Married without kids

rajkphogat said:
Ojus bhai budape me seva karan tai bhi te koye chahiye.
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Today nobody is bothered that their son or daughter will come n see them in their old age. Everybody is self dependent.

What wud I speak abt kids when m still unable to find the answer why it is necessary to get marry. So, just reading the sensible discussion going on.

Carry on!
 
There is one more imp factor which has not been mentioned here and thats increasing medical problems in conceiving - in case of women and impotency or some kind of dysfunctions - in case of men.

Nowadays the no. of normal deliveries are decreasing and complications are increasing
 
Early marriage (ofcourse legal age) is most virtuous and if you want to control the population then have only one child but have it early so that he grows with young minds and the couple can concentrate on their carears in late twenties onwards.Avoiding a child for the later part will compound the issues for sure.
 
choudharyneelam said:
Today nobody is bothered that their son or daughter will come n see them in their old age. Everybody is self dependent.

What wud I speak abt kids when m still unable to find the answer why it is necessary to get marry. So, just reading the sensible discussion going on.

Carry on!
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Let me try to answer that..

Marrige is a kind or written agreeement that Two parties will live together and they will stay commited as long as this agreement is valid.

I agree that two people can stay together without marrying and they can also stay commited. Marrige is like a driving licence, You may be really good driver but still you need licence whenever you are on driver's seat.

Lets come on having kids, Our body is a comlex machine that needs to be maintained well. After 30, We need more disciplined life, balance life style and that can only be possible when we have peace at home and we have kids to put right examples. Once anybody has kids, He/she may think million times before desserting the partner/spouse and it brings the stablity in life and person tend to live routine life.

As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.

I think toughest thing to get married is find a right person and another tough part is to stay with same person for another 50-60 years..
 
Newton to Vajpayeeji

Individual requirement (biologically):

Only to help his mate(wife) for her biological function(of producing an offspring), a man goes for kids.

[Assumption: May be adverse effects(biologically in body) play role if a female doesn't go for a baby]

Social security (only from a female prospective).


yudhvirmor said:
Let me try to answer that..

Lets come on having kids, Our body is a comlex machine that needs to be maintained well. After 30, We need more disciplined life, balance life style and that can only be possible when we have peace at home and we have kids to put right examples. Once anybody has kids, He/she may think million times before desserting the partner/spouse and it brings the stablity in life and person tend to live routine life.

As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.

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Thankyou for answering.
 
Its just a choice nothing more.
Those of us who are in western countries, I am sure they have seen the movie "Idiocracy". The funniest movie of all times. This movie does answer the question of having kids and who should have kids
 
i dont know what to say to this...
ummmmm...i dont think indians feel that PaReNtHooD is any kind of burden..what i have seen is that of all ,indians are the ones who want 'a family'...!!
they know their limitations..so accordingly they do a 'family planning'..which is good..!! only the educated lot thinks this way..
 
यदि कोई शादीशुदा जोड़ा शादी के काफी समय बाद भी बच्चा नहीं रखता है तो इसमें कोई ज्यादा बुरी बात नहीं है. वो कभी न कभी तो बच्चा करते ही होंगे. यदि कोई जोड़ा शादी के बाद बच्चा बिलकुल ही न चाहे तो ये तो फिर बहुत बड़ी बात है, बशर्ते की पति या पत्नी में कोई कमी न हो. रही बात ये की बच्चा जरूरी है क्या, तो इसके लिए सबकी अपनी-अपनी राय हो सकती है. मेरी राय तो ये है की यदि कोई बिना बीवी-बच्चे के रह सकता है तो फिर रहकर दिखाए. अकेला जीना तो बहुत ही मुश्किल काम है. यदि कोई बच्चा नहीं करना चाहता तो फिर शादी ही न करे. वैसे शादी करना भी कोई बुरी बात नहीं है. ये ठीक वैसे ही है जैसे किसी ऑफिस में ड्यूटी का समय 9 से 5 तक है तो इस समय तक जो ड्यूटी करता है वो कुछ भी गलत नहीं करता, लेकिन यदि कोई इससे भी ज्यादा समय तक ड्यूटी करेगा तो उसकी तो तारीफ होनी ही चाहिए. शादी 9 से 5 तक की ड्यूटी है, जबकि बिना बीवी-बच्चे के रहना 24 घंटे की ड्यूटी. बिना बीवी-बच्चे के आपको अकेलेपन से भी जूझना है. यदि कोई बीमारी इत्यादि लगती है तो उस स्थिति से भी खुद ही निपटना है. घर के काम भी खुद ही निपटाने हैं. आमदनी का भी कोई न कोई बंदोबस्त करना ही है. कहने का मतलब ये कि बिना शादी, बिना बीवी-बच्चे के जीना एक बहुत ही बड़ी तपस्या है और ऐसा करने वाले बहुत ही कम होते हैं. आजकल तो वैसे भी दुनिया की जनसँख्या इतनी बढ़ गई है और दुनिया में इतनी समस्याएं हैं कि यदि कोई बीवी- बच्चों का झंझट न ही पाले तो अच्छा है.
 
yudhvirmor said:
Let me try to answer that..

Marrige is a kind or written agreeement that Two parties will live together and they will stay commited as long as this agreement is valid.

I agree that two people can stay together without marrying and they can also stay commited. Marrige is like a driving licence, You may be really good driver but still you need licence whenever you are on driver's seat.

Lets come on having kids, Our body is a comlex machine that needs to be maintained well. After 30, We need more disciplined life, balance life style and that can only be possible when we have peace at home and we have kids to put right examples. Once anybody has kids, He/she may think million times before desserting the partner/spouse and it brings the stablity in life and person tend to live routine life.

As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.

I think toughest thing to get married is find a right person and another tough part is to stay with same person for another 50-60 years..
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Too mature n sensible :)
 
upendersingh said:
मेरी राय तो ये है की यदि कोई बिना बीवी-बच्चे के रह सकता है तो फिर रहकर दिखाए. अकेला जीना तो बहुत ही मुश्किल काम है.
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Truly said, its difficult to spend life alone, but not impossible na. I can put that as an example but......if it is safe to go out alone. Rest, everything can be managed with less or more difficulty but one day the person finds all at ease. Only thing I think about is how to keep ourselves safe from culprits. A man can think to spend his life alone in some cases but a woman can never. She is made like that.
 
choudharyneelam said:
Truly said, its difficult to spend life alone, but not impossible na. I can put that as an example but......if it is safe to go out alone. Rest, everything can be managed with less or more difficulty but one day the person finds all at ease. Only thing I think about is how to keep ourselves safe from culprits. A man can think to spend his life alone in some cases but a woman can never. She is made like that.
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No that's not the case, men and women are equal in every field.
vo bat hogi" Tade bhi ar chhere bhi, tade kyun ke aankle sun, ar chhere kyun ke gau ka jaa hu na".

Sorry just a joke.
 
yudhvirmor said:
let me try to answer that..

marrige is a kind or written agreeement that two parties will live together and they will stay commited as long as this agreement is valid.

I agree that two people can stay together without marrying and they can also stay commited. Marrige is like a driving licence, you may be really good driver but still you need licence whenever you are on driver's seat.

Lets come on having kids, our body is a comlex machine that needs to be maintained well. After 30, we need more disciplined life, balance life style and that can only be possible when we have peace at home and we have kids to put right examples. Once anybody has kids, he/she may think million times before desserting the partner/spouse and it brings the stablity in life and person tend to live routine life.

As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.

I think toughest thing to get married is find a right person and another tough part is to stay with same person for another 50-60 years..
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hahahahahha...............................
 
upendersingh said:
यदि कोई शादीशुदा जोड़ा शादी के काफी समय बाद भी बच्चा नहीं रखता है तो इसमें कोई ज्यादा बुरी बात नहीं है. वो कभी न कभी तो बच्चा करते ही होंगे. यदि कोई जोड़ा शादी के बाद बच्चा बिलकुल ही न चाहे तो ये तो फिर बहुत बड़ी बात है, बशर्ते की पति या पत्नी में कोई कमी न हो. रही बात ये की बच्चा जरूरी है क्या, तो इसके लिए सबकी अपनी-अपनी राय हो सकती है. मेरी राय तो ये है की यदि कोई बिना बीवी-बच्चे के रह सकता है तो फिर रहकर दिखाए. अकेला जीना तो बहुत ही मुश्किल काम है. यदि कोई बच्चा नहीं करना चाहता तो फिर शादी ही न करे. वैसे शादी करना भी कोई बुरी बात नहीं है. ये ठीक वैसे ही है जैसे किसी ऑफिस में ड्यूटी का समय 9 से 5 तक है तो इस समय तक जो ड्यूटी करता है वो कुछ भी गलत नहीं करता, लेकिन यदि कोई इससे भी ज्यादा समय तक ड्यूटी करेगा तो उसकी तो तारीफ होनी ही चाहिए. शादी 9 से 5 तक की ड्यूटी है, जबकि बिना बीवी-बच्चे के रहना 24 घंटे की ड्यूटी. बिना बीवी-बच्चे के आपको अकेलेपन से भी जूझना है. यदि कोई बीमारी इत्यादि लगती है तो उस स्थिति से भी खुद ही निपटना है. घर के काम भी खुद ही निपटाने हैं. आमदनी का भी कोई न कोई बंदोबस्त करना ही है. कहने का मतलब ये कि बिना शादी, बिना बीवी-बच्चे के जीना एक बहुत ही बड़ी तपस्या है और ऐसा करने वाले बहुत ही कम होते हैं. आजकल तो वैसे भी दुनिया की जनसँख्या इतनी बढ़ गई है और दुनिया में इतनी समस्याएं हैं कि यदि कोई बीवी- बच्चों का झंझट न ही पाले तो अच्छा है.
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Analysis is nice.
 
yudhvirmor said:
Let me try to answer that..

Marrige is a kind or written agreeement that Two parties will live together and they will stay commited as long as this agreement is valid.

I agree that two people can stay together without marrying and they can also stay commited. Marrige is like a driving licence, You may be really good driver but still you need licence whenever you are on driver's seat.

Lets come on having kids, Our body is a comlex machine that needs to be maintained well. After 30, We need more disciplined life, balance life style and that can only be possible when we have peace at home and we have kids to put right examples. Once anybody has kids, He/she may think million times before desserting the partner/spouse and it brings the stablity in life and person tend to live routine life.

As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.

I think toughest thing to get married is find a right person and another tough part is to stay with same person for another 50-60 years..
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This is correct as per Mohamadan law of marraige, in mohamaddan marraige is contract or agreements.
 
choudharyneelam said:
Too mature n sensible :)
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I realized it after becoming father.. You really need to raise the level everyday and need to redefine your priorites, habits, goals and you start living life with more passion.. In other words changes are painful and after some time you'll start enjoying the pain.. :)
 
yudhvirmor said:
As a bachelor, we live with imaginations and we do whateve we think is right so all action are relative and we don't bother about social norms. However after getting married and having kids, we start following the social agenda and we start getting accomdating in some type of patter our parents had.
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I hear ya mate...:)..
 
bhai UppendSingh
आपने तो कमाल कर दिया, बहुत बदिह्या बात लिखी
 
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