grany although she know that grandpa would do irrespective of what she suggest....but she know that her words are awaited as they mean something more than mere words of concern.........
Perhaps any journey accompanied with the sweetness and bitterness of love.....carry its own kind of charm...... Tears and smiles together speak volumes....
 
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for me its very simple

when you 'care' for other person, his feelings, his needs and wishes, it is true love

if you 'care' for your own desire, possessiveness, jealousy, its not love, its infatuation

for me loving means 'to care'
 
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