what about intercaste marriage?

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pyar to hawa kaa jonka hai isse koi nahi rok sakta naa ye soch samaj ke hota hai :D kisike circle me chori hi naa ho to ke dhunde :D aaj kal jat ladkiyon ko jat ladke pasand nahi hote unhe samajdaar ladke chahiye :Djo shopping enjoy kerna jante ho.:D fer bechare jat boys kya karre kyonki dusri ladkiyon ko jat pasand aate hain.panni to wohi se bahega naa jahan se rasta mile :)


subhashbalhara said:
kya kaamna ji

pyar ke khilaf itna nahi hona chahiye. though we should try to get married as per our parents choice,try 4 arranged marriage Lekin mera maanna hai ki jis ladki ko tum bilkul nahi jaante or dekhi tak nahi hai, uske character ka nahi pata kaisa hai, sirf kisi ki baaton pe bharosa karke vishwas karna ...
Isse badi murakhata kya hogi. Mere vichar se pyar mein andhe na hokar apne ho sakne wale saathi ko hame achhi tarah jan pehchan lena chahiye
before marriage apne circle mein achhe ladka ya ladki ko doondhana chahiye
kul milakar apne jeevan saathi ke baare mein jaankari jarur honi chahiye pata nahi arranged marriage mein kaun gale bandh jaye kaisa character ho
u should believe in good relations

SB:)
GJU
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vivekdh said:
pyar to hawa kaa jonka hai isse koi nahi rok sakta naa ye soch samaj ke hota hai :D kisike circle me chori hi naa ho to ke dhunde :D aaj kal jat ladkiyon ko jat ladke pasand nahi hote unhe samajdaar ladke chahiye :Djo shopping enjoy kerna jante ho.:D fer bechare jat boys kya karre kyonki dusri ladkiyon ko jat pasand aate hain.panni to wohi se bahega naa jahan se rasta mile :)
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Yaa kahi saachi baat..............cheeku-meeku jyada pasand aawe............ROOKKAAAA@ cheeku-meeku....................
 
subhashbalhara said:
kya kaamna ji

pyar ke khilaf itna nahi hona chahiye. though we should try to get married as per our parents choice,try 4 arranged marriage Lekin mera maanna hai ki jis ladki ko tum bilkul nahi jaante or dekhi tak nahi hai, uske character ka nahi pata kaisa hai, sirf kisi ki baaton pe bharosa karke vishwas karna ...
Isse badi murakhata kya hogi. Mere vichar se pyar mein andhe na hokar apne ho sakne wale saathi ko hame achhi tarah jan pehchan lena chahiye
before marriage apne circle mein achhe ladka ya ladki ko doondhana chahiye
kul milakar apne jeevan saathi ke baare mein jaankari jarur honi chahiye pata nahi arranged marriage mein kaun gale bandh jaye kaisa character ho
u should believe in good relations

SB:)
GJU
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bhai saahab.........jisse aap 1-2 saal se jaante ho, uske hi character ka ke affidavit banwa lyogge aap...................
 
Well if i go by old times logic of marrying inter-gotra tht it helps spread variety on genetic basis n mixes races for betterment n better features, inter-caste marriages give bigger n wider scopes for mixing races.

PS: I personally fing no harm in intercaste marriages. they r welcum. infact it gives better scope 2 get better choice
 
subhashbalhara said:
Lekin mera maanna hai ki jis ladki ko tum bilkul nahi jaante or dekhi tak nahi hai, uske character ka nahi pata kaisa hai, sirf kisi ki baaton pe bharosa karke vishwas karna ...
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Character ki faanssi ladki ke e deni hoya kare ke? Mate,the same applies to us.chorey ke character ki ke gurarantee hai? chhorey bhi te ghane uutth hoya karein.chhori bhi to vishvas kar le hai ladkey ki baato par.
Parshant meri bhi kilkiii @ cheeku meeku :D
 
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vivekpannu said:
Character ki faanssi ladki ke e deni hoya kare ke? Mate,the same applies to us.chorey ke character ki ke gurarantee hai? chhorey bhi te ghane uutth hoya karein.chhori bhi to vishvas kar le hai ladkey ki baato par.
Parshant meri bhi kilkiii @ cheeku meeku :D
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bilkul theek.................wo kahawat hai na ke sattar musse kha ke billi huzz ku chali..........matbal yeh.....ke doosra ka character evaluate karan tai pehla aapne bheetar koi na jhaakta.....arr byaah hotte tame chhorri ke character ki to inquiry shuru kar de..chahe inhe 5-7 gaam haandne padde..........uss tame apne kukrum kona yaade aate.....................................arr jo doosre ka character kharab bataya karre na.......unka katai ghatiya darje ka character milla kare hamsesha.................
 
Shadi key pahley kee jayada janpehchan shadi key baad jyada nuksaan.

Bhai Balhara Ji,

Aap bata saketey hai ke ketnee janpehchan kai baad shaadi na totney kee garantee ho jaati hai. Meri jankari mein to shaadi say pahley payar wali shadiya comparetivly jayada tot-ti hai. Restey bharosey per chaltey hai janpehchan per nahi. Shaddi kareny key baad khub payar karoo kon mana karta hai issay Dono pariwaro ko tatha samaj ko bhee khushi milti hai.


subhashbalhara said:
kya kaamna ji

pyar ke khilaf itna nahi hona chahiye. though we should try to get married as per our parents choice,try 4 arranged marriage Lekin mera maanna hai ki jis ladki ko tum bilkul nahi jaante or dekhi tak nahi hai, uske character ka nahi pata kaisa hai, sirf kisi ki baaton pe bharosa karke vishwas karna ...
Isse badi murakhata kya hogi. Mere vichar se pyar mein andhe na hokar apne ho sakne wale saathi ko hame achhi tarah jan pehchan lena chahiye
before marriage apne circle mein achhe ladka ya ladki ko doondhana chahiye
kul milakar apne jeevan saathi ke baare mein jaankari jarur honi chahiye pata nahi arranged marriage mein kaun gale bandh jaye kaisa character ho
u should believe in good relations

SB:)
GJU
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ram ram to all
i hav been inactive for a while..im back now...

"but as far as intercaste marriage is considered, in my case simple matter of fact is i wont be able to respect the girl and her family unless she is 100% jat...it might seem outclassed and outdated to some 'MODERN PEOPLE' , i live in north america, my father is retired airman, im 2nd year mining engg ..so i dunno if i fall under modern and forward thinking ppl or not..
but at the end of the day im a jat(bows to ancestors) and I REST MY PRIDE IN MY VALIENT FOREFATHERS so...the so called JAT THING or as i call it the feeling of extraordinary pride and SUPERIORITY remains...:cool:
haha even otherwise NOBODY ELSE stands fast as a jatni does in hard times ,,and cant be as determined as a jatni...i learnt from my naani and my moms example:D "...i wud have been in jail for sure...but im here today bcoz of the stubbern nature of my parents...and most feared "MOM'S MOGRI(lattey dhoun waali)"

no offence to anybody ...i juss set forth my own preference ...and respect everybody else's opinion.
 
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nadark10 said:
Main intercate marrige ke khilaf nahin hoon. Par ek baat kah sakti hoon ke intercaste marrige kam kaamyab hoti hain. Isaka matlab ye nahin hai ki apni caste main ki hui shadi kaamyab hona jaroori hai. Par intercaste marrige or apni caste main shaadi ke baad ki problems alag alag tarike ki hoti hain. Phle to dono ek duste ke liye sab kurbaaniyan karne ko tiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad dono ek dusre se yahi chahte hain ki kurbaani dusra de. Intercaste shaadi kamyaab na hone ka ek kaaran ye bhi hota hai ki hum jis maahol main or jin reeti rivajon ke beech bachpan se pale bade hain unko shaadi ke baad chodna mushkil hota hai , yahan tak ki khaan paan main bhi frq hota hai , sunne main ye baatein lagti to bahut choti hain par baad main yahi choti choti baatein badi ladai ka roop le leti hain or kitna bhi kuch na karo tum rahoge paraaye hi unlogon ke beech ye dono traf se hota hai. Phir inhin choti choti baaton ko lekar ek doosre ke khoon lak ko gaali di jaati hai ki tera to khoon hi esa hai or teri to jaat (Caste) hi esi hai . Maine ese bahut se case dekhe hain. ISILIYE JAHAN TAK HO SAKE SHADI APNI HI CASTE MAIN KARNI CHAHIYE NIBHANE MAIN AASANI HOTI HAI. Or jahan tak ye pyar vyar ki baat hai ye sab bakwas hai thode din ka bukhar hota hai .
shadi ke baad wale pyar main jo attoot bandhan hai vo pahle pyar karke shadi wale pyar main nahin hai. Pehle to ek doosre ke liye marne ke liye taiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad ek doosre ko maarne or kadam kadam par neecha dikhane ke liye tiyaar rahte hain ek bhi moka haath se nahin jaane dete.
Agar kisi ko meri baaton se chot pahunchi ho to maaf karna.
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I agree. I/C marriages are a tougher task to manage. The Indian Society hardly appreciates them. Moreover, if there ia a little issue later, they blow it up and blame it on the couple.
As far as possible, one should try to get a suitable match within the caste. And we should also try to retain our unlucky daughters by appreciating re-marriage.
 
nadark10 said:
Main intercate marrige ke khilaf nahin hoon. Par ek baat kah sakti hoon ke intercaste marrige kam kaamyab hoti hain. Isaka matlab ye nahin hai ki apni caste main ki hui shadi kaamyab hona jaroori hai. Par intercaste marrige or apni caste main shaadi ke baad ki problems alag alag tarike ki hoti hain. Phle to dono ek duste ke liye sab kurbaaniyan karne ko tiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad dono ek dusre se yahi chahte hain ki kurbaani dusra de. Intercaste shaadi kamyaab na hone ka ek kaaran ye bhi hota hai ki hum jis maahol main or jin reeti rivajon ke beech bachpan se pale bade hain unko shaadi ke baad chodna mushkil hota hai , yahan tak ki khaan paan main bhi frq hota hai , sunne main ye baatein lagti to bahut choti hain par baad main yahi choti choti baatein badi ladai ka roop le leti hain or kitna bhi kuch na karo tum rahoge paraaye hi unlogon ke beech ye dono traf se hota hai. Phir inhin choti choti baaton ko lekar ek doosre ke khoon lak ko gaali di jaati hai ki tera to khoon hi esa hai or teri to jaat (Caste) hi esi hai . Maine ese bahut se case dekhe hain. ISILIYE JAHAN TAK HO SAKE SHADI APNI HI CASTE MAIN KARNI CHAHIYE NIBHANE MAIN AASANI HOTI HAI. Or jahan tak ye pyar vyar ki baat hai ye sab bakwas hai thode din ka bukhar hota hai .
shadi ke baad wale pyar main jo attoot bandhan hai vo pahle pyar karke shadi wale pyar main nahin hai. Pehle to ek doosre ke liye marne ke liye taiyaar rahte hain or shaadi ke baad ek doosre ko maarne or kadam kadam par neecha dikhane ke liye tiyaar rahte hain ek bhi moka haath se nahin jaane dete.
Agar kisi ko meri baaton se chot pahunchi ho to maaf karna.
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I am Devendra if u remember that we had chat on sunday. You are Right, in this regards. But in life problem comes at any stage so be positive and face all problems. If ur partner is understandable then it is very easy to keep harmony in life.In that case cast is not a bar. But if u married in caste and ur partner has high ambition then tie tie fish.... So just make u understand , nothing else.
 
One who knows the customs and Traditions of his ancesstors will always marry among Jats.A Jat /Jatt pride is in blood.No offence to any one.
 
It is all a matter of your sanskars; you get what you deserve. Goodness can be found in all communities. We Jats should not live our lives in compartments and opposites. There is a world beyond dualities of good and evil.

The world view of duality practiced by all Mediterranean religions is limited because it divides the people. While we should be proud of our history, we also need to less tyrannical to our children, we should learn to make them independent and thinkers from an early age and impose our will on their choice. Only then can we be truly dynamic.

Fear is the basis of all evil and the basis of fear is the anxiety of the future and regret of the past.
 
You can marry non JAT Girls

prashantacmet said:
As time has changed & the present environment is totally different now. Intercaste marriages are so common . I need to know the opinion of ONLINE jats about intercase marriage. It is a fact that JATs are deeply rooted to their customs & traditions. but the circumstances can change the thinking...........
I am really excited to get know the opinion of the JATs about this. Please
tell your views about intercaste marriage.


Prashant chaudhary
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JAI BHAGWAN JAT BALWAN
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views are very simple . you can marry non Jat girl( only when there is lots of -----------) but Jat girl should be in JAT. Jat have shoratge of Girls
 
meghs said:
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donot u think insan acha hona chahia naki oski caste matter kurni chahia.:rolleyes:
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I think she is right wat matters is that the person shld b right . Caste doesn't matters but yes i believe we shldn't do it at the cost of our parents hapiness. Otherwise their is no harm in intercaste marriage .

I think what is more important is too remove other social evils like dowry, because v cant deny the fact that in love marriages dowry is not expected, as ppl expect it in arrange marriages.

kaha jata hai bado ke saath argue nahi karna chaiye so if i had write anything wrong i apologise it in advance.

regards
Megha[/quote]

I think , thinking should be changed

can you tell me how a person ( specially girls ) will accomodate with Non jat families .
we have different attitude, feelings, respects for elder, dedication for nation, away from cheating and many more which only blood of jats have. Khoon ko 100% Nahi badla ja sakta
JAT= Just Action for Truth , Justice Action Truth.

you just think about it and comare with your own daily life you will find , we are different in may ways to others
 
Marriage

Hi, dont know much what i feel is marriage is a realtion of two souls and matter of accepting the way person is. Unique blend of values and understanding. Finding happiness in small things.
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Neeta Suhag
Mumbai
quote=prashantacmet;70315]As time has changed & the present environment is totally different now. Intercaste marriages are so common . I need to know the opinion of ONLINE jats about intercase marriage. It is a fact that JATs are deeply rooted to their customs & traditions. but the circumstances can change the thinking...........
I am really excited to get know the opinion of the JATs about this. Please
tell your views about intercaste marriage.


Prashant chaudhary
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JAI BHAGWAN JAT BALWAN[/quote]
 
.....AAj KE TIME MEIN INTERCASTE MARRIAGE KARNA KOI BADI BAAT NAHI RAHI......SAB KARTE HAI ..KUCH CHHUPA KE KARTE HAI.... AUR KUCH LOG KHULAM KHULA KARTE HAI.....DEPEND KARTA HAI KI PARENTS MANTE HAI YA NAHI.....!!
 
Kiski gurantee le sakta hai

Are yaar jo jis ko theek lage ... karo ... kon sa cast ke ladko ya ladkiyon ki gurantee le sakta hai ki shaadi ke baad ek doosre ka sir nahi phodenge .... jis ko jo pasand ho shaadi ker lo ... wo apni apni thinking hai ki ... shaadi se pehle jaan pechaan .. pyaar wyaar ho ya na ho ... per ye main jaroor kahunga ki ek doosre ko jaan-na bahut jaroori hai .... Baaki Shaadi ek doosre pe bharosa/Viswaas ho tabhi chal sakti hai werna intercast ker lo ya inter religin ker lo ya cast main ker lo nahi chalegi.....

Baaki customs and other things ek environment main reh ke sab jaan jaate hain ..... or adjust hone main sab ko time lagta hai .....

Are wah main to kaafi kuch jaan gaya hoon ..... Good .. ghar walon se baat kerni padegi ab to
 
I agree with Sanjeet Ahlawat but arrange marriages r more sucessful den lisence marriages. whether u get married intercast or not , it does't matter.
 
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