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what about intercaste marriage?
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choudharysaaab
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kalpana was nothing but a senseless being to remember, why dont you remember PT Usa, Sir C V Raman, and Dhanraj Pillai and others who have really done wonderful job to feel proud of them.
I dont understand why these days we are having lots of scholarships and fellowships linked with the name of Kalpana, who has not done good but died in a accident, a lot many people die daily in our coutry and on borders, why dont you remember them with the same respect as you have for KALPANA...? had she not been dead in an expedition she would just been an NRI as your husband who is working in USA, nothing more then this, it is just like few societies in india, who favoured women power, pointed out and others blindly started following them...
kal ko sania mirza ke naam pe bhi scholarship ane lagegi...hahaah...
saranrabar
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we are seeing some changes in our culture also....
<<<But with passing time we are seeing some changes in our culture also....and foreigners adapting ours....feels so good to hear but at same time makes us feel low when we see the culture missing in our own nation.>>>
I have seen a lot of this ... here at JatLand and elsewhere! Sad!
<<<But with passing time we are seeing some changes in our culture also....and foreigners adapting ours....feels so good to hear but at same time makes us feel low when we see the culture missing in our own nation.>>>
I have seen a lot of this ... here at JatLand and elsewhere! Sad!
yo thread khatam hoga akk na...........
acc to me....main tai ek jat se hi shaadi karungi........
jat boys se zyada koi or caste ka banda manly hote hai ....or koi nhn hota.....and i think every grl wants her husband to be manly and smart.........
agar jat boys well dress hoker aaye na to unse zyada smart koi nhn lag sakta..............isliye i will prefer.....or prefer kya mai tai jat tai ee byah karungi.......arr jo kisse or caste mein karega...wo pachtawega.....dikhawe nhn tai ke per mann mann mein tai zarur kuch na kuch miss karega......
acc to me....main tai ek jat se hi shaadi karungi........
jat boys se zyada koi or caste ka banda manly hote hai ....or koi nhn hota.....and i think every grl wants her husband to be manly and smart.........
agar jat boys well dress hoker aaye na to unse zyada smart koi nhn lag sakta..............isliye i will prefer.....or prefer kya mai tai jat tai ee byah karungi.......arr jo kisse or caste mein karega...wo pachtawega.....dikhawe nhn tai ke per mann mann mein tai zarur kuch na kuch miss karega......
saranrabar
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"The most serious business is marriage"
<<<<So if you are still wet behind the ears on having had the actual experience itself, then please refrain/stay away... and don't burden us (the readers) with useless crap!.>>>>
But still those who do not want to reinvent the wheel would rather seek counsel from those who know.
Also, some high caliber candidates, male and female alike, are spending $$$$ in the USA to avoid failure in this serious business of life!
Are match making mechanisms, such as eHarmony or family connection or caste connection etc., equivalent?
How is culture affecting Indian marriages, mostly NRI, when parties are speaking of marriage and thinking of immigration?
<<<<So if you are still wet behind the ears on having had the actual experience itself, then please refrain/stay away... and don't burden us (the readers) with useless crap!.>>>>
But still those who do not want to reinvent the wheel would rather seek counsel from those who know.
Also, some high caliber candidates, male and female alike, are spending $$$$ in the USA to avoid failure in this serious business of life!
Are match making mechanisms, such as eHarmony or family connection or caste connection etc., equivalent?
How is culture affecting Indian marriages, mostly NRI, when parties are speaking of marriage and thinking of immigration?
saranrabar
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There is no logic and this is how Jat brain works..
With all due respect dear RK^2, are you saying that Jat brain works with no logic? Haha
With all due respect dear RK^2, are you saying that Jat brain works with no logic? Haha
netrapalsingh
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Jato kee Mahan Hastiyo ko dekho
Is tarah apas me ladne ke bajaye Jato kee mahan hastiyo ke dekho.......
Choudhary Charan Singh - Ladkiyo kee shadi kis cast me kee.
Dr Chandar Bhan (Rajasthan) - Kumbari se Shadi kee......
Vijay Poonia (Famous Jat or Rajasthan) - Yadav ladkee se shadee karee..
or bhee bhoot se example mil jayenge par kya in kee respect me koi kamee
ayee.......?
Or poorane jato se pooch lo jat agar intercast marriage nahee karta to kitne
byahe jate?.......
netra......
Is tarah apas me ladne ke bajaye Jato kee mahan hastiyo ke dekho.......
Choudhary Charan Singh - Ladkiyo kee shadi kis cast me kee.
Dr Chandar Bhan (Rajasthan) - Kumbari se Shadi kee......
Vijay Poonia (Famous Jat or Rajasthan) - Yadav ladkee se shadee karee..
or bhee bhoot se example mil jayenge par kya in kee respect me koi kamee
ayee.......?
Or poorane jato se pooch lo jat agar intercast marriage nahee karta to kitne
byahe jate?.......
netra......
saranrabar
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The following is from JATLAND main page:
The Jats are required to marry within their community. A Jat boy marrying a non- Jat girl though not encouraged or approved, is nevertheless acceptable- A Jat girl marrying a non Jat boy is, however, taboo, and, should it happen it is considered a permanent blot of disgrace on the girl's family. Boys and girls of the same gotra are considered brothers and sisters to each other. It is therefore, prohibited to marry a girl of ones own gotra, of the gotra of ones another, as that would amount to incest. Marriage within the same village is not permitted even if the boy and girl qualify for marriage according to gotra restriction. Marriages within the same Gohand are discouraged.
These systems have a number of advantages. Racial purity is maintained. Within the bounds of the community, maximum cross breeding takes place which promotes good health and prevents physical degeneration) as it occurs in certain communities who marry first cousins. Boys have a sanctimonious regard for the girls of the same village or Gohand as they consider them as future wives. This also cuts down mutual squabbles of sexual origin.
Widow marriage is not only permitted and practiced but is also a social obligation. One year after the death of her husband the widow is asked in the presence other and her late husband's near relatives, whether she would like to remarry and so, with whom. Her choice is expected to be limited to the brothers or first cousins of her late husband. The boy, thus chosen, is obliged, by custom a tradition to accept. Widows with children and those past their youth do not normally remarry. The burden of their support is however automatically taken on by the nearest relatives of the deceased.
The young and childless widows invariably remarry and are encouraged and even persuaded to remarry even when they don't feel inclined to do so in their state of emotional disturbance.
Widows are looked upon with sympathy and not despised as evil beings as is done amongst Rajputs, Brahmins and Baniyas. That is the main reason why a Jatni is never heard of as a prostitute. It is incomprehensible how such a humane custom was ever selected by the Brahmins as the main reason for branding the Jats as irreligious and low. It is not only a very civilized custom but is also fully in keeping with the dictates of the Shastras.
The Jats are required to marry within their community. A Jat boy marrying a non- Jat girl though not encouraged or approved, is nevertheless acceptable- A Jat girl marrying a non Jat boy is, however, taboo, and, should it happen it is considered a permanent blot of disgrace on the girl's family. Boys and girls of the same gotra are considered brothers and sisters to each other. It is therefore, prohibited to marry a girl of ones own gotra, of the gotra of ones another, as that would amount to incest. Marriage within the same village is not permitted even if the boy and girl qualify for marriage according to gotra restriction. Marriages within the same Gohand are discouraged.
These systems have a number of advantages. Racial purity is maintained. Within the bounds of the community, maximum cross breeding takes place which promotes good health and prevents physical degeneration) as it occurs in certain communities who marry first cousins. Boys have a sanctimonious regard for the girls of the same village or Gohand as they consider them as future wives. This also cuts down mutual squabbles of sexual origin.
Widow marriage is not only permitted and practiced but is also a social obligation. One year after the death of her husband the widow is asked in the presence other and her late husband's near relatives, whether she would like to remarry and so, with whom. Her choice is expected to be limited to the brothers or first cousins of her late husband. The boy, thus chosen, is obliged, by custom a tradition to accept. Widows with children and those past their youth do not normally remarry. The burden of their support is however automatically taken on by the nearest relatives of the deceased.
The young and childless widows invariably remarry and are encouraged and even persuaded to remarry even when they don't feel inclined to do so in their state of emotional disturbance.
Widows are looked upon with sympathy and not despised as evil beings as is done amongst Rajputs, Brahmins and Baniyas. That is the main reason why a Jatni is never heard of as a prostitute. It is incomprehensible how such a humane custom was ever selected by the Brahmins as the main reason for branding the Jats as irreligious and low. It is not only a very civilized custom but is also fully in keeping with the dictates of the Shastras.
bhavnasingh20
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marriage is all abt being wit the person with whom u can share ur life n be happy at the same time.....wht kamna ji said is true tht love marriages fail more than arranged marriages.....lekin yeh bhi sach hai ki agar arranged marriages mein prob aati hein to 10 log milte hein un baaton ko dabane ke liye...ki ghar ki izzat ka sawal hai....aur jab love marriage mein prob aati hai to yahi log usse uchalne ke liye ready rehte hein....
love in today's world is very materialistic...lekin aisa bhi nahin hai ki woh exist hi nahin karta.....shadi ke baad jo pyar hota hai woh bhi bahut baar forced hota hai...ki ab to shadi ho gayi hai...pyar nahin karenge to option hi kya hai.......
at the end of the day gurantee to kisi type ki marriage mein nahin hai....but if love marriage fails atleast u bear the brunt of ur own mistakes.....arranged marriage mein u bear the brunt of wht other ppl did to u....
n when u really like somebody then yeh saari baatein peeche chhod deni chahiye ki uski caste kya hai....agar aap yeh sab dekh ke pyar karein to woh pyar nahin ek type ka arrangement hai coz its better to get married to a known devil than an unknown saint......
so if u love somebody then i wud say u shud marry them but ofcourse not my runnin away frm ur family.....but makin them see ur view pt n agreein to it too.....n if u hav to leave the person u love....then it shud not b coz they r frm some other caste....it shud b coz ur parents didnt agree n asked u to choose between them and ur love......
love in today's world is very materialistic...lekin aisa bhi nahin hai ki woh exist hi nahin karta.....shadi ke baad jo pyar hota hai woh bhi bahut baar forced hota hai...ki ab to shadi ho gayi hai...pyar nahin karenge to option hi kya hai.......
at the end of the day gurantee to kisi type ki marriage mein nahin hai....but if love marriage fails atleast u bear the brunt of ur own mistakes.....arranged marriage mein u bear the brunt of wht other ppl did to u....
n when u really like somebody then yeh saari baatein peeche chhod deni chahiye ki uski caste kya hai....agar aap yeh sab dekh ke pyar karein to woh pyar nahin ek type ka arrangement hai coz its better to get married to a known devil than an unknown saint......
so if u love somebody then i wud say u shud marry them but ofcourse not my runnin away frm ur family.....but makin them see ur view pt n agreein to it too.....n if u hav to leave the person u love....then it shud not b coz they r frm some other caste....it shud b coz ur parents didnt agree n asked u to choose between them and ur love......
Absolutely True
However i am a believer of a marriage which makes ur parents happy ... but what bhavna has mentioned here is true
ar sabka Guru DHARMENDRA????
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abhimanyusindhu
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INTER CASTE MARRIAGE....
there is nothin like caste and all...i believe in equality ..equality of human being.......U hav to understand ur partner..abb wo tumhare caste ki hi hogi or tumhare becch kaafi aachi understanding hogi.eski koi surety nahin hoti....only thing tht maters is ur happiness.....if ur happy ur parents are happy everything is fine intere caste same caste ...or jab saare din ghar mei jhutt bajein..zindagi narek ban jaati hai
hum arrange marriages ko aach generally essliye bolte hai ki usme bhede log kabhi marriage mei problem hone per matter ko settle kera dete hai bina baat ko jaada bhedaye..n tht to because, may be we respect them more..unki merzzi se shaadi karte hai...
BUT understanding kitni hai life partner se uskei surety i think intercaste marriage mei jaada hoti hai..
there is nothin like caste and all...i believe in equality ..equality of human being.......U hav to understand ur partner..abb wo tumhare caste ki hi hogi or tumhare becch kaafi aachi understanding hogi.eski koi surety nahin hoti....only thing tht maters is ur happiness.....if ur happy ur parents are happy everything is fine intere caste same caste ...or jab saare din ghar mei jhutt bajein..zindagi narek ban jaati hai
hum arrange marriages ko aach generally essliye bolte hai ki usme bhede log kabhi marriage mei problem hone per matter ko settle kera dete hai bina baat ko jaada bhedaye..n tht to because, may be we respect them more..unki merzzi se shaadi karte hai...
BUT understanding kitni hai life partner se uskei surety i think intercaste marriage mei jaada hoti hai..
amitchhikara
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wow this thread just won't end...keep it up
choudharysaaab
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most of the things said here are true according to me.
kisi se bhiv shadi karo...be happy...lekin shadi karte time is baat ka dhyaad rakhain ki jab aap galati kar sakte hain to parents bhi kar sakte hain...or karte hain...usko daba diya jata he...KYON KI SAB KHUSH HAIN...
to koi matlab nahi he ...just do whatever you want...jaroori nahi he ki jat hi ho life partner...khush raho bas...
Its funny!!
Hey,
I am a new user and this topic of the debate compelled me to write for the first time. This is also a very famous point of discussion in my family with my mom. Let me quote an example. A few years back my brother asked my mother, WHO ARE WE ALLOWED TO GET MARRIED TO???? she made it very clear ONLY TO A JATNI...!!! In the middle of last year my Mosi got her daughter married to a Punjabi Family and she also has a older Daughter that is Divorced from a Jat boy and now married to Punjabis too.
Both are very happy and having a very nice time in life. Since then my mothers opinion as changed a bit and as far as she is cool with us marrying a Foreigner.
We cant make a generalization, I agree with anyone that feels its a free world and Jats should change with it, as they say "CHANGE IS THE ONLY PERMANENT THING" Its all about falling in Love. If i can find a girl that I can love also understanding the practical things, I will get married to her let her be anyone. Hearts should match, castes or religions are not quintessential.
Hey,
I am a new user and this topic of the debate compelled me to write for the first time. This is also a very famous point of discussion in my family with my mom. Let me quote an example. A few years back my brother asked my mother, WHO ARE WE ALLOWED TO GET MARRIED TO???? she made it very clear ONLY TO A JATNI...!!! In the middle of last year my Mosi got her daughter married to a Punjabi Family and she also has a older Daughter that is Divorced from a Jat boy and now married to Punjabis too.
Both are very happy and having a very nice time in life. Since then my mothers opinion as changed a bit and as far as she is cool with us marrying a Foreigner.
We cant make a generalization, I agree with anyone that feels its a free world and Jats should change with it, as they say "CHANGE IS THE ONLY PERMANENT THING" Its all about falling in Love. If i can find a girl that I can love also understanding the practical things, I will get married to her let her be anyone. Hearts should match, castes or religions are not quintessential.
inter cast marriage
The other day sitting in the drawing room, were my Grand Nephew a blue blood Jat with his Kapoor wife ,both on a short visit from USA, my son with his Christian wife and I narrating how my daughter while in USA got married to an American of Irish decent; all happy and content.I could not have influenced their choice and decision even if I wanted to.Management of change is important not only in 'Management' but also in social relationships.BLS
The other day sitting in the drawing room, were my Grand Nephew a blue blood Jat with his Kapoor wife ,both on a short visit from USA, my son with his Christian wife and I narrating how my daughter while in USA got married to an American of Irish decent; all happy and content.I could not have influenced their choice and decision even if I wanted to.Management of change is important not only in 'Management' but also in social relationships.BLS
sumitmalik29
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must have no problems in intercaste marriage
mera manna hai ki chote dimag wale iske khilaf hote hain
mera manna hai ki chote dimag wale iske khilaf hote hain
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hdsura
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Wow!!! Couldn't find a good "Jat Girl or Boy"? Or was it because they
thought they were above the "lowly" Jats?
One can't control but one does instill. Exceptions are always there but the above doesn't look like that.
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