^~@ Marriages are made in HeAvEn ?? @~^

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A very old proclamation which can be heard every now and then ! But it is quite often said that marriages are made in heaven. Is there any logic behind this?

I have seen many a couples embracing the wedlock in a much unanticipated manner; they liked someone else, situations turned them apart and they end up marrying someone who was nowhere in the picture earlier. Many a times a person searches for his or her soul mate but it takes too long for that search to bear fruit, and then all of a sudden when he is tired of this prolonged search, he finds that special one in an unexpected manner !

Is all this a game of fate, or just a play of coincidence, a fluke ? It would be great to listen to people who wish to share any such incident or how they met their life partner or did it came as a surprise for them or it felt pre-destined ?
 
shwetadhaka said:
A very old proclamation which can be heard every now and then ! But it is quite often said that marriages are made in heaven. Is there any logic behind this?

I have seen many a couples embracing the wedlock in a much unanticipated manner; they liked someone else, situations turned them apart and they end up marrying someone who was nowhere in the picture earlier. Many a times a person searches for his or her soul mate but it takes too long for that search to bear fruit, and then all of a sudden when he is tired of this prolonged search, he finds that special one in an unexpected manner !

Is all this a game of fate, or just a play of coincidence, a fluke ? It would be great to listen to people who wish to share any such incident or how they met their life partner or did it came as a surprise for them or it felt pre-destined ?
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mere khayaal se ... matlab ye hai " Dhadh ne Dhadh Ganga ji pe toh le"
kaafi log hote hain ..... seedhiyon main baith ke rote rehte hain ... ki hi wo nahi mila/mili .. ghar wale kisi se bhi pakad ke shaadi kerwa dete hain ... phir bachhe ... phir aage....... charm less ek duty poori kerte hain .... iska matlab hi "marriages are made in haven hai" to bhai hum to kise ne aape dhoondh lyaawaange ...... pher bera na us ne ke kawenge .. wah bhi te haven main e likhhi hogi ......

:confused::confused::confused::confused: Confused in this matter .... pher to kisse ne bhi aan dyo ....
 
sanjeetsparp said:
mere khayaal se ... matlab ye hai " Dhadh ne Dhadh Ganga ji pe toh le"
kaafi log hote hain ..... seedhiyon main baith ke rote rehte hain ... ki hi wo nahi mila/mili .. ghar wale kisi se bhi pakad ke shaadi kerwa dete hain ... phir bachhe ... phir aage....... charm less ek duty poori kerte hain .... iska matlab hi "marriages are made in haven hai" to bhai hum to kise ne aape dhoondh lyaawaange ...... pher bera na us ne ke kawenge .. wah bhi te haven main e likhhi hogi ......

:confused::confused::confused::confused: Confused in this matter .... pher to kisse ne bhi aan dyo ....
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bhaishab aap kye kehna chaa rehe the.. :confused::confused::confused:
 
sanjeetsparp said:
mere khayaal se ... matlab ye hai " Dhadh ne Dhadh Ganga ji pe toh le"
kaafi log hote hain ..... seedhiyon main baith ke rote rehte hain ... ki hi wo nahi mila/mili .. ghar wale kisi se bhi pakad ke shaadi kerwa dete hain ... phir bachhe ... phir aage....... charm less ek duty poori kerte hain .... iska matlab hi "marriages are made in haven hai" to bhai hum to kise ne aape dhoondh lyaawaange ...... pher bera na us ne ke kawenge .. wah bhi te haven main e likhhi hogi ......

:confused::confused::confused::confused: Confused in this matter .... pher to kisse ne bhi aan dyo ....
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:confused::confused: .......... hainnnn ????

:) ....... haanji aap jisko pakad laayenge wo bhi heaven ki permission ke bina nahi milegi aapko ......... mai puchna chahti hoon ki sach me aisa hota hai ki kahi kuch likha hota hai kismat me, aur saari koshishe kar ke bhi ant me wohi milta hai ya fir aisa nahi hai ?
 
Peta nahi ???? kuch bujurg logon ke experience ... or andruni baatein nikalni padengi ...... abhi to yehaan is maamle main inexperienced hain
 
Peta nahi ...... is baare main ... kuch experienced logon ka experience chahiyega is matter main ........ kuch parde ke saamne ki baatein kuch parde ke peeche ki ....
ab parde ke peeche ki baatein ...public portal pe .......:confused:
 
sanjeetsparp said:
Peta nahi ...... is baare main ... kuch experienced logon ka experience chahiyega is matter main ........ kuch parde ke saamne ki baatein kuch parde ke peeche ki ....
ab parde ke peeche ki baatein ...public portal pe .......:confused:
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Isme aisi to koi baat nahi hai ........ parde ke peeche waali ...... :rolleyes: ..... koi experience batana chahe to bataayega, acha lagega hume bhi sunkar.... nahi to hum kisi ko majboor to kar nahi sakte ...... :o
 
Kitte kuchh na likh rakha hota

Agar aisa hi hota to har ladka/ladki gale mein tag lagwa ke paida hote -" Is chhore/chhori ka byah falane te kar diyo" ..saara jhanjat kahtam ...duniya shanti se chalegi..koi maara marri nahin..Jatland ka matrimonial section suna ho jaayega :p:D
 
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shwetadhaka said:
.......... hainnnn ????
....... haanji aap jisko pakad laayenge wo bhi heaven ki permission ke bina nahi milegi aapko ......... mai puchna chahti hoon ki sach me aisa hota hai ki kahi kuch likha hota hai kismat me, aur saari koshishe kar ke bhi ant me wohi milta hai ya fir aisa nahi hai ?
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"सीधी बात"​

श्वेता जी...:confused:...घुमा-फ़िरा कै कान क्यूँ पकडो हो जी..:cool:..आप सीधा-2 बतलाओ नै.....के आप नै कौन पसन्द है..और हैवन वाला नै कौन.....? फ़िर अगर बात कितै सिरे चढी तै....आपकी और हैवन वाला की मांडवली करवाण की जिम्मेंवारी म्हारी ...:eek:...।
और हाँ म्हारी ज्यौतिष..;).. न्यू कह सै जी..... हैवन वाला की सुनणी सै तो.....दिल्ली में करवा ल्यो.....ना तै...:rolleyes:.. बम्बई में भी कोई बम्ब ना लाग रे हैं जी....:p
वो कहा करें के...जल्दबाजी ठीक ना होती..मतलब शीळा करकै खाओ...लेकिन...इतना भी शीळा ना करो जी...देखे कदै दूध की दही ही जम जा...:D..?
बाकी मुहावरे या कहावता में तै किमै ना निकलता जी...:)...सिर्फ़ राम हवाले कुछ ना होता जी...कर्म तै करना ही पडेगा....अतः आप तै इब लाडूंवा का जुगाड कर ही दयो जी...:D..।
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virendernarwal said:
"सीधी बात"​

बाकी मुहावरे या कहावता में तै किमै ना निकलता जी...:)...सिर्फ़ राम हवाले कुछ ना होता जी...कर्म तै करना ही पडेगा....अतः आप तै इब लाडूंवा का जुगाड कर ही दयो जी...:D..।
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Ladoowan gaillan Jalbi Bhool ge Narwal Bhai Sahab ...... er neeche pangat main baith ke .... shakore main rayta ... er khole(Pethe ) ka saag ......

Shweta madam thoda sa tawal ker lyo ... nahi te Dahi jam jya kade ....
 
virendernarwal said:
वो कहा करें के...जल्दबाजी ठीक ना होती..मतलब शीळा करकै खाओ...लेकिन...इतना भी शीळा ना करो जी...देखे कदै दूध की दही ही जम जा...:D..?
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wahi main keh narwal ji :D meri tai dahi si jaman ho rahi haade munich ke jaade mein !


ek aap pai bharosa kiya tha ki kimai karwaaoge :( aapne bhi rukh sa bhi na kara !!


koi to katwa do rog sa !!!:o:D:p
 
virendernarwal said:
"सीधी बात"​

श्वेता जी...:confused:...घुमा-फ़िरा कै कान क्यूँ पकडो हो जी..:cool:.
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main bhi nyun hi keh raha !!!
Shweta ji , yeh baar baar shaadi byaah , relation , felation ke taage bana bana ke kimai na ho !!

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"Marriages are made in heaven"

Dil bahlane ke liye khayal accha hai Ghalib.

Shaadi to ek lottery se. Shaadi chahe arrange kar lo .....ya phir love kar ke kar lo .............ya aaj kaal ki tariya common law me rah lo.
Agar common understanding hai to kamyaab............... verna gaadi ke paanhye(Wheel) khenjte raho jaberdasti.......... ya pher donno gaadi ne chor ke bhaj jaoo..........
Before marriage everything is under your control, later on no body knows who is going to control it.
 
That is how things were in 1958 possibly may throw some light on the questions being raised the husband wife relationship is the same even today possibly the bonds may not be that strong Hope I am wrong BLS

An extract from my forthcoming book



"...Though the main doors to the Drawing room were open I still took a detour and entered the room from the side-door. There she was and it was for the first time that I was looking at a girl like that.
…..I was instantly captivated by her expression of innocence which effortlessly penetrating the numerous layers of defence so assiduously built over time by me falling in quick succession.

…..Strange things do happen in life: Unknown the two of us, at that instant, till now two strangers were falling in love.

….Though seeing her for the first time strongly I felt that I had known her for long she was the exact picture of someone whom I have been searching all this time. She looked at me not as if at a stranger but at some body long lost her eyes trying to tell me some thing also as if she was trying to make sure if it was me in reality.

I knew that my search had ended; I had found her at last. I still remember that day as if it was yesterday. …..I looked at her and saw the innocence and open vulnerability in her expression. The looks in her eyes and the expression on her face were more important to me than how she was dressed. I don’t think I can describe it. But yes I could sense an internal struggle and the clash of thoughts going in her mind...."


And this she is what she experienced on that Day of our first meeting....as she wrote …. And I found after 42 years of our first meeting in her affects after her sad demise
….as you entered the room I lowered my eyes knowing fully well that every one would be looking at me and that is exactly what happened. I looked at you the moment I got a chance and saw you looking at me. I was not scared but the very thought that you must be wondering as to why she is looking at me I let my eyes remain where they were but removed my attention. Once again I tried to look at you unsuccessfully three or four times and then when you were busy showing me the photos I looked at you. Once again I felt that I had seen you earlier-but where I could not fathom. Till now I had not reached any definite conclusion in my mind I clubbed you with the others wondering that if we got married the wishes of this person will rule over me.

Then once again I looked at you I wanted to conform if you really did like me although from all your talk and actions the proof was there for me to see yet I could not believe it. I was looking at you in surprise

….wondering as to what was in me that you had found such faith in me and accepted me so quickly. I was finding it difficult to understand the situation as to why you had done this and also why nothing was happening to me. And then when you told me about your going back I failed to understand as to why you had mentioned that to me….. That is what happened the last day that you were going it appeared all so strange. I was wondering as to why all this was happening and in this confusion you left. Once you left I developed some courage in myself and started thinking about this turmoil going on inside me I even started missing you and feeling your absence. I wished that you could repeat your question. Yes now I may be able to say some thing. I felt bad as to why I did let you go empty handed why I did not say any thing at that time but then whenever I had looked at you I went blank I do not understand as to what I was thinking at that time. I feel I will never be able answer this.”

A s translated from Hindi
 
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renuchoudhary said:
kyon indirect batt chala rakhee se jonseko jonsa theek lagay, bhej do private msg, essi thread chlan te kuch ni hoga:):):)
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Thread kuch karwaane ke liye nahi chalaaya jaata Renu ji ....... mujhe indirect baat karne ki aadat nahi hai, jo dimaag me aaya puch liya, private message bhejne hote to aapki salaah se pehle bhej diye hote ! Dhanyawaad.
 
Marriages are made on planet earth...aur kitte bhi nahi

ye sari philmi befaltu ki khani sai..is sarukh kahn nai log-bagga ka dimag kharab kar rakhya sai:mad:

bera sai valantine dayae pai kitne chore-choriyan 5 rapaiyee ka mussa hod gulab de kai baat set karrai sai;)

kimee sikho mre yaar..heavan-hawaan kismat-kasmaat kuch nhi hoti. sarra kaam admi nai kudh karna ho sai
 
Shweta ...don yu think these threads on marriage n relationship r getting repetitive..!!! just a thot...no offence.
Nyways... recently I read something from author n marriage counsellor Emerson E Eggeriches's book Love & Respect, which I found of some importance.
He says Wives are made to love, want to love, expect love, but many husbands fail to deliever. Husbands are made to b respected, want respect, expect respect, but many wives fail to deliever. he explains it as ---- we believe a wife needs to be loved by her husband, n we believe a husband needs to be respected by his wife,,, n then there's a controversy because the wife says, 'Don't I need respect?' When a wife feels unloved, she acts in unrespectful ways. when a husband feels disrespected, he creats a stonewall.
They can restore, strengthen or improve their marriage by understanding that they are married to a good-willed person even thou he or she is falling them. Two persons can positively motivate each other by doing one simple thing. His love motives her respect; her respect defines his love. This he calls as the 'energising cycle'.

Sorry bit off topic...as its abt relationship...rather than on heavenly bliss.
 
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