Towards healthy relations in married life:Few tips

[devdahiya]

Dekh chaacha...meree baat dhyaan tae sunnn....
Itne niyam tae kisse PhD degree len tahin bhi na yaad karne padte honge!!!
Yahre bhodiya nae raaji raakhan tahin yeh sab yaad raakhne pad ge tae
kaman-khan tahin kad tem rehvega?????

Seedhi err saral si baat sae. Look after the bano when it counts the most
...hit the right spots where it matters the most...err phir
chahey kitne hi keench-2 ke kharaante maar liye...ko dikat na.

Baalkan ne khaam-khan beechlaan laag re so chaach...the best solutions
are simple and elegant...

suun rei REENGAATT........Ibbe tneei na bera kyahein ka bi.......Terri bhyan bulle gi jib wa AADDI naadd aali aaweiggi......INN saari battan nei RATT le...jukar 2 EKKAM 2 krrya karta LENN mein sab tein paachhe khhddya ho ke skkool mein arr terre master PEENDDYAN pe SATTOOTT kee KAAMCHCHI marya karta arr tu PHER CHITTRI-MITTARI ki dhhal tilmilaya karta....DEKHYA E NA Phd..........TAJJABBA baniya ki dukkan pe na milya krrei...akk ja ke ek JHHOLLI daane puurr diye uuki taakhddi mei arr keh di aak diye 50 GRRAM TAJJARBBA SA...hey--2--2..ibbe ballak se tu.

 

[devdahiya]

Aaihaye love guru!!
bahoot achhe rathi sahab - lagta hai khoob maje ho rahe hai aajkal

Yo lUB gurru na sei bhai yo KHAPPAR BHARNNA SEI....YU MANDDER PE BAITHH KE DUSRYAN KI TAANTT MEIN DALLEY MARYA KARTA JIB CHHOTTA SA THA JIB.HEY-2-2...Ghanna kubbadhhi ballak ...?

 

[itsnavin]

1] Respect each other's sentiments.
2] Believe in giving more than expecting.
3] Let the partners grow as an individual also.
4] Never allow IN-LAWS to become the focus of discussion/argument.
5] Understand each other honestly.
6] Focus on positives of each other and strengthen these inputs further.
7] Take lots of time to point a finger at each other...remember we all have weaknesses but patience is the key here.
8] Controversies be nipped in the bud instantly and move on.
9] It was your choice to come together and hence take fullest responsibility to make it succeed.
10] Never miss a chance to love each other.
11] Say i love you often[specially men] as it is the food for at least women.
12] Never criticize each other in public[Specially you..the men as they hate it from deep inside and become revengeful]
13] Never go to sleep before settling the argument/dispute if any.....never prolong it...don't leave food...you will loose wieght..hey-2.
14] Appreciate quickly and criticize rarely...condemn NEVER.
15] Never abuse/criticize the in-laws...Specially for men...WARNING...YOU WILL LOOSE MUCH MORE]
16] Only way a women can be handled is through LOVE...no other way takes you to happiness....Mr MEN.
17] Never question the capabilities of a man..ladies are you listening...his ego is bigger than you...and he can throw out any thing under the sun to salvage his ego and self respect.
18] Spare some quality time for each other every day...inspite of hectic shedule of one or both.
19] Make each other feel special always.
20] Never allow ANY RELATIONS between two of you...YOUR UNION IS SACRED.
21] Neglect the whole world but never each other.
22] Have tremendous mutual faith as faith moves the world.
23] Discuss things frequently and see reason.
24] Go out ,see the world,meet new people and ROCK in life.

HAPPY MARRIED LIFE TO ALL.


The inputs are exclusive from my experience of married life.Koe kammi ho tou purri kar diyo mei bhi seekhh lyungga.

Dahiya sahab! Baat te katti badhiya likhi sain. Par nyon laagey sai ek ghana imp. point bhool gaye.

25] Har 2-4 mhiney mein sunaar ki dukaan ka chakkar jaroor kaatna..nahin kuch diwaya te pher pichley saarey 24 ke 24 point pe paani phir jaa gaa.

Baaki sab te aandi point [13] hai...good input!

Navin

 

[devdahiya]

Dahiya sahab! Baat te katti badhiya likhi sain. Par nyon laagey sai ek ghana imp. point bhool gaye.

25] Har 2-4 mhiney mein sunaar ki dukaan ka chakkar jaroor kaatna..nahin kuch diwaya te pher pichley saarey 24 ke 24 point pe paani phir jaa gaa.

Baaki sab te aandi point [13] hai...good input!

Navin

Ha..ha..ha...ha..ha....Ya bhi patte ki baat se bhai...Thanks for the update!

 

[vpannu]

kaka fer to chori bhi dhund do mahre donua khatar fer chahe to gift bhi manna laiyo urr khub khaiyo

Kakaji iihkaa karva dyo pahlam, iska ghana bhatth bllle hai byaah ke naam pe main te sabar kar lyunga, sabar ka fallll meettha hove se na

 

[devdahiya]

Kakaji iihkaa karva dyo pahlam, iska ghana bhatth bllle hai byaah ke naam pe main te sabar kar lyunga, sabar ka fallll meettha hove se na

Ha..ha..ha..ha..ha....Samajhh gya bhai.......Tu iss BIBEKKE nei purri Khattai ka tokkrra khuwana chahwei se arr saari BALLUSYAHI aala appne tahin rakhna chahwei sei.....Karr dyungga..nyuwein karr dyungga...Ow KHHAPPALCHHI se bi issei jogga...!

 

[crsnadar]

Here is one more question...??

There is one more rule that

"....there is no rule....& ...........we need to give value to our partner & HIS/HER DREAMS not only OURS."

Because we can expect compromise only then, when we are ready to compromise on ourselve.

&


One important question
......what is the suitable time to get married for both Boys & Girls?


Reason behind the question is to know upto what level we can compromise Career with Marriage.

This seems simple but......think over it..!

This is for thousands or even lacs of people of my age of our community.

Thanx

 

[ssindhu]

There is one more rule that

"....there is no rule....& ...........we need to give value to our partner & HIS/HER DREAMS not only OURS."

Because we can expect compromise only then, when we are ready to compromise on ourselve.

&


One important question
......what is the suitable time to get married for both Boys & Girls?


Reason behind the question is to know upto what level we can compromise Career with Marriage.

This seems simple but......think over it..!

This is for thousands or even lacs of people of my age of our community.

Thanx

well true there sudnt b any rules...n d tragedy is most times in marriage, all d rules apply 2 only one fellow-wife. d worst thing which we do in name of understanding is "we start sipping frm same cup". darn, first understand n thn expect 2 b understood.

nw cumng 2 ur 2nd query of suitable time, well as such there is no suitable time, just marry whenver u feel prepared mentally. n remember career n marriage r 2 different things. evn after marriage, u cn shape ur career. infact after marriage u feel mor aggressive towards career tht u hav a bigger family nw. n career is a life long priority, y ppl cite career thing in marriage? hw cn marriage hamper it? balance is d key. career n family shud nvr overlap. so i think only mental readiness is enuf to get married

 

[vivekdh]

main to 10 kaa tha jab te mantally ready hu per ghar aale keh hain ke tu chota hai ibbe main ke karu ibb main kahu hu ke main ibbe chota su to ghar aale nahi mante

well true there sudnt b any rules...n d tragedy is most times in marriage, all d rules apply 2 only one fellow-wife. d worst thing which we do in name of understanding is "we start sipping frm same cup". darn, first understand n thn expect 2 b understood.

nw cumng 2 ur 2nd query of suitable time, well as such there is no suitable time, just marry whenver u feel prepared mentally. n remember career n marriage r 2 different things. evn after marriage, u cn shape ur career. infact after marriage u feel mor aggressive towards career tht u hav a bigger family nw. n career is a life long priority, y ppl cite career thing in marriage? hw cn marriage hamper it? balance is d key. career n family shud nvr overlap. so i think only mental readiness is enuf to get married

 

[subhashbalhara]

1] Respect each other's sentiments.
2] Believe in giving more than expecting.
3] Let the partners grow as an individual also.
4] Never allow IN-LAWS to become the focus of discussion/argument.
5] Understand each other honestly.
6] Focus on positives of each other and strengthen these inputs further.
7] Take lots of time to point a finger at each other...remember we all have weaknesses but patience is the key here.
8] Controversies be nipped in the bud instantly and move on.
9] It was your choice to come together and hence take fullest responsibility to make it succeed.
10] Never miss a chance to love each other.
11] Say i love you often[specially men] as it is the food for at least women.
12] Never criticize each other in public[Specially you..the men as they hate it from deep inside and become revengeful]
13] Never go to sleep before settling the argument/dispute if any.....never prolong it...don't leave food...you will loose wieght..hey-2.
14] Appreciate quickly and criticize rarely...condemn NEVER.
15] Never abuse/criticize the in-laws...Specially for men...WARNING...YOU WILL LOOSE MUCH MORE]
16] Only way a women can be handled is through LOVE...no other way takes you to happiness....Mr MEN.
17] Never question the capabilities of a man..ladies are you listening...his ego is bigger than you...and he can throw out any thing under the sun to salvage his ego and self respect.
18] Spare some quality time for each other every day...inspite of hectic shedule of one or both.
19] Make each other feel special always.
20] Never allow ANY RELATIONS between two of you...YOUR UNION IS SACRED.
21] Neglect the whole world but never each other.
22] Have tremendous mutual faith as faith moves the world.
23] Discuss things frequently and see reason.
24] Go out ,see the world,meet new people and ROCK in life.

HAPPY MARRIED LIFE TO ALL.


The inputs are exclusive from my experience of married life.Koe kammi ho tou purri kar diyo mei bhi seekhh lyungga.

dev bhai saheb
thanks 4 such nice suggestion

 

[subhashbalhara]

yes kaku there is one mor thing n i.e. 'fate'. sumtimes it happens dt 1 might end up wid as wrong person tht despite all dese efforts, things wont work out...simply coz ur luck was bad. so a marriage's success largely depends on luck tht wat kinda fellow u tied up wid.

Marriage is a one way ticket 2 hell/heaven. all gamble. n d way out is 2 expensive. play on ur own n nobody else.

seema ji

bade serious hoge
enjoy ur life
don't worry goahed

 

[vpannu]

main to 10 kaa tha jab te mantally ready

hahahaha, 1o saal ka nyu nahi byaahyaa ak fer teri ghodi aage kon naachta.10-10 saal ke lindruu kuddte paate
par dhankhar ek baat aur bhi se, aag te or bhi kaiyaa ke laag ri se

seema ji bade serious hoge

Bhai Subhash inka kitte na kaalja paat rya bina byaah ke

 

[vivekdh]

baat te teri sahi hai per kai boltte koni

par dhankhar ek baat aur bhi se, aag te or bhi kaiyaa ke laag ri se

 

[deepakchoudhry]

yes kaku there is one mor thing n i.e. 'fate'. sumtimes it happens dt 1 might end up wid as wrong person tht despite all dese efforts, things wont work out...simply coz ur luck was bad. so a marriage's success largely depends on luck tht wat kinda fellow u tied up wid.

Marriage is a one way ticket 2 hell/heaven. all gamble. n d way out is 2 expensive. play on ur own n nobody else.

Hi Seema,

Nothing personal, I understand where you are coming from but the only way to know is to play the Game and find out.

Commenting and speculating about it in the in the dressing room does'nt help.

Marna toh ek din hai hi, Iska matlab yeh nahin ki us darr say jina chod dhey.

Fear is healthy as along as it pushes us in the right direction.

Deepak

 

[vairesatendra]

To all BOYS n GALS

"JUST SAY 'I LOVE YOU" TO YOUR LOVE, EACH DAY FROM THE CORE OF YOUR HEARTH"

200% farak padega...B'coz

"SAYING "I LOVE YOU" FROM THE CORE, REALLY MAKES A GREAT DIFFERENCE"

Aur sab mast chalega...!

Good Luck all of you for a Happy, tussle free married life !

 

[kdeshwal]

Jaat, ur, 'I LOVE YOU' ????!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

 

[raj_rathee]

suun rei REENGAATT........Ibbe tneei na bera kyahein ka bi.......Terri bhyan bulle gi jib wa AADDI naadd aali aaweiggi......INN saari battan nei RATT le...jukar 2 EKKAM 2 krrya karta LENN mein sab tein paachhe khhddya ho ke skkool mein arr terre master PEENDDYAN pe SATTOOTT kee KAAMCHCHI marya karta arr tu PHER CHITTRI-MITTARI ki dhhal tilmilaya karta....DEKHYA E NA Phd..........TAJJABBA baniya ki dukkan pe na milya krrei...akk ja ke ek JHHOLLI daane puurr diye uuki taakhddi mei arr keh di aak diye 50 GRRAM TAJJARBBA SA...hey--2--2..ibbe ballak se tu.

Ha ha ha ha Chachoooo!!! Yoh chorra kade na pitaa. Baaki saare
baalkaan ne IODEX khoob lageeye...par yoh aapka bhateeja ka naam
assembly mein announce kara karta principal...raaji ho kae..
uk baalak ho tae issa.

Saara skool assembly mein 45 degree dhoop mein sada karta errr hum
pankha taley baitha karte...table pe paan dhar ke...ha ha ha ha ha...
lambee kahani sae...

Ya doosri baat hai ki jib tahin principal ne apni galat fahmi ka ahsaas
hoya jib tahin tae kaag udd liya thaa....ha ha ha ha ha ha...

Baat ya sae ki eeb-bhi der na hoyee sae. Kade yeh niyam yaad karan pe
laag rahe ho... ...eeeb khayee mein giran ka tajjurba hon ka matlab
yoh thodee na sae ki baar baar khayee mein koodey jao.

Kade-kada baalkan tae bhi gyaan len mein ko harz na honta. Meri
maan lo err chacchi ne surprise kar do. Uste pacche merey tae
faaltoo laadla ko bhi bhateeja naa laagega...

 

[raj_rathee]

[/B]
......what is the suitable time to get married for both Boys & Girls?


Reason behind the question is to know upto what level we can compromise Career with Marriage.

This seems simple but......think over it..!

This is for thousands or even lacs of people of my age of our community.

Thanx

In my highly enlightened and honorable opinion:

...Personally I am not too hot on this marriage concept...but skipping that
aspect ...

Marriage has two real purposes:

1) Mental and physical intimacy needs
2) Raising of a family in a stable environment.

I think we need 1) pretty much in our teens. Any further postponement
is like leaving ripe fruit on the tree...pakaa kae sadaan aaali baat ho
ja sae. Jib sareer tayar sae tae dikat ke se? I mean if nowadays
people get married around 30 surely we can't expect that we should
wait till then...jib tahin tae oon-eh na mental case ho jaa?????

I think that if this aspect is taken care of nice and early, we'd be lot
more productive and focussed on our studies and professional goals
in this rather demanding and competitive modern life of ours. And who
knows our women would be safer on our streets ...blah...blah...other
social arguments...

With regards to 2) I see a lot of value in having kids and raising a family
sooner rather than later...but given modern day realities I think that
would be unrealistic to start a family before you have financial
independence which only really happens around late 20s.


SOOOOOO, unless we start to socially and culturally accept pre-marital
relationships, I think it makes great sense to get married in our late
teens...around the time we are in senior high school. I am pretty sure
we'll be happier and be more productive and focussed on the rest of
our lives (career and so on). One can family plan for the kids...
Maa baap peese aale hon tae oosme bhi ke dikat sae. Baalak jaldi hon jaan jib bhi theek sae.

I also believe that the later we marry in our lives the tougher it is to
adjust to an "outsider". We get set in our ways by then and find
it harder to adjust/compromise with our partners.

 

[ssindhu]

Hi Seema,

Nothing personal, I understand where you are coming from but the only way to know is to play the Game and find out.

Commenting and speculating about it in the in the dressing room does'nt help.

Marna toh ek din hai hi, Iska matlab yeh nahin ki us darr say jina chod dhey.

Fear is healthy as along as it pushes us in the right direction.

Deepak

sir ur interpretation works weak. i m nt fearing anything...if it was fear, i wud hav decided nt 2 marry at all. bt i m just being cautious...plz learn d difrnce betwn fear n caution