monikadahiya said:
How can anyone forget their love for parents?? That is the biggest love ever. how can someone forget their love for parents and for that matter parents love for them if he/ she falls for someone. One must never get married against parents consent. I dont think any parent can ever think bad for their kid. If parents are against the marriage, i feel there must be something more than just the so called "samaaj".
Age plays a major role too. That puppy love or love at first sight is never love. Is it love or infatuation??
It's no hidden fact that many so called lovers are not actually in love but are just infatuated and cant diifferentiate between love and infatuation. And infatuation only causes havoc in many lives...i feel logon ka deemag kaam karna band kar deta hai in infatuation. On the other hand, love helps people think rationally about one's present and future.
Bohot dekhe hain jo parents ke against jaakar shaadi karte and and later in their lives they do nothing but sulk. Parents ka 45-50 saal ka experience faaltu ka nahi hota. they can make out if their kid is talking sense or not.
If the guy and girl think they are made for each other, they should wait and not give in. This is the testing time and will prove to the parents that they are actually serious about the relationship. This will also give the couple time to think about their future and decide if they are going in the right direction and if it's worth at all. ladki ko ghar par batana chahiye ki ladka jat hai ( if they are concerned about caste). she should tell them that he;s educated from a reputed institute and is in a stable job and is earning enough ( har parents ka wish yahi hota hai ki educated ladka ho aur accha job karta ho) and she can talk about the guy's family too ( for eg. agar ladke ke ghar mein aur educated log hain toh unko highlight kare aur bataaye). Finally, she should stress that ki woh us ladke ke saath khush rahegi. parents just need the surety that their kid has made the right choice aur woh khush rahegi / rahega after marriage ( believe it or not, they actually look at all the aspects from all the angles before saying yes).
And parents just need some time to digest the fact that their kid has grown up and that kid can make the right choice. Afterall parents hain woh, dushman naheen hain. hamesha accha hee chahenge woh. They just need time.
there are lines in movie matrix revolution where Neo is told that love is just another word what is important is the connection it implies, neo is further asked as to( as he seems to be in love) what he can give to hold on to that connection-----------NEO says----------------ANYTHING!!
what is love-its state of being when u lower all ur guards of ego and self interests, so many times one says so much to his mother but even then she comes to u back, to please u, though she could have taken ego in between---thts love! Boy does all sort of bad things, is in bad company but even then at the end of day Father will come for his son--thts love!
There is this girl--whom u protect as most dear of ur child, whom u look upon when u seem to lose all hope, whom u expect to play role of mother at ur time of distress-not even tinch of ego in between-no ones ever came close enough to feel that breath of yours, time comes to stand still!! EVEN THIS IS LOVE! In all meditative course u are told tht mind can be controlled only through breath and u can go in tht meditative state through breath manipulations---when u are so close to one u love--u hear and feel every bit of air going in and out, like u never do in life unless u go for some meditation!
LOWER ur false walls of ego and self and u will go beyond infatuation--- rteal problem is that when men lowers his ego, he unwillingly came to knows pleasure of being so pure and unable to control energy that comes with it and thus when that girl leaves him for pleasing egos of his family and parents---u cry for those moments of selfless being--- another problem is that u start loving girl as a child and u dont want to expect anything frm CHILD and takes suffering for urself while girl moves on with her life without even giving thought about u.
I read somewhere tht god shld be worshipped as CHILD then u wont expect anything frm him!
u look for sympathies from people who are yet to lower their walls of ego and selfishness--and then becomes ball in between their opinions!
then u have that hope of some miracle tht could turn the things back to gud old days-----but hope is a dangerous thing, it can drive a man insane!!
U look for tht saviour who could take u out of this mess---but where is LORD KRISHNA!!
Shobhit Deshwal????
