Destroyed in Love 2!!

[shobhitdeshwal]

Hi folks,

This too is a real situation and a solution is sought after....

A very nice friend of mine.... a Jat again... met a Jat lady long ago, the lady is elder to the boy.... And the haryana UP divide too is playing a villian!! but this is not the only thing...

Both were and are so deeply attracted toward each other that sacrifices from boy has here been done as well, and the girl too is ready to be with him for life... even after knowing the whole thing....

Now the thing is... that the girl says she is with this friend of mine, and cries and does all what she could to tell her parents that she will not be happy with any other peson they could get for her!!!! But, it has now been more than 2 months now, that the girl is being tourcherd and is being forced to put the seal of her consent on her parents' wish, where she is hardly concerned with anyone who comes up with a proposal!!!

Both are professionals, the boy facing great hardships at this moment, and the girl is facing no less.....

Now here the situation is bit different.... The girl is being forced to lead a life which she does not want to.... Where the parents shall think being open and non conservative... for the life of their own daughter.... Shall not the respected members of this forum try to get happiness of life for two fellow beings?? Shall not we try making the parents understand the need of the hour.... And kill the forceful actions being taken by them day in and day out.. which is surely going to spoil three lives in a row and three families simultaneously???? Just because of the naak ka sawaal???

reviews suggestions and helps are sought!!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

 

[keshavdahiya]

bhai deshwal nind mein se ke........ uuth le ne.......ek janne ne phlyan e chep raakya se yu sauda shame to shame..........hehehehhe......iib aawan ne ho reh sein deswal ji.......dhamkii den.......hahaaahaha killkki @ dhamki den...

er tanne murga banawenge........... kunn mein er hum aarre baith ke daandrri padange.........killkki pe killkkii...

rock on™©®
Keshav

 

[shobhitdeshwal]

bhai deshwal nind mein se ke........ uuth le ne.......ek janne ne phlyan e chep raakya se yu sauda shame to shame..........hehehehhe......iib aawan ne ho reh sein deswal ji.......dhamkii den.......hahaaahaha killkki @ dhamki den...

er tanne murga banawenge........... kunn mein er hum aarre baith ke daandrri padange.........killkki pe killkkii...

rock on™©®
Keshav

Theek bhai... theek... daandri te paadega.... aade te daandri padan ke saude koy na milte.... thamne mile te paad liyo bhai;... Bhai rajji rehnge te humne bhi khusi si hovegi ghani.....
Apni placement ki baat bata de re dakter kuch??

 

[rkumar]

Hi folks,

This too is a real situation and a solution is sought after....

A very nice friend of mine.... a Jat again... met a Jat lady long ago, the lady is elder to the boy.... And the haryana UP divide too is playing a villian!! but this is not the only thing...

Both were and are so deeply attracted toward each other that sacrifices from boy has here been done as well, and the girl too is ready to be with him for life... even after knowing the whole thing....

Now the thing is... that the girl says she is with this friend of mine, and cries and does all what she could to tell her parents that she will not be happy with any other peson they could get for her!!!! But, it has now been more than 2 months now, that the girl is being tourcherd and is being forced to put the seal of her consent on her parents' wish, where she is hardly concerned with anyone who comes up with a proposal!!!

Both are professionals, the boy facing great hardships at this moment, and the girl is facing no less.....

Now here the situation is bit different.... The girl is being forced to lead a life which she does not want to.... Where the parents shall think being open and non conservative... for the life of their own daughter.... Shall not the respected members of this forum try to get happiness of life for two fellow beings?? Shall not we try making the parents understand the need of the hour.... And kill the forceful actions being taken by them day in and day out.. which is surely going to spoil three lives in a row and three families simultaneously???? Just because of the naak ka sawaal???

reviews suggestions and helps are sought!!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

Ask both to keep cool. Two months are a bit short for parents to settle down. What is the main objection of parents anyway? Age difference or what ?

RK^2

 

[shobhitdeshwal]

Ask both to keep cool. Two months are a bit short for parents to settle down. What is the main objection of parents anyway? Age difference or what ?

RK^2

Rajendra Ji,

Ram Ram.

Both of them are keeping their cool, but the girl's parents are not. They call in someone here and there to fix the marriage of the girl, and she is asked to do all forcefully.

The main objection of the parents is not clear, as they say its our wish, should we want a thing for our daughter we will get it according to the same. What I think is that the boy was a nice scholar at IIT Delhi, left his PhD, as the girl said her parents wont marry her to a shcolar, he again was doing his civil services, got through pre, but scaped it as it was time consuming and he needed a job desperately, the parents I think have raised objection over this that one who could leave his life for his love is not a mature person and will not be able to keep the girl happy.

Apart from this, samaj me izzat is the main concern, the Dad of girl is a Police Officer and so... you see the status formed through the money involved in tyhe service is a culprit. Can you be of help sir??

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

 

[devdahiya]

Bhai Shobhit, Your concers are genuine and your sympathy is also not out of place. If the thing is as simple as you brought out then it is really bad on the part of parents but sometimes the reality is not distributed to the public and this beenig a very strict private affair of the two families[Shaddi walla laffdda kaffi ganbheer hotta hei bhai],i don't think any social manuvering or pressure of any kind will have any effect on the out come.I think the girl should take the parents in confidence and persuade them that her interest lies in that boy only.I think over a period of time parents will have to give in to the rightful choice of the girl.Wish them both a happy landing!

 

[shobhitdeshwal]

Bhai Shobhit, Your concers are genuine and your sympathy is also not out of place. If the thing is as simple as you brought out then it is really bad on the part of parents but sometimes the reality is not distributed to the public and this beenig a very strict private affair of the two families[Shaddi walla laffdda kaffi ganbheer hotta hei bhai],i don't think any social manuvering or pressure of any kind will have any effect on the out come.I think the girl should take the parents in confidence and persuade them that her interest lies in that boy only.I think over a period of time parents will have to give in to the rightful choice of the girl.Wish them both a happy landing!

Kaka, yo baat manne te simple na laagi kit te bhi.. kimme kami reh gi ho mere batane me to pata ni, par yo kati nyu hi hon laag rya hai, ak zbardasti roz ne kisi chhore ne bulya ke khada kar de se arr nu ak 10 dino me bhyah kar doongi tera!!!
Kaka, yo kimme galat to baat koy na? Chhora chhori... rajji se... te kyun na baat kar ke bataya ja ak balak hain.. balkon te oopar na kuch hua na hove manas ka.... I mean I am the best for my parents and so is every child.... And a parent will do whatever he or she can for the child. But, they need to open their eyes... Which they have closed for the fear of the society!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal.

 

[sansanwalamit]

Unfortunately the girl is stuck with very stupid and backward parents, I hope she gets away from them and fulfills her wishes. I am wondering, how come the guy's family is not intervening? are their any financial concerns also in this situation i.e. the guy being poor and the girl being rich.

 

[rkumar]

Rajendra Ji,

Ram Ram.

Both of them are keeping their cool, but the girl's parents are not. They call in someone here and there to fix the marriage of the girl, and she is asked to do all forcefully.

The main objection of the parents is not clear, as they say its our wish, should we want a thing for our daughter we will get it according to the same. What I think is that the boy was a nice scholar at IIT Delhi, left his PhD, as the girl said her parents wont marry her to a shcolar, he again was doing his civil services, got through pre, but scaped it as it was time consuming and he needed a job desperately, the parents I think have raised objection over this that one who could leave his life for his love is not a mature person and will not be able to keep the girl happy.

Apart from this, samaj me izzat is the main concern, the Dad of girl is a Police Officer and so... you see the status formed through the money involved in tyhe service is a culprit. Can you be of help sir??

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

umm... Police wala baap !!!!!!!!!!!! Bhai Shobhit dil ke saath dimaag ki bhai jaroorat paregee tere dost ko... As of now, its the girl who has to play main role and not the boy.. Trust me, if girl is truely in love, she will marry your friend, come what may...Let her Police Baap try to show case her as much as he wants... Ask your friend to keep cool..... Its not the right time for boy to become agressive and convince her father..

RK^2

 

[shobhitdeshwal]

umm... Police wala baap !!!!!!!!!!!! Bhai Shobhit dil ke saath dimaag ki bhai jaroorat paregee tere dost ko... As of now, its the girl who has to play main role and not the boy.. Trust me, if girl is truely in love, she will marry your friend, come what may...Let her Police Baap try to show case her as much as he wants... Ask your friend to keep cool..... Its not the right time for boy to become agressive and convince her father..

RK^2

Rajendra Ji,

Very true, that it has to be the girl at this time playing the cards in her family, but a child is after all a child!! And moreover a Girl child and that too in a conservative Jat family!!!! It is pretty uncertain as to when and with what could the parents make her break, Someone if comes up today and finalize the things, two or may be three or four as well lives will go down deep in the waters of the time!!

The boy is trying keeping all his cool, with whatever he has.... and is not at all trying to intrude in her family!!! But.... the situation which pertains tells that it is very important to make the parents understand which they, in shear stubborness have closed eyes to!!

Will look forward to further sugggestions!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

 

[rkumar]

Rajendra Ji,

Very true, that it has to be the girl at this time playing the cards in her family, but a child is after all a child!! And moreover a Girl child and that too in a conservative Jat family!!!! It is pretty uncertain as to when and with what could the parents make her break, Someone if comes up today and finalize the things, two or may be three or four as well lives will go down deep in the waters of the time!!

The boy is trying keeping all his cool, with whatever he has.... and is not at all trying to intrude in her family!!! But.... the situation which pertains tells that it is very important to make the parents understand which they, in shear stubborness have closed eyes to!!

Will look forward to further sugggestions!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

Don't underestimate a girl who is in true love. She will defeat all moves of her parents to marry her elsewhere. I have seen many such cases.. Ask your friend to have confidence in girl... Forget her parents for the time being... make sure that your friend remain respectful to her parents under all provocations, as girl will never like bad words against her parents ...let girl do all the fighting... arrey bhai bade bade raja haar gaye , yeh to police wala hi hai...LOL... aur haan upne dost ko bolna ki shadi ke waqat na bhool jaye hum Jatland walon ko....LOL..

RK^2

 

[rkumar]

Unfortunately the girl is stuck with very stupid and backward parents, I hope she gets away from them and fulfills her wishes. I am wondering, how come the guy's family is not intervening? are their any financial concerns also in this situation i.e. the guy being poor and the girl being rich.

Bhai Amit, larke ke parents ka koi role hi nahi hai ess stage par.. Trust me boy's finacial condition is only one aspect and not everything... Boy must be having many qualities which money can not buy.. Girls take into account everything and not just the money boy earns.. Its a very strage mix opf so many parameters which plays vital role in such relationships...

RK^2

 

[cooljat]

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Rock on
Jit

 

[msingh]

shobit kahi woh chora tu te naa se bhai,,,,,

 

[rohittewatia]

shobit kahi woh chora tu te naa se bhai,,,,,

Mujhe lag rahya thaah kih bajaye help key, beychare kih CID inquiry bithayi jayegi...

Arrey Manisha bhai...dimag key ghode dodao aur shobhit kih madad kaaro...

Bhai Shobhit....u cn ask the girl to start learning some tantrums...
she can try to act like a behangi or maybe some psycho....aur agar kuch jyada naheen kar paaye toh aik perr sey langaada key chale...jisse samne waale koh lagge kih usake aik perr chotta hai...

Aur yeh saabh ussey unake samne karna chahiye, joh ussey deikhney aatein haiin. Specially joh ladka deikhney ayaah hai usaki maan key aagey...bass fer deikh bhala koiih kaise pasand karta hai...

It's only a suggestion, baaki jatland per badde badde dhurandar bethe haiin behtaar rai key liyeh...

 

[rkumar]

Mujhe lag rahya thaah kih bajaye help key, beychare kih CID inquiry bithayi jayegi...

Arrey Manisha bhai...dimag key ghode dodao aur shobhit kih madad kaaro...

Bhai Shobhit....u cn ask the girl to start learning some tantrums...
she can try to act like a behangi or maybe some psycho....aur agar kuch jyada naheen kar paaye toh aik perr sey langaada key chale...jisse samne waale koh lagge kih usake aik perr chotta hai...

Aur yeh saabh ussey unake samne karna chahiye, joh ussey deikhney aatein haiin. Specially joh ladka deikhney ayaah hai usaki maan key aagey...bass fer deikh bhala koiih kaise pasand karta hai...

It's only a suggestion, baaki jatland per badde badde dhurandar bethe haiin behtaar rai key liyeh...

Wah Janab...man gaye....bahut khoob ... Ye Rambaan ek damm achook hain..

RK^2

 

[shobhitdeshwal]

Mujhe lag rahya thaah kih bajaye help key, beychare kih CID inquiry bithayi jayegi...

Arrey Manisha bhai...dimag key ghode dodao aur shobhit kih madad kaaro...

Bhai Shobhit....u cn ask the girl to start learning some tantrums...
she can try to act like a behangi or maybe some psycho....aur agar kuch jyada naheen kar paaye toh aik perr sey langaada key chale...jisse samne waale koh lagge kih usake aik perr chotta hai...

Aur yeh saabh ussey unake samne karna chahiye, joh ussey deikhney aatein haiin. Specially joh ladka deikhney ayaah hai usaki maan key aagey...bass fer deikh bhala koiih kaise pasand karta hai...

It's only a suggestion, baaki jatland per badde badde dhurandar bethe haiin behtaar rai key liyeh...

Bhai, baat te sahi batayi... ar hai bhi raam baan ilaaj.. par hai pharsi hi... Kitni baar hoga nyu?? Ke bera kitne chore aaweinte honge teesre din?? Kis kis ke aage langdavi bechari?? arr.. us te baat bhi to koy na bane?? baat to maa ar babu ne bera pat ke hi banega???? Ar unhone kar raakhi se aankhein band!!!
Annkhan kholan ki baat bata bhai kuch!!

Thanks for the suggestion anyways!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

 

[ritu]

shobit agar ladki k parents nahi man rahe to ladki ko onhe clear clear kah dena chahiye ki me aur kahi bhi shaadi nahi kar rahi abhi.parents os ladki ko is ladke se shaadi nahi karne derahe par jabardasti ladki ki shadi bhi nahi kar sakte oski marzi ke khilaf.in the mean time ladki k maa baap thode thande paad gayege aur dhere dhere accept bhi kar lenge.rt now patience is the only advice for girl and boy.agar onka pyar saccha h to ma baap samajh hi jayenge.mane bahut marriages dekhi h is trah ki time jarrur lagta h par ade raho to ho jaati h

Rajendra Ji,

Ram Ram.

Both of them are keeping their cool, but the girl's parents are not. They call in someone here and there to fix the marriage of the girl, and she is asked to do all forcefully.

The main objection of the parents is not clear, as they say its our wish, should we want a thing for our daughter we will get it according to the same. What I think is that the boy was a nice scholar at IIT Delhi, left his PhD, as the girl said her parents wont marry her to a shcolar, he again was doing his civil services, got through pre, but scaped it as it was time consuming and he needed a job desperately, the parents I think have raised objection over this that one who could leave his life for his love is not a mature person and will not be able to keep the girl happy.

Apart from this, samaj me izzat is the main concern, the Dad of girl is a Police Officer and so... you see the status formed through the money involved in tyhe service is a culprit. Can you be of help sir??

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

 

[prashantacmet]

arreee ooooo KOONGER.......... ansatt aadmi........ hahahahahahahah..... teri commonsense kaha chali gayi foriengn Boy................... yu chorre ka naam MANISHA kaha suna tai........ MAnish to haamne bhi suna........ manisha to aaj lok na suna bhai........................Manisha bobbo...... iss khagad ki pindi pai RIDAKMA lath dhar de.... fer aawegga isski simajh main...........ROOKKA@ RIDAKMA LATH

Mujhe lag rahya thaah kih bajaye help key, beychare kih CID inquiry bithayi jayegi...

Arrey Manisha bhai...dimag key ghode dodao aur shobhit kih madad kaaro...

Bhai Shobhit....u cn ask the girl to start learning some tantrums...
she can try to act like a behangi or maybe some psycho....aur agar kuch jyada naheen kar paaye toh aik perr sey langaada key chale...jisse samne waale koh lagge kih usake aik perr chotta hai...

Aur yeh saabh ussey unake samne karna chahiye, joh ussey deikhney aatein haiin. Specially joh ladka deikhney ayaah hai usaki maan key aagey...bass fer deikh bhala koiih kaise pasand karta hai...

It's only a suggestion, baaki jatland per badde badde dhurandar bethe haiin behtaar rai key liyeh...

 

[nikitadhaiya]

Hi folks,

This too is a real situation and a solution is sought after....

A very nice friend of mine.... a Jat again... met a Jat lady long ago, the lady is elder to the boy.... And the haryana UP divide too is playing a villian!! but this is not the only thing...

Both were and are so deeply attracted toward each other that sacrifices from boy has here been done as well, and the girl too is ready to be with him for life... even after knowing the whole thing....

Now the thing is... that the girl says she is with this friend of mine, and cries and does all what she could to tell her parents that she will not be happy with any other peson they could get for her!!!! But, it has now been more than 2 months now, that the girl is being tourcherd and is being forced to put the seal of her consent on her parents' wish, where she is hardly concerned with anyone who comes up with a proposal!!!

Both are professionals, the boy facing great hardships at this moment, and the girl is facing no less.....

Now here the situation is bit different.... The girl is being forced to lead a life which she does not want to.... Where the parents shall think being open and non conservative... for the life of their own daughter.... Shall not the respected members of this forum try to get happiness of life for two fellow beings?? Shall not we try making the parents understand the need of the hour.... And kill the forceful actions being taken by them day in and day out.. which is surely going to spoil three lives in a row and three families simultaneously???? Just because of the naak ka sawaal???

reviews suggestions and helps are sought!!!

Cheers!!

Shobhit Deshwal

Well i strongly feel tht once a person is born in a family he/she has a duty to follow the norms of the family and one must not be selfish. Its not the Q of 'my life', its abt everybodys life. In India there is nothing as such 'my life' , its associated with many lives. So just for the sake of one life many cannot be left ignored. and wat ur calling ' samaj ki izzat' or 'nak ka sawal' is not a SMALL THING , its earned through generations. When we r born in a family we r given the family name, identity, so many relationships, place in society so we OWE a lot to the family and some sacrifices for all this makes no big deal. if one cannot upgrade the name of the family one has no right to degrade it as well. one should never do anysuch thing tht makes ur parents or ur family embarressed in there own society coz tht RESPECT in society is all tht they have earned in there entire life. I may be sounding somebody frm 1950's but just once try to think frm parents point of view and u will feel the difference.