deepika singhroha (May 07, 2003 06:26 a.m.):
gosh!!!!!!!!!!
i think its high time when one shud realize the difference between creative core of a person and struggle.she may b successfull at this point of time but till when...........her parents have broke up.....do u ppl think this price is right to b paid for that so called SUCCESS.its to easy to oppose someone but one shud have solid reason.those who r not agree wid me do they have sufficient reasons.
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Ms. Singhroha:
I am not sure what reasons you are referring to, for single handedly and categorically denouncing Mallika’s actions? However, here is the response to your very last line... First of all why don’t you allow people to speak their mind rather than simply expect them to agree with you? You may have noticed there are many who have echoed your voice, yet some who feel it is “none of their business to contemplate something on someone else’s behalf?” In all fairness, how can we ruminate about such issues as a single entity? Fair equation, right?
Hello people…
How do we know what must have transpired in Mallika's quest to reach where she wanted to be? There is so much else that is “not right” within our community, do we challenge everything and anything that is associated with the word “Jat?” As far as Mallika's success or failure is concerned, it hasn’t been concluded, yet, one way or the other! And even if that were the case, she alone bears responsibility for her actions.
We are neither in her, nor her parents’ shoes! Neither are we the "prosecuting attorney" the “defending lawyer” nor the “jury!” A crime has not been committed here, and yet she has been put on trial by people who hardly know her? This is a public forum and yes, people have the right to speak their mind, but not pass personal judgement. This not a public court! No one (at least as her representative) has asked any opinion! Being a Jat, Ishwar uncle may have felt obligated to share the news. I am not even sure why another thread had to be started for same topic? Wouldn’t it have been perfectly fine to express comments right under the same thread: “Jat Girl Malika Sehrawat with leading role in Hindi Film?” This in itself was pretty broad topic, and would have allowed room for a healthy discussion? So much for being sensitive…
How would people on this board like to be evaluated on "how well" or "how poorly" they are doing in their respective fields or their lives? How would anyone here like to discuss his or her family disputes or feuds, successes (successes may be) and failures? Don’t we all have some thing that hasn’t stood test of times? Don’t we all have something to regret; something to feel proud of; and something to just let go? At an individual level we are very selective in sharing "only that pleases our senses." It is with this same understanding we must allow this young woman to practice her rights. Any volunteers… to be judged about why someone chose to be in certain profession… and how many people were upset and or offended by his/her decision? And whether the entire community’s consensus was taken for that M.Sc. or Ph.D. degree, or for going into medicine or sports or computer sciences? I am sure people deliberated over pros and cons for their own future and not what would happen to the entire community, unless it was a profession with shame attached to it?
Yes, there are some steamy scenes, and yes the tabloids have taken their own jab at adding mirch masala. And yes, at a personal level many of us would refrain from choosing a profession that would raise eyebrows. But even with all that scrutiny such judgement should be preserved for personal application, it should stay within the context of our own domain… our own daughter, our own wife, or own sister. And finally, in our “creative core” we all have certain principles that guide us, and one of them reminds us “thou shall not judge others…” It is basic human courtesy to live and let live…
Not too long ago there was a request from Dhanesh Kumar for all community members to post their pictures here. Some enthusiasts had it ready and posted promptly, however there was one member who "politely declined to accept this popularly accepted view!"
Simple as that... not every one here shares the same values or views as far as personal dicisions or moral grounds are concerned. No, posting a picture can not be compared with choosing a profession, however, the principle remains same...we must respect each other's privacy and individual rights!