What we WRITE..............&............What we SPEAK
Sometimes there may be a huge difference between these two.
We judge people on their writing skills...which reflect only a glimps of WRITER's personality & not the COMPLETE PERSONA...
...but this is an era of Virtual World a Wireless World
We interface DIGITALLY but we are HUMAN being
so erruption of erratic & mawkish behaviours from some sauls is quite obvious...Let's hope of limiting it to MINIMUM...by Big Heartedly FORGIVING tolerable errors...
Because many sauls are LEARNING here...they may not at a level of Perfection yet...
BUT THEY ARE TRYING...& TRYING IT HARD
Valid points Rahul.
I agree that these days we write and speak and act differently, but thats not anywhere near ideal. Kabir said to follow "mansa , vacha , karmna " and i guess thats the way to go.
But i kind of disagree with you on judging people based on their writing skills , at least i dont do that. I have this complex theory of going beyond ! We do have examples of people who can write so good on all subjects and they seem like so learned that one could categorise them as "dev rishis" but over time one can easily make out the superficiality of their thoughts.
and they do tend to contradict themselves subtly over the same topic in thier different posts ( of course one needs to follow very closely and minutely ).
And your point of virtual world is correct , infact the whole logic of me asking a question in this thread was to do with the process of the virtual world. And your thought that erruption of erratic and markowish behaviour is obvious seems very contradictory to me. Infact the way i look at it it should be the other way round. You dotn know a person much on this virtual world , so it should automatically be obvious to you that you are not gonna be your 100 % at any point of time , you will be a bit reserved , , are not you ?
Its like with a stranger , you cannot be your natural self to him from the word go. Adn with these virtual world relations , u never know the other side completely even aftera lot of time has passed , so one "should" be a bit reserved , should not one and have no assumptions about the other.
Thats thw way to go , isnt it ?
but infact we are seeing things exactly opposite of this !
and continuing on the virtual world , i guess it is a wonderful opportunity with a lot of upside and a very little downside.
Gets me to my newest of theories which i hypothesized last week

Not to bore you a lot , but the virtual world gives you an opportunity to start a relationship with no expectations but a lot of upside if u can actually make it.
I personally have been attached to more than 50 people now ( in a little over 2 years ) and share a very nice bond and never ever have been involoved in something very bad of the same.
hope to extend the discussion on this !
BTW from where you got this definition...as I ve never seen/heard such a term like Markovish Behaviour ....pls refer that dictionary to me also.
And Impulsive what I understand is......actuated or swayed by emotional impulses,,, Inclined to act on the influence of a particular feeling, mental state(impulse) rather than thought,,, characterized by undue haste and lack of thought or deliberation,,,,determined by chance or impulse or whim rather than by necessity or reason. In that light I feel,,, behaviour of todays generation is becoming very impulsive.
Seems like a bit of confusion over the definition , and for that matter dont think even i have a definition , may be i can add a bit of clarity.
markovish as i defined it ealier refers to acting based only on the present with the assumption that present occupies all info of the past. it can be fine in case of other thingsa s stocks etc , but in human feelings and emotions , it is not such a good thing , to err is being human and if we base our decisions based only on the past and wipe out the history ( and please appreciate that the present actions/feelings of a person annot have all the info of the past ).
Neelam , at first i seemed to agree on your synonymity of markovish with implusive but after vijays post i thought on it again and i guess there are some fundamental differences which i would like to highlight :
Implusive beahviour is the pne that arises out feom an impluse and acts for a short time with a powerful magnitude ( in short thats the definition of impluse for physicists ), its a reactionary behaviour !
Markovish on the other hand is something in which it is really not the big impluse thats required to generate such a beahviour , i have seen very mild jolts generating sucha behaviour and it is also not short-lasted , becuase i have come across very few who would reverse their decision after once taking an action ( we are living in such a high ego world these days ).
I would rather make an statement and this goes without proof ( thats an hobservation from me and i hypothesize it ) ( may be you people can think on it and we can discuss ).
"" Implusive is more pronounced in personal and real world relations , markovish in virtual world applications.""
though with time , they both have general applicability.
Everybody have some relationship with their 'own' people ....... but came across some different opinions about them i.e. offline and online ...... Is Net affecting their thinking or dominating their Impulse ?
Most of the people on internet and active in the forums such as we are on here , are technocrats and these are the very people who should understand the importance of reasoning. But i gues we myself are degrading ourselves by not asking enough questions , by not putting strain on our brain , by not going behind what are the causals for a particular event.
The most important reason for sucha thing i would suppose is that most come with an attitue of pastime and having fun and for relaxation, which is not always the case i believe , because there will be ome people who will always have the propensity of having food for mind. And of course differing personalities and the fundamental of uniquneness of personalities does not help either ! We are looking for soothing of mind and when we get that from a relation ( on virtual world ) , we fall for it and we are in a fantasy world , but the moment the reality starts biting you , or the moment someone tends to disagree , or tends to make you come out of sedateness of your mind , we averse the situation.
I guess we have come to terms with the fact that we are on a virtual world , but we also need to come to terms that it is not going to be always rosy as this would rather lead to arbitrage.
We should come to terms that we will have good days and bad days , others will have good days and bad days and we have to tolerate , forgive , seek help , seek forgiveness, ultimately moving into the realm of actual world.
Of course fraternal twins ve different constitutional makeup.... its only monozygotic or identical ones who share same genetic structure. so to study the real environmental effect,,,they are the perfect cases...none else,,,,as for everyone else biological makeup has much to say.
Individuality plays a big role in the personality development....bt then most of theories of personality also talk about temperamnetal differences also. Do you know there's neural explanation for being extravert or introvert also.
Psychology gives due importance to both - heredity and environment. Some ppl are more in favor of nature,, while others nurture.... no conclusion... they both have significant role in the development.
In Psychology,,, this is the age of cognitive neuroscience... they talk about knowledge,,,, thinking,,, n other cognitive abilities,,, and their neural network. Even behaviorists ve shifted their approach to behavioral neuroscience,,,,Humanistic trends are of a valuable importance,,,as they give importance to the free will of the beings,,,what they want, what are their wishes,,, i feel that is the the real individual psychology.
I am not learned enough ( neither in biology , neural sciences nor in psychology )to extract meaning out of that.
